Depression

[Karen_L 1]

Ok pills aren't always the answer...

but, Stina, I am so sorry. I would say start with the thing that is MOST managable and begin with that. Focus on only ONE Challenge at a time, so you don't get overwhelmed with EVERYTHING.

I am so sorry you are going through this

Dear Stina,

I really really hope things pick up for you soon and you feel better *hug* I think Karo is right about trying to handle things one at a time -- the first thing, maybe, is to settle things with your mom and with other people in your life. If you're on good terms with family members/friends, I think it will make thinking clearly about the financial challenges much easier for you and less overwhelming. Sometimes clearing the air can give a new perspective on everything else.

Also, don't feel bad about posting about this here! Sometimes people in your (real) life are too close to the situation to give advice, or else they can't really understand about the immigration/separation from family and friends aspect of it all since they haven't gone through such things.

[almaty 19]

antidepressants are needed in for major depression..your sounds situational though///..rant and talk to those ..you feel trust in...

[Dixie_Peach 1]

Hey Stina, don't apologize for posting just because Shon can't be sensitive to your needs. There are still others who care for you and understand where you are coming from.

HALLELUJAH!!! totally agree!!!

Stina, *hugs*... from one of the fuzzy wuzzy bunny bunch... just know that lots of love and prayers are going out to ya... and UP for ya... all of this has been a huge turmoil for you... and drugs aren't always the TOTAL answer...

Look for some herbal stress tabs at your local walmart or health store... chamomille tea helps me too... and whenever the pressure seems unbearable... talk to your friends... your family... someone in your church... continue to pray... IT WILL GET BETTER...

Don't let others' glib comments get to ya...

God bless ya sweetie!

I'm always here if ya need a friend!

Lynne

[CarolineM 0]

antidepressants are needed in for major depression..your sounds situational though///..rant and talk to those ..you feel trust in...

Always the consumate professional Brother Dean

[KaiserD 12]

I think maybe the only people who understand just what you are feeling like and going through, are those who have been there and done it wink.gif

Right!

While I agree some people do need the hard line, the OP hasn't been banging on about depressive circumstances day after day, this is a time of support and encouragement.

I won't go on about advice, she already has plenty. Just well wishes and some rays of light soon

[isleta521 5]

<<<<<<<<<STINA>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Good vibes going your way Stina.

I hope you feel better soon. Go to a doc if you have too. Take it one day at a time, one problem at a time. Letting it out is good therapy as others have posted.

[Meliss 0]

All the ####### that has been going on in my life for the past 5 months (Immigration, financial problems, my illness...etc), has finally gotten to me. I can barely keep my head up. So many things are just piling up and I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. keith works ten hours a day so i am usually alone in my thoughts. I dont sleep at night because I am up with worry, I am always in physical pain because of whatever is wrong with me, my anxiety attacks, our pastor got arrested so our arrangement with being the childrens pastors and not having to pay rent because of it is no longer valid and they are selling the apartment we are currently living in to pay off some stuff, Canada is now demanding money from me because they said they gave me too much money on my income tax and I cant afford it right now, Doctor's bills up the A$$, I havent heard anything about my AOS for almost two months, I miss my family and my friends, I am fighting with my mother, my self-esteem has yet again plummeted, I'm exhausted and stressed out.

I really dont know how to go on.

Sorry for the rambling, I just had to let it out, and Keith is at work so I just posted it here.

what is depressing you? you are with your husband. I dont know why you are depressed

about these panny yanny issues. stop fightin with your mom - thats insane! there are people on here that dont have a mom or family. your family miss you if you wanna see them then GO. but, your being depressed over bills and #######- things you cant control. you will always have bills and taxes thats life. Your depression will start to get in your marriage. I know your husband want to see you happy. so figure out how to do that.

Yikes Bunny- you were always so nice to me (be patient )

Stina- You are not alone ever, if this is the only place for you to voice your concerns so be it, if you don't want to post PM me, I'll be glad to chat. We are all in the same boat- but being alone after waiting so long to be together can be tough- what about volenteering? Get up and out of the house more often, find something to give yourself some motivation. A goal, join a gym, as for health concerns have you tried any homeopathic treatments? Pm me anytime chin up girl and live your life one day at a time, you are there (I am so jelous) make the best of it . Is all this stuff with your depression a new issue? What did you do with it when you were back home?

[Jersey Girl 2]

Stina, stop.

Practice saying that out loud.

Say it every time you catch yourself worrying and getting anxious.

If we keep thinking negative thoughts, they turn into runaway emotions.

Stop the thoughts and emotions before they spiral down into depression.

Don't live in your head. Get out and socialize. It's amazing to find that other people have far worse problems.

Ask God for help.

Watch funny movies.

Cook something complicated.

Imagine an off switch in your mind and practice shutting down the worry.

Try. It's hard, we know, but you DO have more control than you think.

You're in our prayers!

[nayalamb 1]

hey stina, sending hugs and positive thoughts your way...

everyone has their rough patches, just know that you are strong enough, brave enough and supported enough to get through it all.

you're in our prayers

naya

[giraffemd 0]

Hey Stina...this whole process takes the wind out of our sails and leaves us feeling vulnerable.....some people are stronger than others, but make sure you have a support system.....I have never been one to get down, but I have been off and on just missing everyone and not making new friends all that easily...and my husband, even though he is as perfect as a person could be, cannot fix the lonliness for my people. Keep your chin up, eat some chocolate, and remember most of us feel the immigration blues off and on...I'm thinking of you and remembering how far we have come since comparing notes about the K1 interview...ask for help and support...you deserve it

[CanGal 1]

Hey Stina! I'm sorry to hear that your feeling bummed out. I just want you to know that you are not alone. I think some of us have all reached this point at some level or another. I too have been going through the same feelings you have the past few months. My husband too works 10 hr days so I find that I am lonely alot of times in my own thoughts and it's hard. The only thing that I can really tell you that has worked for me is to just really surrender myself and my situations over to God. I know that both of us have him in common. Sometimes what we need to do is just let go of things we can't control and just leave them up to him. Keep your focus on him and may he keep you strong in this tough time. I'm thinking of you and I'll keep you in my prayers. If you need to talk just PM me

Edited August 16, 2006 by CanGal

[Caladan 19]

Stina, it sounds like you've been under a ridiculous amount of stress lately. Moving, adjusting to a new country, the problems at your church, being alone a long part of the day. Anyone would be stressed. Venting is what the internet is for.

I don't know much about your situation. Meds or even just talk therapy could help. It doesn't mean you're nuts or weak, just that you need a little help.

If you don't want to go that route, I encourage you to find something to do that gets you out of the house every day; volunteering (there are opportunities) somewhere locally. Something that gets you seeing new people and making friends and having new experiences. Exercise is good, too.

[samir_shannon 0]

heystina.. i am sorry to hear about all thats going on. i am in the same boat. some nights i just dont sleep and lay there with my mind buzzing. its ok to rant i am here for ya

[moondancer627 0]

Lot's of advice here!

I feel depressed/blue most of the time. Chemical, situational? I don't know.

Both maybe.. All I can say it's up to you to make the most of it.

Med's may help, I don't know I would never take them cause I feel once I depended on them then I would not be living in reality.

I would say Hang in there with the AOS it will come. You have what you came for at least on the husband side.

If the church you are in now is not supporting you find another... the Pastor got arrested?? Sounds kind of weird.

Write the pros and cons of each problem in a journal. Think about the choices you have to deal with each problem once that is written down, take a deep breath and Breathe.

Do as many fun things as you can, even if it's taking a walk with headphones and good music on...

Good Luck and Bright Blessings,

Moondancer

[Not Available 0]

Thanks to all who offered me encouragement and advice and all the PM's. I feel better today.

I am also going to the doctor to dicuss Fibromyalgia with him. He also suggested putting me back on anti-depressant meds (been on them before, I have a disorder) but I said no because I really dont want to rely on meds my whole life to make me happy. I think I may just go back on for a while to sort myself out. But thanks to all for your encouraging words. It wasnt just "panny yanny" issues, i just didnt want to "air out all my laundry" on the internet.

Also just to clarify, I am still the kids pastor at the church, we are just having to leave our apartment because the ex-pastor's wife is selling it.

Thanks for all the prayers

Blessings.

Edited August 17, 2006 by Stina