Pandora Gadomski

On 1/10/2022 at 5:21 PM, Jimmyzr1 said:

First of all, I initially visited my girlfriend in the Philippines in October of 2018, traveled the country and with her, then came back to the US. I moved there in January of 2019, leased a couple of houses, then moved back to the US in February of 2021. We married online through Utah on a zoom wedding in December of 2021.

 

I am wondering if I should go to the the Philippines to consummate the marriage for the CR-1 requirements, which in Manila is starting to lockdown for unvaccinated, like myself, or stay in the US and file a K-1, K-3 Visa? If I try to go to the Philippines currently, they could shut down totally for foreign, unvaccinated between when I purchase the airfare and book quarantine hotel and actually get there. I would have to currently book a 7 night hotel, which could change to up to 14 nights.

 

Also, the President is not currently letting unvaccinated move in or around the city. I would have to travel an hour away after quarantine, if even allowed to travel. I have heard of others getting stuck in the quarantine hotel, saying they tested positive for covid, even though no symptoms and would either have to stay there 14 nights, or maybe get moved to a government facility.

Things there could worsen at any time. It would be pretty costly, Probably spending at least $3000, could be much more, between airline tickets, meals, covid tests for a 3-5 week stay. Altogether, the trip could get up to $4-5000, all said and done. 

 

The main thing I’m considering is which way would be the quickest and easiest avenue to get her and her son to the US during this covid (removed)? I realize the CR-1 is only one step, the K-1 or K-3 requires 2 long processes to be completed. I may also end up having to hire help with processing the paperwork as I seem to get off track or at times. 

The next thing I’m wondering about, is I’m planning on moving, probably back east somewhere, possibly South Carolina or Florida, moving away from California. I’ve heard California has long processing times, but maybe everywhere does. Are any states to file quicker than others? Thanks for any help or advice!

I was married via Utah courts as well. I have a letter from Utah clerk of courts stating that the wedding is NOT considered a "proxy" or "virtual" wedding and is in the same standing as all weddings that are performed in the state of Utah. Can you contact Utah Clerk of Courts and get this same letter? Check to see, it might help. 

On 12/8/2015 at 11:13 AM, Kat&Jon said:

There were some instances in the document where the Beneficiary's Birth Certificate was requested. I can reach out to those individuals (hopefully they are still active on the forum) to see if they ever got an explanation as to why it was requested for the petition.

My best guess is that when they attempted to do the background checks they were missing some information and requested it. Or it could have been requested as proof of an original name prior to any name changes they had due to previous marriages or other legal name changes. That is just my guess based off of what I have read in the past but this particular RFE has only happened a small handful of times so I can't imagine it will be required moving forward.

I will try to get an explanation why, but keep in mind the USCIS is not accustomed to providing people with clear explanations as to why it was requested and we may never know exactly why they needed them, but I will try to get an answer.

They asked me for the "long version" of my husband's birth certificate as well as a translation since he was born in Poland. I went through the Polish Government via a Polish attorney to obtain an original,  had it translated by certified translator. They not only did not accept it but they told me it wasn't submitted.  I submitted it on 3 separate occasions; 2 via parcel post as well as I uploaded it online. They never explained why they wanted it. (My husband was the beneficiary)

On 4/21/2022 at 1:26 PM, Proactiv1 said:

Yes, she is and I'm hoping they go a bit easy on me as far as the employment goes. I'm going through job interviews and hopefully I land something soon so my unemployment wouldn't become a problem. Let's see.

I wish you the best of luck. I was denied for my disability income not being sufficient. What's crazy is that the "fear" is that my husband could be a potential "tax payer burden". The thing is, I was already receiving benefits and as my husband, he wouldn't be and isn't even eligible. Best of luck to you and your family, I hope it all works out.

3 minutes ago, Timona said:

 

 

No you didn't need to be physically together. He was coming in on ESTA. Bolded on your reply is for those who are coming in on IR1 visas...the USC needs to enter with the beneficiary at the same time or should already be in the US prior to beneficiary arriving. He could have entered in ESTA/ VWP/ B-2 fine, without your presence. 

 

So, you now answered @Crazy Cat about when the I-130 was filed. It was properly filed. 

 

Queation: Were you in US when you did Utah marriage? I'm trying to understand why you did Utah if both were in London 

At the time, he was not able to enter the U.S. without us being married. I wanted to marry where it would be recognized by the U.S. marrying in a foreign country required special forms and permissions by U.S. government. Having a U.S. marriage was better for us. Upon entry, CBP did advise us that he would not have been able to enter without me being physically present, regardless of marriage. We entered U.S. on May 7, 2021. Maybe the requirements have changed since then but at the time, I needed to be present. I had to also go thru customs with him. We were advised not to split up. (US passport holders enter thru a different line than EU passport holders, I had to go thru customs with him)

5 minutes ago, Timona said:

@Crazy Cat is talking about something totally different. 

 

Question for you: after the wedding, die you file I-130 immediately or you filed after you guys had physically met?

We married a few months after we physically met in London. He came to US on ESTA visa waiver (tourist visa) We were going to go back to UK after 3 months; originally. After 2 months we decided to adjust his status instead of going back to UK.  I filed the I-130 from U.S. after we were both present in the country. We did need to be physically together after the wedding for him to enter U.S. the i130 was filed afterwards. I hope that answers your questions. If not, lmk 🙂

4 minutes ago, Family said:

May I ask you to clarify for me if you had to go “ consummate “ the marriage, thus go visit your husband overseas BEFORE you filed the I-130? Thank you. You are the first person I’ve encountered with “ hands on” experience. 

Yes. We were together in London, England and were married online vis Utah courts. We flew to U.S (I am U.S. citizen). If I wasn't present he would not have been able to be admitted. (They told us this at the airport in U.S.). I think even if you "consummate" the marriage, it was my understanding that we needed to be together upon my husband's arrival, consummated or not. Subsequently,  My I-130 was denied because I didn't make enough money. We left the country 2 weeks ago. Today (Apr 20) is actually our 1 yr wedding anniversary. 😁

1 minute ago, Crazy Cat said:

Be aware that a Utah zoom wedding will not be recognized by USCIS until both parties have been in the physical presence of each other (consummated) either during or after the wedding ceremony.  An I-130 cannot be filed until after the marriage has been consummated.  

Yes. That is why I stated that their spouse must be present upon entry. I was married by Utah courts online and my marriage certificate states I was married In Utah.  I also have a letter from Utah clerk of courts stating it is not considered a "proxy" or "virtual" wedding. I was present with my husband upon arrival to U.S.

23 hours ago, Rocio0010 said:

You'd think that if it was legal, people would do it all the time, right?

 

Same answer. If that was the case, then what would be the point of a K1?

= fraud.

Same answer: You'd think that if those "creative ways" were legal, people would try them before engaging in the k1 process, right?

Utah courts does online weddings that are 100% legal in U.S. you can get an apostille for other countries as well. You would need to be present with your spouse upon entering U.S. though. It's very inexpensive 

On 4/19/2022 at 12:38 AM, Dozie said:

A friend of mine went for his IV interview and it went successful but the co gave him form 221(g) ticked IRS transcript colum and told him that he should get his wife IRS transcript of 2020 and drop it at DHL office with his traveling passport, unfortunately his wife income wasn't good enough, so please i want to know can he seek for a joint sponsor?  And what is the time frame to submit this IRS transcript of 2020? 

We had almost 3 months to submit the RFE. It tells you the date on the notice when it needs to be submitted by. You can do it online or via postal mail. My husband was denied because I did not meet the income requirements. Our family left the country 2 weeks ago. I hope it works out better for you than it did for us. Good Luck

My husband was refused as well. We decided to leave the country. We now live in Peru. Neither one of us are from here but it's working out. Good luck to everyone going through this process.

On 11/19/2021 at 3:38 AM, daniel_and_lily said:

To me the really frustrating thing is them saying she didn't bring enough evidence when they didn't even look through what she brought.

I'm filing an AOS for my husband and I just received an RFE. The thing is, the evidence they requested I already submitted!. Similar to your fiance, I was up all night for weeks preparing this extensive application and its monumental documentation.  I totally feel her frustration and pain with that one

On 11/19/2021 at 9:44 PM, smore said:

RO_AH is actually the one who made that comment about her not being a scammer.

 

I said in a post months ago in my orig introduction "Over this 1 1/2 years she has never asked for anything and I believe she has proven she is genuine"

 

RO_AH said "If at this point she has never asked you for anything she is not a scammer."

 

I again am not sure why she said that now, was she upset? frustrated? stressed? did she think I was telling her not to go aboard again to work as OFW, maybe. I never did reply to that message yet, wanted a bit of feedback, not sure if it was sarcasm or what?

 

flicks1998 - I do appreciate your more detailed response. Again she has never asked for anything, its been just about getting to know each other. I again do appreciate your response, not sure if this is a warning sign or not. I know for sure I am NEVER EVER going to be sending anyone money, NOPE not me. Been in enough in person, living with, etc relationships here in the USA where I have supported them because they did not want to work, DONE WITH THAT here in the USA and certainly never doing that aboard. I will not be storming any beaches, I will be ducking for cover and am sort of doing that now as I have not responded to her until I get some feedback on here. I do want to respond back and give her the chance to ask her "UM what do you mean".  I do want to find LOVE, find genuine relationship, life if much fuller with someone, but only the right person, not what I have been with most of my life, leeches, hard to find real and genuine now days, wanted to try overseas but than covid really thru a wrench in that plan, also the fact who is real and who is not.

2 words: Long Con

No disrespect meant

That said, tell her that you don't have any intentions on financially supporting her. If she still has the same feelings towards you and want to continue the relationship. I would keep it going. If it is a deal breaker for her if you refuse to support her, that tells you all you need to know. 

Good luck, I hope it works out

On 10/19/2021 at 4:02 PM, Scandi said:

The i-129f petition was the basis for the AOS if you had married within the required 90 days. Since you didn't comply with that requirement you need a new petition - this time the i-130 since you're married now. 

So even if you married after the 90 days, she could still have adjusted her status but with the i-130 petition included. She will have to start over from scratch now, as the i-485 likely will be denied as there was no valid petition to base it on. 

I'm still crossing my fingers that they somehow will approve you guys because of the pandemic making everything much harder. I'm saying "harder" because it wasn't impossible for you guys to get married within the 90 days. You could've had it done in a different state, not all states had as strict lockdowns and closings as NY.

Facts. You could have married online via Utah courts and wouldn't have missed your deadline. Water under the bridge now. As stated by others, you need to file the i130 with the i1485, i131. You'll have to include 8 passport photos of her, 2 for you as well as all the required documents. It's good if she has changed her name legally, they will want ID with her new information on it. Make sure the papers are filed accurately. You also need to include the i864. You can hire an attorney to do the forms or do research to make sure you file them properly.  If anything is done incorrectly,  you can be denied.

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

My mistake......

No worries.  We all make mistakes 😊

Just now, Pandora Gadomski said:

It's 40 hours of work credit 😊

3 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

or gain 10 quarters of work credit.

It's 40 quarters of work credit 😊

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

Reference, please?

Yea, sorry Crazy Cat, that's simply not true. You are on the hook until they become a citizen,  die or move back to their own country

1 minute ago, Pandora Gadomski said:

I agree with you. I'm not trying to argue either. My only claim is its about trust. You aren't required to trust anyone, regardless if they are related by blood or marriage. 

So, you DID mention the "D" word and drop divorce statistics. 🤔. Play word semantics all day, still doesn’t change anything. As yours, my comment still stands

8 hours ago, Mike E said:

I wrote a response to this post:

 

 

As your user name is not boiler, I definitely did not give you divorce statistics.

 

And with that this thread has run its course for me; not gonna get into an argument for something I’ve no desire to argue.
 

1.  OP doesn’t want to sponsor.  
 

2. OP doesn’t owe anyone their privilege of sponsorship. 
 

3. America is a free country.  
 

Nothing anyone says will change my views on the above 3 points.  
 

Over and out.

I agree with you. I'm not trying to argue either. My only claim is its about trust. You aren't required to trust anyone, regardless if they are related by blood or marriage. 

Just now, Mike E said:

I never brought the D word into the conversation so your question is to me is misdirected 

My bad. Getting confused on the responses. I thought you gave me divorce statistics

4 hours ago, Mike E said:

People who aren’t unconscious know that marriages can end in divorce. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/marriage-divorce.htm marriage rates are 6.1/1000 vs divorce rates of 2.7/1000.  2.7/6.1 = 44 percent. 
 

It’s like asking people who insure their cars for collision: “who buys a car thinking they will crash it?”

Yes, true. People also know their lives can end at any moment. Not sure what your point is. The i864 isn't about divorce or divorce rate, it's about trust. You trust the person you are going to sponsor, you think they are of good moral character,  or you don't. Not really sure what divorce has to do with it?

1 hour ago, Kor2USA said:

Essentially, by saying "no" the parents are telling the son-in-law they don't trust him and most likely do not support the marriage. 

I can see how this is devastating to the new couple. Especially if one of their reasons for getting married/ starting the AOS process was because the parents offered their support. 

If my parents in law offered to help and then reneged on their agreement to help us out, I'd be questioning my relationship with them and might consider cutting contact. 

Maybe I'm being dramatic, but I don't want people in my life who believe a) my marriage will likely end and b) I'll sue them if I divorce my spouse. 

I can agree. It's also a bit insulting. As I stated, you would need to have low moral character and audacity to sue your inlaws or ex-inlaws for support. That's some serious entitlement. Maybe it's better he knows what his inlaws think of him now. As well as the daughter, she no knows how they really feel about her marriage.

1 minute ago, Pandora Gadomski said:

True. But again, it's about trust. If you trust the person or not. If you don't, that's OK too. 

I think a person would have to have a lot of audacity and low character to sue their inlaws or former inlaws for financial support if the marriage didn't work out. Most would just go back to their country of origin or support themselves while awaiting citizenship. I still believe it's about trust and how well you know the person. If fear is an issue, maybe get a notarized statement from them claiming they will not try to sue in the event of divorce; "no" is a good response too.

Just now, Boiler said:

Some do, that is all I know

True. But again, it's about trust. If you trust the person or not. If you don't, that's OK too. 

12 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Who marries thinking it would end up in divorce?

True. But it's still about trust. Do you think he will sue for support or collect government benefits regardless of circumstance?