eric_and_teresa

LOL.. that 's very funny

They can't do either such thing...
Once the Greencard is issued the Affidavit of Support can't be withdrawn. They could call ICE and claim you married her only for the Greencard but then she'd need some kind of proof.
Cut off the gravy train, let her leave & file divorce. Whatever you do don't allow yourself to be alone with either of them again, change the locks on your apartment and limit communication to e-mails/texts so you can archive. If they call let it go to voicemail and then find a way to archive the messages. I would suggest getting a Google Voice number and telling them to use that number to contact you then change your cell/ landline numbers so they have to call the GV number. GV allows you to archive the voice messages and since they know they're being recorded when leaving a voice message the recording can be used in court or by law enforcement officials.
If you circle the wagons and look at her as a potential threat to your safety then take appropriate precautions then you'll be fine.

Fortunately, only a very few longer-time members post in the manner of the respondent in question. In this thread, the advice to follow is that of Bob 4 Anna.By the way, at the lower left of posts is the "report" button. If anyone derails a thread, posts anything untowardly judgmental, or violates the VJ Terms of Service, the VJ Moderators will respond to a report of same.

thanks bob4anna for that.
for KATIE. first of all, who says i have a lot of money?? if i had a lot of money then i guess i wouldnt have a problem like this and just give her whatever she wanted to avoid more arguement and bickering. if youll read my psost carefully, i said i think the reason why she wanted to marry me is because of the money. and to clarify, just because im not a resident thats why i cant have money/much money? thats where the word job gets in the picture. why would i worry about my gc? obviously its because i did try to save it but if she doesnt wanna cooerate, that whatelse could i do. isnt it right also to protect myself when i know they can use it againt me or at least to gain control of the situation again?. for the question where does the love go? ask her. i remained the same, she changed.

As a US Marine all I can say about your post and opinion is; you're welcome.

Quiet extreme view for someone who benefits from the freedoms that others have fought for...
Thankfully we have plenty of brave souls fighting for our freedom and our country's security..
I do however, agree with some of the comments you made.. Not sure where these other comments (regarding military and Murder) came from what they have to do with the subject, if anything other than BS ... Very odd.. But thankfully, in this country, people have fought and died for your right to make such ridiculous comments..
Very perplexing...

-50 points

Weighing in here based upon my own experiences as a moderator . . .
Yes, there are a lot of people who respond to questions they have read many times or people who are new or people whose comprehension isn't at their level with rude, dismissive and condescending comments. It does happen and it happens regularly.
Where this discussion here is starting to 'heat' up is involving a difference in understanding. Some are saying that it is alright to straighten out those who have misunderstandings, are asking 'noobie' questions or who obviously haven't done any sort of research in whatever way you feel is appropriate. Others are saying it doesn't cost anything to respond to those types of situations politely without becoming sarcastic or impatient or rude.
It is appropriate to provide the right information even if it isn't what someone wants to hear. It is appropriate to direct someone to resources that can provide them with information; it is appropriate to let someone else know that their choice of actions isn't the best - or even legal - approach. It is not appropriate to be rude, condescending or sarcastic when doing so. It is not 'what' is being said that is the problem - it is 'how' it is being said.
Visa Journey is supposed to be a supportive environment. Support comes in many different ways and people require different degrees and types of support. For some, just having access to the information resources is all of the 'support' they need. Others need to 'hold hands' as they manouver through paperwork they have never faced before in their lives. If you don't need the type of support someone else does, you still don't have the right to tell them they shouldn't be 'needy'. Count yourself lucky that you have the personal resources and experiences that allow you to do this more independently. Not everyone does - and that holds true regardless of education, culture, ethnicity, age and gender. There is no one size fits all.
There are always compassionate and caring ways to inform someone that they have got something wrong, that the processes involved are emotionally demanding and draining, that their attitude isn't helping them, etc. Attacking or insulting someone does not help them in anyway - all it does is give the poster a sense of selfish gratification that 'they 'got' something over on someone else. This isn't a competition nor is it a race. This is a life's journey that some of us are taking and each journey is as unique as the individuals involved. That alone deserves your respect, if not your compassion.
So, I will reiterate the advice/warning I often leave in threads that have been reported for inappropriate comments as well as TOS violating comments: If you are not able to respond in a way that is supportive, constructive and useful to the OP, then please do not respond at all. It only takes a conscious decision to be supportive and a little bit of careful forethought in choosing words to change a rude and unhelpful comment into a supportive and helpful one while providing the same information or advice.

Boy, when I see stupid extreme comments like this, it hard to stay quiet.. to the Mods, isnt there a mimimum age limit for members..
to the poster.. when you grow up, here are somethings to consider..
this is absolutely ridiculous statement.. I was never in the military, but my father retired from the Military, after fighting in vietnam. I can assure you, that this is one of the most ignorant statements of all time.. People enroll in the US Armed services for all kinds of reasons.. Some, because it's a job, some because it's an excellent oppurituty for your future in so many ways, third many beleive in something that is woth fighting for..
Regardless, you have no right to condemn them.. What kind of job do you have?
Thankfully, America doesnt need those friends of yours. The US enjoys the freedoms we have because of Brave Americans willing to fight for something rightous.. Especially for you and your friends...
Said from the peace and security of your living room.. Do you have a clue, how many forreigners would love to have that peace and security.. Thankfully, you have a Government that provides that...
Well, "Read to do it" you sure dont deserve any respect, but those that put their lives on the line, deserve it whether you agree with it or not.. again, a freedom to not only feel how you feel, but say how you feel is something you have from those brave men and women who fought and died for it..

This website is amazing and has some of the best people. That being said, there are some people on here who seem to just want to make people feel stupid or bring them down. I have seen posts asking about booking flights and scheduling weddings and yes, you shouldn't do any of that until the visa is in hand but NO ONE IS PERFECT. People get excited and may get bad advice and jump the gun a bit. Does that give anyone the right to be mean or disrespectful to someone else? We are ALL on here b/c we want to marry our loved one so maybe people could try having a little compassion for the other people on here. If someone asks a question that you think is stupid, JUST DON'T REPLY!!!!! My mother always used to say "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Maybe some of the people on here need to follow that mantra. Just b/c you're miserable doesn't mean you have to try to convert everyone else into a life of misery as well.
Good luck to everyone and God bless!!

Nope. No need for it (not now that you've AOS'd so proved that you entered legally).

They may not use the CD considering they are not allowed to put anything on their computers.
You will want to print pages of pictures with captions instead incase the CD becomes discarded and you lose a bunch of your " proof "
No you can still end up with one if they deem it needed.

Hopefully you shall hear back soon, but if you don't, don't be too nervous about flying with your expired greencard and your letter (NOA1). I did that this summer and had no problems at all. A couple of the officers did not know what the letter was, but a few words with their supervisors cleared everything up.

He can fly within the US. He won't go through any immigration checkpoints. TSA checks identity, not status. Good luck.

This is a much better statement than the previous one.
Your observation is correct but it's not just a Philippines thing it's more like an Asian Culture thing. Asian families are much more connected to their extended family than the average American family is. We do holidays together, they live in multi-generational houses.
Iv'e seen my wife have stronger connections to her cousins than many Americans have to their own siblings. They consider cousins' kids as their nieces & nephews.
It really is a beautiful thing. But like most great things there are always those who distort and twist it for their own purposes. Your average Filipino is a proud & hard working person. Unfortunately some have come to the conclusion that they don't need to do their fair share and can just live off the rest of the family without contributing. These are the ones who just want to get to America for the better life.

Red flag!

First of all: my deepest condolences.
Second of all: What. An. Idiot. [Him, not you!]
As a con man, he's totally incompetent. You are, of course, correct. Without AOSing, his stay will expire in 90 days, and then he's out of status.
You should be aware that if he has a copy of your marriage certificate, and can fake your signature on an I-864, he can try to file for AOS on his own, assuming he even knows he needs to do this. [Was it you or him who did most of the paperwork? If you did it all, he may not be familiar with the process enough to even know he's bailed before he locked in his status.] You can [and should!] head this off at the pass by calling USCIS, talking to a second level service officer, and informing them of the situation and that under absolutely no circumstances is an I-864 signed by you legitimate. That will prevent him from even trying to AOS.
As for the other stuff, USCIS is unlikely to sic ICE on him just for taking off. They unfortunately don't have the manpower to do that sort of active investigation, so that won't work. But it sounds from what you say that he leads a lifestyle that will bring him to the attention of the Florida police in fairly short order, and if you inform them of his licenselessness, tendency towards DUI, and immigration status, they may hand him over to ICE for you, when he inevitably has an unfavorable interaction with them.
That's pretty much all you can do, directly. But I recommend that you don't do anything overtly against him. Certainly call USCIS to protect yourself from a forged I-864 by all means, but for the other stuff...
Harboring unforgiveness and anger against someone will ultimately do far more harm to your body and soul than the pain he's already caused you. I urge you, in the strongest possible terms, to try very hard to understand him as just another sad, twisted, broken, fallen human [just as we all are] and to find a way to forgive him who trespasses against you, just as we are forgiven our trespasses.

First, just to clarify the Prostitute thing, the Prostitute is the one who receives pay and provides sex, the John is the one who provides payment and received sex. She is the Prostitute and you're her highest paying John!
Now if you want to use the labels "BLIND", "DUMB", "STUPID" then go right ahead.
I'm assuming shes physically stunning? Maybe you feel she's "out of your league"? If that's the case then your ego wants so badly to believe that you are worthy of a woman you've elevated so much.
The irony is that her actions have proven that her beauty is very shallow and masks a lot of ugliness just beneath the surface. She is the one who should be hoping she is worthy of a man such as yourself.
I think you know the answers to your questions and how she will not change if you bother to import her to the US.
In short if the sex is worth the expense then go ahead and bring her her but expect to lose that in very short order.
Otherwise just file for divorce locally (where you live) and move on with your life...

I can honestly tell you that if you question that someone loves you, the answer is NO they do not. When someone loves you, you will not have to ask, you will know it. You are thinking you have done something wrong. You can not make someone love you. They either love you or they don't. There is someone out there who will love you.

Just the same, this is yet another reminder about cultural differences. Some differences make life hilarious, while some are daunting. I read about folks here wanting a K-1 visa and who have not even met one another yet. Getting to know the other person in detail is never a bad thing, and this shows it. I am glad the OP posted this, in case others see themselves using the same line of thought.

If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing you do is STOP DIGGING!

This is what happens when selfish men go shopping abroad for women like they're a pair of shoes you can take back.
Divorce your wife, and try acting with some dignity and respect not only for yourself and for her, but for the law.

After reading this post, and the OP's admitted motives for his relationship, and all the examples of immature behaivior, I seriously doubt we're getting an accurate portrayal of the real problem and it's very likely the wife's anger is justified likely to some other childish behaivior that could be going on in other areas of thier lives... Sounds like there still is some major issues with maturity on at least one side of this relationship...
I doubt we'll hear from the OP Again...
He's either a real troll or he was expecting advise on how to devise a stupid plan of dumping his wife and Kidnap his Child from VJ, thinking he ought to be able to convince us that his motives are genuine and hes the innocent victim..
Good going VJ'rs for not falling for the OP's garbage... I guess he didnt realize that VJ is made up of honest people, and not a bunch of Jerry Springer fans looking to help someone perpetrate a ridculous and stupid plan...

Off topic - just a bit:
I think if the OP actually knew anything about Latinas in general perhaps he would not have the problems he's had...
First of all, most Latinas are posessive of their men (in varying degrees). You need to understand their upbringing and family attitudes. They were raised to be loyal to their men with very strong family values. BUT - most Latinas (and I know more than a few) have been cheated on or abused by their Latin boyfriends / husbands, etc... I am not putting down the Latino male species, just that without exception my fiance and ALL of her friends and acquaintces have has these experiences with their Latin mates. So - this in general makes Latinas more suspicious of their men and more possessive. They simply don't want any more pain or disappointments.
So - when the OP met his beautiful wife at first I'll bet that he found her attention as a positive attribute. It's a wonderful thing when a beautiful woman makes you the center of her world. Then when she arrived here the same attuitudes she displayed when they dated in Argentina continued and all of a sudden they became unacceptable?
Getting to know a person AND their culture is the most important thing when it comes to mariage. When men see their foreign fiance in their environment the romance overwhelmes the senses and most guys don't see that the relationship they have in "Argentina" is not the same as what they have here on Main Street USA. That is why repeated trips and truly getting to know the person is crucial to a sucessful marriage.
Back to topic:
Deserting your wife back in her home country is the worst thing you cna do to her AND your child. Just so you know, to even remove your child from Argentina will be impossible without the WRITTEN consent of the mother - the police will stop you from boarding the plane. No judge will award you full custody and prevent the mother from having access to her child. Bribing a jusge will get you put UNDER the prison for a very long time, it's not the same as "paying the policeman" for a speeding ticket.
Do the correct thing. You made the child, whether by "accident" or by the grace of God and you'd better be prepared for the reaction to your actions. YOU could wind up not being able to see your own child and still having to pay support to your spouse, even if you desert her in Argentina.

It's called "hope for the best, prepare for the worst." May your wife never be detained and have to report the reason as "failure to carry green card" on future immigration documents.As for me, I plan to continue to look both ways before crossing the street, even if there's only a small chance that traffic is around. We're taught that when we're 5 years old.

A lot of people are making this situation a lot more complicated than it is, so I'm going to sum up what's been said (or not said) that's correct:
Applying for EAD only: Nope. A K1 is eligible to apply for an EAD only until their I-94 has expired, and the EAD that was issued would expire when the I-94 expired. This would be pointless, and the OP is no longer eligible for this anyway. She can't get an EAD now until she files for AOS, and there's no guarantee she'd get it before she got her green card. My wife and step-kids got their EAD's five days before the AOS interview.
Working "on the side": As has been pointed out several times, this is illegal without work authorization. Selling stuff you own at a garage sale is ok. Selling stuff you make (like cakes) is a business, and is NOT ok. Would USCIS find out about it? Probably not. Would it make any difference if they did? Actually, no. There are two factors which are not relevant to someone adjusting status as an immediate relative of a US citizen - being out of status, and working without authorization. I'm not saying that she should work without authorization. I'm just saying...
Fee waiver: No. USCIS has created the I-912 form for fee waivers, and the instructions for the form clearly define what type of petitions are eligible for a fee waiver (something they never really nailed down before). An I-485 is eligible for a fee waiver only if the application is filed by someone with T or U visa status, someone with asylum status, someone applying on the basis of abuse by a US citizen or LPR spouse (VAWA), a form I-360 self-petitioner (widow, Amerasian, or special immigrant), someone applying for registration based on continuous residence since January, 1972 (the Reagan amnesty program), or any category that does NOT require an applicant to prove they won't be a public charge (Cuban Adjustment Act applicant, Haitian refugee, etc.).
Borrow the money: There would be little point in doing this now. Her husband isn't qualified to sponsor right now, and it doesn't sound like they have a qualified and willing joint sponsor. The AOS won't be approved, so there's no point in going into debt to file it.
Military related aid: This is probably possible for subsistence (i.e., food), but not likely for any long-term loan. Most loan programs for military members must be repaid by allotment from the military member's pay, and is almost always required to be fully repaid before the member's enlistment expires. The OP has said her husband has been called to active duty for only two months. Any loan he got would probably need to be repaid before his active duty assignment ended. Also, many of the programs that are available for regular active duty military are specifically not available for Guard and Reserve members.
Now, my personal advice to the OP...
Think about getting your financial house in order and worry about adjustment of status later. You don't have a qualified joint sponsor, so you're not going to get a green card unless your husband can sponsor you himself. He's not going to be able to do this unless he's got a job earning enough money. That's what you need to be focusing on right now.
If your husband can't find a job within commuting distance of your current home then he should start looking farther away. If he has to walk away from the lease then so be it - he can deal with the consequences of that later. The landlord will have to sue him to get the money, and even after the landlord wins the lawsuit they'll still have to collect on their own. Getting a wage garnishment order for a private debt is difficult (impossible in some states, but possible in Georgia).
Try to set aside a little money every month, at least $50 but $100 would be better. Make a commitment that you won't touch that money for any reason that doesn't border on a life threatening emergency. Consider it as if it was already sent to USCIS, and you can't get it back. When your husband is earning enough money to sponsor you, and you've saved up enough money, then file the adjustment of status.