DaveyBenson

My spouse suffered from the same issues.  He was always a social butterfly, and the central American Latin cultural is very different than the middle of the USA culture, and also there was a big culture shock going from living in the city, to living out in the country.   He was starting to suffer from a form of home sickness/ cabin fever, until he got his EAD and was able to get full time employment in the city.  He is working for a company that hires many Spanish speaking people from Mexico, and now he is getting his daily dose of socializing, and speaking in his native tongue, and it has certainly helped his state of mind.  Now he has his own friends that he can visit with and he is much happier now.    It does take time, but then again, anything worth while does take time.
 

While you may not choose this, I would personally wait to buy a house when I was in the states.

If I was buying a house for the family I just created by getting married, I'd want them to be involved in the process as well. I don't know how ya'll could really be involved in buying a house other than her checking properties out and you seeing them online.

Also it's helpful to note that not all K-1 visas are approved, even for people who think it'll be a smooth ride. You may not want to buy a house before getting the K-1. 


 

As was stated above, California, especially in the SoCal areas, are not for everyone. It is like it's own little realm on the West Coast, where as in Oregon and Washington are nothing like that all. I could definately agree with you as myself would not want to live there personally(no offense to anyone who does live there just saying).
As to the Trump supporters, quite honestly myself included(it was in my eyes lesser of two evils honestly), had Clinton won then there would be same Clinton idiots running around still after the election for some reason acting like they are proving a point. The people you're running into are the same idiots just on the Trump side. The extremes of people trying to push their ideals onto other people and need to simply go find something better to do with their time. All you can do about that really is try your best just to ignore them and try not to let it get to you.

(From my blog)
A Warning To Green Card Holders About Voting
Do not register to vote in any election until you have officially been granted US Citizenship.
Going into this election season, it is very important to understand that for a Green Card holder, (Lawful Permanent Resident) to register to vote is not only improper, but can have severe consequences in the future.
Even though there are States that have instituted policies that do not require evidence of US Citizenship when registering to vote, the voter registration documents do ask whether the person registering is a US Citizen. Many have simply checked the box and gone ahead and registered, knowing that even if the State Law requires showing government issued identification, their driver license will suffice.
While this is not legal advice, the publicly searchable “9 FAM” (Foreign Affairs Manual) is quite clear regarding the potential consequences of falsely claiming US Citizenship. There is no more serious a misrepresentation, based on the consequences, dealt with in 9 FAM. The potential consequence of registering to vote or for any other federal or state benefit afforded only to US Citizens includes Deportation and a LIFETIME BAN from entering the USA.
If any reader who is not a US Citizen, has registered to vote in any official State of Federal election, I advise them to seek competent legal advice as soon as possible, to discuss minimizing or eliminating the risk of any future deportation and ban.
The law is, what the law is. Regardless of whether this particular or any other immigrant related law is being consistently enforced today, that can change at any time.
False claims to US Citizenship are taken very seriously by Customs and Border Patrol Officers. Some years ago, I was traveling with my step daughter, when we encountered a border check station on Interstate 10 in West Texas. My step daughter was quite proud of passing her citizenship test just the day before, and proudly answered yes, when a CBP Officer asked if she was a US Citizen. I quickly corrected her, so the officer would hear me, saying, “You WILL BE a US Citizen after your swearing in ceremony, but you’re aren’t a citizen yet.” Fortunately, the officer was understanding and we were soon on our way without incident.
Many have registered to vote, somewhat “innocently” because of the misrepresentations or ignorance of well meaning officers at the DMV (Driver License Offices) or even a campaign worker.
* * DO NOT REGISTER TO VOTE IN ANY ELECTION UNTIL YOU HAVE BEEN OFFICIALLY GRANTED US CITIZENSHIP * *

If it turns out that you have to file a waiver, go visit the immigrate2us website. It has a lot of good articles on how to assemble a good waiver and a list of good waiver lawyers. A lot less bashing and judging in that forum and you get good advices instead of people keeping on pointing out the mistake you made. Good luck on your journey! 
 

I don't know whether it's still possible that, although your K1 gets revoked, the consulate determines that a waiver is available for your case (which there should be as the only misrep that doesn't allow a waiver is if you had pretended to be a US citizen). As your visa hasn't been fully denied, but 'only' revoked, there can't be a waiver filed for it right now because it has to be denied based on the misrep.
Even if they don't give you the chance to submit a waiver for the K1 you can get married, file for the CR1 visa, get denied at the interview due to your misrep charge and then file your waiver (and this time the CO should definitely determined you to be eligible to file a waiver). 
Look into 601 waivers based on misrepresentation. You have to prove hardship to your then wife (now fiancée). It should be pretty easy for you to prove all the hardships your spouse would have to endure if she had to move with her children to Lagos. The difficult part will be to prove why she needs you in the US to support her and be there with her. Misrep waivers from your country often get approved from what I've read so read into it and determined together whether you have enough hardships. 

That is hard to say.. you can try the K-1 again...or the CR-1... but with the misrepresentation already known and on file for you, you may have actually caused yourself to have a ban.. you and the USC need to ask about this.
 
A lot, and a lot of us all have gone through denials of tourist visas here on VJ. My partner was denied one, mostly because of home stay rule from a J1 internship; but we were honest about why he wanted to come with me writing a letter and explaining my wish for his visit and all... By just having done that you would have avoided this whole mess. By trying to hide the truth you actually caused it to get worse.

A two month process? Hardly. 
 
4-6 for most people, and if you're adjusting from a K visa for which USCIS ultimately waives the interview then it can take around a year. 

You can agree on that.
You have ONE experience, and although embassies are known to do things differently they don't randomly ask you to comply with a 221g request for a document they do not want.
I see this all the time. Passing through an embassy although giving you experience, does not mean you can speak for the embassy. The embassy has communicated their requirements to OP. That is the only indisputable fact here.

Many people here met online. We did. Didn't get an RFE through the entire process (so far), and not interviewed either for AOS or ROC. Nothing to worry about, not in this day and age.

Most important thing. Don't lie.  Only rule you need to remember when going through the process.
Good luck!

The people you have been talking to are very mistaken. People are approved ALL THE TIME after having met online. This is a non-issue.
 
You need to submit the evidence of not being a marriage broker with your original petition - that's even in the instructions for the form.
 
As far as not being real or obtainable... That's just not the case. The website has terms and conditions - all you need to is print this out, and you're golden. 
 
So, be honest, state the website where you met, and also send the TOS to prove that it is not a marriage broker website.
 
Good luck on your journey!! And yes, the people here have wonderful information, so continue to ask questions if you're unsure

Here is what Roberto writes about his interview day:
Mi experiencia fue de la siguiente manera:
Fue tardado y tedioso todo el proceso de la visa. Al decir lo anterior es en función a la espera ya que en si la entrevista, la entrega de documentos y la toma de huellas fueron rápidas. Cuando llegué al consulado hice una fila en donde me preguntaron qué tipo de visa iba a tramitar. Me pidieron que no lleves cosméticos, cámaras, celulares, usb, ipods, cortaúñas, tijeras, etc, etc. Una vez que entré personal del consulado me pidió el pasaporte, el pago bancario y la carta de la entrevista. Una vez que ubicaron que mi caso es un K1 me pidieron una copia del formato DS-156, que es el único documento del que tenía que traer copia, de lo demás no me pidieron copia.
Ya que me revisaron los documentos me permitieron el acceso al consulado en donde entré a un punto o filtro de seguridad en donde me revisaron, de nueva cuenta, para permitirme entrar. Una vez pasado esto me canalizaron con una persona que me preguntó, de nueva cuenta, qué tipo de visa iba a tramitar. Una vez que ya le dije a que iba, ésta misma persona me asignó un número que debía conservar durante toda mi estancia dentro del consulado. Este número me sirvió para que una vez que entré a las salas de espera pude ver las pantallas donde sale el número de la persona y el módulo al que se debe de dirigir para hacer el papeleo.
Entonces ya me asignaron mi número. Después me mandaron a una sala de espera que tiene pantallas, ahí tenía que esperar un buen rato hasta que apareció mi número.... Fue cansado y tedioso, en mi caso, esperé casi dos horas hasta que vi mi número. En todo ese tiempo tenía que estar atento a la pantalla para que no perdiera mi oportunidad.
Apareció mi número en la pantalla y junto al número salió el cubículo al que debía de ir. Entonces fui al sitio indicado. En este primer punto me pidieron todos mis documentos. El personal del consulado me pidió que primero entregara todos los formatos que baje del internet, mis fotos, los demás documentos y al finalmente los documentos que respalden los ingresos económicos de mi prometida Esto fue rápido como tenía preparada mi documentación no tardé más de cinco minutos.
Posteriormente me mandaron a la sala de espera para que otra vez estuviera al pendiente de las pantallas y esperando que aparezca de nueva cuenta mi número. Ahora mi espera fue para la toma de huellas, esto es rápido. Me tomaron las huellas y me mandaron otra vez a la sala de espera para que ver las pantallas para saber a qué módulo me mandaron para la entrevista. Esta es la parte más tediosa de todo el proceso, ya que tuve que esperar más de cuatro horas y uno cae en ciertos niveles de desesperación ya que veía que van saliendo números, pasa la gente, pasan las horas y no te llaman, y lo peor es que no hay nadie que te de una explicación clara de lo que está pasando. Si bien te va uno de los guardias te dice que sí ya te tomaron las huellas debes de esperar " un poco más de lo normal". Y así pasan las horas y uno se siente cansado, aburrido, ignorado, etc, etc. Hasta que de repente vi la pantalla, salió mi numero y prácticamente, sin pensarlo dos veces, me dirigí al módulo 72 y ahí ya me esperaba con todo mi expediente una chica, un tanto irónica y grosera, quien pregunto cosas como: cómo me llamo, dónde nací, cómo se llama mi novia, los nombres de mis suegros, me preguntó cuando nos íbamos a casar, cómo nos conocimos, me pidió que relatara como nos conocimos, desde cuándo somos novios, etc, etc
Después de unos 10 minutos me indicó que tenía que pasar al módulo de DHL, que está dentro del consulado, para pagar el trámite para recibir mi visa y aquí empieza otro viacrucis porque no te lo entregan inmediatamente. Me dieron un número para verificar, en internet, si el paquete ya había llegado a la oficina de DHL en Juárez. Entonces tengo que esperar que en DHL me digan si ya llegó o no y éste trámite, de acuerdo con DHL el trámite puede durar de uno a cuatro días.

***Dear VJers i want to thank everyone for your help in assisting me with this k1 visa process. with this site i needed no attorneys and no immigration lawyers, just helpful members such as yourselves. please feel free to email me.
Here is a recollection of events for my fiancees K1 visa process. On July 2, 2011 I took a 32 hr bus trip from Chicago to Juarez which arrived on July 4th around 7 am local time. My fiancees vivaaerobus flight was not scheduled to arrive until noon that same day so what i did was took a taxi (100 pesos) from the central camionera, where i arrived, in juarez to the airport and waited for my fiancee to arrive. news flash: taxis are expensive! a 10 min trip from the airport to the consulate area is 200-240 pesos (17-21 usd).once she arrived we took another taxi from the airport to Hotel Ibis. I recommend this brand new hotel because it is located right between both medical clinics that have to be used for her physical exams. Everything i mean everything is at walking distance. no need to take more taxis unless you plan on picking up your results at DHL in juarez and back to the airport. on this map i have posted http://share.shutterfly.com/action/welcome?sid=0AbMWzhs2ctmTm4 you can see a whole layout of what is near the hotel and consulate. this map was made in 2009 so heres a brief description of you cant see on the map: East of clinica medica internacional is where they constructed the new clinic Servicios Medicos. Just south of both clinics in that perfectly shaped rectangle is where Hotel Ibis was constructed and still under construction of a pool and sports area for guests. North of the US Consulate, where it says new shopping plaza, is Plaza Consulado. In this plaza is where 1. Sala de espera Consulado (waiting area), 2. Autobuses Paisanos office. 3. Omnibus de Mexico and VivaAerobus office. 4. A cyber cafe. 5. ASC office for fingerprints and photos. 6. Oxxo 7. Chi'hua mexican restaurant where constructed. Our first day there ended in our hotel room where we rested for her medical the next morning.
JULY 5TH BIOMETRICS APPT
woke up at 430 am considering the fact that july 4th was a holiday and applicants thought clinics were also closed we knew we needed to be there super early to get good place in line. as patients were let in to the clinic around 6am, family members who accompanied patients were led to the back of the clinic to an outdoor waiting area. where you could have a seat and wait for them to come out with a number and make line to register. K applicants DO NOT REQUIRE VACCINATIONS! so theres no need for her to get them AT ALL! once that was made i seen my fiancee go into the clinic and sit outside the xray room where they divide men and women into separate rooms. she was given a paper robe which she would utilize through the whole physical. after xrays she went to get her blood drawn and then afterward they took her to the second floor and once again divided men and women took her to a room to verify her name and appt date and time check her temperature, blood pressure height weight and vision. and then they led every single woman go into individual rooms undress completely and wait for a doctor to come in and ask her questions and look at her body. once that was done the doctor told her to throw away her paper robe and go pay the $185 for her medical. I recommend for everyone to pay in us dollars. once that was paid they told her she could go back at 2pm to pick up her results. she was out by 830 am since she was number 10. At 2pm we were there to pick up the results which are issued in a black plastic package and attached is a CD with your xrays. do not open the package.
July 6th ASC Fingerprints and Photos
This was quick and easy, arrived at 130pm her appointment was scheduled at 140pm but was let in right away as soon as she went in they asked for passport her ds260 and her invitation letter from juarez and email confirmations of her appointments. she was asked to have a seat and wait for her turn. when her turn came she went up to a window where her prints and photo were taken. she was given dhl information to read and a label was placed on her ds260 confirming her interview appt at 715am the next day and that was it. a quick 30 mins. Cool fact; that day we went to Cinepolis in Las Misiones Mall and saw Transformers 3 in 3D. Her first 3D movie. Awesome!
July 7th Consulate Interview
So that morning we woke up at 430am got ready and left for the Consulate waiting area at 515am. they started opening a little before 6am and they asked all who had waivers 'perdones' please go up first. then all who had visa laser go to another section. then all who had interviews for Residence or IV visas at 700am to 800am go up first. she was instructed to have her passport, her letter from juarez, her appt emails, and ds260 ready and when she had everything she got a stamp on her letter and was told to wait in line by the exit door from the waiting room. we were taken by a young woman to the US consulate and we were split. she had to make line i guess for iv visas and some lady asked to see her ds260 her ds156 and ds156k and her appt letters, once she had everything in order they let her in. i was so nervous probably more than her. she was guided through security kinda like airport security. they are very strict when they mean no cell phones or large belt buckles, food, pens, etc. i saw alooot of people that as soon as they went in they were coming right back out. all for things that couldve been prevented. i took her earrings and lip gloss just to be on the safe side lol. she told me there were two different rooms inside. one with A/C one without and women were let in to the room with A/C. security told all men to be courteous and let women in. she was given a number. and as soon as her number gets called she was instructed to give up her ds260, her passport, her 2 ds156, 1 ds156k, my I-134 with income proof (knowing i didnt meet poverty guidelines i had my co-sponsor I134 but the lady told her they didnt want it, weird??) Birth Certificate with copies mine and hers, gave originals back, and copy of my passport to verify US citizenship. had her sign all forms including CDJ-402 letter of intent. then boom! first mistake the lady told her that her pictures were not the size they needed. that she gave my fiancee an attitude and gave her a blue slip to leave take the pics and come back and see her directly. my fiancee was upset because she thought she messed up and because that lady gave her an attitude. so we went got her pics taken. the guard was nice enough to let her back in without going thru security again and she went up the window gave the lady the pictures and told her to go have a seat and watch your number get called. after a while her number was called she went up to the window. she was told to place her right middle finger on the pad i guess to verify prints and that its her and started asking her questions. what my name was? how old was i? how long we been together? how we met? where i lived? and where and what i worked in? he looked at his computer and asked her if she had been illegally present in the US in 1992 and she of course said yes because she admitted to it on the ds260 and ds156 and who knows if they might have had other resources?? for what? how long? he said. and she answered. this of course did not affect her for two reasons, 1. she was a minor 12y.o. 2. The law that provides the 3 year, 10 year and lifetime bans, INA 212(a)(9)(B) and INA 212(a)(9)©, took effect in April 1997. In effect, entries or time spent illegally in the US before April 1997 do not “count” against the alien in terms of making him/her ineligible an I-601 waiver. She of course was never deported or "got caught". But everyone keep in mind, you have to be HONEST AND TELL ALL THE TRUTH! after that he asked her if i treated her good. and she said said yes. then he just told her congratulations you're visa has been approved! she saw him putting everything in a way in a folder and told her to go to dhl to setup service. which we already had. she asked him if wanted to see our pictures, emails, letters, itineraries, call logs almost 6 pounds of proof. all he said was "no we always had what we needed", she said he opened the folder and showed her all the original documents i submitted with the I129F. Woooow! i was shocked. so when she came outside. god i love her. she looked sad and told me they didnt give it to her, and i was like what! why! but she could barely keep a straight face and started crying she told me that she loved me and that she finally was happy knowing that we were never going to be separated again. so i was like, so they gave it to you and she said 'YES'. God that moment i felt such an adrenaline rush like when youre coming down a roller coaster. i was so happy i almost started crying. i was checking my pockets making sure i had everything i was like what do we do next? we both were happy and confused. so we went back to the waiting room and they told us we had already selected our DHL location in Zamora and just to wait for the visa. NEXT UP....GET MARRIED AND AOS! I WILL KEEP EVERYONE POSTED.
Helpful Tips While in Juarez for your Journey
Never talk to anyone about your case or show your paperwork to anyone. NO ONE WILL ASK YOU FOR ANYTHING IN PARTICULAR. THEY DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR PAPERWORK FOR PICTURES. THOSE COYOTES THAT ARE OUT THERE ARE VERY SMART AND VERY SHARP AND LOOK VERY PROFESSIONAL. ANY QUESTIONS YOU CAN ALWAYS GO TO THE CONSULATE WAITING AREA THEY ARE VERY HELPFUL OR OF COURSE HERE ONLINE. EVERYTHING YOU NEED IS ON PACKET 3 IN THE JUAREZ CONSULATE WEBSITE. DO YOUR MEDICAL AT LEAST 2 DAYS, WITH KIDS 3 DAYS, PRIOR TO YOUR INTERVIEW. ANY QUESTIONS PLEASE REPLY OR EMAIL ME.

Just to clear it up--- you don't need to fill out two I-129fs. You need to fill out one I-129f, two G-325as (one per person) and submit two letters of intent. You should photocopy this package before you submit it, but don't make or send two copies. You could start this now if you wanted to--no need to do it together. Just have her do her G-325a and letter of intent and mail it to you.
I also saw below that you think that this process will take a year. It more than likely won't. Anyone more than 10 months is a serious outlier AND that's when there was still a huge backlog at one particular office (Texas Service Center). Now, not only is that office not taking the applications at this point, but also if they do, that backlog will have been addressed. It seems very likely that from now on, I-129fs will be approved in 4 months or less, and then 3 months or less for the visa itself. At least, this is what it seems like now. This is subject to change at any time.
I'd apply for the B2 as soon as is convenient, and probably before the K1. I don't think that it technically matters either way, that she'll get it or not regardless of the K1, but I can't help but think that applying for a "non immigrant visa" when you've already applied for a visa that clearly shows that you eventually intend to immigrate could tip the scales against you. It could look like you're looking for a shortcut.

Don't sends those if it looks like a wedding they will think it is one even if you say otherwise.
A tourist visa is completely dependant on the merits that they believe she will go home. She had to show ties to home. If the ties are strong enough it doesn't matter when yoy do it.