Nicoco

Agreed, but...I don't have much pity (if any) for those entering into marriage without completing (subjectively qualified) due diligence. To those that find themselves disatisfied with their marriage and spouse choice..well...that's what you get.
Blaming love for people's stupidity, selfish interests, underhanded play, lack of thought, lack of awareness and lack of commitment is comparable to ED. Doesn't get the job done.
Love has the capability of growing throughout a lifetime and beyond. Nothing else does. Everything else in the universe moves towards death. Love is the only thing that gets out of here alive. Love does indeed conquer all.
P.S.
I can't think of any function (off the top of my head) of life that doesn't come with an element of give and take or a trade off. Yet, it seems many people (of all nationalities) have an expectation that marriage should be perfect heavenly bliss.
Understanding / knowing one's partner has a lifelong learning curve. Commitment (fueled by love) to the marriage and each other's happiness drives the evolving marriage in the right direction.

It happens sometimes, or most, because there is a lot different while you are in long distance relationship, chatting everyday, talking tru phone and internet, seems everything is a perfect moment that make you feel that he/she is the one, and get too excited to be together forever.. But when you get started to live together, then the adjustment of the culture and belief, will get in the way, and most the attitudes, its like you will really know better the person when you both live in the same roof, so the problems, attitudes and aggravation is often comes, expecting to each other for what they want, or what you want even difficult to make/take it.. The sudden changes and frustration in situation that makes you think of rejection, feeling sorry for your self, and being trap and even feeling regrets...
So there is always the reason why the changes is happening either the husband or wife's attitude.
Like what happening to our relationships right now, I am married to a USC, we dont even live together that long yet, from the start of our relationship, seems so perfect, exchanging messages, calling each other everyday, how we love each other, excited to live together, but then... you can tell the differences between long distance relationship and living together, I didn't say, in all relationship, coz people has their own differences, some, they become more better and stronger relationships. And now, when I caught my USC husband cheating on me, even he say his sorry blah blah blah... I cant even smile back at him, even he is trying some effort to let us start again, but its hard for me, as the BIG DAMAGE IS ALREADY DONE!
So my point is, if people's changes their attitude there must be a reason why...
I am sorry for my English and grammar. But thank you for reading.

Maybe he is a romantic guy and wants to do a "TITANIC"

50% of all marriages end in Divorce.. the other 50% end in Death..
guess you can't win no matter what you do..

We have pages and pages of advice from people who are going through a powderpuff embassy where visas are handed out like candy, and from first-world embassies where little trouble is ever encountered.Yes, it is true that USCIS does not require "evidence of bona fide relationship." No, it is not necessarily true that "you don't need to include anything other than what USCIS requires" or "you will be fine" or "you can save your evidence of relationship for the consular interview." Anyone who flatly recommends these things is offering potentially dangerous and certainly irresponsible advice, and anyone who believes it can end up in trouble during the consular phase that they never dreamed in their worst nightmare.
USCIS does not require evidence of bona fide relationship. However, the consulate does. Visa interviewees can show up for their consular appointment with armloads of evidence, and the consulate can refuse to accept what is brought, accuse the interviewee of "not enough evidence," and issue a 221g or refuse the visa outright.
If, however, the petitioner has front-loaded the USCIS petition with a sensible, appropriate amount of solid relationship evidence, USCIS will pass this on to the consulate. The consulates are not supposed to refuse a visa on the basis of information that USCIS has seen first.
Accordingly, the original poster (and her fiance) must read and heed the WORST reports from THEIR embassy! THAT is all that matters; it will dictate what they should or might include in the PETITION filing beyond what USCIS requires at minimum; and sensible action along this line NOW can save boatloads of trouble LATER.
OP, quit reading this thread, immediately go atop any VJ page, click "Reviews: Embassy," and read two years' worth of reviews from YOUR EMBASSY, paying attention to the WORST-CASE reports. Quit listening to any Manila filer or anyone from anywhere else who tells you what WILL or WILL NOT happen from the standpoint of their own experience, which is irrelevant to you. If you read anything troubling, and your fiance insists on operating with blinders on (following purely what USCIS wants), then he will be contributing to a potentially perilous situation later.

I would think the best route for you would be for him to enter on his Tourist Visa, marry you and leave the country for his work. You would apply for the CR-1 Visa (which is cheaper than K-1) either while he's still there or after he leaves and he will interview in his home country.
If he enters on a K-1 he is required to stay until after you file his AoS and he receives his AP (advance parole) or it becomes null and void.
There is a chance of him visiting you while the process is in the works if he can show ties to his country. For example lease, job, etc.
Here is the link to the comparison between the Visas for you guys to decide what's best for you: http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare
Best wishes!

What your lawyer REALLY told you was
"You need a new lawyer because I have not a fvcking clue what I am doing!"

I TOTALLY AGREE. even though we don't get to talk on skype a lot (since i'm busy with work) i still am able to contact my fiance through text. International Unlimited texting is expensive for me, but it's totally worth it.

Not to mention being offensive to CO's nostrils.

Uh, that would be a rather crappy way to act, si man.

For all the haterssss.....May God forgive you.
For all the positive replies...thank you very much!
Me and my husband, yes husband made it...it took a while since I was pregnant at the time. I got knocked up a few weeks after I arrived in the US. I guess that but a strain on the relationship, plus the hormones I guess. But now we are happy with our little bundle of joy and we are doing great, I thank God.
Thanks again for all the support.

May I suggest that you use the generic term "foreign fiance/e" instead of "Filipina" when referring to negative behavior on the part of the foreign national? This is out of respect to the many Filipinas like myself who are in genuine relationships and only wish to be with their loved ones, like most people on this site.
By the way, good luck on your own visa journey :-)

Why must say FILIPINA??? Its just an example but that doesnt sound right. It's offensive!

this is exactly why K1 visa takes long time to obtain and many "real couples" have been denied and questioned as a fraud.

While Thailand isnt as bad as V N for fraud there is still plenty. There is no list that I know of. Common sense & V J will be all you need.
The best thing you could do right now is to find Thailand Fever on Amazon. You can see an overview on Amazon. Its the best written info to help you. Your fiance can buy it at many book stores in Thailand for about 500 baht. Written by an American man & Thai women. Half in English, half in Thai. Ask your fiance to formulate some questions for you & you do the same. You will see what I mean. Nothing to do with visas but everything to do with people, cultures, finding common ground. Some info to help you later about marrige. The concept of "sin sod". I strongly suggest you look into that concept & take time to ask informed people for advise before you make gestures or commitments you may regret. Feel free to P M me if I can be of help.
After your meeting you will know better how & when you want to proceed. The meeting fills one important criteria. Will one meeting result in the need for a K 1? You seem to say it may turn into marriage after 3 trips. This means you have plenty of time to be ready for the preparation of the petition ( 130 ) for a C R 1. You will soon learn the methods & means to gain what you want. That will end the quest for a list.
As far as sending money there are different schools of thought. It isnt good if it were to give the impression you were buying a bride of course. I know several scammers myself. They are not what most Thais are about & we dont have any respect for them. Our religion teaches & demands better. We believe they will pay a heavy price later.
My husband did something unusual. I never asked him for money. We met on line. A month or so later I found out he sent 700 dollars to me. He told me to go get it which I did. After we married many months later I asked him if he wanted to know about the money. He said no. I asked why he sent it when I didnt ask. He said he wanted to see what happened if he sent it. To this day he has never asked me & I never ask him for money. He says what we have is ours.

How the heck does a relationship develop if the people in said relationship cannot communicate with each other?

Why wouldn't your friend be interested in gathering the information for himself? On the phone or in a chat session? They are pretty basic questions. If they can't communicate well enough to answer those questions then the interview may be a bit stressful trying to demonstrate a bona fide relationship.

So after 171 days and NO RFE (Thank you Jesus!) ....our petition has been APPROVED!!! I saw the text message pop up on my phone while I was working and I couldn't breath until I logged into the website. There it was. APPROVED!!!! YAY!!! ....happy tears!

I totally agreed with it. My fiance is never married but I don't like to hear about his exes, past romances, old stories, etc..etc. So why this would be up as a question? I feel for your wife and your sadness over this. Hope you find a way to resolve these clutters on your own. Good luck

I'm sorry to hear Wishing you best of luck!!
It is totally not right in my opinion questions about the ex-wife of you or anyone. I am not interested when it comes to the ex wife of my husband, ex is ex and I am his present & future wife.

OK, but I have to say that the movie lacks impact when the foreign beneficiary is from a VWP country and can come visit anytime they want, and vice versa.
Why not from a country whose good citizens are treated like reptiles when they apply for a tourist visa to the USA? Or one where you are guaranteed a year of AP on top of everything else? I mean, c'mon, UK? It is hardly even a foreign country, relatively speaking

Just wondering if anyone has seen the movie "Like Crazy" it's not playing in theaters around me but a bunch of my friends in California told me that it's a love story about an American and a UK citizen and their visa problems and what not. It looks really good. Wish I could see it!!!

Before I tell our story.. Just a quick update, she recieved her visa yesterday from the courier service. She texted me all excited and I called her soon after. We are both thrilled that our three year journey is about over.
This a long story and hope anyone who reads this have some time on their hands..
Way before I met my fiancee.. One of my uncles told me I need to go the Philippines to find a good wife. I thought he was nuts and even though he and my dad's other brother are married to filipino women. I thought of them being too bossy and one of my filipina aunts is the BOSS of her house. It's her way or no way.. The other one is not that way at all, just a sweet and loving person. I was afraid to take a risk and decided to marry someone close to home. It turned out to be five and a half years of pain.. As my divorced was getting finalized and I dated a few women along the way and got hurt time and time again. The same uncle of mine told me to go the "Filipino" route again. This time, I figured I give it a try.
I looked over the internet and found some dating/penpal sites. I decided on Cherry Blossoms and put in a ad. I was amazed how many hits I got.. There was many I chatted with who kept asking me about my job and of course, "How much money you make"... I finally decided on one lady and after a few months I grew tired of her getting mad at me for not giving her money like she wanted. I did help her get a plane ticket to Dubai and she got a good job now. We remain friends to this day.
I went back to Cherry Blossoms and eventually found my soulmate, Rizel. Her ad was pretty straightforward and said, she "wanted to be loved and have a family." Her picture of her sitting on a couch and looking so beautiful really caught my eye. Little did I know then, she was even more beautiful on the inside too. We emailed back and forth.. We finally started chatting and even though she saw me on webcam, I never saw her face until 2 - 3 months later. She was worried that I wouldn't like what I see, but she was even more beautiful than in her pictures. I discussed my trip to the Philippines with my aunts and they gave me alot of advice and some emergency contacts with their family there, in case Rizel and I didn't hit it off.
I haven't flown at that time since a few months before 9-11-2001 and it changed in a big way since. All the extra security checks and my longest flight at that time was from Little Rock to San Diego roundtrip. I can tell you, flying twenty-something hours was truly painful ! The whole time I was questioning myself, but so anxious to meet her. I finally arrived at Cebu and while I was in line to go through customs. I saw a beautiful lady staring at me. I thought she looked familiar and when she smiled, I knew it was her and I waved at her, she waved back. When we finally met, I didn't feel nervous and felt so comfortable with her. Only thing I was worried about was meeting her family and being in a strange country far from home.
Soon as we were outside, the humidity hit me like a ton of bricks ! It was very hot there and when I left home it was in the 50's. It felt like I was in the middle of August again ! I rode with her family to our hotel and it was nice to finally get some rest from that long flight. After our second day I finally proposed to her in private, just between us. Maybe kind of quick, but I knew she is one of a kind. After a few days in the city, we went to the province and stay for several days. I met her mom & dad and her other siblings. They are wonderful people and of course, I got many stares from people in the province. At first I didn't care for it, but I gotten used to it. I guess they don't see many foreigners come their way. I see how many people live in primitive conditions there. I seen houses no bigger than my living room and no electricity. Even though they lack some of the things we have here, I always see them smiling. Makes you appreciate what you have.
After the second day at the province, I asked her dad for her hand in marriage. I studied the words that Rizel told me to say and he gave me his blessing. Even appreciated I tried to learn their language and I continue to learn much as I can. I bonded with her daughter and so glad she liked me. We went to the Simala later on and it was amazing. I never been inside a catholic church before and all the decor, the artifacts and the painting of the Lord's Supper on the ceiling blew me away. We went back to the city for a few more days before going home. It was hard leaving her behind, but I knew it wasn't forever and we will be together soon. So I thought anyway.
I hired an agency to do our paperwork and by the the time I paid the fee and two months later it was completed. I was about sign it and send it in, when they called me about my fiancee's birth certificate was incorrect. It's not like here, you go to your local govt office and have it changed in a few weeks or much less. It took us nearly two years ! Our first lawyer was a crook and never did file one piece of paper. My fiancee would go see him and he would ignore her. She would call and he just yell at her for bothering him. I even called him and he assured me that he was working on it. By the time I went back to see her a second time, I called him and he would say, "The other lawyer you want is in Makati" and I knew it was him. I called him back the next day and he never would answer. I was angry and part of me wanted to give up, but I knew if I did, I would never find anyone like her again. So, I waited and she hired a different attorney. It took another year before they finally corrected her birth certificate. After that, we finally got the ball rolling again. I did see her again for a third time and spent two weeks with her like the last two times. Every time I left, it hurt more than the last time. I finally broke down into tears. I finally sent off the paperwork and waited & waited.. We prayed and hoped the Vermont Service Center would approve our petition pretty quick. It was faster than some others and I can't complain about waiting as much as other people who waited alot longer. After the NVC letter, it went along pretty fast and finally hearing that she was approved for her visa was the best news I had in three years !
As I look back.. All the money spent on flights, hotels, money sent on Xoom, and all the other fees that I had to pay to get to this point. Some of my friends and some family telling me I wasted my time & money on her.. Would I do it again ? Do I really want to go through that headache one more time ? I would.. only for her. I truly love my gwapa Rizel with all my heart & soul. She will be here in December and it will be truly, a Christmas gift I would always cherish for the rest of my life.
If you truly love someone.. good things will come to those who wait. I never believed in those words before... I did when I met my Rizel. Take care and God bless everyone here on visajourney.

I'd contact Canadian consulate and explain the situation regarding bills in your name - you don't live there. Not sure how much they can do, but you want something on record. Did you know these accounts were set up in your name or did they just start showing up recently?
How was it that the visa refusal caught you off guard? He never told you he was deported from the US and then returned and was kicked out again?
In the end, consider yourself very lucky - he could've used you for US residency, US Citizenship and then once he got that divorced you and went back to Egypt to get his "true" wife and possibly kids from there. Not the case with all US-Egyptian marriages, but there is a reason they consider Egypt and other MENA countries high-fraud.

That is an awful lot of hindsight for someone who received their NOA1 six weeks ago..
As far as unforeseeable things.. How about getting laid off and no longer being able to sponsor someone six months into the process? How about a loved one getting cancer and possibly never meeting the sons spouse from overseas? How about kids separated from one of their parents? How about the immigrant that has their life on hold - can't plan more school, can't advance in their career.. How many people do you think are working on that side of the time constraint?
There is nothing that requires 'balls' to say "Good thing the wait is so long, I needed it!" and to then extrapolate that everyone is in the same situation or is as bad of planner as you.. If the process took two months and I needed six months I think I would have had the mental where-withal to wait four months before I filed. I don't need the government to add artificial time because they assume I am unable to make and follow a plan.
I am eight months into this.. people say that is a short time considering a lifetime together... Bull.. Life is not long, life is short.
...of course I won't care about any of that three weeks from now