Nicoco

Not much difference between Bangkok and Manila on this issue. If anything, Bangkok is even more strict.

Unemployment might be a problem, letter explaining college and job hunting (what ever the truth is) with sponsor, might help.

YAY!!!! Congratulations!!!!

Congratulations.

Congratulations Nikki!!! :dance:

Ni-ing, Ice will do good. Good luck!

I read your previous thread about missing passport a while ago. I had feeling that must have been something unusual did happened when suddenly your passport was nowhere. Whoever did this to you, NOT ONLY HATES you. But I guarrantee, she MUST BE DEADLY JEALOUS to you. Thinking you will going to another country, live with your loved one, and have a better life than hers. It reminds me of Crab Mentality.
ONE LESSON: Take care all your legal documents that you need in the future. Be aware of people around you and make sure something like this do not happen again. Good luck.

You should have just said... "Love or green card? Neither. I'm just using him for sex.", and then walk away.

If I had problems like the OP writes .... THE LAST THING I'D BE DOING,.... is wasting time posting about it, on a site like this!!
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This isn't a Relationship Site, is it?
Good help here, about questions with visas, but... relationships??
TO POST CURRENT RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS ONLINE IS ABOUT ONE OF THE CRAZIEST THINGS I CAN THINK OF TO DO. THAT IN ITSELF,... IS INSANITY.
JUS my humble opine.

I am so very sorry that this happened to you, not just that she left you and treated you like this, but also for the loss of your dream of a happy life together, the life for which you have worked so hard and waited so long.
Please do follow AZ and hikergirl's advice. Her visa is only good for 90 days. If she discovers she was premature in her actions of leaving you since she has no legal grounds to remain in the US legally nor get a green card except through marriage to you, she may come 'repentantly back' saying she was overwrought or 'needed time because things were happening too quickly' and try to convince you that this was all innocent, hoping to win your trust enough so you will marry her and apply for a green card. Then, when she gets the green card she would again disappear. Others have been taken in by such pleas, wanting to keep that dream intact, wanting to believe in the promises of love, wanting to trust again . . . but it almost always leads to a second desertion and this time with the US partner on the hook for an enforceable affidavit of support.
Take care of yourself. Let your friends and family know so they can be there to support you right now and do provide USCIS with an 'update'. You may also wish to provide 'ICE' with the copies of the telephone addresses and a statement of what has happened so she is on their radar as well.
Good luck to you.

Thank you God and Thank you Mama Mary ...Approved on December 8, 2011. The day of the Immaculate Conception. :dance:

Just the other day I ran into some old friends.
“When’s Ice coming back?”
“Hopefully by Dec 27th because that’s our wedding day.”
“How is he going to stay here?”
“He’ll be coming on a K-1.”
“Didn’t they abolish that?”
“…..no. No, they didn’t.”
Mixture of just not knowing, stupidity, and look of horror when they find out I’m getting married to a foreigner and “so young too!” on their face. Anyone who finds out, anyway. The less they know, the better.

then stop reading

I have lived a fabulous life but I have always said that I was different. Different from other women in my ways and different in the wonderful ways things have worked out for me in this life. With that being said, the first way I handled things was simply by being a grown woman that does not care what people think or say about the choices that make me happy. Secondly, I shared some details with select people but in a very simplistic way about the timeframe and K1 process. By letting people know that a US passport gets you many places overseas without a visa and many other countries need visas is eye opening to most because many never had to think about or deal with visas, foreign relocation, etc. Lastly, be happy! My best friend didn't believe and you would think that was kind of hard for me but it wasn't. I kept it kinda quiet since my fiance (at the time) hadn't arrived yet until I was certain of my feelings and we got through some of the process hoops but the 10 months of the K1 process was when I told the world. They didn't believe but they saw how I glowed with happiness. I would tell them how his character and ways matched all the things I had prayed for in a mate since I was a little girl (women really relate to that). I also let them ask their questions because I knew they didn't fully get it. It's not you but it is different for most and seeing me this happy and all of his efforts for me to make this work they couldn't be harsh and they also knew I wouldn't care. Now they see us together, our wedding pics and all of their reservations that they had just faded away. Now I get the following top 3 comments from close insiders and others:
1-I didn't believe but now I see how much he loves u. You guys are a perfect match.
2-I wasn't sure about this because I wanted to protect your heart but you are a match made in heaven. The way he looks at you is amazing.
3-Can you guys bottle up some of that happiness and sell it to me?
Other than those comments, now nobody ever mentions the way we got together. Things can turn around for you too, just be happy and live for you. Everybody else will fall in line.

This is a fantastic topic and I've always wondered how other people were dealing with this "exact" issue. I ignore a lot of people and their comments. I've learned SO MUCH from this experience and I wouldn't change a thing. I would get blank stares...I would get "how do you know he's not cheating on you over there?"...I would get "I don't understand long distant relationships"...I even got..."why doesn't he just marry a Kenyan girl?"...plain and simple..."some people are just ignorant @$$holes" flat out - (excuse my language, but there's really no other way to express it). They don't understand, and you know what?? THEY DON'T HAVE TO...we do, and that's what matters most. Not only do we get all of this...we also get looks, stares, etc., because we are a different color and yes, there are still plenty of people with that issue, but I honestly do not care...we are happy, everyone sees it and it's true, once their here, people tend to change their attitude..."wow, you guys really look so happy"; "you are glowing every day"; "I wish I was as happy as you guys are"...etc., etc. Ignore these people and just keep quiet about it with people who don't understand and don't answer their nosy @$$ questions. You have nothing to prove to anyone; you don't have to explain anything to anyone; you don't have to answer to anyone. We are grown adult people capable of making our own decisions and we know what works for us and what doesn't. You don't have to justify your feelings for anybody to anybody...just remember that. Be happy, be blessed, and stay strong for you and your loved one because at the end of the day, that's who you are going to end up next to.

Great question...for me I don't go into it too deep but for those like work staff, I kinda let it outta the bag because my interview was coming up October 31). Of course when I returned devastated by the AP outcome I had to put on my game face because of course they who knew wanted to know one question. "Is he here? When is he coming? I had no answers for them except not yet. Now i simply tell them it's a matter of national security and I will wait no matter how long. They look at me like I am crazy and I look back at them and smile because I am in love.......
People will always have something to say about a long distance relationship. Your strength and how much you believe in your relationship determines how much what people say affect you.
Chynna

simple... i just tell them to f**k off and mind there own business

But it sits in a pile for 3 months 30 days 23 hours and 45 minutes.

You will be approved soon. My case was also expedited due to being outside of normanl process time on dec 2 and on dec 5 (yesterday) I was approved fom vermont.

I completely understand you. I am in school and work full time as well. I feel like I'm waiting for the night to come always because that's when I can talk to my fiance.
It will be hard, you will feel alone even when there are many people around you. It will be hard for people to understand what you're going through.
But remember that this is an investment. When you go to work, you're doing it for her. When you go to school, you're doing it for her.
All in all, when she gets here, you'll be super busy and not have time to remember what you just went through anyway.
It's all patience.

I predict zero problems at the interview for Ice.

hmmm... .interesting.
If some would put as much planning into the marriage as they do the wedding there would be fewer divorces.

Unless you have a family like mine. While they're supportive of the wedding they said to me, "You want to get married? Well you better start saving..."
And so it begins....

I just got off the phone with my fiance (who checks the site everyday for updates to our processing).
Earlier in the week she sent me photos of her in Costa Rica trying on wedding dresses and one in particular was absolutey breathtaking. After she read Igor's list today and saw the processing date, she told me she'd marry me in jeans and tennis shoes if it meant getting our NOA-2 (God I love this woman....).
Our wedding plans were already quite simple. My friend is the Mayor in the city that I live in and he offered to officiate, then a simple reception for about 20 people. Her dream dress was about $400 and she wants RED shoes to wear with her gown.
At this point, I'D wear the gown if it meant getting her here sooner...

Beautifully said.