What do you consider a huge age difference?

[Marilyn. 340]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

I am 7 years older then my hubby

[amberdima 6]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

I am 7 years older then my hubby

9. we're gross.

[Brad and Vika 129]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

I am 7 years older then my hubby

9. we're gross.

17 - we win I think

[amberdima 6]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

I am 7 years older then my hubby

9. we're gross.

17 - we win I think

but you're the guy, so it's ok.

[mimimimimi 0]

oh my... I was happy to see a post like this. But not that happy to read the answers.

I am much older than hubby, and I kind of feel there's a lot of prejudice reading the posts.

I myself would never have imagined falling for someone this young. I never looked for it, and was never attracted to much younger guys. But life sometimes plays tricks on you, you know. And I feel that he gives me more emotionally than any person I dated that was my age. He is truly my soul mate and our conversation is endless. I am happy. What else can I ask for? Would you give that up because of an age difference?

What I am trying to say - try not to have prejudice of other people's relationships... you never know if things could happen to you, you son or someone on your family. It's hard to control when you fall in love.

[sj5 4]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

You're unfair Almaty.

Edited March 10, 2009 by sj5

[Brad and Vika 129]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

I am 7 years older then my hubby

9. we're gross.

17 - we win I think

but you're the guy, so it's ok.

That does seem to be the conventional VJ wisdom Amber (except for the haters of course). It is telling however that Vika is the one communicating the so-called limits though. By the way - congratulations on the holiday yesterday

[sj5 4]

Like someone else said in the OT thread, I just want to make sure I can keep him around for a very long time.

when it comes to age i know i can keep charles for a long time, but i also do stuff he doesn't like such as buy him vitamin (the a-zync) and hand it to him daily so he'll take it, cook with vegetables and force him to eat lol, cook lowfat, not keep 10 pizzas in the freezer so he won't eat a whole one everyday, help him with exercise etc

[bora bora 1]

I voted 16-20. I can't imagine dating a guy more than 10 years older than me - never been attracted to older dudes and doesn't seem appealing. Needless to say, my hubby is 19 MONTHS younger than me.

[almaty 19]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

You're unfair Almaty.

don't be a hater, little sisiter..

.life is unfair..jimmy carter

[John&Juvy 36]

I voted 16-20. I can't imagine dating a guy more than 10 years older than me - never been attracted to older dudes and doesn't seem appealing. Needless to say, my hubby is 19 MONTHS younger than me.

50yrs. ! But whatever. To those some people who's raising their brow to us sometimes they dont really bothered us, was just giving them a look head to toe also like they are more disgusting than us coz for me those kind of people dont have a life. As long you both happy and truely love each other then age gap doesnt matter. Also cant imagine my self marrying a young guy or a punk.... and in the end im going to be the one who's feeding and supporting him while he just sitting on his bahttttt or out with his friends doing "hocus pocus". Never been attracted to those kind dudes they only make me vomit when they were tried to flirt with me LOL . Me 27-Hubby 51.. but ofcourse he still look attractive for me and "active" not only saying that coz his my honey ok lol.

Just be happy and keep the romance with the marriage. 5 yrs or 50 yrs of age gap LOL.

[DairyFarmer 1]

My theory is the parent child difference. For me I should not be so much older I could have given birth to my partner or vice versa. So I think 11 or 12 year difference. No more than that. Be aware I'm not judging this is the rule I live by.

[trinket 30]

Every individual thinks differently. I don't get both the parties out here, girls married to much older men calling young guys as punk or immature and also girls married to someone of their own age or someone younger than them calling the older men as dirty old fart or whatever.

Look, we all have the right to choose our mate and we have our own reasons to why or why not we like or dislike someone. Just because something isn't your cup of tea doesn't mean its disgusting or any of those derogative term you would like to use.

It that other OT thread I think it was Damian P who asked a very valid question about how would you feel as a parent if your daughter is dating someone much older than her. I asked the same question to my husband, what if some day our 19 year old daughter (whenever that happens) starts dating a 46 year old man. Well according to my husband he can't do anything, if she is above 18 she has a right to choose and be ready for whatever the outcome is, basically he won't stop, sure enough he will have a talk but ultimately it will be daughter's choice.

Now, I on the other hand felt the need to stop my daughter by any means, be the strict parent and cut her off with everything. So who is the immature one out here? Its me who is the immature one. My husband is only 1.5 years older than I am but he is quite mature. He has his short comings too, so do I but we work it together.

At the end of the day its you who is living with your partner and no one else so do things which would make you happy as a couple. We aren't living someone elses life, we don't know how matured, how serious, how fun filled their life is.

So lets not judge people and worry more about our own family than others.

Edited March 10, 2009 by trinket

[John&Juvy 36]

so 20 and 40 is bad, but 40 and 60 isn't? meaning, that when they're young it's not ok but when they get older it becomes ok?

Lol thought about that too. But how about this... a wife cant be upset just because we are 20yrs. something younger than our spouse right ? We are NOT gonna wish also to be 50yrs old woman just to be "appropriate" in our age to make OTHER people happy and less judgemental. so how about just enjoy our youthfulness while we still in our 20's and 30's and stay our love and loyalty to our older husband that we chose in our own life. B)

[John&Juvy 36]

so 20 and 40 is bad, but 40 and 60 isn't? meaning, that when they're young it's not ok but when they get older it becomes ok?

Lol thought about that too. But how about this... a wife cant be upset just because we are 20yrs. something younger than our spouse right ? We are NOT gonna wish also to be 50yrs old woman just to be "appropriate" in our age to make OTHER people happy and less judgemental. so how about just enjoy our youthfulness while we still in our 20's and 30's and stay our love and loyalty to our older husband that we chose in our own life. B)

"so how about just enjoy our youthfulness while we still in our 20's and 30's and stay our love and loyalty to our older husband that we chose in our own life B) . " Till we reach 50 and get ready for our spouses coz we will be the one changing their diapers when they reach 80's . Fair enough for me. That's what the love and marriage are... Till ur partner get skank by their age ... till death do us part.

Ok im done.