What is the hardest thing you had to give up?

[Twisted K 2]

When you look back over your life's and visa journeys, what was/were the hardest thing(s) you had to give up back home to be with your spouse? How did you cope? I know a lot of people have ventured into this new life by leaving their home country and familiar surroundings to come to a whole new world, so to speak. Some have adjusted well, and have often wondered what they have gotten themselves in to. I know when you are in love, you can allow yourself to do some crazy, much out of the ordinary things.

I think your answers and coping mechanisms will help our fellow sojourners get through the transition...

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[luckymom 0]

I gave up my two houses (up to now they are for sale) and the simple life that I had but everything is wonderful now with my USC husband.

[rheanick 42]

When you look back over your life's and visa journeys, what was/were the hardest thing(s) you had to give up back home to be with your spouse? How did you cope? I know a lot of people have ventured into this new life by leaving their home country and familiar surroundings to come to a whole new world, so to speak. Some have adjusted well, and have often wondered what they have gotten themselves in to. I know when you are in love, you can allow yourself to do some crazy, much out of the ordinary things.

I think your answers and coping mechanisms will help our fellow sojourners get through the transition...

Disclaimer: If this is in the wrong forum, mods, organizers, etc, please move to the correct

Career wise... I have to give up my work. Before i flew here, i had work offers from other countries. But no regrets.

[Dave and Helena 0]

The hardest things to leave behind was my mom. We have an extremely close relationship, especially after my dad and her parents died shortly after eachother when I was in my teens. She isn't getting any younger and it is hard not to be there to help her out with things.

The second hardest thing to give up was my home. I lived in a house, right on a big lake with lots of land around me and now I am feeling a bit cramped in our townhome in the suburbs.

I love my husband and wouldn't want to have it any other way, being away from him was way too hard. We are working towards getting a new home and next year my mom will come to visit for the first time.

[Sandrila 1]

I gave up the chance to get ahead financially, giving up custody of my children and missing some important chunks of time with them

[Marilyn. 340]

my family... I didn't give them up but I am not as close with them as I was before.. I feel like a stranger now....

[Chica Yeyé 41]

My family

My standard of living

Good food

[Welshcookie 17]

My family, my lifestyle, my identity......I totally underestimated how much I would miss all three.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

My family, my lifestyle, my identity......I totally underestimated how much I would miss all three.

WORD

[Kathryn41 3,205]

The hardest thing to give up? The best job I had ever had - one that earned a good living and one I enjoyed very much working for someone I greatly respected. I have not found the equivalent. It was rather a unique situation and one that would be very hard to replicate in the US. Tied in with that job was my 'independence'. I have gained a lot by joining my life with my husband's, but I am well aware that it is joined and I am no longer an independent woman. There are definitely times I miss that sense of self-sufficiency.

Edited August 14, 2009 by Kathryn41

[Twisted K 2]

thank you everyone who posted. i hope it can help others

[Peace be still 6]

The hardest things to leave behind was my mom. We have an extremely close relationship, especially after my dad and her parents died shortly after eachother when I was in my teens. She isn't getting any younger and it is hard not to be there to help her out with things.

The second hardest thing to give up was my home. I lived in a house, right on a big lake with lots of land around me and now I am feeling a bit cramped in our townhome in the suburbs.

I love my husband and wouldn't want to have it any other way, being away from him was way too hard. We are working towards getting a new home and next year my mom will come to visit for the first time.

I don't know if I could've of left my mother. Hopefully she will join you soon.

[Cherry&Ed 4]

I gave up my career (well maybe I can continue my profession here in US someday), I don't do household chores because I always have people to do them for me, Filipino food which for me is the best, my mom, dad and my lil sister who's also my bestfriend. I miss riding tricycles and jeepneys which makes more accessible to go places.

[redglasses 1]

I would say it's financial stability.

However, I had to give up so many more things when I had to come back to my country from the U.S. 4 years ago.

I really didn't give up anything when I came back to the U.S. from my country this time.

I (and my hubby) better off here.

[estrella 14]

I left my family, most importantly my mom, brother and nephew, they were the hardest to leave, also my grandmother and the family reunions at her house and her awesome food (pechugas de pollo con arroz).

Also my school, I was a year away from graduating from college, i put that on hiatus, and if everything goes as planned i'll be able to finish here in the state next year.

My friends, from school and my all life best friends.

And although i miss all of that being with my husband is worth it, he and his family do everything they can to make me feel like home and although i just have a month here it feels more and more like home you know? people start to know you and they greet you and you feel well received.

Also skype, messenger and facebook help a lot, calling mom almost everyday or she being able to call me whenever she wants, playing mafia wars with my brother and talking with my nephew on messenger about the WWE and all that makes it easier.