I think they wore us out

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I sent you a pm. I am here if you need me.

[belinda63 2,981]

Thank you so much for all the advice. We did finally talk today, for over an hour and I think some of it can be put off to a misunderstanding, some to his lack of understanding women, and some to just the very long wait for the visa.

I had given him permission to speak to women online. he likes to talk to ppl from all cultures and discuss life, politics and such. I will not deprive him of this, his dream is to travel the world and since he cannot yet do that he travels by talking to other ppl.

Part of it, I think, is believes that if he posts that he is committed to a woman he will not attract female friends very easily.

Part of it is we are both ready to give up. He is 35 and has never been married (in his culture a very big no no).

We decided to wait until the end of June and then we will discuss our alternatives.

In the meantime I will wait and see. I have known him too long to just throw everything out because of this.

BTW, I did approach him under a false ID over one year ago and he kept it purely friendly, nothing more.

AND

I did send an email to the other woman and explain we are waiting for a fiance visa. I explained I did not want to hurt her but I would like to know what he has said to her as we both need to know if he is playing both of us.

Thanks again everyone for your support. I will wait and see what happens when the end of June arrives.

[tammy2688 1]

Thank you so much for all the advice. We did finally talk today, for over an hour and I think some of it can be put off to a misunderstanding, some to his lack of understanding women, and some to just the very long wait for the visa.

I had given him permission to speak to women online. he likes to talk to ppl from all cultures and discuss life, politics and such. I will not deprive him of this, his dream is to travel the world and since he cannot yet do that he travels by talking to other ppl.

Part of it, I think, is believes that if he posts that he is committed to a woman he will not attract female friends very easily.

Part of it is we are both ready to give up. He is 35 and has never been married (in his culture a very big no no).

We decided to wait until the end of June and then we will discuss our alternatives.

In the meantime I will wait and see. I have known him too long to just throw everything out because of this.

BTW, I did approach him under a false ID over one year ago and he kept it purely friendly, nothing more.

AND

I did send an email to the other woman and explain we are waiting for a fiance visa. I explained I did not want to hurt her but I would like to know what he has said to her as we both need to know if he is playing both of us.

Thanks again everyone for your support. I will wait and see what happens when the end of June arrives.

Ya, I believe theres so many factors in this. Its so easy to say red flag run, but you cannot just throw something away that easily. I believe Belinda, you will get your good answer soon. Wait till the end of summer. Love has no time limit and I know God is watching over you.

Tammy

Edited May 31, 2008 by tammy2688

[sara..... 371]

Thank you so much for all the advice. We did finally talk today, for over an hour and I think some of it can be put off to a misunderstanding, some to his lack of understanding women, and some to just the very long wait for the visa.

I had given him permission to speak to women online. he likes to talk to ppl from all cultures and discuss life, politics and such. I will not deprive him of this, his dream is to travel the world and since he cannot yet do that he travels by talking to other ppl.

Part of it, I think, is believes that if he posts that he is committed to a woman he will not attract female friends very easily.

Part of it is we are both ready to give up. He is 35 and has never been married (in his culture a very big no no).

We decided to wait until the end of June and then we will discuss our alternatives.

In the meantime I will wait and see. I have known him too long to just throw everything out because of this.

BTW, I did approach him under a false ID over one year ago and he kept it purely friendly, nothing more.

AND

I did send an email to the other woman and explain we are waiting for a fiance visa. I explained I did not want to hurt her but I would like to know what he has said to her as we both need to know if he is playing both of us.

Thanks again everyone for your support. I will wait and see what happens when the end of June arrives.

I am happy for u and im soooo happy to know that u guys got it worked out

[warriorprincess 0]

Thank you so much for all the advice. We did finally talk today, for over an hour and I think some of it can be put off to a misunderstanding, some to his lack of understanding women, and some to just the very long wait for the visa.

I had given him permission to speak to women online. he likes to talk to ppl from all cultures and discuss life, politics and such. I will not deprive him of this, his dream is to travel the world and since he cannot yet do that he travels by talking to other ppl.

Part of it, I think, is believes that if he posts that he is committed to a woman he will not attract female friends very easily.

Part of it is we are both ready to give up. He is 35 and has never been married (in his culture a very big no no).

We decided to wait until the end of June and then we will discuss our alternatives.

In the meantime I will wait and see. I have known him too long to just throw everything out because of this.

BTW, I did approach him under a false ID over one year ago and he kept it purely friendly, nothing more.

AND

I did send an email to the other woman and explain we are waiting for a fiance visa. I explained I did not want to hurt her but I would like to know what he has said to her as we both need to know if he is playing both of us.

Thanks again everyone for your support. I will wait and see what happens when the end of June arrives.

Why is he so interested in meeting other females so badly? Why should stating that he is commited to another woman matter so much to these other females, or him for that matter? If he only wants them as friends, his being involved in another relationship shouldn't matter at all. I think these men have a far better understanding of women than they will admit. But the final decision is yours whether you want to keep him or not. It is your life and your happiness. I hope that you make the decision that is best for you.

[kitty loves moudi 0]

What would explain why he listed himself as interested in dating?? Yeah many things can be explained away as misunderstandings, but enjoying chatting with ppl.. includes men and women... and if he is commited to you.. he would have left it as looking for friends. Definately the invitation to you was by mistake. Im curious to know what the lady from findland will reply to you.

You have til june, take this time to reflect on all that's happened. I wish u the best.

[nunyab 0]

OK soooo if you're interested in what sites he's been on with his email as log in go to WWW.Rapleaf.com Very interesting but be ready for some discussions.

[morocco4ever 63]

So does this mean that you are going to find male friends as well? I hope you discuss that with him and see his reaction.

[SaadBell 0]

I wish you both the best of luck and truly hope it all works out