Previous Marriage Discussion

[HarryGillung 2]

The time is drawing near for Alena's interview. We have delayed because she is finishing her degree at the university. After five hard years of her hard work I can wait for her for another month. My situation is this. I was married to a Russian woman once before. I brought her into the USA back in 1999 and we were married for almost 5 years. The subject has never came up with Alena and I did not volunteer the information. One time I tried to start a conversation regarding previous relationships and she wanted nothing to do with it so I have left it alone. I was planning on telling her all about it in April when we had a trip planned for the Dominican Republic but at the last minute I had to cancel because of work problems. I just feel like it is not a subject you bring up on the telephone.

My question is this. Is this going to come up in her interview and will it be a problem if she does not know anything about it?

Thanks in advance for the advice

Harry

[*JG* 2]

Yes, it will probably come up at interview.

They asked my then-fiance if he knew I was married before.

[David-and-Mae 15]

The time is drawing near for Alena's interview. We have delayed because she is finishing her degree at the university. After five hard years of her hard work I can wait for her for another month. My situation is this. I was married to a Russian woman once before. I brought her into the USA back in 1999 and we were married for almost 5 years. The subject has never came up with Alena and I did not volunteer the information. One time I tried to start a conversation regarding previous relationships and she wanted nothing to do with it so I have left it alone. I was planning on telling her all about it in April when we had a trip planned for the Dominican Republic but at the last minute I had to cancel because of work problems. I just feel like it is not a subject you bring up on the telephone.

My question is this. Is this going to come up in her interview and will it be a problem if she does not know anything about it?

Thanks in advance for the advice

Harry

How can you keep it when you had to disclose all your previous marriages in filling out those application forms? You may want to tell her the truth before her interview because there's a possibility that it will come up as part of the interview. When I had my interview last year, the consular officer asked me if I was aware of all my then fiance's previous marriages and he even followed it up with how sure I was that I will be the last wife.

The truth shall set you free. Even if it won't be brought up on her interview and she passed and got the visa, you wouldn't want to live with the fact that you kept a secret for such a long time. I know it's not all your fault since you tried to open it up but maybe it's about time to correct things up. Good luck!

--Mae

[reeses16 8]

Harry, while you may not want to have this conversation over the phone you need to discuss it before her interview. When the petitioner has been married before it is not uncommon for the beneficiary to be asked questions about the previous marriage.

I recommend being direct. Tell you fiance that you need to talk to her about your past relationships. That you understand that she's not very interested in hearing about it but that its important for her visa interview. Then share the details. When how you met, when you married, why you got divorced, when it was final, are you on good terms, did she return to Russia or stay in the US. That should cover most questions the CO would ask her.

On a side note. I think its strange that your fiancee didn't want to hear about your past. I understand not talking about EVERY boyfriend or girlfriend a person has never had, but previous marriages- people want to know about them. Was is possible that this was a miscommunication? Do you know about her past?

[yankee 0]

What is the current status of your petition now?Did you any letter from Nationa Visa Center?

There's a question on your petition about the previous marriages, if you answered that yes, you may needed the court decision on that matter cause that's one of the supporting documents your fiance will be needed on her interview .You don't need to tell the whole story to your fiance about your past marriage, just tell her that it may come up on her interview that's why your telling it.I'm sure the relationship you built with fiance won't make her mad if you discuss about your past marriage.

The Consul didn't ask me about it but I have a complete documents to show.

Goodluck and God Bless..

PS: Tell your fiance to look straight in the eyes of the Consul Officer. I know she is smart girl on how to do it..

[HarryGillung 2]

Thanks for all of the good advice and words of encouragement.

Yes, I did disclose the marriage and provide the necessary documentation in the I-129. I understand that the embassy in Kiev does not require that the finance have a complete photocopy of the I-129 package at the interview. I did send Alena a copy of the original application and some other doucments along with my I-134. I do not think she has read any of it because she has been busy with work and school. Again, I had planned on telling her in the DR. I realize I need to tell her and will do so in a letter.

THanks

Harry

[joeyjoey 1]

The time is drawing near for Alena's interview. We have delayed because she is finishing her degree at the university. After five hard years of her hard work I can wait for her for another month. My situation is this. I was married to a Russian woman once before. I brought her into the USA back in 1999 and we were married for almost 5 years. The subject has never came up with Alena and I did not volunteer the information. One time I tried to start a conversation regarding previous relationships and she wanted nothing to do with it so I have left it alone. I was planning on telling her all about it in April when we had a trip planned for the Dominican Republic but at the last minute I had to cancel because of work problems. I just feel like it is not a subject you bring up on the telephone.

My question is this. Is this going to come up in her interview and will it be a problem if she does not know anything about it?

Thanks in advance for the advice

Harry

Yes, it will come up at the Interview. Part of this process is that you prove that you are free to marry. That means you'd need to show/supply a Divorce decree as part of the package you submitted. If I were a betting man, I'd bet that the Consulate will ask her about her knowledge of a previous marriage to someone whoalso had a K-1 Visa.

I would make 100% sure she knew BEFORE the interview, BEFORE she comes to the US, BEFORE you are married. DOn't do anything to cause her to have doubts! Once you lose the trust, it is hard as heck to earn it back. Be open with her. Give her the chance to understand, to digest the information and to let you know her feelings BEFORE you take things to the next level!

Edited May 19, 2008 by joeyjoey

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

The time is drawing near for Alena's interview. We have delayed because she is finishing her degree at the university. After five hard years of her hard work I can wait for her for another month. My situation is this. I was married to a Russian woman once before. I brought her into the USA back in 1999 and we were married for almost 5 years. The subject has never came up with Alena and I did not volunteer the information. One time I tried to start a conversation regarding previous relationships and she wanted nothing to do with it so I have left it alone. I was planning on telling her all about it in April when we had a trip planned for the Dominican Republic but at the last minute I had to cancel because of work problems. I just feel like it is not a subject you bring up on the telephone.

My question is this. Is this going to come up in her interview and will it be a problem if she does not know anything about it?

Thanks in advance for the advice

Harry

Harry:

Maybe a little late. I read your profile and found this question. In our interview there was no discussion of any previous relationships at all. In fact, there was no "interview" to speak of. Alla has been similarly not interested in discussing previous relationships. Was your previous marriage to a fiancee through the K-1 process? I do not know if that makes a difference but there was absolutley no mention of such things at our interview and maybe it is a moot point now. Anyway, just so you know my experience.

I think the subject "has not come up" because in general Ukrainian women do not like to talk about other women with their man, if you know what I mean. They are very possessive, or maybe insecure is a better term. They do not like to think of you with another or even think of you looking at another woman. Not to worry, they will make you not at all interested in other women. Will you be going to the interview? Of the 6 fiancees there the day we went, 3 had their American fiance with them, the other 3 did not. All of the interviews were about the same...no questions asked. It isn't like I was listening in but it is not a "private" setting and had one or another interview been more detailed than another I would have noticed. The only thing between the waiting room and the "interview area" is one of those portable office partitions about 5 ft. high.

well, for what it is worth.

Gary

[tallcoolone 102]

I would expect this to come up at the interview.

I went to the Inteview with my fiance and the CO brought up my previous marriage.

You need let her know about your past marriage, so she doesn't get slapped in the face with it at the Interview.

Honesty is always best.

[wifetobe 2]

Thanks for all of the good advice and words of encouragement.

Yes, I did disclose the marriage and provide the necessary documentation in the I-129. I understand that the embassy in Kiev does not require that the finance have a complete photocopy of the I-129 package at the interview. I did send Alena a copy of the original application and some other doucments along with my I-134. I do not think she has read any of it because she has been busy with work and school. Again, I had planned on telling her in the DR. I realize I need to tell her and will do so in a letter.THanks

Harry

A phone call may be better than a letter.. the best of luck anyway!!

[pushbrk 13,907]

Thanks for all of the good advice and words of encouragement.

Yes, I did disclose the marriage and provide the necessary documentation in the I-129. I understand that the embassy in Kiev does not require that the finance have a complete photocopy of the I-129 package at the interview. I did send Alena a copy of the original application and some other doucments along with my I-134. I do not think she has read any of it because she has been busy with work and school. Again, I had planned on telling her in the DR. I realize I need to tell her and will do so in a letter.THanks

Harry

A phone call may be better than a letter.. the best of luck anyway!!

However you communicate this, I'd make sure she understands up front that even though she doesn't care about previous relationships, the Consular officer may ask her about yours. If she doesn't know, it could delay the visa and your reunion.

[Carlawarla 1]

It would be interesting to see if he told his fiance. I note that he posted this in May 08 and said her interview was coming up shortly. I looked on their timeline, and it said the interview was October 2? that's a long wait from the March approval date. Maybe something happened?

[*JG* 2]

It would be interesting to see if he told his fiance. I note that he posted this in May 08 and said her interview was coming up shortly. I looked on their timeline, and it said the interview was October 2? that's a long wait from the March approval date. Maybe something happened?

I was wondering too.