Harassment

[kerochan 0]

Hi freinds,

I am new on this site so please bear with me on any mistakes. This is something that happens to a lot of people nowadays from what i know. I am married to a hispanic woman and i am from india although i used to live in australia. We fell in love with each other and i came here to live with her. This woman has a got a very short fuse if you guys know what i mean. Ever since i landed in the usa she has been harrassing me mentally and she has physically gone up on me a few times. She was being used by her family for a lot of benefits in the sense that all the people in her family use her money and her usability in any way they can because she is a smart woman i have to give that to her,there is almost nothing that my wife cant do,but the problem is she is the most annoying person i have ever met in my life and i did not know these things before i moved here and started living with her. Everything is an issue for her,i cant do that ,i cant do this,why did i do that? why is this like that? you name it she has got a problem with everything in fact when we gom to dine she even gives me comentary of how i should sit and how i should talk.I told her and she knows that i did not grow up in some jungle and i know all these things cause i used to live in australia. Now i have reached a stage where i am about to see a psycologist of psycatrist cause now my sleep is being affected cause of this woman. Ever since i came here each and every time she gets a chance she always reminds me that she is the reason i am in america and if she wants she will send me out of usa although she knows that this immigration threat does not scare me . Now i am about to get my conditions removed on my GC (right now i am on condtitional) in the next 3 or 4 mnths. But now my mind and body is tired cause of this stress, i left everybody that i had to be with this woman ,my mother who is 73 yrs is living by herself back in india, my only other family is my brother and his family who lives in australia and i did not know anybody in this country exept my wife and she put me through hell and is still doing it. But i have to say some positive things as well ,she is not totally a bad person cause she has spent all her life savings helping her greedy family who exploited her and also she says to me that she loves me a lot, and again i love her too, but i have reached the stage where i have to see a doctor to keep my mind straight, Please give me some advices my dear friends ,i know there must be somebody out there who has gone through something similar.

Thank you

[Thomas&Cleofe 358]

You are more than welcome to return to India or Australia anytime you please. This seems pretty cut and clear case to me.

[Anh map 2,098]

If you believe that the marriage is not going to improve then you should consider divorce. Would your spouse be willing to participate in any sort of marriage counselling?

There is no immigration "penalty" for divorcing. You would have to wait until you've been a GC holder for 5 years in order to apply for US citizenship.

Divorce is no fun, but is survivable.

[Xanax 349]

Sounds like you're looking at extensive counseling if you want to save your marriage or a divorce.

Think about what YOU want and where YOU want to live/ and who you want to live with! Once you know that people on this board can help you figure out how to get where you want to be

[Darnell 8,478]

Life is so much better in Australia.

I suggest you make a clean break, file for divorce, and leave, soon.

She's not going to change, alas. If she truly loved you, she would have changed already.

Edited August 19, 2012 by Darnell

[mamaSue 38]

I agree with Darnell.... It's highly unlikely she'll change.

If you can't stand being with her...divorce her. It seems like your mother needs you more than your wife does. I know where my priorities would lie.

[TBoneTX 43,195]

She doesn't love you in the slightest to be treating you in this way, and you didn't really know her before you married her. There's zero need for you to put up with this abuse. Cut the ties now and restart your life. You'll feel as though the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders, si man!

I used to be married to something like that.

Edited August 19, 2012 by TBoneTX

[UKGirl123 24]

If things haven't improved I would seriously starting thinking about what you want to do. You mentioned your mother being elderly, don't regret not spending time with her. Personally I would go an be with my mother and take some healing time away from the wife to make a decision about how I wanted to move forward. Best of luck.

[justashooter 430]

how is it that an indian man has married a non-indian person? what did your family say? this seems to be very much out of cultural context.

[Harsh_77 716]

You will have to make the call at one point or other if you want to live with her for rest of your life or not.

Unfortunately neither of us on here can make that call for you.

You are free to live in either country US, Australia or India – I am not sure what is your status in Australia.

You can always have a marriage in good faith which did not work out and for that US govt does not punish you.

If she is physically hitting you then you want it all documented, it will help your case.

Coz her family took advantage of her is no reason why she has to be mean to you all the time.

how is it that an indian man has married a non-indian person? what did your family say? this seems to be very much out of cultural context.

Now days you will find lot of Indians who married a non-Indian.