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Hi everyone,

I was wondering how other people´s spouses adjusted to living in the US. My husband has lived in Peru his entire life, and has never been to another country. I know he will love being in the US--there´s so much more opportunity there (despite being away from his family), but he´s very nervous as our visa process comes close to an end. So how did other people in the same situation do?


I-130 (almost 5 months)

12/04/2007 I-130 sent

05/01/2008 I-130 NOA2 (approval) from CSC!

I-129f

02/06/2008 I-129f sent

05/30/2008 I-129f NOA2 (approval)--too late!

NVC (changed from K-3 to CR-1) (31 days)

05/06/2008 case received and case # assigned

05/12/2008 DS-3032 and AOS bill generated

05/13/2008 DS-3032 sent (by e-mail)

05/13/2008 AOS bill invoiced (paid online)

05/14/2008 AOS bill PAID and cover sheet printed

05/16/2008 AOS package sent to NVC (FedEx from Peru)

05/19/2008 AOS package received by NVC (9:30 AM)

05/20/2008 DS-3032 Choice of Agent accepted (confirmation by e-mail)

05/20/2008 AOS entered into NVC system

05/21/2008 NVC recording says I have info missing (false RFE confirmed by NVC operator!)

05/24/2008 IV bill invoiced (paid online)--bad timing-Memorial Day weekend!

05/28/2008 IV bill PAID and cover sheet printed

05/28/2008 DS-230 sent to NVC (FedEx from Peru)--received DS3032 via snail mail!

05/30/2008 DS-230 received by NVC (9:40 AM)

06/02/2008 DS-230 entered into NVC system

06/06/2008 case complete at NVC!

06/12/2008 sent to embassy in Lima, Peru!

06/16/2008 papers arrived at Embassy

06/18/2008 received interview packet (in US)

07/02/2008 medical exam

07/11/2008 Interview in Lima, Peru!

08/20/2008 POE Atlanta, then fly to Seattle

09/05/2008 Received Welcome Letter

10/20/2008 1st wedding anniversary!

10/20/2009 2nd anniversary!

02/06/2010 Daughter born!

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Here are a few threads on the topic which should shed some light. I'm the immigrant spouse and I found the first year to be extremely difficult for not only myself but also for the family and friends I left behind. But it does get easier.

Settling In & How You Did It

Questions for the Immigrant Spouse

How Long Was the Adjusting Period?


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Hi There

I'm peruvian too and I have to say that the fist year was extremely difficult for me BUT my lovely husband was my Angel, he had so much patience with me. Tell your hubby to spend alot of time with his family now that he is in Peru. The good thing if he is coming under the CR1Visa he will be able to work right away :thumbs: I started working and making new friends and that helps alot. Tell your husband to start looking for jobs or to at least have an idea of what he wants to do here.

Good luck

Vi


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Thank you for this topic. I have been wondering and a little concerned about this too. My wife is very close to her family in Peru, but fortunately her Uncle and Aunt live right next door to my parents, and throughout the immigration process I have been making sure that she is establishing relationships with my family, and a few of my closest friends. Via our phone calls, I just make her a part of my day, even through the distance. So I am just using my network of friends and family to help with the adjustment, prior to her arrival. I am so proud of her! I am sure it will be hard, but she is a very strong, intelligent woman...and our community here in CA is need desperate need of woman like her.

We are the ones that will probably have the adjustment issues...hahaha!!!

We are close to making it out of NVC, just paid the IV Processing Fee - Online!!!!!


2007 10 05 : Married (In Arequipa, Peru)

USCIS

2008 01 22 : NOA1

2008 04 11 : NOA2 (I-130 Approved)

NVC

2008 04 21 : NVC received & case# generated

2008 05 12 : I-864 Package entered into system by NVC

2008 05 13 : DS 3032 Accepted (Spouse - Received e-mail confirmation)

2008 05 23 : DS 230 Entered into system by NVC

2008 06 02 : Case Complete

2008 06 12 : Case Forwarded (Embassy - Lima, Peru)

2008 06 20 : Appt Letter received

EMBASSY - LIMA

2008 06 26 : Medical Exam - 9 AM (Picked up results 07/01)

2008 07 03 : Interview - 10 AM (DENIED - RENIEC ENDOREMENT MISSING)

2008 07 07 : Submit RENIEC Endoresed Marriage Cert.

2008 07 10 : Passport & Visa (Pick-up at DHL Facility - Lima)

POE

2008 07 15 : San Francisco (midnight)

2008 08 19 : SSC Received (Had to re-file at SSA Office)

2008 08 04 : I-551 Received

2008 08 26 : Permanent Employment (HR Asst. Int'l Firm)

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My husband is from Colombia and had a rough three months when he got here. He was depressed and missed his family quite a bit but as soon as he started working and going to school for English, he started liking it a lot better.

I also told him while he was there to take advantage of the time he was spending with his family. He didn't pay attention to me since he was so desperate to come here and now regrets it. So now he's planning on going back to visit some time this year. I've been telling him the same thing, to take advantage of every single minute he's there with his family because he won't be back for a while. I hope he listens this time.

Diana


CR-1

02/05/07 - I-130 sent to NSC

05/03/07 - NOA2

05/10/07 - NVC receives petition, case # assigned

08/08/07 - Case Complete

09/27/07 - Interview, visa granted

10/02/07 - POE

11/16/07 - Received green card and Welcome to America letter in the mail

Removing Conditions

07/06/09 - I-751 sent to CSC

08/14/09 - Biometrics

09/27/09 - Approved

10/01/09 - Received 10 year green card

U.S. Citizenship

03/30/11 - N-400 sent via Priority Mail w/ delivery confirmation

05/12/11 - Biometrics

07/20/11 - Interview - passed

07/20/11 - Oath ceremony - same day as interview

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I'm concerned about this too... although Luis is not for some reason.

I really think that this whole thing hasn't hit him yet, and when he's about to leave he'll get all worried, he's like that.

He's already taking English classes there, so I think he'll just continue here and the good thing is that here where I am in NY, English classes are free or really dirt cheap. He's paying about 40 dollars a month over there, which here is nothing, but over there is a lot.

I'm also going to make his life even harder and speak English all the time, hehe. My kids don't speak Spanish although they understand it, so that should help him out alot. Also, getting a job over here frequently doesn't require that you speak English b/c there's such a large Hispanic population. So at least he can get something to start with and then move up as his english gets better.

I'm just worried that he is taking it all too lightly and really is going to have a hard time leaving his family.

We'll see.


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Thanks for sharing, everyone, I feel I am in the same boat. i m really worried about his adjustment once he gets here. !!!


4.25.08: sent K-1 application

4.28.08: NOA1

5.14.08: touched

9.25.08: touched

9.26.08: touched

9.26.08: NOA2

10.2.08: at NVC, letter says our application will be sent to Guayaquil in one week

10.9.08: spoke with consulate, they have our case

10.13.08: Doctor's appointment

10.20.08: Interview READ THE REVIEWS!

10.30.08: entry: Los Angeles

11.12.08: marriage

11.25.08: applied for Social Security card. READ THE vj GUIDE!

12.3.08: packet and letter for interview arrived at fiance's mail in Ecuador- for 10.20 interview! ha ha!

12.5.08: received SS card in mail

1.9.09: sent AOS/EAD/AP applications

2.10.09: Biometrics appt, Sacramento CA

3.15.09: AP recieved in mail

3.26.09: EAD recieved in mail

3.26.09: AOS interview, Sacramento, CA

4.09.09: Permanent Resident card received in mail

3.11.11: Mailed I-751 to CSC

3.14.11: I-751 received by CSC per USPS tracking

3.14.11: NOA date (received in mail on 3.19) one year extension

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I am worried about this too, my fiancé has lived in Ecuador his whole life and he is going to be in for quite a shock when he gets here I think.

He acknowledges the fact that everything is really different, but I'm not sure he understands fully what lies ahead. I am also going to be in college full time and working part time when he arrives, I hope that he doesn't get too bored and lonely!

It feels nice to talk to people in the same boat


Service Center : California Service Center

Consulate : Guayaquil, Ecuador

06-06-08: I-129F Sent

06-09-08: I-129F Received

06-10-08: NOA1 (online)

06-12-08: Check Cashed

06-16-08: NOA1 (hard copy)

awaiting semi-patiently for my life to arrive...

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I lived most of my entire life in the Philippines.It was so hard for me to left my family behind me and come to the US and be with a new environment, start a new life with my husband. The first few months is just really depressing but I am thankful with my husband who does a lot of effort to look for Filipino friends here in the US for me. Every time He saw Asian people , He always asked and introduce himself and ask them if they are from Philippines and then eventually tell them that His wife is Filipino too.

Basically, I met Filipinos here in Texas because of my husband's effort to helped me adjust with my new environment. Every now and then I still missed my family a lot because I came from a very close-bonded family. And hopefully one day we will be able to visit them again and be with them again,actually this year when we have enough money,time and able to leave our job for awhile and take vacation together.

But I am thankful that my husband is so kind,loving and very understanding with my situation when I first arrived here in the US. Now, I have a lot of friends, though I missed my family I still do my best to always chat/talked to them regularly on the phone, email them and do voice chat.

Don't worry, all your fiance need from you is your over all support and love and you will succeed.

-Gerie


TexaswithLove

I-751 Removal of Condition Time line:

06/01/2009--Sent Documents (VSC)

06/04/2009--Delivered @ 3:30pm per USPS website

06/10/2009--Check Cashed

06/13/2009--Received NOA/Extension Letter ( dated 06/05/2009)

06/22/2009--Biometrics Appointment letter received(dated 06/16/2009)

07/07/2009--Original Date for my Biometrics Schedule

07/02/2009--Received Cancellation Notice for my original biometrics appointment

07/16/2009--New Biometrics Schedule Received (dated 06/26/2009)

10/24/2009--Received Letter of Approval, Date of Decision 10/20/2009

11/06/2009--Finally received my 10 year Green Card in the mail

N-400 Application for Naturalization Timeline:

10/22/2011-- Sent Documents ( USCIS Dallas Lockbox Facility)

10/24/2011-- Documents delivered @ 12:05pm per USPS website

10/28/2011-- Check Cashed

10/31/2011-- Received NOA. Priority date 10/24/11

11/03/2011-- Received Biometric Appointment Letter. Scheduled to appear for 11/17/2011

11/17/2011-- Biometrics Completed!

11/28/2011-- Got Text/Email,Placed in line for interview scheduling

11/29/2011-- Got text/email interview scheduled

01/19/2012-- Interview Date, PASSED

02/13/2012-- Got text/email, placed in oath scheduling que

03/28/2012-- Oath Ceremony @ 8:30 AM (I'm so proud to be American)

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My husband had been here for 4 years before we got married, so he spoke English and all that. And to be honest, he doesn't like it here. He stays here because of me, but if we could, he'd go back to Peru in an instant. He doesn't see this as the land of opportunity, especially considering he works his butt off for nothing. He has friends and all that, it's just this this is not his country and never will be, and he doesn't like it all that much. I hate to rain on everyone's parade, but even after one adjusts it doesn't necessarily mean they will love it in the US.


this is the way the world ends

this is the way the world ends

this is the way the world ends

not with a bang but a whimper

[ts eliot]

aos timeline:

married: jan 5, 2007

noa 1: march 2nd, 2007

interview @ tampa, fl office: april 26, 2007

green card received: may 5, 2007

removal of conditions timeline:

03/26/2009 - received in VSC

07/20/2009 - card production ordered!

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My husband had been here for 4 years before we got married, so he spoke English and all that. And to be honest, he doesn't like it here. He stays here because of me, but if we could, he'd go back to Peru in an instant. He doesn't see this as the land of opportunity, especially considering he works his butt off for nothing. He has friends and all that, it's just this this is not his country and never will be, and he doesn't like it all that much. I hate to rain on everyone's parade, but even after one adjusts it doesn't necessarily mean they will love it in the US.

I'm in the same boat, I don't love it here, I'm here just because of my hubby. I had a job that I love in Peru and an awesome family, the US was never in my plans, until I met Sil. I keep telling Sil that we should move to Peru, maybe in the future :blush: .


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My husband has been here 5 months and has adjusted extremely well for a farm boy from Nepal. Let me give you an example... we were eating at my favorite Spanish restaurant here in San Diego and I ordered a nice rioja to start off with the tapas. My husband reminded me to order the cheese plate saying that he loved how cheese and olives go so well with wine. And on another occasion, I came home from work to find my husband watching a movie on the computer next to the bed with a glass of white wine in hand. He's still my farm boy, but his tastes have gone from yak cheese to manchego and from raksi to rioja. Now if we can only improve on his written english and have him stop talking "like, you know" a southern California, we'd be in perfect shape.

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My husband had been here for 4 years before we got married, so he spoke English and all that. And to be honest, he doesn't like it here. He stays here because of me, but if we could, he'd go back to Peru in an instant. He doesn't see this as the land of opportunity, especially considering he works his butt off for nothing. He has friends and all that, it's just this this is not his country and never will be, and he doesn't like it all that much. I hate to rain on everyone's parade, but even after one adjusts it doesn't necessarily mean they will love it in the US.

I'm in the same boat, I don't love it here, I'm here just because of my hubby. I had a job that I love in Peru and an awesome family, the US was never in my plans, until I met Sil. I keep telling Sil that we should move to Peru, maybe in the future :blush: .

We plan on moving to Peru in the future. After my parents have died, most likely, and maybe just for retirement. I love Peru so :)


this is the way the world ends

this is the way the world ends

this is the way the world ends

not with a bang but a whimper

[ts eliot]

aos timeline:

married: jan 5, 2007

noa 1: march 2nd, 2007

interview @ tampa, fl office: april 26, 2007

green card received: may 5, 2007

removal of conditions timeline:

03/26/2009 - received in VSC

07/20/2009 - card production ordered!

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