Combating the "yo mama don't live here" issue

[sandinista! 1,816]

I found this to be an interesting take on the subject, given your profession as a bill collector at a collection agency.

I've been following this thread and really don't think that any of us have the right to tell Sarah how to spend her money and what to buy or not buy. The truth of the matter is she works very very hard to give her and her family a nice life and if she wants to forgo insurance to pay for a maid and or buy a decent car then she should. Its not up to us to tell her otherwise. I and many of us understand how some of these men are totally spoiled and hopefully something will make him change his ways. But if he follows Islam, which I don't know if he does or not. He can't tell her what to do with HER money, she earns it, its hers. He is the one that is supposed to pay the bills not her, so if she decides she wants a maid, then I say go for!

[Muh and me 18]

I found this to be an interesting take on the subject, given your profession as a bill collector at a collection agency.

Hey we as bill collectors are people to, just because we are a bill collector dont mean that we don't have debt, cause every single one of us in our office has filed bankruptcy at least once. Nothing to be proud of. Its jst a job! But I don't think anyone here has the right to tell Sarah how to and how not to spend her money.

Edited August 22, 2011 by Muh and me

[HannahP 119]

and dont leave him, leave the others say whatever. you love him even if he's lazy, i love my baby to death no matter what. a woman has to be half wife and half mother for her husband. you have to educate him, teach him whats good and bad all over again. guys grow up slower. thats what im doing with my hard headed fiance and after 1 year it seems im going in the right direction. and buy yourself a car LOL. if he ever wants to use it make him clean something to deserve his driving reward

Oh, honey. No, you shouldn't be half wife and half mother to your husband. You really shouldn't.

I've been living with my husband for over seven years now. Long time in VJ history. We've been together for over ten.

I love my husband dearly. Still do after all these years.

And, at one point, I really did think that it was about teaching and "he'll just grow up eventually" etc.

It's not. It's about constant fighting -- broken promises -- more fighting -- frustration. All over again. Year after year. I sometimes look around at the mess he builds up and wonder if he sees the same reality that I do. Like...where does he live to say that it's not messy? Not here, apparently.

I DO NOT think that cleaning should be a reason to break up an otherwise happy marriage. But in families that cannot afford extra help -- it can be a breaking point. It has been for us and he still doesn't get it. If you can afford help, than TAKE IT.

But you'll very shortly grow bored of playing mother to your husband, trust me.

[HannahP 119]

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Edited August 23, 2011 by HannahP

[tany1157 161]

I was a mother to my first husband, and it led to our downfall. I am a WIFE, NOT a mother, and I made that very clear from the beginning with my current husband. He is a grown man, not a child. Thankfully, when I do get in "mom mode" with him, he gets insulted, and says not to speak to him like he is my child. He is absolutely right, and I love him for that....I am also trying to raise my son to be a man, not a man-child. Just had to pipe in for that comment

[Tahlisha 28]

Iam sorry to see u go. Your advise has been a huge help... Are u on fb???? pm and let me know

[Ban Hammer 12,857]

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