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I just got off the phone with my husband. He is such an a## today. So we are actually having a big fight right now, because he wants me to ask for his permission if we can discuss a problem or not. What the #### is going on here???? I thought it is part of being married to talk about problems. I am so pissed right now. So I actually decided to take a break for at least a week. If he wanna have his precious time on his own, FINE he can have plenty!

Im so hurt :crying: Why is he doing that to me?

Isabel :(

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Alex+R Veteran

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Hugs.

Part of being married IS talking about problems, as far as I know. Having to ask for permission sounds out of line.

I'll hope (and bet) within a day or so he's going to be apologizing.

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coming from a guy I'll give ya my thoughts.. I will tell ya what, I am the USC and my fiance is from Taiwan .. and she handles the stress of being apart more then me.. I sometimes say things that are out of line because I am so hurt and just want her back ASAP.. it takes me about 1/2 day before I realize.. What the heck was I saying? I don't believe it is anger or mean'ness (not a word I know) towards you .. its just part of the stress of being apart.

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I don't think that men like to have a 'problem' come at them out of the blue.

I think his use of the word 'permission' might have been a poor choice.

But I kinda believe that you are better off to ask a man when would be a good time to talk about something that's on your mind. If he says 'now' well then go for it. And if he says now isn't good because of XYZ, well then trust him that it really isn't a good time. If you don't have his full attention you will be wasting your breath anyway.

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how long did you guys 'date' before you got married (because i see you married the day before he left back for the US).

asking when it's a good time to talk is a LOT different than having to ask permission to discuss a problem.

i think a break would suit him just fine, as he sounds a bit controlling ... it will give both of you a bit of space to clear your heads.

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gimygirl   0

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he wants me to ask for his permission if we can discuss a problem or not. Im so hurt :crying: Why is he doing that to me?

Isabel :(

It's a GUY thing :rolleyes:

sorry ladies ... but i REFUSE to believe that this is a 'guy thing'. asking permission to discuss a problem?!?!? get real!

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he wants me to ask for his permission if we can discuss a problem or not. Im so hurt :crying: Why is he doing that to me?

Isabel :(

It's a GUY thing :rolleyes:

sorry ladies ... but i REFUSE to believe that this is a 'guy thing'. asking permission to discuss a problem?!?!? get real!

I'm a guy. Karen don't need no permission to discuss any problems with me. How is the problem going to be resolved if we don't discuss it?

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sorry ladies ... but i REFUSE to believe that this is a 'guy thing'. asking permission to discuss a problem?!?!? get real!

I agree permission being asked is not a guy thing.. if it is .. then I don't wanna be a guy .. :lol: .. now if it was "It is a guy thing to say completely stupid things at times" then I would say yes.. but heck I would never honestly tell my fiance that she needs to ask permission ..

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May 1, 2006 - Submitted I-129F (Overnight) NSC

May 2, 2006 - NOA1

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June 14, 2006 - Notice from CSC it was transferred

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Must be something in the water, we had a argument today to. As for asking permission...ERM NO!

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gimygirl   0

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looking at some of your past topics, over 50% have negative connotations ... i really think you need to sit down with your husband and have some heart to hearts. i know that it's extremely difficult being so far apart but you guys are young and newlyweds ... it's sad to see you going through so much so soon ...

really pissed and hurt:(

I feel distant ....

do you fight over calls and stuff?

how do you deal with you emotions?

Strip bar- how would you react??

Need advice on this emotional/logical conflict

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~Winston Churchill~

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