pauli

Geez....calm down!!!
It is completely unnecessary to berate the OP about this. She obviously didn't know that this was something that was frowned upon. I think she gets it. As someone who understands what the OP wants to do, she is not bringing her SIL here merely to avoid day care costs.
Believe it or not, in some cultures it is customary for a member of the family to travel and help a couple who has just had a baby. Its not unusual for a sister, aunt, cousin, what have you to take time off from whatever they are doing to help out with a new addition to the family (and yes, some can take off months at a time). It is how we keep a sense of community. When my SIL had her baby 2 years ago in MD I took off work to go and be with her to 10 days. She didn't ask, I offered. The same offers came when I had my son in August.
Its a lot more than someone coming here to defer the costs of taking care of a child.

You might want to mention the I864 she signed...

If he was an upstanding why was he shoplifting ? I think someone needs to rewrite the definition of upstanding to something other than " he didn't get caught for a really long time" because I will bet that wasn't the first time he comminted a crime in that time.

You needa send the joint tax returns thos are pretty important. Atleast the last 2 years if not more if you have more.

You are just DEAD WRONG on this. Please drop this line of nonsense.

All the potential problems mentioned above are myths. They do not apply to the OP's circumstances. Marrying and adjusting status while in the USA on a tourist visa is perfectly allowed. Intention upon entry is the only intention questioned. (If even that) In this circumstance intentions clearly changed AFTER entry. Unless the foreigner has a personal pressing need to leave the USA before they can complete AOS or obtain Advance Parole, they can confidently and safely choose the adjustment of status route.
May I respectfully suggest that when more senior members make recommendations, you think to LEARN from them, rather than confuse the new member with false arguments? You don't know as much as you think you do.

I think a lot of people here give advice on K1 because either they are unfamiliar OR because they feel that since they had to wait everyone else has to wait. People that suggest marrying and adjusting status here are absolutely right. Tim/Mav is absolutely wrong on all the points.

It appears to me she only decided that because she is unfamiliar with the processes and and is getting misinformation here.
All people should be fully informed before they make their decisions. The OP has a few options right now, and I think we can all agree the OP should make their own decision after being informed of the processes and determine what is best for them and their circumstances.

To the OP - because you asked this question in the K-1 forum, you will get people saying that you should do K-1 (because that is what they are doing and that is what they are familiar with). Unfortunately, some of the posters here are not familiar with the rules and just are giving you scare tactics. As Anh map said, you can marry in the US now and stay here without going home, by filing for "adjustment of status." You can do this because you did not plan to get married and stay here when you came here. The US recognizes that in some cases it is overly bureaucratic to force people to go home to do consular processing. If you went home you would have to wait there for 8+ months, and might not be able to visit because you have already been here for 6 months this year. I personally, don't think that is worth it to fulfill an imaginary imperative that it's the "right way." From what you post here about your circumstances, filing AOS is also the "right way."
Here is the VJ guide: http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide2
Also, check out the AOS forum for more information: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/130-adjustment-of-status-from-work-student-tourist-visas/
Good luck.

Baloney! People don't come to the US for free handouts. Those handouts are more difficult to get than you think. You can't stroll across the border and walk into a welfare office and get a benefits card.
People come to the US for work, and there's not enough jobs on the bottom end of the economic ladder to support an open door policy. The US job market is already bottom heavy with unskilled workers, and those are the only people who would be flooding into the US if there were no immigration policies. If you remove all social safety nets then the US will quickly devolve into the same sort of third world sh!thole many of those people escaped from - vast numbers of unemployed living in total abject poverty. Those people will leave, alright, but only after going back home looks more attractive than staying in the US. Personally, I don't want to live in that America, and I would greatly appreciate if our lawmakers don't take any further steps to make America like that.

Pfft switch careers. My jobs are hardly careers, mainly because my parents were working stiffs like me who couldn't save for college for their kids, and I'm not willing to go tens of thousands of dollars into debt in student loans to get a job where I don't earn enough to pay them off. I'm not chasing your bullsh1t "American Dream"- I'm trying to put food on the table.
Basically what you're saying is that rich people have a greater right to healthcare than poor people. That's what it boils down to. And that's exactly what's wrong with this country. You jackholes in the 10% feel like you're more human than us 90% because you're wealthy. You're all just one bad day on Wall Street away from being poor like the rest of us. God forbid you find yourself in my shoes. Damn, I hope when the next Great Depression starts, all you rich fuxtards throw yourselves out of windows like the last time.

VJ is truly blessed to have Kathryn as a moderator and an active, concerned member, si man.
Another consideration is that the OP has simultaneously had to adjust culturally and develop a relationship not only with his wife, but with THREE other persons, who have to go through their own adjustments to the situation at a volatile age for anyone. Holy mackerel!

Alright, I am going to interject here.
First, unless you have had a lot of experience dealing with individuals whose first language is not English, do not assume that how you interpret someone's post is the same way they meant it. The OP's English use is consistent with someone who does not understand the nuances of the language. Instead of 'adding' your nuanced interpretations to his words, read the sentences individually and determine what they mean. It is equally interpretable as meaning 'my situation is thus - I have my green card so am a permanent resident. My marriage, however, is not going well. My wife's 3 teen aged daughters and I don't get along. My wife and I are arguing all of the time and we are both unhappy. If we get divorced, how will this affect my status in this country.". That is what he has said - and if you had read it as written in those words you would not now be accusing him of fraud.
Please, this website is supposed to be helpful and constructive, not judgmental and critical. When you read a post that you know is not written by a native English speaker/writer - think twice or three times about how each sentence can be phrased or constructed and put into context in the greater whole.
His situation is plausible and has been seen many times here on Visa Journey. Some relationship chasms are just too deep to bridge easily due to cultural differences and personality conflicts. Unless you actually have hard and fast proof that this man has committed visa fraud - and I see nothing in his post to indicate that he has (and I have had a lot of experience dealing with non-native English speakers), then answer his question with consideration and care - or do not participate in this thread. Speculation and supposition are good for gossip but not for facts.
This post is made both as a moderator and as a member of Visa Journey.
I repeat - if you have nothing constructive to add to this discussion, then do not add anything at all. Two posts violating TOS have already been removed and I will remove others if necessary.