Not living together a problem?

[ac30 0]

It may not even be an issue at all. We are thinking of sending off the application in the next month, and she finishes school in December 2010. She won't be away forever, just for the start of it.

[Marina-Del 10]

Also as was briefly mentioned, but I fear overlooked and am therefore mentioning again!, you CANNOT legally work in the US until you go through AOS successfully and get your EAD. So, even if you got to the US before Dec 2010, you could not LEGALLY work at your parents company until after successfully AOS.

That being said, I do agree that you could attempt the AOS without living together. As long as you had other sufficient proof of marriage (perhaps even proof that the two of you are visiting each other on the weekends, joint bank accounts, joint bills, owned cars, and a really convincing and provable plan of the two of you living together once she graduates.

[Inna 0]

Nuh... You either have to live with her and her roomate or get a place of your own while she is going to school or wait till spring for you to arrive in the U.S. Either way, if you are only starting your K1 process soon, it will take at least 3-4 months up to 9 months (rarely) to process. In USCIS perspective, you must be living together and having sex

[Marina-Del 10]

Nuh... You either have to live with her and her roomate or get a place of your own while she is going to school or wait till spring for you to arrive in the U.S. Either way, if you are only starting your K1 process soon, it will take at least 3-4 months up to 9 months (rarely) to process. In USCIS perspective, you must be living together and having sex

You CLEARLY did not read the other posts on this thread because a lot of your post is just flat out WRONG!. Seriously....learn to read.

And USCIS doesn't ask about your sex life. If you and your husband have never had sex with each other, USCIS isn't going to care, as long a both you and your husband are okay with that. If one of you isn't then I think that might be grounds for an annulment, but otherwise, USCIS doesn't give a sh!t about your sex life.

[rebeccajo 14]

Nuh... You either have to live with her and her roomate or get a place of your own while she is going to school or wait till spring for you to arrive in the U.S. Either way, if you are only starting your K1 process soon, it will take at least 3-4 months up to 9 months (rarely) to process. In USCIS perspective, you must be living together and having sex

You CLEARLY did not read the other posts on this thread because a lot of your post is just flat out WRONG!. Seriously....learn to read.

And USCIS doesn't ask about your sex life. If you and your husband have never had sex with each other, USCIS isn't going to care, as long a both you and your husband are okay with that. If one of you isn't then I think that might be grounds for an annulment, but otherwise, USCIS doesn't give a sh!t about your sex life.

Questions about the "love life" of the couple have been known to occur both at the consular and stateside levels of the process.

[Marina-Del 10]

Nuh... You either have to live with her and her roomate or get a place of your own while she is going to school or wait till spring for you to arrive in the U.S. Either way, if you are only starting your K1 process soon, it will take at least 3-4 months up to 9 months (rarely) to process. In USCIS perspective, you must be living together and having sex

You CLEARLY did not read the other posts on this thread because a lot of your post is just flat out WRONG!. Seriously....learn to read.

And USCIS doesn't ask about your sex life. If you and your husband have never had sex with each other, USCIS isn't going to care, as long a both you and your husband are okay with that. If one of you isn't then I think that might be grounds for an annulment, but otherwise, USCIS doesn't give a sh!t about your sex life.

Questions about the "love life" of the couple have been known to occur both at the consular and stateside levels of the process.

Okay, fair enough. But what were the questions and what answers could a couple give that would hurt their chances of getting the approval? For example, if the CO asked, how many times a month do you have sex? And the couple says "1, but that's fine with us" are they going to get denied because they "don't have sex enough"? Or even if they say that have sex about once every couple months, does that mean you get denied? Every bodies different. Some people like sex everyday ( ), some people like sex once every couple weeks. But that doesn't mean that couple is unhappy. The above poster that I replied to said that you *must* be living together and having sex and I just don't think is true. I do not think there is a requirement that the couple must have sex a certain number of times a month to make their marriage valid. Also, I don't think that USCIS could deny an AOS petition for the simple fact that a couple is not having sex (even if they are not having sex at all!). If the couple is living together, shares bank accounts, shares bills, even sleeps in the same bed every night and does everything else like a married couple and just don't have sex does that mean they aren't married? That's not how I want to be married, but I'm sure there are couples out there like that. Do they not qualify for AOS?

[rebeccajo 14]

I wasn't planning on having a discussion about the frequency of coitus, etc.

All I'm saying is that questions have been asked, even if inappropriate.

[Marina-Del 10]

I wasn't planning on having a discussion about the frequency of coitus, etc.

All I'm saying is that questions have been asked, even if inappropriate.

Oh, I don't particularly want to get in a discussion about the frequency of it either, but now I'm genuinely curious of how the USCIS would react if a genuinely married couple answered that they didn't have sex during an AOS interview...anyway....

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Any line of questioning about intimacy must render similar answers. That's all. USCIS isn't really interested in your private life, save for the fact that if a couple are in a legitimate relationship and not one of immigration convenience they will know certain things about each other that people who are not living together would not know.

I wasn't planning on having a discussion about the frequency of coitus, etc.

All I'm saying is that questions have been asked, even if inappropriate.

Oh, I don't particularly want to get in a discussion about the frequency of it either, but now I'm genuinely curious of how the USCIS would react if a genuinely married couple answered that they didn't have sex during an AOS interview...anyway....

[Otto 83]

I'm genuinely curious of how the USCIS would react if a genuinely married couple answered that they didn't have sex during an AOS interview...anyway....

... I think they'd be relieved the couple didn't have sex during the AOS interview...

[ThaitoUSA 15]

I can't recall precisely where, but I remember reading specifically that the marriage must be consummated.

[Ana Paula 2]

Honestly, I think the immigration officers have more to worry about than if you have sex or not...

Aff

[Danu 19]

the only concern I might have is where you are living up until such time as you can work and get your own place. If you will be with your parents it may or may not look a little fishy to the interviewer.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

I can't recall precisely where, but I remember reading specifically that the marriage must be consummated.

That depends on state law. In some states a marriage can be annulled if it was never consummated.

In USCIS perspective, you must be living together and having sex

Does it have to be with each other?

[terri and jay 0]

I'm genuinely curious of how the USCIS would react if a genuinely married couple answered that they didn't have sex during an AOS interview...anyway....

... I think they'd be relieved the couple didn't have sex during the AOS interview...