reputation

[david'sgirl 134]

my fiance dont want his family and church to know about our relationship. he said that he want everyone's respect. do u think this is reasonable? we are already married in our marriage tradition in the philippines.

Your husband does not sound like he is treating you with the respect you deserve.

In answer to your question, no, it is not reasonable for him to expect you to hide your relationship.

I know you had your traditional wedding already so is there a way to have that marriage solemnized?

Many people have one cermony in thier homeland and another in the US. If you agree to do this as a compromise he should still be proud to acknowledge you have already declared yourselves as husband and wife.

I worry that you will not be treated well after you get here if this is how he is treating you already.

[Dan and Judy 614]

If the first wife would have been an American woman would it seem bad to ever marry another American?

Yes definitely

[Dan and Judy 614]

Some people just enjoy water cooler gossip and dissecting other people's lives for their own entertainment. With the exception of a few sensible people that advised her (and her significant other) to communicate with each other and resolve the problem, most on here just want to fan the flames, chew ther popcorn, and enjoy the sideshow as these poor folk's relationship falls apart. It's really sad and pathetic.

I just ran out of butter!!

[Hank_ 9,174]

popcorn isn't any good without REAL butter!!

[Dan & Jenni 457]

popcorn isn't any good without REAL butter!!

it is good that you are getting so much amusement out of someone elses pain and misery

p.s. message me when something good happens right

[brian_n_phuong 193]

popcorn isn't any good without REAL butter!!

Humor doesn't compensate for a total lack of class.

[Hank_ 9,174]

Sorry your fragile feelings were hurt.

My post was directed at Dan & Judy.

As for the OP... they went away in case no one noticed.

[Dan and Judy 614]

On the serious side, the crime here was not lack of communication but a deplorable lack of discretion. Both his parents have talked to her and the lady from the church he calls his spiritual mother.

Then he goes and tells her that he is keeping her a secrete from the family and the church. He had no need to tell her that. Of course that would freak a girl out, especially since in her eyes

they are already married. She wasn't making up the words, that's what he told her.

I think Brandon has an acceptable reason for not making a public announcement before Beth gets here but not a great one.

He said "but if I tell people now they will judge her by my x"

The truth is he is afraid of them judging HIM to be an idiot for making the same mistake again.

His plan is to wait for her to get here so they can see that she is different.

The plan would work fine without mentioning to Beth that she was being kept a secret.

It just caused her needless anxiety.

Beth, as he said, he is ashamed of himself for letting himself be used by the first wife. He is not ashamed of you. In fact he is looking for you to be his redemption.

[brandonbeth 2]

u made a summary lol

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

On the serious side

(all this time) You've been holding out.

OP;

It's all starting to make sense now.

Edited January 5, 2012 by Crashed~N2~Me

[Dan & Jenni 457]

Humor doesn't compensate for a total lack of class.

no but it does stop you from going crazy... well that is my excuse anyway

[NoneYa 73]

I told just a few family members and a few friends but they told 100 people each... so it's all out there now.

[Hank_ 9,174]

Sort of like Walk About Creek, you tell Walt...he tells everyone else!!

[Darnell 8,478]

u made a summary lol

Congratulations on the move to Taiwan!! How you liking the food?

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Congratulations on the move to Taiwan!! How you liking the food?

I noticed the change in country too. I suppose they don't appreciate PI hospitality.