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My son is 7... Him and my husband had a pretty solid relationship over the years, but finally meeting in person....the look on his face at the airport said it all. Thank God I captured it on film. We are still wayyyy early in this adjustment phase, but so far, those 2 adore each other. My husband started caring for him before/after school a week after getting here. They have a routine. They ride bikes together and horse around. My husband went to the dentist with him this morning, as my son requested he be right next to him during his cleaning. We also had their end of the year class party today, and my son was so happy to introduce his stepdad to his classmates My husband has been very supportive, cheering him on at all his baseball games, helping him with his homework and such. I really couldn't have asked for a better relationship between them.

No. The visa is not intended to grant people a trial period with their partner or in their new environment. It's to make wedding plans and settle in a bit. This isn't a "see how this works" visa. It's a visa intended for people who have already made the decision. I'm so tired of reading this here on VJ, people who think the K1 is actually intended as a 90 day test drive.

For as many people who bring people over to the US with not so perfect intentions, there are just as many who get into a relationship with not so perfect intentions and are looking for a way into the country. Then there are some people who are legitimately ready and willing to get married, and in those 90 days, things don't work out. Better to find that out BEFORE the marriage than after.
It's really so easy to judge relationships when we only hear one side of the story here on VJ, but remember, there's always another person involved who likely wouldn't be telling the same story you've heard.

LOL. Best MENA forum advice ever. If you think you might in any way resemble this description, do not proceed.

Romance building?
Wait, what?
Those skanks spent $50,000 on prostitutes - while their children and grandchildren for the love of God looked on.
I fail to see the romance.

yes 4 months is a strong indicator ROFL..
Try 5 years and post citizenship...then come tell us how it is ok?

The problem is your topic posses suspicions. How can anyone give you advise when we don't understand the premises based on which you pose these questions??????

Absolute classic VJ thread.
Congrats.

That would depend on whether it was the male or the female.

Tell her to get a good lawyer to send in the papers because if he is a bad interviewer and she is bad at sending evidence then an appeal will be denied also

Why is that guy still coming around ? I thought he was living elsewhere. Cut it, Kat. Tell him to take the rest of his stuff, and to file a change of address form at the post office, or you are going to mark all his mail "return to sender - addressee has moved, new address unknown." Stop letting him torture you. He is obviously enjoying being cruel to you - so stop letting him. Tell him to go away, you are done now.
You will feel a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders if you will just cut this toxic relationship.

ya, based on his prior posts,
the evidence submittted for the appeal/rebuttal was not reviewed by anyone at USCIS, and the appeal was denied.
That one singular thing can be overcome, and the evidence actually evaluated, as the USCIS threw down a procedural error in the casefile.
But, does it matter? It's on his wife to fix that, not him. He's not taking advice on fixing the USCIS procedural error, so I feel strongly that nothing more will be done that's positive for the current casefile that's about to go to the vault.
I've replied to him over a 3 month period, and it's the same result - he's flailing about, ineffective. and that's a shame, really.

The way I look at it is no one has ever been denied because they sent in too much information. They have, however, been denied for not sending in enough. It's your decision what you want to do. I understand you worrying since this is your last chance to prove your relationship before either an approved or denial.

Just thought I would update everyone. Our case was complete at the NVC today. Now on to the embassy and the interview. We are so happy!!!!

So you see how your own ideals are being compromised. You should be with someone that assures you, that makes you feel comfortable, honors you, brings out the best in you, etc, etc You shouldn't be with someone that causes you to violate your ideals so this is another point for the giving up section.
It's not about him or her, it's about you.

Oh man, I'm reading this and I'm shocked and saddened that its happening to you. My first instinct was to find out what the problem was and if he wants to work things out, but it seems like you've tried that already and he's expressed no interest in repairing things. He's just lost interest for whatever reason (mostly from this online chick) and from what you described, has no interest in trying to get back to where you were. He's done you wrong by cheating (emotionally or otherwise). He sounds like he's made up his mind about not wanting to love you anymore so why hasn't he cut ties already? The empty sex you described shouldn't have gone on long (and perhaps thats why he hasn't cut off yet). He gets to fulfill his desires with no effort on his part.
It saddens me to say this but it sounds like its over. He doesn't want you the way you want him. If he wants to meet up with this chick and exchange inappropriate messages, he shouldn't do it with you still part of his life. Confront him and just be ready to deal with what comes next. You're a smart woman, don't let this man or any other take advantage of you like this. If he can't love you the way you need to be loved, then he's not worth it.
I'm so upset about this now. Its taken me almost 30 minutes to figure what I want to say. Best of luck Saylin. You deserve so much better than this.

He's already disconnected from you. If he's not willing to own up to the problem(s) and work to fix them, then there is nothing you can do to change his mind. It's a huge fallacy that one person can change another.
It hurts, it stinks, but it's survivable.
Best of luck.

After reading all of the previous topics from the OP, I feel so sorry for the girlfriend who is going to supposedly meet him next month. Dude, I have seen some pretty desperate people come on here, but you take the cake

No, shame on YOU.

Sounds highly suspicious to me.

he seems all over the place.. FIrst he enquired about VISA lottery... then About K1 then even a work even visa..
Hell he even started a thread saying " What should i do when i meet my american fiancé for first time" lol
He does seem extremely fishy to me...

Don't listen to these guys, OP. There's an even faster way to get citizenship.
Step 1: Become a lawful permanent resident
Step 2: Join a branch of the United States military and be sent to an area where hostilities are being conducted
Step 3: Get yourself killed in said hostilities
Step 4: Have some surviving family member fill out Application for N-644, Application for Posthumous Citizenship
Step 5: Profit!

I find it interesting that you've already asked about so many different kinds of visas to the USA. Just my own observation

Marrying someone solely to get an immigration benefit is fraud.

What's the rush? You got an appointment or something?