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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Ghana
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I just got to US less than 3 weeks now,and I notice that my wife is having a serious lover here.And I got my hand on their pictures together,mail and e-mail,they exchange...And all these are showing in her characters,talking to me anyhow.,telling me that she will send me back to where I came from because she doesn't see my used here.She will buy me the ticket to go.After she let me quit my job,my school,my everything,get here,this is the surprise she has for me.I am so confused.But i did not let her know i know everything about she and her man.People what should I do?

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Something similar happened to me many years ago except I wasn't married to him. It's an awful place to be. So sorry for you.

In my case I had no choice but to go back home.

If you try to stay she could cause you more problems than it's worth. Better you find this out now than years down the track when you are more embedded here.

Sure it will be hard to go back and start again but at least you won't have been away for years so you can start to pick up the pieces again.

My advice get divorced and go back home because, sadly, you have lost your beneficiary as well as your wife. So sorry :(

On edit - it's hard to give advice when we don't know your status so that was a good call for sulhaq to ask your status. Sorry I didn't think to ask and shouldn't give advice before knowing more facts.

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Something similar happened to me, kind of vice versa. I'm assuming, from your profile, that you are here on a CR1 and have not received your GC yet. I would make an InfoPass appt and speak to them about your options. She cannot send you back. But what will happen is, if she decides she does not want to be with you anymore, the chances of you staying after your 2 yr GC expires are slim. When this happened to me, I went right away to an InfoPass appt and they were very helpful.....I strongly suggest you do the same. They told me things that I never read on this site. What I would NOT do is confront her about the emails, etc.....but ABSOLUTELY print them out and begin collecting evidence from NOW about her infidelity. This will help you in the long run.

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Married: 6/17/11

I-130 Sent: 7/9/11

NOA1 : 7/14/11

I-129F Sent: 7/21/11

NOA1: 7/21/11

NOA2: 8/22/11

NVC Received: 8/24/11

NVC Left: 8/26/11

Consulate Received: 9/5/11

Packet 4 Received: 10/4/11

Medical Done: 11/7/11

Interview: 11/23/11

Approved: 11/23/11

Changed to CR1: 12/16/11

Medical Re-Done: 1/5/12

Waiting for Issuance of Visa.........

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Ghana
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I came on CR1 visa,so am waiting for the green card.Just monday she picked me to go and do the Social Security,and am also waiting for that.What i am getting to know right now is,it look like that is how she is which she hide from me from the beging.I am the third guy she got married to.The other guy was from Europe.When he got here and they got married 3 months time the guy got angry and left with same problem.the first one too was same problem.So am now getting to know that she is unfaithfully by birth.One of the mail saying that by just December 11,there are 3 men in her life.And as at now just dont know how many are we now...lol.I am really afraid of sickness too.

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I just got to US less than 3 weeks now,and I notice that my wife is having a serious lover here.And I got my hand on their pictures together,mail and e-mail,they exchange...And all these are showing in her characters,talking to me anyhow.,telling me that she will send me back to where I came from because she doesn't see my used here.She will buy me the ticket to go.After she let me quit my job,my school,my everything,get here,this is the surprise she has for me.I am so confused.But i did not let her know i know everything about she and her man.People what should I do?

I came on CR1 visa,so am waiting for the green card.Just monday she picked me to go and do the Social Security,and am also waiting for that.What i am getting to know right now is,it look like that is how she is which she hide from me from the beging.I am the third guy she got married to.The other guy was from Europe.When he got here and they got married 3 months time the guy got angry and left with same problem.the first one too was same problem.So am now getting to know that she is unfaithfully by birth.One of the mail saying that by just December 11,there are 3 men in her life.And as at now just dont know how many are we now...lol.I am really afraid of sickness too.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Ireland
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*** Moving from CR01 to Major Changes forum as OP is already in the USA ****


Bye: Penguin

Me: Irish/ Swiss citizen, and now naturalised US citizen. Husband: USC; twin babies born Feb 08 in Ireland and a daughter in Feb 2010 in Arkansas who are all joint Irish/ USC. Did DCF (IR1) in 6 weeks via the Dublin, Ireland embassy and now living in Arkansas.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Ghana
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wHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO?Do you want to continue the relationship and forgive her or is it over?That is the first question you should ask yourself.If it is over then you might just pack and go back home.

You dont even have the green card yet so if you were allowed in based on the visa and you guys are no longer together then you have to go home.

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If OP came on a CR-1 he is already an LPR regardless of if his GC has arrived yet or not. He doesn't have to leave, but may have trouble with ROC in the future if the marriage dissolves so quickly.


OUR TIMELINE

I am the USC, husband is adjusting from B2.

ADJUSTMENT OF STATUS

08.06.2010 - Sent off I-485
08.25.2010 - NOA hard copies received (x4), case status available online: 765, 131, 130.
10.15.2010 - RFE received: need 2 additional photos for AP.
10.18.2010 - RFE response sent certified mail
10.21.2010 - Service request placed for biometrics
10.25.2010 - RFE received per USCIS
10.26.2010 - Text/email received - AP approved!
10.28.2010 - Biometrics appointment received, dated 10/22 - set for 11/19 @ 3:00 PM
11.01.2010 - Successful biometrics walk-in @ 9:45 AM; EAD card sent for production text/email @ 2:47 PM! I-485 case status now available online.
11.04.2010 - Text/Email (2nd) - EAD card sent for production
11.08.2010 - Text/Email (3rd) - EAD approved
11.10.2010 - EAD received
12.11.2010 - Interview letter received - 01.13.11
01.13.2011 - Interview - no decision on the spot
01.24.2011 - Approved! Card production ordered!

REMOVAL OF CONDITIONS

11.02.2012 - Mailed I-751 packet to VSC
11.08.2012 - Checks cashed
11.10.2012 - NOA1 received, dated 11.06.2012
11.17.2012 - Biometrics letter received for 12.05.2012
11.23.2012 - Successful early biometrics walk-in

05.03.2013 - Approved! Card production ordered!

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Something similar happened to me, kind of vice versa. I'm assuming, from your profile, that you are here on a CR1 and have not received your GC yet. I would make an InfoPass appt and speak to them about your options. She cannot send you back. But what will happen is, if she decides she does not want to be with you anymore, the chances of you staying after your 2 yr GC expires are slim. When this happened to me, I went right away to an InfoPass appt and they were very helpful.....I strongly suggest you do the same. They told me things that I never read on this site. What I would NOT do is confront her about the emails, etc.....but ABSOLUTELY print them out and begin collecting evidence from NOW about her infidelity. This will help you in the long run.

I came on CR1 visa,so am waiting for the green card.Just monday she picked me to go and do the Social Security,and am also waiting for that.What i am getting to know right now is,it look like that is how she is which she hide from me from the beging.I am the third guy she got married to.The other guy was from Europe.When he got here and they got married 3 months time the guy got angry and left with same problem.the first one too was same problem.So am now getting to know that she is unfaithfully by birth.One of the mail saying that by just December 11,there are 3 men in her life.And as at now just dont know how many are we now...lol.I am really afraid of sickness too.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Morocco
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im sorry to hear about that:(


Met online : 2009
Married : 07/28/2010


USCIS
Send I-130 : 06/08/2011
Touched : 06/13/2011
got a NOA1 by e-mail and SMS : 06/15/2011
got "I-797C" hard copy of NOA1 : 06/20/2011
got RFE "I-797E" : 10/15/2011
RFE Reply : 12/15/2011
Touched : 12/16/2011
I-130 Approved : 12/20/2011
got "I-797" hard copy of NOA2 : 12/24/2011
Your I-130 was approved in 183 days from your NOA1 date.


NVC
NVC Case Number : 01/13/2012
Pay "$88" AOS Bill and e-mailed DS-3032 : 02/08/2012
Email from NVC, DS-3032 Accepted : 02/09/2012
AOS Fee Shows PAID : 02/09/2012
IV fee invoiced "$404" : 02/10/2012
IV fee invoiced "$230" : 04/18/2012
Pay "$230" IV Bill : 04/30/2012
IV Fee Shows PAID : 05/02/2012
Send AOS and IV packet : 06/09/2012
AOS and IV packet Received : 06/22/2012
Case completed at NVC : 06/29/2012

Interview Date : 08/28/2012 "Denied"

Case Reaffirmed : 07/16/2013

Second interview - Approved : 10/24/2013

Visa Issued : 10/29/2013

Visa in hand : 10/31/2013

For more details please visit my timeline

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Another one - what is going on today? In one day we have 3 relationships gone sideways, 2 wives and a fiancee.

OP, fortunately your GC is en route, but unfortunately your faith appears to be headed in the same direction as the other 2 ex husbands.

Don't tell her you are aware of her behavior - keep that info to yourself until you're able to deal with the certain fall out. Unless you want to and plan to go back to your country, start making plans for the break up once the poo-poo hits the fan. For example, if she decides she wants you out of her house immediately, you need to have plans for another place to live. Gather any documents now that you'll need later to file for ROC

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"The Marines I have seen around the world have the cleanest bodies, the filthiest minds, the highest morale, and the lowest morals of any group of animals I have ever seen. Thank God for the United States Marine Corps!" - Eleanor Roosevelt, First Lady of the United States, 1945.

"Retreat hell! We just got here!"

CAPT. LLOYD WILLIAMS, USMC

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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Whats up with the unfaithful wives and fiances today? Love is the strongest force on the planet and peoples hearts should not be played with like dice.

-sigh-

Talk to a lawyer and see what your options are. Google "free immigration services" and find out whats available in your area.

I'm sorry you're going through all this.

***Hugs***


Feb 3, 2012 - I129F sent
Feb 6, 2012 - NoA1 Received
August 22, 2012 - NoA2 ( 198 days!!!!!)
Sept 6, 2012 - NVC Received Case
Sept 10, 2012 - London Received Case
Sept 15, 2012 - Packet 3 Received
Sept 20, 2012 - Medical
Oct 5, 2012 - All forms sent to the embassy
Nov 5, 2012 - Interview
Nov 5, 2012 - Administrative Processing crying.gifcrying.gifcrying.gifranting33va.gifcray5ol.gif

Love conquers all.

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