In you can't afford it ... then why?!?!?

[NickD 202]

Sure takes money to marry a foreigner, after I had all of my divorce and debts paid off, saved for three years. Met a lot of women during that time, but nothing of interest, and sure learned about the problems one can have by getting hooked up with the wrong one, no rush. Meeting Connie changed everything and was prepared for the expense, never hesitated after carefully reading the I-864.

But if a couple can't even meet the poverty levels, how in the world are they going to make it? USCIS demands a bundle in addition to all that. And if that person can't even meet the minimal requirements of that I-864, must not have much of anything, so what is keeping that person here?

If they really want to be together, the USC can go there just as well. No matter how you cut the mustard, one party has to leave their families, country, and culture. Wife and I also talk about a midway point, we are looking.

[kayandnigel 0]

I would work three low paying jobs if I had to! If you are so in love then you need to make the sacrifice!

[jundp 191]

I think there are definite situations where couples, especially younger couples still finishing school, might find themselves in need of a co-sponsor. The knowledge of 3 months or so without 2 incomes can be daunting. Who are we to judge?

[Twisted K 2]

There we go!

That's a catchy lil tune! Who's the tall guy again? I know he's famous and I remember him being in movies, but he's way older in the ones I remember...

Lucky, we should learn that song...I'd so sing it with you

it looks like the guy that played Herman Munster...

[Dave-n-Oksana 49]

There we go!

That's a catchy lil tune! Who's the tall guy again? I know he's famous and I remember him being in movies, but he's way older in the ones I remember...

Lucky, we should learn that song...I'd so sing it with you

it looks like the guy that played Herman Munster...

It is. His name is Fred Gwynne. He was also the judge in "My Cousin Vinny" as well as roles in other movies.

Edited July 22, 2009 by Dave-n-Oksana

[Fandango 1,439]

it looks like the guy that played Herman Munster...

It is. His name is Fred Gwynne. He was also the judge in "My Cousin Vinny" as well as roles in other movies.

Those are the movies I know him from...thanks guys!

Edited July 22, 2009 by Happy Bunny

[SuperDuper! 230]

I would work three low paying jobs if I had to! If you are so in love then you need to make the sacrifice!

Work 3 shifts, and barely have any time to spend with your wife? So many have become divorced like this.

[Der Bücherwurm 1]

There are a number of reasons that might lead to someone needing a sponsor. None of which are really anyone else's damn business, however. Nevertheless, someone might need a sponsor if they have been living abroad for some years. Income earned abroad can't be used unless you can prove that it will continue upon return to the US. Most Americans that live abroad and marry quit their jobs abroad and then have to begin the job search upon return home and need a little help from family until they secure work. In some cases the USC is a poor student at the time but would in theory qualify for a good job upon completion of their degree. Some are women sponsoring their husbands and of course women usually earn less than men. Some women might even be stay at home mothers trying to bring their highly educated husband over that would be able to secure a good job and support them. And yes, even poor people sometimes fall in love. Regardless of a person's reason for needing a sponsor it shouldn't concern anyone else. To those that say it should be more difficult for those that need a sponsor to bring a spouse over...Perhaps they should make it more difficult for fat, balding, old men trying to import barely of age girls from high-fraud third world countries that then cause a huge backlog in visa processing while the legitimacy of their marriage is being questioned.

[rebeccajo 14]

There are a number of reasons that might lead to someone needing a sponsor. None of which are really anyone else's damn business, however. Nevertheless, someone might need a sponsor if they have been living abroad for some years. Income earned abroad can't be used unless you can prove that it will continue upon return to the US. Most Americans that live abroad and marry quit their jobs abroad and then have to begin the job search upon return home and need a little help from family until they secure work. In some cases the USC is a poor student at the time but would in theory qualify for a good job upon completion of their degree. Some are women sponsoring their husbands and of course women usually earn less than men. Some women might even be stay at home mothers trying to bring their highly educated husband over that would be able to secure a good job and support them. And yes, even poor people sometimes fall in love. Regardless of a person's reason for needing a sponsor it shouldn't concern anyone else. To those that say it should be more difficult for those that need a sponsor to bring a spouse over...Perhaps they should make it more difficult for fat, balding, old men trying to import barely of age girls from high-fraud third world countries that then cause a huge backlog in visa processing while the legitimacy of their marriage is being questioned.

You were doing really good there until you got inflammatory.

[Jenn! 918]

I don't think that needing a cosponsor always equates to not being able to support one's spouse for many of the reasons already given - income earned abroad, recently out of schoool, self-employment, etc. Moreover, if someone agrees to be a cosponsor, then they are on the hook, so what skin is it off the noses of any of us? Are people bothered because they think their tax dollars are going to support immigrants whose spouses required cosponsors? That's the whole point of the cosponsor, no?

[Fandango 1,439]

I don't think that needing a cosponsor always equates to not being able to support one's spouse for many of the reasons already given - income earned abroad, recently out of schoool, self-employment, etc. Moreover, if someone agrees to be a cosponsor, then they are on the hook, so what skin is it off the noses of any of us? Are people bothered because they think their tax dollars are going to support immigrants whose spouses required cosponsors? That's the whole point of the cosponsor, no?

My take on it is that we're just discussing personal opinion. I don't think anyone here is really upset at what other people do...after all, everyone's personal life is really his/her own business. I think as a concept it's pretty interesting, but in general terms only.

[D&R 0]

My husband and I were recently approached by an individual asking us to Co-Sponsor their Fiance'? Now ... I know first hand how hard things are financially for many people. But for the life of me, I don't understand why someone would seek someone elses help to immigrate their Fiance' to America if they are having trouble taking care of their ownselves. I am NOT trying to judge ... just simply trying to understand. Any thoughts?

I agree with you!! (for most cases anyway). What really bugs me is when people run out of money just to pay for all the relevant paperwork. I mean... DO YOU RESEARCH people!! You KNOW (roughly) what it all cost if you look into if enough before you start to file, so save that amount plus some more for unforeseen circumstances. It's not rocket science.

I admit I've not started my K1 yet, I'm just researching what I need, and how much it'll be. I'll start the process AFTER I've saved ALL the money for it.

"sigh"

[^KK^ 3]

My husband and I were recently approached by an individual asking us to Co-Sponsor their Fiance'? Now ... I know first hand how hard things are financially for many people. But for the life of me, I don't understand why someone would seek someone elses help to immigrate their Fiance' to America if they are having trouble taking care of their ownselves. I am NOT trying to judge ... just simply trying to understand. Any thoughts?

but Just because you need a co-sponser doesn't mean you have trouble taking care of yourself. Some people can live on less than the provety level and be taken care of.

If USCIS thought it was a problem..they would've taken the co-sponser option out a long time ago.

[Jenn! 918]

I don't think that needing a cosponsor always equates to not being able to support one's spouse for many of the reasons already given - income earned abroad, recently out of schoool, self-employment, etc. Moreover, if someone agrees to be a cosponsor, then they are on the hook, so what skin is it off the noses of any of us? Are people bothered because they think their tax dollars are going to support immigrants whose spouses required cosponsors? That's the whole point of the cosponsor, no?

My take on it is that we're just discussing personal opinion. I don't think anyone here is really upset at what other people do...after all, everyone's personal life is really his/her own business. I think as a concept it's pretty interesting, but in general terms only.

I'm not sure that everyone feels that way, otherwise they wouldn't suggest raising the income thresholds, right? I know it was AJ who said that not you. I don't understand why he would think that if he didn't feel that he was somehow personally negatively impacted by the current thresholds.

[SuperDuper! 230]

My husband and I were recently approached by an individual asking us to Co-Sponsor their Fiance'? Now ... I know first hand how hard things are financially for many people. But for the life of me, I don't understand why someone would seek someone elses help to immigrate their Fiance' to America if they are having trouble taking care of their ownselves. I am NOT trying to judge ... just simply trying to understand. Any thoughts?

but Just because you need a co-sponser doesn't mean you have trouble taking care of yourself. Some people can live on less than the provety level and be taken care of.

If USCIS thought it was a problem..they would've taken the co-sponser option out a long time ago.

Just how much fun can you have on $18K-22K/yr?? What about paying the AOS and extra expenses for new immigrant wife? Most want to drive a car and have health insurance. Then kids happen, and they need food and clothes. Living on the poverty line with all this going on? Poverty moves in, and love moves out!