Dana-Mića

I am sorry if me having nothing to hide offended you. It is just my opinion just like yours is your opinion. That does not mean i am not enouragin members or looking down up on them. I just know that ever sicne me and my husband met and began a relationship he was a presence on my facebook and in my life even if he was a 12 hour flight away from me. My facebook is full of pictures of me, him, us, our families, friends and everything else it was like that before and after the interview and that was my choice just like yours might be not to put any of it on facebook (i dont know i dont have you as a friend im just giving an example). What i will say is that the Consul has to decide your relationship is legitimate or not and if it comes down to him seeing my facebook or not seeing it I would let him see it because it will just confirm that I have nothing to hide. Imagine saying no if they ever asked and than them thinking you have something to hide. Again that is just my opinon doesnt mean that I am putting anyone down I am just stating it. You are the one that came with your comment of "well you must be perfect" which I never said I was i just said i had nothing to hide.

I am sorry if me having nothing to hide offended you. It is just my opinion just like yours is your opinion. That does not mean i am not enouragin members or looking down up on them. I just know that ever sicne me and my husband met and began a relationship he was a presence on my facebook and in my life even if he was a 12 hour flight away from me. My facebook is full of pictures of me, him, us, our families, friends and everything else it was like that before and after the interview and that was my choice just like yours might be not to put any of it on facebook (i dont know i dont have you as a friend im just giving an example). What i will say is that the Consul has to decide your relationship is legitimate or not and if it comes down to him seeing my facebook or not seeing it I would let him see it because it will just confirm that I have nothing to hide. Imagine saying no if they ever asked and than them thinking you have something to hide. Again that is just my opinon doesnt mean that I am putting anyone down I am just stating it. You are the one that came with your comment of "well you must be perfect" which I never said I was i just said i had nothing to hide.

does he have official refugee status in india, or is he just hiding out, living illegally in India ?

Total bull. Filipinos are nothing but conniving when it comes to extorting money from friends and relatives. The usual modus operandi is to spend all your own money freely, then go broke, so that you can leech again off everybody else. No need to plan ahead, when you wait until the last moment, then everything becomes an emergency.
In the US, the rule is: Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.
However, you are free to allude to any made up rules that make you feel better while you are being fleeced.

We do not send anything on a regular basis. What we have done is cover some things that have came up. My wife has two younger adopted siblings. When she was there, she paid their high school tuition. Now that my wife has started working, we picked that up again and will continue to do so. I think they have two years of school left. They will not go on to college, because they are special needs children. Although there is a program they will go into that helps them to survive on their own after high school if they get a diploma. We want them to have that chance. We also bought her mother a good set of false teeth. After my wife left her mother's teeth were giving her so many problems, that she had them all pulled. Her family understands we're working hard here and don't really have a lot extra now. They also believe in everyone working hard and making do with what they have. Sending the tuition that had fallen behind got a big thank you of gratitude. So did the money for Momma's teeth. My wife is happy to because her mother looks like her mother again. I love my in-laws, they are family to me. But one of the reasons I became so close with them is because of their values. They believe in hard work and doing for yourself. That doesn't mean you don't help out family when they need it, but it doesn't mean when daughter marries a Kano they've hit the lottery. My wife and I discussed it, and our budget comes first. We'll try and set so much aside each month, but this isn't for just sending monthly cash to them. This is for us to be able to send money when something happens that the family cannot cover.

Yep. You got to stop that stuff. I don't send anything to her family. I told the wife if she wants to send money back home, get a job. She did, and she does, and she hates the way they keep asking for more and more. It is never enough, they don't say thanks, and her parents keep trying new ways to extort more money from her and her siblings, two brothers in the US and one sister in Taiwan. The parents had a boarding house and a restaurant in Manila not too far from several universities, and made a fair living. Now they do nothing at all, except the mom takes trips all over the place, and the dad plays the lottery. Only one person in the family knows how to manage money, her brother, and he put them on a small allowance, ignoring them otherwise. It is hard for my wife to say no, but she is learning. She just cut off one of her nieces that became too demanding, unfriending her and blocking her from Facebook.
When she was living in the Philippines, my wife worked to put all her siblings through school, and later, had to give her paycheck to her mom, as well as scrub pans in the restaurant, and change linens in the boarding house and in her brothers' rooms. They didn't treat her well, almost like a slave. I don't know why she feels she still has an obligation to them, just for bringing her into the world.

Another one - what is going on today? In one day we have 3 relationships gone sideways, 2 wives and a fiancee.
OP, fortunately your GC is en route, but unfortunately your faith appears to be headed in the same direction as the other 2 ex husbands.
Don't tell her you are aware of her behavior - keep that info to yourself until you're able to deal with the certain fall out. Unless you want to and plan to go back to your country, start making plans for the break up once the poo-poo hits the fan. For example, if she decides she wants you out of her house immediately, you need to have plans for another place to live. Gather any documents now that you'll need later to file for ROC

I've always been thought that my money is his money and his money is my money, in the end we are both working for the same household and family. So when it came to paying I paid for everything including his ticket because at that point my dollars were way more than his dinars. Now that he is here I am not working because I am pregnant and he pays for everything including my student loans. We only have one bank account and it will always be like that and we share all the money be that we are both working or not.

I've always been thought that my money is his money and his money is my money, in the end we are both working for the same household and family. So when it came to paying I paid for everything including his ticket because at that point my dollars were way more than his dinars. Now that he is here I am not working because I am pregnant and he pays for everything including my student loans. We only have one bank account and it will always be like that and we share all the money be that we are both working or not.

Golly, what harsh responses. It sounds more like you are seeking relationship advice rather than immigration advice. She has immigrated with you, yes? That part is done, for now, until she must remove conditions, which she technically can do with or without you.
We are few of us without things we would not tell a near-stranger. Your wife was married to you, a near stranger from what you have said, in an arranged marriage. You told her what you value is truth, and she married you and moved halfway around the world. It may be that once she knew you long enough to think she could trust you with her truths, she told them to you - an act she may have thought would bring you closer, given that you told her a husband and wife can be open with one another, and also perhaps because now, thousands of miles away from her family, she may have felt SAFE telling you these things - and now you find that you cannot bear her truths. It might help you to sort out what is it that bothers you, that she had an affair before she knew you, that she had an abortion before she knew you, or that she did not tell you about these things on your schedule? If your ego gets in the way of your love and compassion, you may lose someone who was just beginning to trust you - your wife. It seems that she need never have told you any of these things - you would not have known, and she would not have risked you leaving her. If you divorce her here, what skills does she have to get on with her life alone? Is she a professional? Does she have sound job skills? Or are you contemplating her returning to her family as a disgraced divorcee whose husband left her because she was not a virgin when she married him? She risked a great deal to be honest with you - she must have grown to trust you since you got married. This may be a great gift, a good thing.
She may have gotten to know you just enough since you have been together for some small time now to have trusted you enough to tell you. Perhaps you can trust her enough to believe that there must be something she values in her relationship with you very much to open up to you now and in this way, since it appears she has much to loose if you leave her. She took a risk in telling you her truth, perhaps you can respect her for doing so, since truth is what you said you wanted to build on.
Marrying you in an arranged marriage, at the urging of relatives, does not sound like green card fraud. It sounds like traditional arranged marriage, approved by the family, and entered into with the honest hope of success. It may be that once you get over your shock, you will see something of great value has grown in your marriage. I just don't believe that someone perpetrating a fraud would have told you this at this time.

I understand that they are offensive questions but if that lies between you and your fiance/husband being together I would answer them without even blinking.

I don't think being asked if a condom was used and who initiated things all that intimate.... heck I hear more personal details from the woman in front of me at the checkout line as she yaks on her cell phone. Some people seem to get their panties in a twist over anything that is even slightly related to the "S" word....
I guess training films in boot camp are humiliating and offensive too... as they are telling all the guys to "wear a raincoat"....
I initiated it and didn't wear a condom.... jeez!

I understand that they are offensive questions but if that lies between you and your fiance/husband being together I would answer them without even blinking.

either know what you're talking about or don't post. the op doesn't need misdirection and the thread hijacked.
charles
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Uhh... excuse me, but Oct 07 means October 2007 to me, not 7 October 2011, which means that the illegal entry was more than 4 years ago, not just a few months ago.
OP - did the entry happen in October of 2007? This is important to our understanding of when things happened.
I can't remember the process, but I thought it was a 3-year ban for first attempt at illegal entry, not a lifetime ban. If so, then the OP might be able to go forward with the K1 process if the entry was actually 4+ years before.
Hopefully, the bashing will cease and some more knowledgeable members will chime in.

Just an opinion from from real life experience and advice from a friend. My ex-wife ( not ex at the time) was talking to a man I didn't know. I found some cards etc. were exchanged and in my gut, I felt like something was wrong but, was not sure and I wanted to trust her. I confided in a woman I worked with and she said " if this man was just a friend, tell her to introduce you to him and maybe we could get to know each other" Well, after I told her this, she confessed that it was an affair. I think that if you want a good relationship, you should at least know of all the friends the other has, you might not become friends with them but, you will at least know if they have something going on or not. It is very difficult to hide feelings in person. Just my 2 cents. And I do believe it is very difficult for men to be just friends with a woman......the men almost always want more then just friendship

I would call them see if they can give you an extension or try to fix it like that. If not than just re-file again. Regardless I wish you luck with both the removal of conditions and your future baby boy.

As someone else said living in 3rd world countries or countries that aren't doing so well (including my country of birth) it is harder to get tourist visas. In Serbia most people that get tourist visas easily are older people with really really good ties to the country. A young person well they can go and set them selves up to be denied for it. I don't know if it will affect your K-1 I hope it doesn't and wish you good luck .

I just wanted to share with you the enormous happiness that produces the approval of my wife and her two sons!!!!!!!!

First, before anything else is said and done, she needs to be divorced. Nothing else can happen until then.
Hope for the best for them....but also love the fact that a food stamp recipient can afford to go on TWO cruises since October of last year.