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Word to the wise...if you are planning to change your name during this process, there are some things you need to know:
Pro: Financially it is a great time to do it, since the cost is included in your citizenship fees.
 
Cons/Potential issues:
1. It delays your oath ceremony, sometimes significantly.  You have to appear before a judge and those ceremonies are not offered as often.  Luckily our area was once a month, and it was local, however some more rural places may only have them once every 3 or 4 months.
 
2. If you plan to travel close to your oath ceremony, the process to get a passport gets more complicated and longer. 
                 A. You need to make copies of the naturalization certificate, at least 3 or 4
                 B.  You have to go to social security office.  They will mail your card to you, although you CAN ask for proof that you changed it so that you can change your license. Be aware that you cannot get your new license the same day. 
 

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                    They (SS) told us it would show up in system at midnight but the DMV said it had to be 24-48 hours and tried to turn us away,  but we told them we were told it would be available after midnight.
                 C. DMV, always helps to have an appointment or turn up first thing in the morning, and get in the virtual line with your smartphone on their website (if available).  Even though you have your old license, they still want 2 more proofs of residence/address.  They took our proof of ss change, but not happily.
                 D. FINALLY, passport acceptance facility.  I suggest going to a courthouse, they will do your passport pictures for you and there is less chance they will be rejected.  You can request expedited processing and 1-2 day delivery for them to send back the passport to you by courier rather than USPS.  With it being the holidays, we paid for the extra shipping.  Other choice is driving 4 hours to Miami for a passport agency, but I could not get a straight answer about when/how I would actually get the passport and even with losing 4 business days (holidays) over the 2 weeks between the first available appointment and the travel dates, they would not allow an appointment earlier than the 2 weeks.
 
I wish I had known this before, although we didn't know we would need the quick turnaround time when we first did the application 9 months ago.  Just putting this out there for anyone considering a name change and what to expect.
Best of luck.  These details relate to my experience in Florida, other states may be better/more efficient, but any knowledge helps.

Ask the Federal bureaucracies involved, DHS, DOS and USCIS. 

yes they are rude too. but I had to get an appointment with them cuz I had no choice . best of luck to your fiancé interview 

He had to call Dr. Nezha several times but he fnially reached someone and has his medical exam on Dec. 9th.  Best of luck on your interview!  
 
He had found a few bad reviews for him so he didn't even try to call him.  He tried Mounia but the receptionist was rude, as well.
 

I used Dr. Abdelaziz Janah, and quiet honestly I would not recommend him unless you absolutely have to go with him, not only is he rude but also both of his assistants are. 

I have interview same day as your fiancé it was hard for me to get an appointment to do medical exam I was not able to reach dr nezha on the phone the second one is filled up last one said theres only one spot left  on the 18th so I took it eventho it is so close to my interview as she said I will take my results the same day. try calling dr nezha I heard is might still be available 

Whichever one has availability! They fill up fast.

Affair being 3 years long says everything about him you need to know.
He cannot be trusted, hence the 3 YEARS long affair.
He didn't come out himself, you had to find out yourself. So he isn't open about things and has no respect for you.
I agree with majority for the most part, move on. It's gonna be hard, but for the best. 
I don't even agree with flings/one night stands as a mistake? HOW can it be a mistake? I'm old enough, and these "mistakes" never came up to me. Like how do you do that? How do you land with someone else in bed "by accident"? If you're responsible, respectful and love your significant other, when you notice first "flirting" signs (i have friends from teenage years, that i "flirt" with, but it's a joking around flirting that we did for years, but it's for giggles and that's how we joked around for years), you either clarify for the other that you're married and not interested, or break off the communication completely, the end. And thats me talking about monogamous marriage. I can't talk about Poly cause it's different, but not easier than monogamous from what i've heard.
The fact of 3 years would be stomach dropping, she'd be out of the house before she said anything, and there would be absolutely NO way of coming back. HOW can you trust person again, who hid, cheated, avoided truth for YEARS? At this point, he'd be just a stranger that i never knew. 
 
Hope you'll find your peace, i know this won't change how you feel, but i know how it feels to be cheated on. It sucks. But don't let him make you feel less. NOW it's your time to flourish and show him what he gave up, take this time into your hands and be the best yourself that you can. And the rest will follow. Keep your chin up.

One sided-love is self destruction.He  is  cheating on you for  3 years, I believe he clearly showed you that he doesn’t love you and doesn’t respect you either.
 
My dear do not walk but run from a scumbag like him.

I'm not here either to tell you what to do, or not. These are very personal issues that depend SO much on the people involved -- you, him and the other woman. But I do know that sometimes a marriage is worth fighting for -- and sometimes it's not. For me, honesty and openness are the bedrock of marriage, as much as love is, and sometimes even more. There are days when you may not feel like you love your spouse as much as you should, but without honesty the love is hard to maintain. I have to say, an ongoing multiyear affair for me would be a dealbreaker, much more than a one night stand, or a brief fling that was firmly over when I found out about it. Something short-lived can be the kind of mistake that also shows that there is remorse and recognition that this is wrong. Just as an example, I recently found out a good friend is cheating on his wife. He is not willing to end the affair, and his wife is saying that counselling will fix everything. I don't think it will if two people want diametrically opposed things -- one wants a monogamous husband, and the other wants his wife and his girlfriend -- and neither is willing to budge.
 
When you find out things like this, it feels like your life is going to end -- the axis of the earth is off kilter, nothing looks right even though superficially to outsiders everything looks the same. My ex walked out on me and when he did, I felt like life never would be the same again. Actually, that was correct -- life is different now without him, but significantly better, because I chose to make it better. If -- if! -- you choose to move on, trust that you will live. Even if you don't, it's time to gather your team together -- friends and family, wherever they may be -- and lean on them as hard as you need. I couldn't have made it without mine. You deserve happiness -- and if this isn't what happiness looks like, you can find it elsewhere. ❤️ 

Not to be harsh but that’s a red flag (for you, not the case). Many marriages suffer far worse stresses than being apart a year (not to minimize it, but). Many people here have been apart a few years before one can immigrate.
 
 
That’s incorrect, attempting to receive the benefit is all that is required. The wording is “The person procured, or sought to procure, a benefit under U.S. immigration laws;” (bold added)
 
https://www.uscis.gov/policy-manual/volume-8-part-j-chapter-2

In my experience, A third party carrier would ultimately deliver it... It will get there, probably not as expedited as we're accustom to here. But it will arrive. I'm sure you're already aware, but be sure to include a phone # with the address!

Probably will be delivered by chrono post but this is very costly / i looked into Fed Ex and it was over $100 for just paperwork
all shipments go to Casa for clearance first and then out to him
i had papers sent UPS overnight (4 to 5 days is what it turned out to be)
they will deliver to nearest postal station and he will have to pick it up
he has bus service to go to a larger city to get a package / just an inconvenience of living in small town or country
he will face many of these as the process gets more intense 
like going all the way to casa for a medical exam 
and going back to Casa for the interview