refused for no valid relationship

[shonababy08 1]

I really appreciate all the advice, I also understand about the big age difference. When we first met online saw her pictures, video chat, I thought she was joking about her age and I always said it's just numbers. I know everyone will laugh or say something wrong with my eyes or brain. Met online 2007, I really want to see her in person, my family saw her on webcam & photos, she don't look her age. Our deal was, to meet in person and then decide with open mind and no hurt feelings to stop communicating or give our love a chance. She really tried her best to stop and end everything. At the same time she don't want to hurt my feelings and I know she cared for me. It was so difficult for both of us. To some people they can't understand that until they are in our place. When we met the first time in her country (philippines). I have totally forgotten about her age, she is a woman that really have taken care of herself naturally and in good shape and have pleasant personality. When it comes to having children of course we want to have a family, Indian cultures as they said, wants a family but, some couples accepted the fact that they can't have a child, yet they are happy. My fiancee strongly reminded me that at the very start. I am just focus on my great feelings for her, she gave me the respect, love and attention. Some men fell in love with disabled women that will never be able to have a child. Men that will marry their sweethearts on her death bed. A young man married to woman with only half body and so on. How about some men of 60-75+ age marrying a 20-25 years old women from different countries? Even before I met my fiance, I never want to have an arrange marriage because I want to find the woman that my heart beats for. Our country's culture is changing, people are now finding different lifestyles and I am in this generation and for the future. If my fiancee wants to give me a child, with the modern medical help she can bear me a child even at her age. Some older women can still have a child and it happened. If she can get a job here in India, we will be happy to do that. We just wanted to be together. She can't even get 2 months vacation because of her job.

We will go for an appeal on K1 visa, with an immigration lawyer. My fiancee will fly to India on my interview date. She will present herself personally

her case and willing to be judged right there. Once we are married she can also live here. Thank you for all the information. I wish I knew this site before and I could have prepared myself for the interview. Appreciate you all. I welcome all advices, opinions and information.

Thank you all.

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There is no way in heck a CO at aInd ian embassy is ever going to approve you on a K1. That age difference is MASSIVE. The fact that your fiance is no longer a child-bearing age weighs heavily against you. There are plenty of cases on VJ with this large of an age difference, but hardly ever with the female that much older. If you had any hope at aloA youngl, she should have spent time in India with you and your family and she should have attended the interview.

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It is doubtful an immigration lawyer can help you.o If you want to stay on the K1, then your fiance needs to contact her US Senator and get his/her involvement ASAP in keeping the file fuat the embassy and having a second interview.If you get a second interview, she needs to attend and you should be prepared for difficult questions.

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If you choose to attempt the CR1, you should realize that you may still get denied. I haven't seen denials from India on a CR1 when they processed after a K1 denial but the few cases you can look to as an example don't have such a large age difference. If you go the CR1 route, have a backup plan if you get denied there too - e.g. find another place besides the US to live or dissolve the marriage.

I'm not an immigration specialist, so everything I've said may be refuted by others. My response is based on my interactions with others going through the process in India and reading every embassy review for India since 2008. Good luck with your journey.

[Sahil Kumar 0]

Sahil,

Nothing can be done now as your petition has been returned to USCIS, as per my advice you get married and apply for spouse visa.

Two more questions:

When did the divorce finalize ?

How did beneficiary acquired US Citizenship and when?

Good Luck.

thank you so much for your advice, that is what we are planning to do now, and may i know how long do you think the processing of cr1..

[Darnell 8,478]

IMO, the age gap (28 and 60) is the issue.

[Sandra G. 5,016]

It won't make ANY difference if you get married, the issue is, yep, the age thing!!!.It might be just a number to some, but I bet they won't approve your CR1 visa. Good luck.

Edited April 6, 2012 by sandranj

[Sahil Kumar 0]

It won't make ANY difference if you get married, the issue is, yep, the age thing!!!.It might be just a number to some, but I bet they won't approve your CR1 visa. Good luck.

why, what is to do with the age difference and while we are so happy with each other and she even do not look like her age... why it is like that a young woman can get married with a very old man and the us embassy approve it but why it is so hard for the us embassy if a young man want to get married with a old woman ???

[Karee 4,189]

IMO, the age gap (28 and 60) is the issue.

Yeah that one aint gonna happen. 32 year age difference. Forget about it.

[catknit 144]

For what it's worth - there was a couple on here years ago where the woman was significantly older than her fiance. Maybe 20 years. And at an age where child bearing would be incredibly hard. She and her fiance had no problems getting the visa and if I remember correctly, it was through the Kolkata consulate??? BUT, and this is a big but, she had been living in India in a village for those 20 years and had pretty much just integrated into society. They had a long history together, etc.

I don't think a CO is necessarily concerned with doing things differently if that's your choice - why would they care? They are taught markers for fraud and sometimes those markers are EXACTLY what valid yet "real" couple do....

Also, it happens with some regularity in India that an elderly woman has a baby through IVF. And, it gets splashed all over the news. For Sahil, I'm sure this gives him a glimmer of hope. The medical system is different there - if you have the money, you get the procedure - no ethics boards or hemming and hawing, it just gets done. Oh, and the money is typically a fraction of what you would pay here.

About appealing a K1 decision with an attorney, truly it would be a waste of time and money. You'll be getting into the thousands of dollars in legal fees and it will result in nothing. Either refile or marry and try CR1. In your case, if you want to go forward with everything, it would probably be better to marry, settle in India, wait 2-5 years, then file DCF.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

One inappropriate judgmental post has been removed along with a post quoting it. Acceptable part of the post quoting the removed content is returned to the thread below.

Age is a red-flag, but if he loves her, then it's up to them not how they wish to proceed.

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

YOU tell me how these words are judgemental " young and no-self respect"

[Kathryn41 3,205]

YOU tell me how these words are judgemental " young and no-self respect"

Your reply wasn't the one removed as being judgmental. You quoted the post that was removed for being judgmental and responded to the quoted post. I removed the quote and the response to the quote since without the quoted material your response didn't make sense. I returned the part of the post that did make sense when the quoted post was removed.