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Sometimes putting the pros and cons to a situation to paper reveals the answer to the matter at hand. Work on this together by taking a piece of paper and dividing it down the middle with "pros" on one column and "cons" on the other column. Then list each. Once you are complete then look at each and your answer should appear to you. Good luck. Sometimes a bird in the hand is better then two in the bush. 

It's on your timeline. Marriage 2/14/20. Maybe that was a hopeful date?

A little update:
 
Waiting to hear back on our RFE response. We're approaching the two week mark and, according to the data, it's possible we may hear back soon! 
 
I got to see my sweetheart over the weekend! The irony of the timing on all of this kills me, though. Basically, he has a massive career opportunity presenting itself here in the next few months. It sucks so bad that he won't be able to work remotely after coming here. If that were the case, he could potentially set things up so that he could run it remotely, but basically he has to either figure out how to set it all up to run without him - and train someone to take his place within the course of a few months, or just not step up to do it at all. Of course, the worst part about it is that the whole timeline is all just a guessing game anyway. I never was a big fan of gambling... *sigh* 
 
The other option would be just to push back his entry to ensure that he could complete the project (if the visa comes through before the project is completed). Pros: great for his resume, extra income for him. Cons: delaying an already long process even further, and once he has his work permit, the amount he could make here would easily make up for the extra income made by staying an extra month or so. There's just such a huge difference in cost of living here vs. there. So really the only reason to do it would be for resume purposes - and we don't really know if there's much of a market for his field here in the US - since his education is all in Spanish.
 
The problem is that he needs to make a decision soon and there are just so many unknown factors in this process.

I didn't send my girlfriend anything until after we met. Sending money to what essentially amounts to strangers who you sort of suspect to be scammers, otherwise you wouldn't be here, isn't being cheap. It's being smart.
 
It'd also be super cool if transphobia was left out of this thread or these forums in general. Thanks, all.

It's on your timeline. Marriage 2/14/20. Maybe that was a hopeful date?

It's on your timeline. Marriage 2/14/20. Maybe that was a hopeful date?

It's on your timeline. Marriage 2/14/20. Maybe that was a hopeful date?

Finally after heartache and submitting my rfe I got approved lol. Thank you Lord for the strength. 🙏❤️

Finally got approved today! Happy Valentine's Day everyone.
Sent I-129F: Sept. 30, 2019
NOA1: Oct. 8, 2019
NOA2: Feb 14, 2020 (130 days) found out from the case tracker app since I check it every day. No text/email yet.
 
 

I-129f approved!!
NOA1- 14th Oct 2019
RFE- 30 Jan 2020  ( they needed one passport style photo)
NOA2- 12th Feb 2020
Best Valentines gift !!
Thanks to all of you on this forum and Greenbaum for his service.
 
Next goal- getting the visa.

Approved!!! now the ugly happy tears are flowing
 
NOA1 - 10/21
NOA2 - 02/13
 
Good Luck to all those waiting to hear, the wait is hard but man, is it worth it!  
 
Cheers, 
 
L&L

My girl's birthday is Feb 4th and I sent her flower to her office in the morning and home at night.  She made me promise not to spend more money by sending her flower on Valentine's day.
I reluctantly agreed.. and I was trying to figure out how else to express my adoration to her while she is still in Vietnam and I'm here in Texas..
 
Well the USCIS just helped me out in a HUGE way... they just texted me to check my  case...
 
Approved!!
 
NOA1- Oct 22th
NOA2- Feb 13th
 
 
This will make for the best V-Day gift i can give her tomorrow morning when she wakes.
 
A big thank you for all of those on this forum that choose to help the us newbies, your time, advice and support is appreciated.
 
 

Just to update, I was notified that my RFE response was received Feb 5. I saw that it was pretty common to hear back in about two weeks, so that would be super exciting! However... the most exciting thing is that I'm headed to Mexico tomorrow to spend a long weekend with my honey!! Hoping to see some more NOA2s in here before the week's up! Hang in there, guys! 

Just to update, I was notified that my RFE response was received Feb 5. I saw that it was pretty common to hear back in about two weeks, so that would be super exciting! However... the most exciting thing is that I'm headed to Mexico tomorrow to spend a long weekend with my honey!! Hoping to see some more NOA2s in here before the week's up! Hang in there, guys! 

There's 2 more days this week! You just might get it by the end of the week! Good luck!

Sooooo HAPPY FOR YOU!!!
 
#MyTurn #MeNext #ImReady!! 

Approved!!
 
NOA1- Oct 11th
NOA2- Feb 11th

Sit and reflect on the relationship and what has transpired. Decide what is important and does he meet those expectations. Let your sense of right and wrong decide your path, not your heart. 

Hi, @Gummybear. I just got caught up on your posts. Please, please look out for yourself. Make sure you have someone to talk things over with, someone who isn't afraid to give you their honest opinion and has your best interest in mind. People lie for a lot of silly reasons. People make mistakes in relationships and it takes a lot of courage to come clean. My fiance and I started our relationship off a bit rocky because he wasn't honest with me that he was seeing someone when he met me (I pursued him). It was one of those situations where it was more casual for him than it was for her (which is NEVER okay, btw). It took him far too long to admit to her that the reason he wouldn't see her when she was in town was that he had met someone else and we were developing feelings for each other. After a month or so, he "officially" broke things off with her and told her everything, but it wasn't until a few months later that he admitted to me that he lied to me in the first place. In the end, her and I became good friends and he learned a valuable lesson about honesty and overlapping relationships. 
 
All I can say is that self-love is about having firm boundaries and high standards for yourself and your relationships. Hold your partner accountable. There are times where the right decision is to walk away, and there are times where you can forgive and move forward - but the latter requires complete honesty and a lot of vulnerability.

Hi, @Gummybear. I just got caught up on your posts. Please, please look out for yourself. Make sure you have someone to talk things over with, someone who isn't afraid to give you their honest opinion and has your best interest in mind. People lie for a lot of silly reasons. People make mistakes in relationships and it takes a lot of courage to come clean. My fiance and I started our relationship off a bit rocky because he wasn't honest with me that he was seeing someone when he met me (I pursued him). It was one of those situations where it was more casual for him than it was for her (which is NEVER okay, btw). It took him far too long to admit to her that the reason he wouldn't see her when she was in town was that he had met someone else and we were developing feelings for each other. After a month or so, he "officially" broke things off with her and told her everything, but it wasn't until a few months later that he admitted to me that he lied to me in the first place. In the end, her and I became good friends and he learned a valuable lesson about honesty and overlapping relationships. 
 
All I can say is that self-love is about having firm boundaries and high standards for yourself and your relationships. Hold your partner accountable. There are times where the right decision is to walk away, and there are times where you can forgive and move forward - but the latter requires complete honesty and a lot of vulnerability.

Received our NOA2 last night after 125 days of patience 😄 

Mailed RFE response today after receiving it Friday, 2/7. Simple response - forgot to check "no" on 4.a.
 
Hopefully a quick turn around to NOA2!

I got my NOA2 on January 28 filled on Oct 9. Waiting time was 112 days. 

For me that's a deal breaker. If you can't share everything with your partner, you don't have a partner. Sorry, but you have a hard decision to make but better to do it now then get to the States, if that will ever be, and find out his dark secret. Something doesn't smell right here and you are smart to have figured this out early. Remember, the fish stinks from head to toe. Find out now.

Just a bit of caution with the use of the engagement photos and the visa process. Though it may not be true for your embassy but those in other countries have faced a higher amount of scrutiny when "engagement photos" are used for evidence of a continued relationship. Some applicants have used them in front of the CO and the CO interrupts the pictures of the engagement as a "wedding" and without notice DECLINES the visa application. This is typically a problem for those in India who dress in customary traditional clothing that is worn at a wedding. I'm not up on Vietnam and their customs but I just want to make you aware of it. I would hold the pictures close to the vest and only offer if they are asked by the CO. Just my experience and the experience of many others on VJ. Safe travels.
 
https://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/639695-k-1-visa-denied-what-now-appeal/
 
https://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/593292-not-legal-wedding-ceremony-prior-to-k1-visa-interview/