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Proximity of the wedding to divorce is OK. I filed for I129F less than 2 weeks after my divorce was finalized.

As the Op is posting a status update and has not asked for feedback, I see the value in keeping this thread open outweighed by the potential for negative comments. This thread is now closed to further comment.

TBone- That could be the case, on the other hand you having a Colombian fiance or spouse should recognize quite a few of the negatives regarding this situation. I had written a long post earlier in the day and I accidently hit the back button and it all erased before I posted so I decided not to write it, and I'm not going to write it all out here. But here are some details regarding the way it not only probably is, but also the way it is for the majority of Colombianas...
1) Most Colombianas over the age of 30 have very little opportunity for employment unless they are already employed somewhere, and the farthur north of 30 years of age they are the closer they are to being unemployed... FOR LIFE
2) Unless this fiance was in the drug trade somehow or is a divorcee of or child of a politician she probably had no home/apartment etc to sell
3) Colombia is an extremely chauvanistic (sp) country. What the man says, typically goes.
4) If a female isn't married by the age of 25, her potential for marriage is extremely limited.
5) If this woman did own a home, apartment, or any land there is no way she would be marrying a 58 year old gringo, much less even talk to a 58 year old gringo. It just doesn't happen in this culture.
5) Given that the USC male is 58, I would assume the female is not less than 25-28 years old. Any age less than that would be very odd. 28-35 years old would be very normal, and if by chance she is over 35 years old the prospect of marrying was a true miracle.
6) I would venture that she lived with her parents, as most unmarried Colombianas do, for most of if not all of their life, assuming they do not ever marry.
Given the above (which is painted in stone, but are high probabilities... as in over 85%), I assume this Colombian fiance is over 28 years old, has very little to go back to (i.e. no money and no potential to work), and will absolutely do everything she can to stay. If her USC doesn't want her I would almost guarantee that she will find some Colombian friends or family in the US and become number 40,000,001 illegal immigrant in the US. And quite frankly, I don't blame her. Many can post on here that it's 2 adults, etc. Bullsh*t. Maybe if the beneficiary is from a non-third world country, but I can tell you all from experience... yes, marrying someone from a third world country requires patience and understanding. Yes, it is just like raising a child for at least the first 2 years. I in fact married someone from a third world country 15 years ago who had lived in the US for 10 years before I met her here in the US... and it was still like raising a child. She was the most humble and caring woman in the world, but it was still like raising a child. Heck, I've been divorced for eight years and I still feel like I have to teach her things almost monthly.
Those who say, "Just throw her and the 2 kids out," or "She knew that the decision she made to come to the US could blow up," or "She should have had an exit/return plan," etc have no idea what they are talking about. This is a Colombian woman, not an Australian, not a Canadian, not an affluent or educated Phillipian, not a European. This woman probably has 0 chance of ever being able to work another day the rest of her life. Now, that was probably the case before she left as well, but going from "A miracle to nothing in a matter of 2 weeks?" I guarantee you she will not be getting on that plane.
The alternative is she was some 28-32 year old gold-digger. He potentially goes to Colombia acting like Daddy Warbucks, as many do, easily convinced a hot 28-32 year old that she should come to the US and marry him. I say easily because her prospects on marrying a Colombian being over 25 and with 2 kids... no chance. He being 58 and having a potentially smoking hot wife, he was in heaven. Sugar daddy lost his job and wants to cut loose.
I'm not saying it's 100% one of these two scenarios, but I'd put money down saying that it is.
T-Bone, am I wrong?

You gave up on your loved one pretty fast... This is probably why they denied.. COs are pretty smart after all..

You gave up on your loved one pretty fast... This is probably why they denied.. COs are pretty smart after all..

You gave up on your loved one pretty fast... This is probably why they denied.. COs are pretty smart after all..

You gave up on your loved one pretty fast... This is probably why they denied.. COs are pretty smart after all..

You gave up on your loved one pretty fast... This is probably why they denied.. COs are pretty smart after all..

I agree that you have no obligation. However, personally, I feel this is sad. I mean, person did take a large step in coming here.. I do feel that you take larger responsibility when you file for K1. Responsibility for the person that is coming here. My feeling (only mine, personal), if you decide to send this person back and this person entered relationship with you in good faith you own them ticket back, ride to the airport and reimbursing any disruption that you caused in their lives, such as if they sold apartment you have to help them get it back.

Something worth having is something worth waiting for!

You gave up on your loved one pretty fast... This is probably why they denied.. COs are pretty smart after all..

I would like to re-iterate that K1 visa is not given "to wait and see". The purpose of the visa is to bring your foreign fiancee here for marriage which allows you to get married in US. It is designed for people that made this decision to get married. If anyone makes this statement during interview that they applied for visa "to wait and see", they would get denied. Simply because this is not a purpose of the visa. Similarly, B1/B2 visa is "to visit", not to get married. Each visa has its purpose and "wait and see" means misrepresentation.

I would like to re-iterate that K1 visa is not given "to wait and see". The purpose of the visa is to bring your foreign fiancee here for marriage which allows you to get married in US. It is designed for people that made this decision to get married. If anyone makes this statement during interview that they applied for visa "to wait and see", they would get denied. Simply because this is not a purpose of the visa. Similarly, B1/B2 visa is "to visit", not to get married. Each visa has its purpose and "wait and see" means misrepresentation.

Dear fellow VJers,
I see all sorts of calls for getting a police, etc.. I am sorry but this terrifies me.. Have we lost our humane compassion?? I am USC.. However, grow-up! When you bring foreign fiancee, you do have responsibilities! If you cannot handle them you should find someone here. I am terrified even with people that buy a dog and once they move or feel tired of it they get rid of it so they would be put to sleep. This is terrible! Now, you are dealing with people! If you are not absolutely sure that you want to spend your entire life with this person do not get them here! Do not plug the system with your applications for K1.. You disrupt their lives. At least have responsibility to return their lives to normal! My opnion is: if you bring someone here and disrupt their lives you have responsibility to completely restore their lives to what it was before you disrupted it. This is just my opinion. For example, I am a very hto -tempered person. However, I realize that my wife have nothing here.. So, I hold my temper and do not argue with her even when she is unreasonable.. just because of this..

I agree that you have no obligation. However, personally, I feel this is sad. I mean, person did take a large step in coming here.. I do feel that you take larger responsibility when you file for K1. Responsibility for the person that is coming here. My feeling (only mine, personal), if you decide to send this person back and this person entered relationship with you in good faith you own them ticket back, ride to the airport and reimbursing any disruption that you caused in their lives, such as if they sold apartment you have to help them get it back.

bob, these are all nice words. however, this is not about giving up a place in line. this is more about sense of entitlement. when you give up the lane to the police car the chances are they are pursuing criminal not racing to their own wedding. thus i do not think this is right analogy.. in addition, i would like to truly ask all the military personnel: what was the reason for joining military? this is profession. one of the professions and i personally respect any profession. benefits designed by the government are designed to show this respect.

I agree that you have no obligation. However, personally, I feel this is sad. I mean, person did take a large step in coming here.. I do feel that you take larger responsibility when you file for K1. Responsibility for the person that is coming here. My feeling (only mine, personal), if you decide to send this person back and this person entered relationship with you in good faith you own them ticket back, ride to the airport and reimbursing any disruption that you caused in their lives, such as if they sold apartment you have to help them get it back.

I agree that you have no obligation. However, personally, I feel this is sad. I mean, person did take a large step in coming here.. I do feel that you take larger responsibility when you file for K1. Responsibility for the person that is coming here. My feeling (only mine, personal), if you decide to send this person back and this person entered relationship with you in good faith you own them ticket back, ride to the airport and reimbursing any disruption that you caused in their lives, such as if they sold apartment you have to help them get it back.

I agree that you have no obligation. However, personally, I feel this is sad. I mean, person did take a large step in coming here.. I do feel that you take larger responsibility when you file for K1. Responsibility for the person that is coming here. My feeling (only mine, personal), if you decide to send this person back and this person entered relationship with you in good faith you own them ticket back, ride to the airport and reimbursing any disruption that you caused in their lives, such as if they sold apartment you have to help them get it back.

I agree that you have no obligation. However, personally, I feel this is sad. I mean, person did take a large step in coming here.. I do feel that you take larger responsibility when you file for K1. Responsibility for the person that is coming here. My feeling (only mine, personal), if you decide to send this person back and this person entered relationship with you in good faith you own them ticket back, ride to the airport and reimbursing any disruption that you caused in their lives, such as if they sold apartment you have to help them get it back.

you may be right. phould police officers have this privilege? they may dies and do die in the line of duty every day. Or Firefighters? let's remember september 11th how many firefighters dies in twin towers.. I grew up in the military family myself. my father served in the navy for 25 years. I completely support any privileges given to the military personnel by the government. However, I do not support automatic entitlement to everything by default. This is personal choice of a profession and all the dangers and benefits associated with such profession. if it is granted i support it. if it is not i do not feel anyone should feel entitled. this is all. i do thank military personnel for their service. does this mean we need to open new carpool lanes entitled "military only"? I know that what i just said does sound stupid but we cannot entitle people to everything only because they serve in the military. we do not have a draft. this is a profession.; this is just my opinion.

Meeting waiver is one of the waivers impossible to get. OP, BTW, if you notice, who gives you advices on finances: people experienced here. The other comforting advice was given by some one with 0 experience with the process... Make your judgement..

Meeting waiver is one of the waivers impossible to get. OP, BTW, if you notice, who gives you advices on finances: people experienced here. The other comforting advice was given by some one with 0 experience with the process... Make your judgement..

To be honest I do not see any negative comments here. People just saying how it is and what he needs to do in order to achieve his goal. This is not psychological helpline. This is a place to get help on advice. In this particular case comments like yours, while making OP feel good, are dangerous giving wrong sense of security. Basically, you are hurting OP by suggesting applying for waiver and wasting both time (!) and a lot of money (!). Either way two facts remain:
1) You will not get hardship waiver to get to bypass meeting requirement. 0 chance. Basically, you will waste your time and I129F application fee which can be better used to meet in person.
2) You will have to pay overall ~$3K ($350 I129F, $200 visa fee, $1,000 for one way ticket, $180 medical, $1070 for AOS. No way around it.
3) Even if I129F approved there is no way embassy will approve. Money wasted, time wasted.
4) During AOS your brother in law will have to sign binding affidavit of support. I864. This means that if during 10 years you or your fiancee become public charge (which you agree is possible), he will be charged this amount. Once he learns about binding nature of support I do not know if he will agree to this.
The reason why people with experience giving this advice is because THEY WENT THROUGH THE PROCESS and know what it involves. Your advice will lead to wasted money and time.
If you want to listen to reasonable advice:
1)save money ($5K, should be enough for travel plus process), get another job (maybe 2nd job), travel to Lithuania. Make lots of pictures, with her parents, etc. Fly back apply for K1.
2) Move to Lithuania, get married, live there for 3 months, get a job there possibly, apply for CR1 (possibly DCF if allowed)
These are real two choices in your situation. The rest - just waste of time and money.

This is not very helpful, is it?