sending money to spouse's relatives

[shadtov 0]

no fixed amount or schedule ... on a need and whim basis....

Same here.

I know that my mother-in-law has expenses that are hard for her to cover but she won't ask us for money. She has a sister who lives off of her two daughters and I think that really bothers her. So, we try to send money for specific things we know about, like medical tests or home repairs. She's more likely to actually use the money if we're specific about it. We find it's best to save the money all year and pay for something big when we visit, like a new front door, or installing a sink in the kitchen (She always did dishes outside and was out of luck during hurricane season).

I've found that my mother-in-law is content with just having her basic needs met. She's not caught up in the American need for things... as I have succumbed to at times. It's refreshing when we visit and inspiring. She has what she needs and we only help out with those big expenses that go beyond her paycheck.

[Amby 490]

none because his mom will just see it as a way to buy more or more expensive booze. we will actually pay money on a specific bill if it's needed but we will never actually give her the money (mainly we pay for any phone calls she makes to us). she lives in our house there for free so she doesn't need anything more from us even though she asks.

Edited April 19, 2008 by Amber&Neil

[LuzyC 0]

Yes we did.

Gary send my family $250 every 2 weeks and now I have work I will take in charge with that.

[bora bora 1]

how much do u send back to ur spouses family monthly

None.

[greeneyedgirlfl 0]

We won't be sending any, since his parents are better off than we will be...but we would never ask them for money or my parents either (we're both too proud to do that)...

[S and S 12]

My husband isn't here yet, but I would be happy to send money if his family needed it. Some of you are from countries where there is no war or poverty so you make it sound like a bad thing to send money. Yet I am sure if your family lived in the situations some countries live in, you would help them if they needed it. Thank God that my father-in-law has a good job that pays well, but if the need ever arises I will support my husband sending him what we can. My father is an alchoholic, but you I still find ways to help him without giving him money to buy beer. Like I will pay his electric bill through online banking or buy what he needs and give it to him. There is never shame in helping your parents.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I don't and we won't. I would not understand any reason for this. My future in-laws will have less expense once Alla and her two children are here, not more.

[sj5 4]

I send when they needed financial assistance.

how much do you send to your family?

Edited April 22, 2008 by SJ

[Ursa Tripudio 2]

Her Mom got sick and spent about a week in the hospital last Fall. All her kids pitched in to cover the expenses. Nobody asked, but I did too. Mama has always been sweet to me, I love her.

When Li quits her job, I'll pay her pension insurance. That will be about $75 (U.S.) per month until she turns 50. (She probably wouldn't want me saying how long that is.) We'll send it to her sister. So, I guess that qualifies as sending money to a relative.

[ya falaha! 0]

No set amount. Whatever my husband wants to send his family is his choice...his money.

[BabyBlueSusie 1]

he sends money to his uncle because he has borrowed a good deal from him in the past and is now paying him back...once that is finished, he wont send any. his parents do just fine.

[Eric-Pris 1,602]

No set amount. Whatever my husband wants to send his family is his choice...his money.

It's no longer his money or your money. It's now a partnership where it's shared. So if he sends money, 1/2 of what he sends is your money.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

LOL, the dollar is weaker than the euro.

It's no longer his money or your money. It's now a partnership where it's shared. So if he sends money, 1/2 of what he sends is your money.

That is what I don't understand about my sister and quasi BIL. They insist on paying for everything seperately and keeping tabs. But they live in the same house together, have for years, have shared cars, etc. I just fail to see the point in what they are doing. My husband and I tried to get them to understand that it really doesn't matter who spends what in their situation, but they would rather keep everything 100% seperate and keep track like friends rather than a couple that has been together for over 6 years now. Weird to me, but whatever.

[Saddle Bronc 124]

occasional gifts (such as for recent wedding of Pras' younger brother) only.

[bora bora 1]

he sends money to his uncle because he has borrowed a good deal from him in the past and is now paying him back...once that is finished, he wont send any. his parents do just fine.

That's nice that he is able to pay his uncle back now.