Me & D's Visa Journey....

[metta 0]

I am sorry to hear that it is not working out. Since there is no acrimony involved and you still love each other, one could say that your realtionship is not ending but being reorganized...

All the best,

Edited February 25, 2008 by metta

[JVKn'CVO 11]

Lisa, I'm so sorry I really hope you can work things out, take care of yourself (F)

Saludos,

Caro

[#@!!* 0]

I am so very sorry to hear this. I hope that things work out in the way that is the best for the both of you. I don't come around very often but I always do enjoy reading your insights (and your smackdowns ), you have a lot of heart to offer people. Wishing the best for you and D.

squidge

[wherezdabearz 0]

So sorry to hear this. Wishing you and D all the best in whatever you decide to do

Alison

[msu17 0]

Oh no!!! I've been reading your posts for so long now, I can't believe you're going to be gone I'm so sorry that this time you didn't have the ending we were all hoping for you. MISS YOU!!!!!!

[Ta Ta 1]

I am sorry Lisa and wish you both the best. May you find clarity and resolve. You are in my prayers

[Nagishkaw 510]

I will miss you, LisaD. My heart is very sad for you.

[doodlebugg 10]

Lisa I'm sorry I hope you can work things out but really no need to leave VJ right? I mean you still have a lot to offer this board not only in terms of immigration but also in dealing with long distance relationships.

[Fandango 1,439]

Thank you all for your wishes & mad love! And thank all of you for your PMs as well. I'm sorry but right now I can't reply to them anymore....today has been a very hard day for me, and I can't really deal with all of this right now.

D and I are still talking about where we go from here...personally, I'm not sure where that is, but we've decided we're not yet going to do anything final such as a formal withdrawal of the petition. Maybe we'll ask for an extension, maybe we'll cancel it the week before it expires, maybe we'll sort things out, maybe I'll move to England...I dunno at this point.

I've been with this man for so long, that I really don't know who I am without him. As hard as it may be, I welcome the chance to find out. This will be a v telling month for sure.

I appreciate all your prayers as well! My faith in God is strong and I trust in Him to lead me and D to where we belong. Where that is is anyone's guess atm, but we still have our love that we share, so who knows? So don't stop sendin us some nice prayer mojo, pls!

I promise I'll be back at some point with an update, but right now, I have to focus on myself and my possible life without D. So naturally, VJ is not really helpful at this point because it's too painful right now.

Thank you all again so much. Mad to each and every one of you.

[SMOKE 1,426]

[Jaseball 0]

I wish you the best, regardless of what happens with the Visa journey. This entire experience is taxing and would put stress on even the most loving, stable, and consistent relationships.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Thanks, Lisa, for sharing that. I wish you both peace in whatever happens - in knowing that everything in life has a reason and purpose.

Be strong.

Edited February 26, 2008 by Mister Fancypants

[derekkj 0]

Lisa, just saw this now and wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about you and D. I know you will find your own path eventually, but in the meantime we are all keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Stay strong.

[evanescence 0]

I am so sorry Lisa :(You make me cry..Wish you the best of life

[rebeccajo 14]

Man oh man.

Lisa, I know this is really really hard for you. I hope you CAN work something out. You mentioned going back to England - you always loved it there. I know you have family here that means the world to you - but there are planes, and webcams. Not the same, I know, as being so close by them. But - it's doable, I guess.

This is off the wall as far as a correlation goes, but maybe it will make some sense. Maybe not - but here goes. When we were selling the house, that was a real struggle for me insofar as Zach. He'd grown up in that house. He loved the way it was done inside; he loved his room; he loved the woods out back. He's soooo sentimental - I didn't realize how much until the day of the move. You know how they take drawers out so they can move the heavy furniiture? Well, when they were removing the drawers for one of the chests in Zach's room, I saw on top of some clothes - his old baby blanket. And in a sock drawer - two pairs of his baby socks. He had kept those things - not Mom keeping them for him in a safe place. He had kept them.

I had a terrible time with it all. He came home from college about 10 days before the move, and before he was leaving to go back, he was standing in the driveway looking all around. He went out back and looked up into the woods. My heart broke into a million pieces. I looked at him before he got in the van to drive away, and hugged him. All I could say was "I'm sorry". He said "It's okay. I understand". And he drove off.

What's this got to do with the price of pickles in Pakistan? *sigh* It's about making a choice - a choice I had to make. I had struggled to keep that house too long - for my son. But he was growing up and going on. Soon he would spread his wings, fly - he would have his own life. His own family and his own career. Wes and I could choose to stay in that house; struggle with the payments; the heating bill; the commute and all its costs. Or we could do what was right for us - and I had to do what was right for me and move away from a house and all the memories it contained of a prior broken marriage.

You have to do what is right - for you. For David. If that means a return to England - then godspeed. I know your family will understand. If it means other things - then I wish you healing. And peace.