Would you let your Spouse party till the early morning on their own????

[kittykatwoman 0]

If he feels like it he can yes.

I will never make our marriage a prison, he just knows what i want and what i don't want him to do.

If he decided to do what i dislike, the door is open and he an leave and going out with his girl/boyfriends is not one of these things so...

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

No problem with him going out, and he has a few times. My problem is he has been ill the next day each and every time. Three or four drinks and he is out for a weekend , glad he doesn't do it often because it cost us time together.

[Jaylen Brit 1]

Depends - yeah fence sitting answer ain't it? lol

OK so..the non-fence sitting reply: I doubt it'd come up - neither of us are keen on crowds anymore and you usually get crowds in clubs n bars - side question: do you get LESS tolerant as you get older? I find even crowds when I go shopping are annoying, especially if I get stuck behind Mr&Mrs 3inches-per-minute-can't-possibly-walk-any-faster

If it was girlfriends who wanted to go out (not taht I'll have many of those once I move) then I'd rather go for a meal and a movie so I can actually TALK to them rather than trying to SHOUT over music.

Dancing I'd prefer to go with my SO plus pals - I think I'd feel safer from bar-room creeps that way PLUS there'd be someone there I could snog AND go home with

If he wanted to go alone? Well honestly I can't see it happening; if it did I guess we'd cross that bridge when it came to it and it would depend on where and why as to how I'd feel about it; mostly he prefers time with me anyways

[Fandango 1,440]

I dont' see why marriage needs to be the 'death of partying'

I would have a probbo if it was every weekend, cos he should be inviting me with them! But every now and again, you have to have your 'me' time with your friends, and I honestly don't see too much of a problem.

Now if it was in mixed company..ie girls and guys...I'd be pizzed if he wanted me not to go cos then that's very telling.

I trust him, he trusts me...we're in love and together, but that doesn't mean we're each other's wardens. Marriage isn't a death sentence where you always have to be this one homogenized being & where every sentence starts with 'D and I think....'

[Karen_L 1]

I think that once you're married, in general, your "drinking til sun-up with the boys/girls" days have come to a close and your new priority should be spending time with your spouse. Since most couples have jobs and spend 8 - 9 hours a day apart from the person they're married to, it makes sense to me to use freetime to strengthen the marriage and become closer. Of course it's very good to have friends outside of the marriage, because of course you can't ONLY spend time with your spouse, but it's really inconsiderate and irresponsible to frequently go missing all night long with your friends, get drunk, and stay out until 5AM when there's another person who's depending on you to be home or at least home before dawn.

[nayalamb 1]

we hang out with our friends (together or seperately) but its never a "wee hours" type of thing. more like dinner and a few drinks, talk #######, go home.

when he goes out without me, i don't worry about what time he is gonna get in because i trust him and know that he will behave himself. he's not a party animal or anything. if a special event happened (concert, bachelor party, etc) and he decided to be out really late, as long as he has his keys and his cell phone, i'm not going to wait up. if he were a wild guy who drank and clubbed every weekend and crawled in at dawn, i don't think we'd have started dating in the first place. we both enjoy just relaxing, having a good meal, watching a good movie, and spending time together. we do things with friends but its never at the expense of our relationship.

Edited July 14, 2006 by nayalamb

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

Hmmmm...I want Ian to have his fun to and not lose the "me" time. I just don't think that telling your partner that they can't drink is right. Its like saying yeah you can go out BUT there are some stipulations. Why agree to let them go out then??? If Ian were going out with his m8s..then yeah..have a good time..but if it were mixed company..I think I would be upset for him not inviting me. And I know damn well that he would be upset if I went out with mixed company as well. Nothing should change when you get married...unless it becomes a habit to the point that it is interfering with your relationship. I am all for couples having date night and finding things that both can do and enjoy together. I aslo believe that couples should explore new things together as well...keep the m8 time to minimum. After all......who is it that you are going to be living with until your dying day? I rather have memories that I shared with my SO to look back on then those I made with my M8s. If you don't have anything to talk about when you get to that retirement age, what the hell you gonna have to talk about other than how your bladder is weak, your cold all the time even in 100 degree weather...or how brittle your bones are lol???

[Vi Mazzella 4]

Before I met mu husband I was a party animal, I love to go out dancing -DANCING- I don't like to drink so much (but if you give me a PISCO SOUR or a White Russian I won't say no) but after I met Sil I prefered to stay home waiting for his phone calls, it's funny how he made remarks about our "saturday night dates" on the phone, he bought 3 or 4 phone cards just for that day to be sure that I don't make plans to go out and when I went out with my friends he called me all night to the cell phone to check on me (he says that he just wanted to know that everything was ok, ahhhh). He prefered to stay home watching movies or playing video games. I remembered that I used to push him to go out with his friends for some drinks I felt that his life revolved around me and I know is a great feeling but at the same time I felt bad for him.

Since I came to the States we went out maybe 6 or 7 times in one year, you know how expensive NYC. Either way we always have a great time together, dancing ,laughing and flirting with each other.

Vi

[Fandango 1,440]

I think marriage is about doing what is right for the husband and wife....and if neither have a problem with the occassional night out with the lads/lasses where it's an all night sesh...then it works for them and that's great.

Everyone has his or her own deffo of what marriage is, but mine does not mean that the partying gets binned. To me, marriage is finding that one person who you can share your crazy life with...but life still happens after you say the 'i dos' and it's not a case of 'no i'm married, can't do that anymore' (not talking about infidelity here, btw...just partying) I'm sure once we have children things will change, but this is the way we were when we got together...of course, we have adapted to each other and consider each other in what we do...even so much as 'would you mind if I did....' but it's not so much asking permission as showing that we care what the other one thinks.

I don't think the occassional bender with mates would mean that the relationship is not priority....Hell, D and I have gone away for weekends with our mates....me down to London with my girlies and him to Magaluff with the footy hooligans . We trust each other, and because I love him, I want him to have a brill time, and vice versa.

But most of the time, it's us together having the all night parties with OUR mates...

Conversely, if you and your spouse feel that partying after marriage is wrong, then that's what works for the two of you....as long as each partner is on the same page, that is 'what's right' for each individual couple.

Edited July 14, 2006 by LisaD

[Melo 1]

I think that if Paul wanted to go out with his mates I would not have a problem... I can't see him going to a party without me though... he is not really the partying kind... I love partying/dancing - Paul is quiet - me I am as garrulous and gregarious as they come!!!

[Welshcookie 17]

We have the same circle of friends so it was never an issue. But we also love to party just us together...many a night we have spent in our garage singing/drinking/watching movies until the early hours...since moving away to a different town we are used to entertaining ourselves

But if couples like the whole girls only/boys only nights out thats cool too.....different strokes and all that

[Fuzzness 2]

Karen and I are old enough that we've grown up and feel that partying (getting drunk) is a complete waste of time. Besides, the closer it gets to midnight, the closer I get to falling asleep.

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Besides, the closer it gets to midnight, the closer I get to falling asleep.

Same here Around 1am i can barely keep my eyes open!

[KarenCee 3]

Karen and I are old enough that we've grown up and feel that partying (getting drunk) is a complete waste of time. Besides, the closer it gets to midnight, the closer I get to falling asleep.

That's for sure...by the time the week is over and I've worked my ####### off I would much rather spend the weekend with my sweetheart. Besides, I'm dog tired and ready for bed by at least 11pm. The party scene was VERY short lived for me. It just never interested me not to mention how expensive it can be. Nah, give me a movie and my baby curled up on the sofa, maybe with a nice glass of wine and I'm content.

Not saying some time with the guys/girls isn't good now and then, but Joel and I spent way too long apart for us to want to be without each other now. Just MHO of course

[thesnowman 1]

I have no problem if my SO wants to go out for a night with the girls, and she has no problems with me going out with the boys. We have 9 month kid together so we generally go out seperatly and saving our babysitting vouchers for special occasions when we want to out together.

She likes going out dancing at a night club, where I am quite comfortable to go to the pub and drink with my mates. Although we both find now that by 1am we are ready to drop.