Living with in Laws

[David_Marie 2]

Hello Guys,

I have just one simple questions i need answer from those of you who are living with the in laws.

What are the things i should expect when living with the in laws? I am just waiting for my visa,i'll fly to the USA in Utah this Month. I'm a lilttle unhappy and nervous I know i don't like it but i have no choice. I love my future Husband so much but we cant afford to get our own place just yet...Any advice or tips are greatly appreciated

Thanks so much

Marie

[jen1217 5]

living with in laws or living with someone else in the same house is not easy just try to fit yourself in and love your in laws then i think everything will be fine... by the way il be in Utah too soon, see you there lol

[UK_Fan 192]

depends on the in-laws.. it's no fun to share a home, especially when you practically have no rights to anything there.. everything belongs to them in the end of the day, no matter how nice they are to you.

we've been living with my husbands parents for over 3 years now and the day that we move out can't come fast enough!! they are nice to me, but two families can't live under one roof for too long.

[CDAgirlMI 51]

After living on my own (then with my now husband), living with anyone would suck (in my opinion). I love my privacy, & ability to whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.

I do understand some don't have a choice. Just keep saving money to get your own place.

[jaycali 415]

I lived with my wife's parents for a bit in the US, and she lived with mine for a bit here in Norway.

I'll tell you one thing - It has its ups and downs.

If you get along well with your in laws, it's fine for a while. But don't let it drag on too long. You'll be two families under one roof, and the house and rules will always be theirs and on their terms.

[CristiFur 15]

It can be both a blessing and a curse! Just depends on individuals and their living arrangement. I had lived with my ex wife parents and I had no issue at all. They were more of a blessing as she had a child and they helped very much when we were at work. True that privacy is limited but again when you have kids..your late night all over the house rendevouz does not happen often.. Good luck

It can be both a blessing and a curse! Just depends on individuals and their living arrangement. I had lived with my ex wife parents and I had no issue at all. They were more of a blessing as she had a child and they helped very much when we were at work. True that privacy is limited but again when you have kids..your late night all over the house rendevouz does not happen often.. Good luck

[Kimbear 53]

honestly we had to do it in an emergency situation. we've lived with them for a year..never ever again..if you dont have to do it..dont.

i thought we got along well, but after a few months little things started to bug both families. after 6 months i was losing my temper. no privacy. no knocking..and even though they gave us a room its still technically theirs so they think they can just barge in and snoop whenever they want. my mother in law barged in on a sunday morning while i was naked even!

I'm almost 40, and i got very tired of being told how to do things, like clean, cook etc for me and my husband. i'm not a child and yet they kept treating us like children.

i've had a nervous breakdown, walked out and started to hitchhike back home until my husband found me in the pouring rain and dragged me back. Needless to say now that we are moving out in two weeks (finally got out house) i think we've burn every bridge possible with them.

[UK_Fan 192]

honestly we had to do it in an emergency situation. we've lived with them for a year..never ever again..if you dont have to do it..dont.

i thought we got along well, but after a few months little things started to bug both families. after 6 months i was losing my temper. no privacy. no knocking..and even though they gave us a room its still technically theirs so they think they can just barge in and snoop whenever they want. my mother in law barged in on a sunday morning while i was naked even!

I'm almost 40, and i got very tired of being told how to do things, like clean, cook etc for me and my husband. i'm not a child and yet they kept treating us like children.

i've had a nervous breakdown, walked out and started to hitchhike back home until my husband found me in the pouring rain and dragged me back. Needless to say now that we are moving out in two weeks (finally got out house) i think we've burn every bridge possible with them.

oh how i hear you... the barging in, the no knocking, the constant questions about stuff that is completely irrelevant to them, sometimes i feel like walking, but we live in the boonies and if i start walking the highway, a truck driver will stop and think i'm a prostitute ahahah

[X Factor 1,110]

oh how i hear you... the barging in, the no knocking, the constant questions about stuff that is completely irrelevant to them, sometimes i feel like walking, but we live in the boonies and if i start walking the highway, a truck driver will stop and think i'm a prostitute ahahah

[DeniseBill 4]

Living with my inlaws is what almost destroyed my marriage. I hope it will work out for you or you can find your own place soon

[VanessaTony 3,567]

We lived with my in-laws for 2 months in early 2010. We haven't spoken to MIL since then (May/June 2010) and i don't talk to either of the SIL's, and FIL DOES talk to hubby but only on occasion when he can "sneak" over without MIL knowing. We also don't speak to maternal grandmother-in-law either for various reasons.

My in-laws are awful people. Tony did warn me but I just thought he was exaggerating, no-one could be THAT bad.. no they're worse. NEVER again.

It really depends on the people though. I suggest you save and get out as soon as possible. I have no doubt I would not have seen that side to my in-laws had we not lived with them and they'd still be in our lives.. to some degree.

[UK_Fan 192]

Living with my inlaws is what almost destroyed my marriage. I hope it will work out for you or you can find your own place soon

It's definitely taken a toll on my relationship.. and though i kept my mouth shut for a looooooong time and after We finally got married, the flood gates opened and I started stating my opinion more clearly.. and I feel bad for my poor hubby when he has to listen to me running my mouth, but God willing, soon things will be under my control

[Kimbear 53]

It's definitely taken a toll on my relationship.. and though i kept my mouth shut for a looooooong time and after We finally got married, the flood gates opened and I started stating my opinion more clearly.. and I feel bad for my poor hubby when he has to listen to me running my mouth, but God willing, soon things will be under my control

I was exactly the same way. I dont know what infuriated my hsuband more, my bitching to his parents directly or to him about all the ####### they do to piss me off. Or that i was in a perma bad mood all the time. I think my anger hit an all time high living here. He even commented on how i was NOT the same woman he married two years ago Thankfully we will be out of here in two weeks. Otherwise, i dont think my marriage would survive.

[David_Marie 2]

Awww Im Praying my MIL or my soon to be situation with MIL will be different from all of the replies above... Thanks everyone for the response but knowing myself i can put up with almost anything and i'd say come what may coz i really have no choice but at least now i know what to expect....thanks again

[rlogan 2,036]

Wow, sorry to hear about all the antagonism in these stories. It just depends on the people, and you. The most important thing is clear communication and everyone being a team player. If you have little underhanded power struggles going on that you can't talk about then it will lead to a blow-up.

I lived with my inlaws in the Philippines for several months the first time and only a couple months the second time because we traveled so much the second time. But it was a riot. Lots of laughter and fun. I couldn't care less if my mother in law saw me stark naked. When my wife moved here I had an old college drinking buddy living here, never paying rent on time and being a lazy bum. I had to evict him, and we have never spoken since. What a retard - I bring my pregnant wife home and he thinks he can boss her around her own kitchen, throw her out of the bathroom, and try to stir up trouble between us. Making fun of both of us for her cooking a nice meal for me. Oh really? Here's your eviction notice. It was impossible to talk to the guy because he was such a manipulative jerk.

Edited April 4, 2012 by rlogan