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I had a really bad experience marrying someone younger than me for more than one reason. 18 years is a crazy age difference and as time goes by its going to matter more and more. I ended up divorcing him 6 years after we married and at first it was just awful. About 3 months later, I was in home depot and met a guy who smiled at me..Well guess what? He is from ALGERIA and has his papers LOL...and is one year younger. He married an American woman and it did not work out and left her.. Which to me is just incredible irony. We have been living together for about 5 months and hes everything the guy I married was not.
Personally, I would NEVER recommend marrying with such a huge age difference,especially someone that young. But if you are happy and he is happy and you can survive it if it does not last, go ahead. You never get a second chance to start all over and even though my experience was really hard, I learned alot and if every single thing had not happened EXACTLY the way it happened. I would never have met the wonderful man I am with . He is from the far east of Algeria and is very simple. My ex was flashy and Orani, total opposites. I cannot say that I could have EVER predicted I would meet an Algerian in home depot and we would end up living together but it happened.. So for all the pain I went through getting used for a greencard and passport and hurt so badly, I ended up ok.
You jump in. You hope for the best. You figure out a way to emotionally survive if he leaves you.
And then you wait for interesting things to happen, because they always do LOL

I would suggest you look on the MENA forum, there are many ladies with a similar profile there.

What is the procedure for a divorce in Morocco when a spouse abandons the marriage?
You do the divorce in Morocco. Nothing to do in the US.

Before you go to Algeria, get yourself an accordion file folder, and put all boarding passes, receipts, and other paper evidence in it to use in the future if you decide to file.
Aside from that, wipe marriages and visas from your mind. Focus your energies on getting to know him and determining whether you are actually compatible face-to-face.
All you need to file is one visit, but I would recommend getting as much in-person time as you can. Yes, it looks better to immigration, but much more importantly, it gives your relationship a stronger foundation. After all, isn't the ultimate goal not simply to get a visa but to have a happy and long-lasting marriage?
As far as older woman-younger man relationships, from reading the archives it seems like there are 3-4 couples that made it past the five-year mark. I don't think any of them are still active. As far as current posters, I think mimolicious has an age gap of 20 years (although you wouldn't be able to tell from her picture!)
Good luck.

There are several members who frequent this sub forum who have a similar age difference and are still together with their respective partners. Some have been pretty lucky when it came to the Embassy stage of the visa process but others have been denied the first or even second time around and their immigration journey drags on for years. I think it depends on the evidence you provide and its quality and also the perceived intentions of the beneficiary (consular officers and investigators always have their ways of finding out the truth).
I agree with Berber, forget about the immigration aspect of this for a while. Visit him and make sure he's really the same man you converse with online. Spend quality time with him and get to know him. Meet his family and spend time with them. Decide if he is really a suitable partner for you in the long run and make damn sure he has the best of intentions (I realize that some scammers are very adept at concealing their intentions for a long time but most of them are pretty transparent if you look at them objectively). Be mindful of the fact that your relationship in his culture is very bizarre, not well accepted, and that most likely he would never marry an Algerian woman your age. Most MENA cultures are very paternalistic and center life around the family unit. It is very uncommon for a young man to accept marrying a partner who cannot give him children or is edging up toward menopause, and even if he isn't enthusiastic about babies, his relatives would certainly be on his case about it. That's not to say this guy isn't well intentioned, but you need to confirm it with eyes wide open.

It seems that ugly people are getting denied now...

Jeopardize as in denial...I don't think so.Jeopardize as in further long wait? Maybe
When they talk about police certificates from other countries, they say they are valid indefinitely unless you travel back there. So that gave me the idea of being in the middle east for a year past that interview date and still there means whatever clearance they did before isn't current, so has to be done anew. But she isn't even out of there yet. So can they start anew until she is home? I really don't know because they never tell anything about AP, so it is all speculation. But it is the Middle East.....
Then you want to say give my passport back so I can get out of Kuwait, where I am with no passport. I think it looks a bit dodgy maybe. If she had stayed in England and out of Kuwait, I think she would have had her visa in June.
Ignore me because I don't know what I'm talking about. Just rolling it around in my head and saying the various thoughts that come to question.

Just wanted to check in and give an update to how our life is going since my husbands arrival here in May. After such a long journey , he is doing great and adjusting to life here in Vermont amazingly! A few tips for those of you with a spouse coming , prepare ahead of time! I found out where the masjid was for him to attend, he made friends quickly with others from Morocco and is playing soccer on the weekends with them. In July we went and got his permit to drive, with help from a friend at the masjid to translate his written exam ( his english and driving is great but vocabulary is difficult in the test). Last week he received his drivers license, which is a big relief for me not to have to bring him everywhere lol!
I enrolled him in an english class (which is free for immigrants), for the first few months to give him something to do while I was working and to help with adjusting to his new surrounding.
He will begin his first job in the U.S tomorrow I feel its been a pretty smooth transition and we are both very happy to have the past behind us and now to focus on our future together!

Talk about trolling? you guys have just derailed and are off topic,,,yes,,where is Charles!?The OP asked an honest question and you two clowns come in here calling everyone a troll FFS..grow up
now run along and go snitch to the moddies. say something that pertains even remotely to the post topic,,

And marriage is a real eye opener lol

I like my girls with a little "mileage" on them
bargirls tend to be better in bed,,more aggressive,,not shy,,and I in turn can pretty much just do what i want in bed,,and not worry about stuff

What's wrong with bar girls? I've known several, they seemed pretty cool.
I was a bar guy in college, and I turned out ok. I can mix up a mean margarita now!

The OP's opinions seems to have morphed between composing the premise of this poll and her latest post..... wonders never cease....

Its very obvious this guy is only with you because he wants to use you to get over here so so desperate and its a shame. My only advice to you is to run for your life, you can do better because when he gets over here, he will endure for maybe 2 or 3 years and once he gets his green card or becomes a citizen he will disappear and marry someone his age. Nigeria men are not stupid and no reasonable Nigerian man who wants to be with a woman who is 40 years older than him, a woman that can't give him children only if he wants something from that woman. iF your the man and his the woman maybe ya. The CO will know its for immigration purpose only and deny it but you never know, miracles do happen so goodluck.

They are suggesting Americans not to go to Egypt or they are not allowing it? Look life is too short to depressed about this. Get up and take action (if you can). Go to Egypt and be with him, trust me school or work can come later. You guys miss each other and it seems like your case isn't going too far right now. Be together and stress out but stress out together. We American citizen can go almost anywhere so save some money and take a flight to him!!

A MIRACLE just happened!!
VJ members.... thought I would share with you the news!
So after almost 14 months undergoing AP in Algiers, and at refusal email from the embassy on August 1st....., bright and early this morning I got a call from my fiance. He said " baby get on Skype and check the CEAC website," so I quickly jumped out of bed and did just that...... WOW, couldn't believe my eyes, " Ready" it is our new update today. Did not know what to think, because our entire journey has been a nightmare..... We were jumping up and down from excitement!. Then an hour later, the call I have been waiting for the last 14 months, my fiance again, he said "baby, guess what? I said WHAT? Just got a call from the American Embassy, was told to bring or send my passport, they are ready to issue visa!", I almost fainted. This was truly a MIRACLE!!
Whatever happened at the Embassy we probably will never know, but that is irrelevant at this point. We really prayed hard and asked God to intervene. At that moment we had let go of that heavy burden and gave it all up to HIM.
We are positive that the outcome of our journey was 100% Divine Intervention. Thank you my GOD!. Never underestimate his power. Be it and it is done!
A great thanks to all my VJ friends!
Diana
PS: To be continued........

Ditch the clown.

I got approved today yey
She was a warmhearted CO, she was concerned about our puppy!
She said " Ok, we're gonna issue your visa, but it may take some time"
She gave me a flyer showing my rights in the U.S
Her assistant said that i'm approved, and the time-frame for the issuance of the visa is unknown.
I hope they're not gonna change their mind LOL
thanks everyone

I had my hubby sent me both. I had read somewhere here that they needed the green long form. He did send me a half sheet and full sheet just to be sure. And of course both translated in English too. Good luck!

Nice dig at immigrants in your last sentence. I'm sure that will go over well here.

When it comes to immigraton... it seems that if people don't qualify under the law for a greencard, they can always go with VAWA or asylum (political, religious, now sexual orientation, etc).
I have always wondered why the US is always the one taking in these asylum cases. Why can't they go to any of the other hundreds of countries, if they can't stay in their own country?

are VERY VERY happy to announce that...WEGOT OUR VISA!!!!!! My GOSH, what a feeling!!!! After 3 1/2 years of being apart, it all just feels surreal..I think i'm still in shock! Our families laughing and crying and congratulating us was just the icing on the cake..ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I have so much energy now, i don't know what to do with myself hahahhaahah I just want to take the time to thank you ALL for contributing such a wealth of information to us and some have even became very dear friends (some old, some new) throughout the whole process. We couldn't have done it without you all!! Thank you, thank you! Hoping to get him here in a couple of weeks...Now..I'm going to go spend some of this energy doing my happy dance! Woot!

Maybe you (the USC) shuld find a tough American Girlfriend & move her in, n see how fast she boots out the x-wife??? Lol seems legit!!

If you have a conditional green card then the RoC window begins 1 year and 9 months from the "Resident Since" date.

The embassy will not interview you at your request. They handle that in a couple of different ways if they want to talk to you they will call or email him to come in for a second interview or the embassy will telephone you at the number you put on the forms.
I would not rush out and get married. Try to wait the AP out and see what their decision is. You could very well get the visa. In the mean time continue to produce proof of relationship. Phone records, emails, etc.
I know how hard the waiting can be my husband has been in AP for a long time but I think the biggest mistake you could make is to not give the embassy some time to make a decision about your case. They did not deny him on the spot. Most Muslim males and males from that part of the world go through AP these days so it's not unusual that he is in AP.
The embassy is really trying to look out for your best interest. His brother got over here by using the K-1 then later ended up divorced but most likely still living in this country. They just want to make sure the other brother, your fiance, is not using you to do the same thing. It looks like the family wants to marry American women just to get over here and then divorce them. That's the way it looks to the CO. Just give the embassy some time. That's my 2 cents worth.