Tosh Love

Don't ever regret giving love to any creature in this Universe. The Universe will take care of how he received your love. Stay blessed!

What does your common sense tell you?

Don't ever regret giving love to any creature in this Universe. The Universe will take care of how he received your love. Stay blessed!

Don't ever regret giving love to any creature in this Universe. The Universe will take care of how he received your love. Stay blessed!

Don't ever regret giving love to any creature in this Universe. The Universe will take care of how he received your love. Stay blessed!

Don't ever regret giving love to any creature in this Universe. The Universe will take care of how he received your love. Stay blessed!

Don't ever regret giving love to any creature in this Universe. The Universe will take care of how he received your love. Stay blessed!

My current husband is my childhood friend so I just did a timeline.
Example
June 1982 -- Met John in Addis Ababa where I lived
July 1984 -- moved to US and kept in touch with Sally
April 1990 -- went back home to Addis Ababa to visit and stayed with Sally
Etc. Etc.
I hope this helps

I wrote the following to the author:
Dear Ms. Preston,
Thank you for your article "Program Benefiting Some Immigrants Extends Visa Wait for Others." Like the individuals described in your article, I am a US citizen with a foreign spouse abroad. With immigration legislation discussions currently focused on amnesty and reforms to work visa programs, my family and hundreds of thousands like mine have been thrown under the proverbial bus. I have reached out to my elected representatives, the USCIS Ombudsman's office, numerous legal professionals, and USCIS itself for help or information. There is no empathy or interest in (or sometimes even awareness of) the hardships currently facing visa petitioners of my type. USCIS has refused to set expectations for families suffering apart and there has not yet been any way to hold them accountable for their dismal performance. I am part of a community which has extensively researched the causes and effects of the administration's immigration policies and the ways in which they have been implemented. Official documents show mismanagement at USCIS dating back for years, and always it is citizens and their families suffering at the hands of the latest agenda pet project. To finally see some acknowledgement of this in the press is a wonderful relief, and I would be thrilled to see additional attention brought to the side effects of current immigration reform upon law-abiding US citizens' families. President Obama claims that family unity is a top priority for his administration, and that "humane" and timely processing is essential, but these things have fallen by the wayside for a large, unacknowledged demographic of Americans. My sincere thanks to you for shedding light on the issue and giving us a voice.
Best regards,
Name

Hi everyone
My husband and I and our two children are the family featured in this article. All thanks go to my husband for writing such a fantastic letter in the first place. We will keep you all posted if we get any news on anything.

Doubtful. I have an extremely long memory. I certainly will have better things to do with my time than trying to discourage people trying to help fix a broken system.
I do love the people who claim that I will forget and should stop attempting to fix things, who have also admonished people who came back after their visa and were attempting to make a difference still and told them to go and forget. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I honestly don't know what motivation you have for continuing to try to ensure that nothing is done to try to improve the system, but that's neither here nor there. As I said before, if you don't want to help, then don't help. We're going to compile this information and get this done. If it doesn't work, the at least we can honestly say that we did everything in our power to try to fix things for the better. That we didn't just sit back and accept what we were given.
We don't need apathy, or encouragement of apathy. We need action. If we do nothing, then we are certain that nothing will change for the better.

The point is attempting to introduce a legislative fix to our problems here. If the Comprehensive Immigration Reform or Republican proposal goes through without a provision that ensures that they do not create an insane backlog to the K1 and IR/CR filers, then they will be looking at crazy long processing times as they are the only immigration classes without numerical limits or time frames that need to be met. If we want to be considered at all in the immigration process and the current debate, we need to make our concerns known, not just to the public at large, but to our representatives.
You would think that the Republicans would be all over the DACA applications getting preference over US Citizens. But thus far, they really have not taken any notice. I think that putting together a well presented and researched packet will increase our chances of being taken seriously as opposed to just a few crackpots whinging about the USCIS.
I think that we should do what we can to improve the system that we have. We need to identify the problems, find the evidence that supports our stance, articulate how the facts support our stance, and provide a well thought out solution to that problem. The point is to not just take what we're given, but actively try to improve the situation for all of the people who are going to have to go through this process in the future. I know that I wouldn't wish the pain of separation on anyone else. Why would I just throw up my hands and give up when I feel there's a real opportunity to change things for the better?

congratulations i have been watching your journey this is the best news i have seen in a while
sara

I got an email from the embassy this morning. They said my husband's visa has been issued and he has to be in the States by March 9, 2014.
Most of you know our story. We were in AP 16 months when our visa got denied because the embassy said we were not legally married because I am a Christian and he is Muslim. We hired an immigration attorney and won our appeal. Our case was sent back to the embassy where we were kept in AP almost another 2 years.
My husband is strong and he kept our marriage together through the long wait.
I want to thank all my friends on visa journey that supported us and encouraged us through the years.

sit back, relax and grab a good book.... you have a while ... check out my timeline....

I will admit, it does seem fairly common with immigrants from Morocco. No one can say exactly whether it was the intent from the get go or that the problem is "visions of sugar plums syndrome". Many believe once they arrive in the USA that all their past problems from Morocco will disappear, mainly the ability to find a decent reliable job. I know from my own experience , my husband is finding it hard to accept that given the language issue and coming from another country that the only jobs available are "immigrant" jobs. Mainly manufacturing jobs which require a lot of manual effort or repetitiveness.
No matter who you are married too, if you are having difficulty with employment it will put a stress on your marriage.
I am trying to write here without bias , because I only have experience of my own from the 3 times I was in Morocco. If you don't have a job in Morocco, you will have family to support you and take care of you . You won't have your spouse breathing down your back to find a job like you will here. The other major stress once an immigrant comes from Morocco is the pressure of finding a job so they can send money home to help their family. It is a very high expectation and MOST need to do that. It is very hard as an American coming from our culture to accept that, but unless you understand the job/living situation in Morocco you won't. Everyone in the family contributes to helping the house run.
To the poster, one of the things I'm thinking is if your husband can't find work he's going to where he can find it. It certainly doesn't make it right and we don't know his version of the story. If your husband is living with his co-sponsors, I would contact USCIS to inform them of his change of address and that you are filing for divorce . Co sponsors are responsible for him as well. From what I've read , chances of the government coming after you for support are slim.
Please people responding to this post, try not to categorize all people from Morocco as scammers, while it is a high hit embassy. It could also be that more people return here to report it!
Advice for people intending to immigrate from Morocco to be with their wife/husband in USA. Life isn't as easy as you think here in the USA, you will have to work and work hard for your money. Your wife/husband also needs your financial support , and you should let your spouse know that you intend to send money to family in Morocco.
Advice for American spouse , its a big change for your immigrant spouse and a big financial step to bring them here. It will cause you stress and much of it!!
He/she will be very homesick and its a big adjustment. Marriage to anyone is a work in progress , adding another factor will make it double fold .
The fact that your husband returned back to you the first time, says something about his feelings for you. If he came will the sole intent to leave you he would have never came back after the first flee. If he wants to leave , let him go. Its hard but it will be harder if you spend time trying to hurt him like he's hurting you.
You don't own him, you do however don't owe him any help in removing conditions . Let him figure that out himself. IMO I would not let him return , I wouldn't be able to trust him anymore and as another said he might only do it once he realizes he needs help removing conditions. If you are truly done with him, don't help with that it will only cause you trouble.
Wishing you the best to get over this, it has to be terrible! It's too bad that when a marriage fails with an immigrant this fast, the american is left feeling used. It could be the case , or it couldn't. You may never know.

Be careful. As was posted before, if you do not intend to marry him, but go through the process of bringing him over, then you have committed immigration fraud. Remember that it is a felony. You can be arrested, fine or jailed depending on circumstances. It may be best to cut your losses and move on. Oh, and by the way, don't buy his ####### about crying and changing. That is what is called manipulation: the attempt to try to make you feel guilty in order to coerce your actions. If he has resorted to that, then there is desperation. I wouldn't be surprised if he tried something else pretty soon, i.e. having his mother sit and chat with you, family desperately imploring you. And god forbid, the use of force or violence. Careful!!!

If you bring him to the U.S. on a K-1 visa with no intention of marrying him that could be interpreted as fraud. Just saying.

Yes, file for AOS, do t leave her In Limbo... Also, since you are leaving so soon after her arrival, on a personal note, please be sure to take some time to prepare your spouse for being left alone in a strange country so soon after her arrival... That is a big culture shock and an adjustment difficulties will only be compounded being alone...

My heart goes out to you. Has your family researched Peritoneal Dialysis options yet? You can get the machine for around $25,000 (costly I know) and there are international organizations who assist with acquiring this and cost associated with it is much less than Hemodialysis in the long run. I have clients who are in the reverse situation in that they are currently here in the US and want to return their home country but cannot afford the treatment there and this has been a viable option for them. Anyway, just my two cents and best of luck.
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I suppose you have the right to change your mind but in all fairness you explaining daily life and responsibilities to him made no difference because he has no reference point. He was never married, does not have kids, has never moved away from home. Ofcourse he is going to be clingy he is homesick, have some consideration. How would you feel if you had to leave your whole life children included and start anew in a foreign country. Okay he may not have children but he had an entire family, it is normal to feel the way he does. You did research? Then why entertain the brother about signing paperwork? If you were so thorough you would know you are not responsible. Obviously you did not prepare yourself realistictly to what he would experience. Now that he is in your face, then he becomes and inconvenience? I feel bad for him but as many have stated he has 90 days to marry or go back to Morocco. I would also take the opportunity to visit family, heck after this outcome I would need the moral support as well. What he does after he leaves your home I suppose is between him and USCIS, I recommend he goes home before the 90 days. All you have to do is report that the marriage did not happen and I am sure they will ask for his location so have the address handy.
Shaking my head poor guy....

I'm surprised people are only talking in favor of the woman, forgetting the man involved too. Did the woman say the man has done something bad to her that she dislikes?
All because she filed for him, so she could just get up one morning and say i don't wanna be with you again so leave? She has the absolute right to do that, but VJers should analyze this issue well. At least you guys have to know what the guy has done because bringing out such harsh conclusions......

Wow, this breaks my heart and I am short of words for the OP. I am a mental health counselor by trade but to be honest with you, no one will be able to relate to what you are going through no matter how hard they try because you are hurting on so many levels--relationship, financial, politics, distance, etc. etc. The only thing I can suggest is to continue talking and sharing with people who are going through this process and remember that you are NOT ALONE. I do not want to inject myself into this situation because that would imply "I know what you are going through," which is BS. No one knows what you are going through, only you do. I admire your courage and gumption to be able to share this on this site and I wish you nothing but the best. Feel free to let me know if you want me to participate in any forum and share. God's Speed and Blessing!!
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I'm not sure about the immigration end but I do know a lot about ectopic pregnancies. It is not safe to fly right now. First, the pressure changes can affect your body. You could easily bleed out in an hour. It happened to me. I had to have 10 units of blood and CPR twice on the operating table. DO NOT FLY! You can go to a not for profit hospital and have the surgery then ask for a write off for hardship. People do it all the time. Pay $5/month on your bill if you have to but do not fly. You could bleed out in the air and no one could do a thing about it. Have you asked the doc about methotrexate? Is it too late? Please message me if you have any questions. I do this for a living and I'm 100% sure that you are not okay to fly with an ectopic pregnancy.