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I like to sleep far away from the door as possible, but for no reason, just makes me more comfortable! I also lock doors when I come through them! I started doing it at my parent's house too and it annoyed them so much! haha! I often locked them out by mistake! I think my quirks just come from paranoia in general! lol!

Being homesick does not mean you want to go home necessarily...it just means you're having a hard time being away from home, and maybe if you had support to adjusting to your new surroundings, you could transition more easily. He can be homesick, but with the desire to still be there...how many college students became "homesick" their first month of college? did that mean they wanted to give up college and go home? Adjusting to a new life is hard, and holding someone's immigration status over their head is a cheap power grab and a nasty threat to make in my opinion...to me, its no different than making any other kind of threat out of anger...I can never understand why if the relationship does not work, that USC's feel the need to "return" their "investments" like a bad birthday gift. I understand the anger, but if feels a little bit like they are being seen as a thing, not a person. Just my opinion.
OP, I hope that you guys can get some help through some therapy, or if you do split that it will mean a better life for you both. Adjusting can be so hard, and it requires a lot of effort on both parts. Good luck to you, and I wish you the best.

agreed. Its not as though you married her against your will. Might need some time to cool down a bit before launching into the blame stuff. It is very difficult to adjust to all the changes of a new surrounding and without support it can put tons of strain on your relationship. I wish you the best of luck.

I agree. at one level, I am relieved that I no longer have to think about any of this garbage. Vj is fantastic and I have referred many people I know personally to it! He took away my old life yesterday and today I've already booked a job interview at home. I'm very fortunate to have support. I'm tired of being heartbroken for so long because of the unknown. now I know.
I am hurt, sad and angry but I'm really taking action to move forward as soon as possible. Next, divorce, but til then I can just think about me for the first time in 3 years.
Thanks again for support.

Got nothing to add to the Nigerian commentary (lol!) but just wanted to say thanks to the members for answering questions and for all the support. Immigration benefits are certainly not anyone's rights and although its a pain in the #### for us, I'm glad they take it very seriously. Splitting is not easy, but I am fortunate to have a lot of support and a place to go back to. good luck to everyone on their journeys.

I agree. at one level, I am relieved that I no longer have to think about any of this garbage. Vj is fantastic and I have referred many people I know personally to it! He took away my old life yesterday and today I've already booked a job interview at home. I'm very fortunate to have support. I'm tired of being heartbroken for so long because of the unknown. now I know.
I am hurt, sad and angry but I'm really taking action to move forward as soon as possible. Next, divorce, but til then I can just think about me for the first time in 3 years.
Thanks again for support.

I agree. at one level, I am relieved that I no longer have to think about any of this garbage. Vj is fantastic and I have referred many people I know personally to it! He took away my old life yesterday and today I've already booked a job interview at home. I'm very fortunate to have support. I'm tired of being heartbroken for so long because of the unknown. now I know.
I am hurt, sad and angry but I'm really taking action to move forward as soon as possible. Next, divorce, but til then I can just think about me for the first time in 3 years.
Thanks again for support.

I agree. at one level, I am relieved that I no longer have to think about any of this garbage. Vj is fantastic and I have referred many people I know personally to it! He took away my old life yesterday and today I've already booked a job interview at home. I'm very fortunate to have support. I'm tired of being heartbroken for so long because of the unknown. now I know.
I am hurt, sad and angry but I'm really taking action to move forward as soon as possible. Next, divorce, but til then I can just think about me for the first time in 3 years.
Thanks again for support.

I agree. at one level, I am relieved that I no longer have to think about any of this garbage. Vj is fantastic and I have referred many people I know personally to it! He took away my old life yesterday and today I've already booked a job interview at home. I'm very fortunate to have support. I'm tired of being heartbroken for so long because of the unknown. now I know.
I am hurt, sad and angry but I'm really taking action to move forward as soon as possible. Next, divorce, but til then I can just think about me for the first time in 3 years.
Thanks again for support.

Being homesick does not mean you want to go home necessarily...it just means you're having a hard time being away from home, and maybe if you had support to adjusting to your new surroundings, you could transition more easily. He can be homesick, but with the desire to still be there...how many college students became "homesick" their first month of college? did that mean they wanted to give up college and go home? Adjusting to a new life is hard, and holding someone's immigration status over their head is a cheap power grab and a nasty threat to make in my opinion...to me, its no different than making any other kind of threat out of anger...I can never understand why if the relationship does not work, that USC's feel the need to "return" their "investments" like a bad birthday gift. I understand the anger, but if feels a little bit like they are being seen as a thing, not a person. Just my opinion.
OP, I hope that you guys can get some help through some therapy, or if you do split that it will mean a better life for you both. Adjusting can be so hard, and it requires a lot of effort on both parts. Good luck to you, and I wish you the best.

Being homesick does not mean you want to go home necessarily...it just means you're having a hard time being away from home, and maybe if you had support to adjusting to your new surroundings, you could transition more easily. He can be homesick, but with the desire to still be there...how many college students became "homesick" their first month of college? did that mean they wanted to give up college and go home? Adjusting to a new life is hard, and holding someone's immigration status over their head is a cheap power grab and a nasty threat to make in my opinion...to me, its no different than making any other kind of threat out of anger...I can never understand why if the relationship does not work, that USC's feel the need to "return" their "investments" like a bad birthday gift. I understand the anger, but if feels a little bit like they are being seen as a thing, not a person. Just my opinion.
OP, I hope that you guys can get some help through some therapy, or if you do split that it will mean a better life for you both. Adjusting can be so hard, and it requires a lot of effort on both parts. Good luck to you, and I wish you the best.

Being homesick does not mean you want to go home necessarily...it just means you're having a hard time being away from home, and maybe if you had support to adjusting to your new surroundings, you could transition more easily. He can be homesick, but with the desire to still be there...how many college students became "homesick" their first month of college? did that mean they wanted to give up college and go home? Adjusting to a new life is hard, and holding someone's immigration status over their head is a cheap power grab and a nasty threat to make in my opinion...to me, its no different than making any other kind of threat out of anger...I can never understand why if the relationship does not work, that USC's feel the need to "return" their "investments" like a bad birthday gift. I understand the anger, but if feels a little bit like they are being seen as a thing, not a person. Just my opinion.
OP, I hope that you guys can get some help through some therapy, or if you do split that it will mean a better life for you both. Adjusting can be so hard, and it requires a lot of effort on both parts. Good luck to you, and I wish you the best.

Being homesick does not mean you want to go home necessarily...it just means you're having a hard time being away from home, and maybe if you had support to adjusting to your new surroundings, you could transition more easily. He can be homesick, but with the desire to still be there...how many college students became "homesick" their first month of college? did that mean they wanted to give up college and go home? Adjusting to a new life is hard, and holding someone's immigration status over their head is a cheap power grab and a nasty threat to make in my opinion...to me, its no different than making any other kind of threat out of anger...I can never understand why if the relationship does not work, that USC's feel the need to "return" their "investments" like a bad birthday gift. I understand the anger, but if feels a little bit like they are being seen as a thing, not a person. Just my opinion.
OP, I hope that you guys can get some help through some therapy, or if you do split that it will mean a better life for you both. Adjusting can be so hard, and it requires a lot of effort on both parts. Good luck to you, and I wish you the best.

Buying her a ticket home does not solve the problem...she's a person not a sweater. you can't just return her...USCIS can in due time. Sorry to hear it fell apart for you! Def protect yourself and cut her off anything she's tied to you with. Good luck!

Buying her a ticket home does not solve the problem...she's a person not a sweater. you can't just return her...USCIS can in due time. Sorry to hear it fell apart for you! Def protect yourself and cut her off anything she's tied to you with. Good luck!

Buying her a ticket home does not solve the problem...she's a person not a sweater. you can't just return her...USCIS can in due time. Sorry to hear it fell apart for you! Def protect yourself and cut her off anything she's tied to you with. Good luck!

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this! its so hard to make such a big life change. Too bad you can't move to Canada (west coast) we've got lots of all of the above people you mentioned! lol! In all seriousness, I hope you can convince him to at least move to a different city where you'll BOTH be new so that you don't feel so alone in your struggle to find your place. Good luck to you! I hope life turns for the better soon.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this! its so hard to make such a big life change. Too bad you can't move to Canada (west coast) we've got lots of all of the above people you mentioned! lol! In all seriousness, I hope you can convince him to at least move to a different city where you'll BOTH be new so that you don't feel so alone in your struggle to find your place. Good luck to you! I hope life turns for the better soon.

I was gonna say it but I didn't want to be a jerk! lol!

hey there! I know it all seems really intimidating to do yourself, but this community will help you all along the way. The guides at the top are very very helpful and if you follow all the instructions carefully, you should have no problems and you'll save a bundle. Almost everyone I know that has used a lawyer has regretted it (including me!!) I went with NO lawyer after I learned my lesson the first time and I very much preferred doing it myself as its only slightly more work that having a lawyer. My suggestion to you is to take one task at a time, and don't rush it. Spread out the work load a bit, like, just fill out one form today, tomorrow get passport photos taken--for example. I wish you the best of luck and welcome to VJ.

technically no, you are free to marry where ever you want as a previous poster so logically pointed out, but yes, you DO have to get married in the US if you want to use a K-1. That is the ONLY purpose of the K-1. congrats!

yeah, its just for your personal record, so you can write "USCIS money stealing jerks" if you want.

you have to keep in mind that it is porn we're talking about...its is entirely based on fantasy, and it is not real...hence why men think in real life they can spend 3 mintues with a girl and she'll be breaking glass with her vocal performance... Incest is wrong and in no way would I enjoy hearing about it, but a lot of porn out there is incest based and is a popular fantasy...step dad and daughter, or step son and step mom, that is all considered the incest category. Doesn't mean a person is sick, as fantasies are most often not to be taken literally. Just a reflection of a psychological desire. I do not know what the particular material is we're talking about, and there is def some more hard core versions out there, but all in all, its porn, its not real.

work, or you can continue your studies in the US and apply for a student visa, which will then give you the option of OPT (working) after which would give you more time to establish a job where they will sponsor you for another, more permanent visa (renewable) there is also the green card lottery. You can look into that on the USCIS website. Good luck!

you have to keep in mind that it is porn we're talking about...its is entirely based on fantasy, and it is not real...hence why men think in real life they can spend 3 mintues with a girl and she'll be breaking glass with her vocal performance... Incest is wrong and in no way would I enjoy hearing about it, but a lot of porn out there is incest based and is a popular fantasy...step dad and daughter, or step son and step mom, that is all considered the incest category. Doesn't mean a person is sick, as fantasies are most often not to be taken literally. Just a reflection of a psychological desire. I do not know what the particular material is we're talking about, and there is def some more hard core versions out there, but all in all, its porn, its not real.