verbaly abused

[romaysa 0]

hi everybody

first i entred here to the state by visa marriage,i`m here for 6 months,my husband is us citizen,we been married now for 1year and 3 months,since i come here to live with him and exactely the second week he start talking to me badely insulting me stupide,u are my bonish and my prostutie sorry for the word but its what happen to me now,sometimes he take me out from the bed by pouching me by his hands and his feet,asking me to go to sleep in the clthset and the floore i was doing that first but after that when i refuse getting out from the bed he pouch me by his feet and hands,i go to sleep in the floore craying all time.i arrived in aguest my husband make the vasectomy he sterlize hemself i will never have kids with him becozw he already has 3 kids from his previous marriage.and now if i talk or cray he is telling me u are my bonish amd my prostuitie i brought u for 2 jobs take care of the house and his kids and to him in bed they is marriege in his opinion and he is menacing me all the time if i dont accept to live like this he will divorce me and send me back to my country morocco,yesterday he was screming im my face telling me get out from my house i was craying i dont know what to do where to go i dont have no one here.its very hard i dont want to go to my country divorce.i tought to call 911,do u think that they will belive my story becoze theres no sing of violence to say the truth he dont beat me he never do ,but verbaly is more than a beating.please visajourney memebers help please tell me what to do,i tryed to contact onnline attornewys immigration attorneys but they ask to buy before they anser your question,i have no money,ibeen here in this city for 6 months now i still not see it how it is he never take me nowhere i dont get out from the house please help i dont know what to do i know that the is abuse but how can i prouve it.please help

whaiting for your response and eny advice i`ll be appreciaiet it.

[KittyPollitt 284]

hi everybody

first i entred here to the state by visa marriage,i`m here for 6 months,my husband is us citizen,we been married now for 1year and 3 months,since i come here to live with him and exactely the second week he start talking to me badely insulting me stupide,u are my bonish and my prostutie sorry for the word but its what happen to me now,sometimes he take me out from the bed by pouching me by his hands and his feet,asking me to go to sleep in the clthset and the floore i was doing that first but after that when i refuse getting out from the bed he pouch me by his feet and hands,i go to sleep in the floore craying all time.i arrived in aguest my husband make the vasectomy he sterlize hemself i will never have kids with him becozw he already has 3 kids from his previous marriage.and now if i talk or cray he is telling me u are my bonish amd my prostuitie i brought u for 2 jobs take care of the house and his kids and to him in bed they is marriege in his opinion and he is menacing me all the time if i dont accept to live like this he will divorce me and send me back to my country morocco,yesterday he was screming im my face telling me get out from my house i was craying i dont know what to do where to go i dont have no one here.its very hard i dont want to go to my country divorce.i tought to call 911,do u think that they will belive my story becoze theres no sing of violence to say the truth he dont beat me he never do ,but verbaly is more than a beating.please visajourney memebers help please tell me what to do,i tryed to contact onnline attornewys immigration attorneys but they ask to buy before they anser your question,i have no money,ibeen here in this city for 6 months now i still not see it how it is he never take me nowhere i dont get out from the house please help i dont know what to do i know that the is abuse but how can i prouve it.please help

whaiting for your response and eny advice i`ll be appreciaiet it.

Call the police. Find what's called a "House of Ruth" in your area, they will help you get away from him. It would be better if he sent you home to Morocco than if you stayed there and got hurt.

[kittyrat234 2]

The law is on YOUR side. Believe me. My uncle married a woman from China and treated her terribly. We couldn't tell her before she came here not to marry him or come, but once she was here, we got her away from him and helped her. He has an "ex-wife", remember? She may be a friend to you. She knows what he's like. If you need someone to talk to the police to tell them what he does, ask them to contact her.

There are shelters where you can go live for free run by caring people. There are charities, government programs, you name it. There is a lot of help. You don't have to suffer and are not at his very cruel mercies.

Remember that many, many judges in the US are also women. This will especially strike a cord with them. No matter what gender the judge is, American law takes a very strong view against all spousal abuse, but especially against poor, lonely, frightened, immigrant women.

Bullies get strong because they aren't stopped. Next time, call the police and ask them to take you to a shelter and say "yes" you want to press charges. Tell them how afraid you are and about his forcing you to sleep in the closet or on the floor. Believe me, they won't say, "Well, that's too bad." I would mentally ready because he may be taken away in handcuffs. And YES, you do want to "press charges".

[Krikit 1,163]

Moving from IR-1/CR-1 Process to Effects of Major Changes.

Romaysa, get AWAY from that man any way you can. Good luck to you.

[Stanley Hermosill 1]

Call the police! Anything they will do will be better than staying where you are! Be strong!

[Utha 10]

I am sorry for your situation. Are you shy to back to your home country Morocco?. If you do then follow what they say to keep stay there in US safely, otherwise, just back home. Be strong.

[aminah 6]

No one deserves this kind of treatment. Go to a hospital, usually they will have resources for battered women.

[coraliesolms 47]

Absolutely do not wait until the next time he hurts you to call the police. You need to start a "diary" right now of everything he does and says on a daily basis. Contact your nearest womans shelter, and start to get help now. They will also guide you through anything you might have to do to maintain your status here in the USA. File a police report, and go to a womans shelter. Just because you are an immigrant and he brought you to the states, DOES NOT mean that you are his house slave.

I hope things improve for you!!

[Leatherneck 693]

You have been given some good advice by the other members, please take those steps. You have a computer, Google 'batter women,' 'womens shelter' or anything related to domestic violence.

A crime is a crime, regadless of when it was committed. He has assaulted you physically and that is a crime in America. Like another member said, we in America take a strong view agianst domestic voilence, especially when it involves (when a man is the victim it is not taken as seriously sometimes) women and child. Call the police when he is away at work...get this documented and on file at your local police or sheriff's department. Do not wait to start doing this, do your homework now, call the nearest women's shelter or the local hopital, the hospital will know of resources for you to use.

Personally I would not wait for it to happen again, but if it does happen again, please call the police the first moment you get...dail 911 when he goes to the bathroom or when he goes to sleep. Just do it...this behavior gets worst over time and not better. Please do not wait to get seriously injuried by this man.

And after you do this research on the computer, you might want to delete the browing history, you do not want to tip your hand and let him know you are researching this.

You are no ones slave nor are you his sex slave. Best wishes to you.[s

[Aztec&Taino 144]

hi everybody

first i entred here to the state by visa marriage,i`m here for 6 months,my husband is us citizen,we been married now for 1year and 3 months,since i come here to live with him and exactely the second week he start talking to me badely insulting me stupide,u are my bonish and my prostutie sorry for the word but its what happen to me now,sometimes he take me out from the bed by pouching me by his hands and his feet,asking me to go to sleep in the clthset and the floore i was doing that first but after that when i refuse getting out from the bed he pouch me by his feet and hands,i go to sleep in the floore craying all time.i arrived in aguest my husband make the vasectomy he sterlize hemself i will never have kids with him becozw he already has 3 kids from his previous marriage.and now if i talk or cray he is telling me u are my bonish amd my prostuitie i brought u for 2 jobs take care of the house and his kids and to him in bed they is marriege in his opinion and he is menacing me all the time if i dont accept to live like this he will divorce me and send me back to my country morocco,yesterday he was screming im my face telling me get out from my house i was craying i dont know what to do where to go i dont have no one here.its very hard i dont want to go to my country divorce.i tought to call 911,do u think that they will belive my story becoze theres no sing of violence to say the truth he dont beat me he never do ,but verbaly is more than a beating.please visajourney memebers help please tell me what to do,i tryed to contact onnline attornewys immigration attorneys but they ask to buy before they anser your question,i have no money,ibeen here in this city for 6 months now i still not see it how it is he never take me nowhere i dont get out from the house please help i dont know what to do i know that the is abuse but how can i prouve it.please help

whaiting for your response and eny advice i`ll be appreciaiet it.

Romaysa,

You do not have to live in that situation. Get help. Call 911 if necessary and explain to the police officer your situation. As other VJ members have said, there are shelters for battered/abused women in our nation. There are also YWCA and homeless shelters where you could go. These places have social workers and they could refer you to additional needed services. The most important thing now is for you to understand that you don't have to accept or live in this current situation. Get out of his house and get help!

Best wishes!

[Langa 2]

This is awful. Please get help as soon as you can. It is not fair to live in such conditions. I know you love your husband but you know emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse, the damage is so much more. I believe it always starts with emotional/mental abuse then it escalates to physical abuse (at least that's what happened with me so I'm telling you from experience). Please call the domestic violence center or see if someone there can get you help. I wish you well and hope that things get better for you soon. Stay strong and believe in yourself.

Good luck

[Maxx121 14]

Honestly, you should just wait till he is not home one day and go to the police and they will direct you to a womans shelter. They wont take you to the shelter but they will let you know where to go.

As far as staying in the US and not going back to your country i have no idea about.

Good Luck to you

[FawkThisSite 13]

I would find a way to record what he says to you. If he brought you there for two things, then it is not a bonafide relationship and he commited fraud, correct me if I am wrong here VJers.

[Mariye & Ky 172]

I would find a way to record what he says to you. If he brought you there for two things, then it is not a bonafide relationship and he commited fraud, correct me if I am wrong here VJers.

I fully agree! He's the one in violation of fraud by the sounds of it. Abusive to boot! When he's out of that house, call the police and let them know what he has done to you so it's on record.

And as far as making you his slave (house, sex and other), it seems like human trafficking (sans a big corporation.. but only a little man with no heart!) Just remember you don't have to put up with any of that abuse! You're too good for that, to say the least!

Please OP, so many have offered very good help... Please take care to protect yourself.

Mari

[kutakendra 3]

Please clear your internet history and internet cache every time you are on the computer. If he finds you have been asking for advice, he may escalate the violence. I know you may feel trapped, but the USA has no tolerance for batterers. Get out. Go anywhere. Even people who do not know you will help!