super sad now. Do not know what to do . My boyfriend refuse to get married with me

[super sad now 11]

Send an email to your former boss. Maybe you can still have your old job back. It hasn't been that long since you left China. Good luck!

I might try this. :-)

thank you!

[Ontarkie 13,915]

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[Kyle and Linh 64]

Ni Hao

I am very sorry to hear your situation, but you need to make plans. You entered on May 21 which means your time will expire on August 21. If you want to ever want to legally come back again to the USA you need to not have an overstay on your record. I would shop now for the cheapest flights back to China and just go.

Your fiancée is a bad person. He is an immature boy to have strung you along this long if he did not know he wanted to marry you. Drop him like a hot rock. Very sorry to hear your story, but there are many fish in the sea. Next time I hope you find a prince and not a selfish pig.

Edited July 31, 2015 by Kyle and Linh

[super sad now 11]

Ni Hao

I am very sorry to hear your situation, but you need to make plans. You entered on May 21 which means your time will expire on August 21. If you want to ever want to legally come back again to the USA you need to not have an overstay on your record. I would shop now for the cheapest flights back to China and just go.

Your fiancée is a bad person. He is an immature boy to have strung you along this long if he did not know he wanted to marry you. Drop him like a hot rock. Very sorry to hear your story, but there are many fish in the sea. Next time I hope you find a prince and not a selfish pig.

Thanks for your message. You are right. I am calm now and plan it to go home as soon as possible. I do not want to overstay here to disobey the rule .:-)

[HeandI 48]

this person who message u must be in some close contact with him in order to know who u are and to get ur personal info to mail u. I guess he's definately cheating... In a relationship close to marriage someone shouldnt be arguing over a simple library card and also shun phone calls and text messages from u. I think its best for u to try and forget about the ur choices with him and move on, it will be the best thing for you. You are lucky enough to not get married and then having to file for divorce which will be added emotional destress. Go home, start a new. Its never too late. Good Luck. DO NOT TRY TO FORCE OR CONVINCE HIM TO STAY WITH YOU BCUZ YOU LOVE HIM. IT WILL NOT WORK.

[super sad now 11]

this person who message u must be in some close contact with him in order to know who u are and to get ur personal info to mail u. I guess he's definately cheating... In a relationship close to marriage someone shouldnt be arguing over a simple library card and also shun phone calls and text messages from u. I think its best for u to try and forget about the ur choices with him and move on, it will be the best thing for you. You are lucky enough to not get married and then having to file for divorce which will be added emotional destress. Go home, start a new. Its never too late. Good Luck. DO NOT TRY TO FORCE OR CONVINCE HIM TO STAY WITH YOU BCUZ YOU LOVE HIM. IT WILL NOT WORK.

en ,you are right. I will not convince hime to stay with me anymore. I gave him the chance before. Not anymore I guess.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

You deserve so much more than this wishy washy guy. I wish you the very best !

[El_killer47 22]

My advice. Talk to him. Communicate, and remember relationships are all about sacrifices. Keep in mind, he's probably made many for you too, which you may not have realized. Good luck.

[Shauna&Wael 211]

My advice. Talk to him. Communicate, and remember relationships are all about sacrifices. Keep in mind, he's probably made many for you too, which you may not have realized. Good luck.

so even though it's very likely (and i believe proven) that he's cheating on her, that's totally fine? really?

[super sad now 11]

You deserve so much more than this wishy washy guy. I wish you the very best !

thank you for your words :-)

I will move on before this mess turn me into nuts.

[raven52 233]

So many men would be so lucky to have a woman that treats her man like you do him. He "would" be lucky to have you.

At this point in time, you need to do what is best for you, and your well-being, and safety.

Do the right thing, for your future happiness, and good luck, he does no

[El_killer47 22]

so even though it's very likely (and i believe proven) that he's cheating on her, that's totally fine? really?

Yes really. Nothing is proven. I'm just saying, she came all the way to US so might as well give it her best. Relationships take a lot of work and misunderstandings so commonly arise. That's just my opinion. Everyone's entitled to their own.

[super sad now 11]

So many men would be so lucky to have a woman that treats her man like you do him. He "would" be lucky to have you.

At this point in time, you need to do what is best for you, and your well-being, and safety.

Do the right thing, for your future happiness, and good luck, he does no

thank you for your advice. I will do the right thing.

I asked him to move to china, but he said at his age it is not easy to find a job, could not endure long time flight, could not see his kids often. Then I had to use the K1 to come here.

[Project_Harajuku 28]

This may all be for the best. It's probably good that he showed he true colors early because maybe if you did get married he would try to use the green card to control you. Any man who makes such rash decisions over something as simple as a library card isn't someone you want to commit your life to anyway. I'm sorry that it turned out like this. I wish you all the best.

[super sad now 11]

My advice. Talk to him. Communicate, and remember relationships are all about sacrifices. Keep in mind, he's probably made many for you too, which you may not have realized. Good luck.

thank you, I will think about it if he acts like an adult.