I think I'm moving back to my country

[camifree 2]

There are thousands of people that want to leave the country where you want to go back to. That was the most beautiful country ever. La sucursal del cielo, con la sultana del avila bella, con los llanos, con las playas, con la gente, y con su comida, las hallacas, pan de hamon, cachitos, malta, susy y cocosette. Bueno amiga, eso ya no existe.

It is difficult to get used to another country, another life, but once you leave a life behind, that life keeps changing. Once you leave that life behind for so long, that life becomes a different life, that is not yours anymore.

Gloria al bravo Pueblo.

I understand what you're saying, and I appreciate your input. However, my reasons to go back there go beyod the malta and cocossette. I need my family with me.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,235]

Life is a journey, and it takes us to the strangest places. I visited 32 countries and lived in 7 of them. I believe one should live where she feels at home. Home is where the heart is. You answered that yourself:

I miss my family, my friends, my country (in spite of all the problems there). What the heck am I doing here?

And indeed, Venezuela is an absolute beautiful country. Forget the dark past, keep your head up and look to the future. May it be a wonderful one!

I wish you, and your dog, the very best.

[camifree 2]

Life is a journey, and it takes us to the strangest places. I visited 32 countries and lived in 7 of them. I believe one should live where she feels at home. Home is where the heart is. You answered that yourself:

I miss my family, my friends, my country (in spite of all the problems there). What the heck am I doing here?

And indeed, Venezuela is an absolute beautiful country. Forget the dark past, keep your head up and look to the future. May it be a wonderful one!

I wish you, and your dog, the very best.

Danke schön!

[meowmeowmeow 0]

try googling "freecycle" as well. you can also try to find needy organizations/people in your area that may do good to use your things. for the things that you do want, and are too heavy to take with you, you can have them shipped via cargo boat. my mom did this this past summer and paid maybe $500 for 4 huge tubs of stuff.

sorry to hear about your troubles....hope you will find peace and happiness soon enough

[HappyNathy 0]

There are some charities that will come and collect items you wish to donate to them. Try doing a google search for your area.

I'm sorry for your pain and loneliness. There is nothing like the comfort of family. Go home, girl ~ be happy!

[SuperDuper! 230]

if you don't want to move them - see them or give them away on craigslist - see www.craigslist,org - choose your city, and start posting. Be wary of sexual predators, though. Good Luck with the move !

[Chica Yeyé 41]

if you don't want to move them - see them or give them away on craigslist - see www.craigslist,org - choose your city, and start posting. Be wary of sexual predators, though. Good Luck with the move !

Why ??? A lot of real creeps respond to those ads.

oh and sister cami, best of luck in your decision

[SuperDuper! 230]

There are some charities that will come and collect items you wish to donate to them. Try doing a google search for your area.

I'm sorry for your pain and loneliness. There is nothing like the comfort of family. Go home, girl ~ be happy!

Yes, OP, never give up in pursuit of your happiness. Life is TOO short to be miserable. Glad that you see the light that going home is the right thing to do, and the right place for you to be. You are a smart girl.

Too many come to US on a marriage visa, get divorced, and feel the need to stay here without the man that loved and came here for. The US is a harsh place to survive economically. Things have really turned into Dog-eat-Dog.

You came here to be with him, now he is gone, and you no longer have a reason to be here. Glad you are taking action, and taking care of yourself. GodBless.

[MRStee 19]

Cami

I'm sorry that you are lonely , depressed and unhappy. May the peace of God that surpasses our understanding calm all your anxiety and fears. I'd suggest that you walk into a church ,Hear the word of God , it will encourage you. God loves you . The more you go to your nearby church you will find people to talk to , share your pain , and make friends.

If you have made up your mind to go home, just post your items online, if you can't sell all donate. MAy you find God's favor and have peace in your heart.

Have a Blessed day.

I totally agree..

[emilio delgado 0]

Hi all,

I'm sure I'm not the only one who has been through this, but I need some advice and that's why I post today. I moved to the USA very in love, with so many good expectations and illusions, thinking it would be time for me to build my family with the man I loved.

We're good friends now, but we got divorced this year. After a lot of pain and a long process, we are divorced. We were married for less than 3 years.

I have tried a lot of things in order to continue my life here. College (couldn't afford it), jobs (couldn't keep them for different reasons)... I also had another relationship, a short one, it didn't work. So I feel like I've been pushing and pushing a situation that is definitely not working for me. I don't belong here. I miss my family, my friends, my country (in spite of all the problems there). What the heck am I doing here?

I live alone, in a small studio with my doggy Frida. I told my father today that I want to go back, I cannot deal with this anymore. I know life is tough for everybody, but I cannot let it go to the point that I prefer I was dead. I'm depressed, I don't feel like getting up, I don't know a lot of people, I've gained weight... I could complain all day. However, I have health (thank God), I'm young and I really want to save my life and stablish myself somewhere. But not here.

I don't know what to do with my things (bed, sofa, dressers, dining set, pots & pans, china, silverware, books) in order to move. I'm scared of having to do all this by myself. Anyone has any idea of what would work to get rid of all the things that cannot come with me?

I'm sorry about the venting. I know there are people with much worse problems, but this is what I'm living right now. I cannot take it anymore. Loneliness is killing me.

Thank you for letting me share my feelings.

Cami.

sorry you feel that way but if Iwas you I would not go back to venezuela that is where you are from right , you been here 3 years wait 2 more get your citizenship and then try visiting your country always keep the return open

[Jonara 0]

Cami,

Best wishes to you. I admire your courage, much more your motivation to attain happiness once again.

[sachinky 464]

I hope everything works out for you.

Just an idea: you can give/sell things at the local college. A lot of college/international students are always looking for cheap pots and pans.

[dirtyweebesom 8]

I'm also inclined to agree with Emilio Delgado i.e. try sticking it out for a couple of more years so you can get your citizenship, and also to see if things improve.

I came to the US in 2004 to begin a PhD and, oh my God, I was so bloody miserable. You have no idea how unhappy I was. I realized as soon as I got here that doing a PhD was a big mistake, and I was so incredibly lonely and homesick. And, um, no offence to Americans, but it's really hard to have meaningful friendships here. It's easy to have "acquaintances" but I hate superficial relationships.

It was only after 2.5 years here that things started to get better, and then I met my husband 1.5 years after that. Things aren't 100% perfect right now but I'm definitely glad I stayed.

[Ryan_and_Priscy 16]

Cami

All I can say is this: if you look back to your past, may it help you to go forward, to the happiness you deserve.

You are a warrior.

[Brit Abroad 166]

When life isn't going great for you, there is a huge tendency to look back and paint a much happier picture of the past than you actually experienced.

One thing that every immigrant spouse understands is leaving behind family, friends and millions of happy memories.

Be strong, you're 3 years down of a 5 year stretch to get citizenship, you can hold out a little bit longer. Don't risk losing the opportunity you've suffered for. Encourage your family to visit you here if possible, but don't close down your options because you've hit a rough patch in life.

Can you afford a month's visit to go "home" and see whether you've become so Americanised that you couldn't really live there again? Living the life shows you how much you've changed. I speak from experience when I say that you change a lot more than you realise and it can be a disappointment to be home again, even with the benefits of a loving family and great friends.

Hope you can find a way that works for you!