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4 hours ago, Jorgedig said:

Really?? That is amazing.   I have never heard of the embassy "asking" if someone "wants" a DNA test.....

 

Normally if they suspect fraud, they will go in that direction.

Yes, I was asked but declined it. I don’t know about others situation. I am saying what I encountered.

1 minute ago, JeanneAdil said:

important is what immigration says for the DNA for him to have gotten the US passport for the CBRA 

he must have followed the rules or US embassy would not have approved

so, he has a child / for that i say congratulations 

and hopefully u can travel occasionally to Ghana to visit him

the embassy sees many fake documents / but the DNA test from USA  goes straight from US to embassy as following indicated 

 

DNA sample collection at a U.S. embassy or consulate will only be conducted for pending U.S. passport, CRBA, or immigrant visa cases. For samples to be collected overseas outside an AABB-accredited lab, the lab must send the DNA test kit directly to the applicable U.S. embassy or consulate.  Parents, or other relatives being tested, must not directly receive test kits for themselves or their children.  Once the U.S. embassy or consulate receives a DNA kit from an accredited laboratory, they will schedule an appointment for DNA sample collection by an authorized panel physician or designee.

 

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/legal/travel-legal-considerations/us-citizenship/US-Citizenship-DNA-Testing.html#:~:text=DNA sample collectio

No! The embassy asked if I wanted a DNA, I said no because I trusted the person. It was after the passport was issued before I realized that she was cheating behind my back. That’s when I used DNA Direct Solution and my friend who’s a doctor to collect the child’s sample and sent to me. My sample wasn’t  collected in Ghana. It was collected in the USA. Is there a possibility that different sample could’ve been sent to match mine. I doubt it! 

5 minutes ago, Timona said:

 

Wait? Someone carried samples for you from Ghana??? I have never heard this. 

 

Not sure who amongst our VJ members is in the medical field to chime in here. So, we will wait. 

This was done by me personally. Not the US Embassy. At this point, the child already had her passport. Just wanted to make sure the child was mine. I used DNA direct solution and someone collected the child’s sample. 

7 minutes ago, Timona said:

 

1. Who did the DNA? I ask this for a specific reason. Anything can be bought in Ghana. So, unless you were there personally or had a trusted person, I wouldn't belive it. You and I know we can get a legit death certificate of a walking person 🤣 down there. So, who did the DNA? 

2. Did embassy require DNA? 

The DNA sample was collected and it was done in USA. The child’s sample was sent and mine was collected within the USA. Except you tell me that they sent a different sample for the child lol

22 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

then  honor your obligations and send child support (and keep proof of what u send)  

some day this baby (as an adult)  may look u up and want to know things 

 

a friend of mine found his dad late in life and thougt the dad didn't care 

and the father proved he sent support and Bday gifts  this is important to u and the baby 

mother may spend money on anything /  u can't control that but she still is taking care of the babe 

so, suck it up,  u played hard and now will pay hard including the emotional part

My child is well taken care of. As matter of facts, I shipped her food, clothes, and other things she need every 4months from the USA. I will never back off from my responsibility. I brought her on this earth and provide the care and protection she needs until she become of legal age to take care of herself. 

6 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

yes,  u would have to pay but a lot less than if u petition for her and the baby

Any reference to what you are writing for me to read? 

24 minutes ago, Boiler said:

With the Baby Momma situation I was assuming they had done the DNA to get the CRBA

 

If she was able to get to the US with the child be prepared to have your wallet emptied 

I would never have a problem supporting my child Lol. I assume, if I cater to my responsibility, what’s the need of putting me on child support? Even putting me on child support, wouldn’t it be the same as taking care of my child? No big deal here  

31 minutes ago, Family said:

If you are certain you are not forgiving the alleged infidelity, then she too can move on , so to speak and find another USC “ to love and cherish til death= marry “ even from Ghana. 
 

May I ask why you waited so long to marry and petition her yourself? 
This considering quite some time has passed ( time to impregnate, pregnancy..CBRA for baby)…yet you were on the fence about commitment?

I met her in a course of a year and my second visit she got pregnant. Prior to that, I was hearing hearsay but didn’t want to believe anyone until there was evidence to proof me right. And sure with time, it happened. Child just turned 1year in May. I had the paperwork put together to file but the delay was on her part. According her, she played DV with someone as a married couple and went for interview but they were denied. Therefore,  she needed to go through the process of divorce before I could send the K1 visa in. According to her, the marriage wasn’t legit I was actually planning to send in the paperwork after returning  for my daughters birthday but now, with what I know, I am not going forward with sending the petition. 

37 minutes ago, Timona said:

With her cheating, you need to do a DNA test to ascertain if that's even your kid. If you find out it's not, you wash your hands, contact embassy and get that PP recalled. 

DNA was done after I noticed that she was cheating behind my back. It’s confirmed that the child is mine. 

1 minute ago, Misscloud said:

yes. when ur kid is over 21, kid can petition the mother if the kid wants to

kid need to live in certain year in US to be able to do that

What I mean is, can she get like a visiting visa pretending to bring the child for visit since the child has a US passport? One of her friends told me that she wants to use the child to come to USA and then marry someone else. I don’t know if that’s possible. 

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

Most courts would not give the father sole custody unless there is something very disturbing 

 

Best to consult a local family lawyer 

2 minutes ago, Adventine said:

Which country are they in right now? Depending on the country, if the parents are unmarried, it's possible for the mother to have automatic sole custody of the child (ex. Philippines).

 

Your child would be able to petition for their mother... after the child becomes 21 years old.

They are in Ghana, West Africa. 

3 minutes ago, canadian_wife said:

 

Some of the more experienced members will correct me, but that might be classified as kidnapping. 

good luck 

I don’t want to kidnap the child. I thought there was an option available through legal means. 

Is there any  possibility that she can be given a visa based on the child’s citizen for her to immigrate to the USA if I don’t file for her?  

9 minutes ago, canadian_wife said:

I'm sorry, to be clear. Are you asking how to bring the child to the US without the mother's permission?

 

Good luck 

If this is a possibility, yes! 

Hello Guys,

I had child abroad with a foreign citizen and did the Consular Report of Birth Abroad (CRBA) and also applied for the child’s US Passport. The passport was printed by the US embassy in the foreign citizen home country and was picked up by child’s mother when it was ready.

I was thinking on immigrating both the child and mother to USA. However, upon my visit few months ago, I realized she was chatting with dudes and cheating behind by back. Because of this sad situation, I don’t trust her anymore and only want to get my child out of her country because of the lack of opportunities for my child. 
 

she is adamant and wouldn’t allow me to fly the child to the USA. Is there help out there that could help me getting the child from her? Moreover, financially, she can’t afford to take care of the child. All responsibilities for my child and her families have been on shoulder until I knew she’s cheating behind my back. I’ve decided to cut all support to family and only take care of my child at point. 

please help if you know of anyway I could get my child fit the USA.