Lee&Ana

Is your fiancé in the US yet?? More information is needed

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Wow. Pregnant too. Cambodia is a tough embassy from what I heard. Op, you seem to have your wits about you and have a plan in place.

Pot stirring?

What country was your fiancé from? If I were you I would drive her to the airport and make sure she gets on the plane. Secondly, I would contact USCIS and have them close your case. If you file next time, you won't have to worry that you might have an open case that wasn't resolved in Uscis's files. Would you actually go through the whole thing all over again?

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It has been 8 months waiting for the GC since we received EAD/AP.

Some are getting notification about an interview and then it gets waived again so there is no specific time frame for this.

You can make a service request, we did but it doesn't do much good at all, we were just notified that our case has not been assigned yet.

She has the EAD, she can work so just be patient.

Thanks. My wife sees other ladies she is friends with and they received their green card.

My wife has her ead combo card. We have been waiting to be scheduled for the interview since December 14, 2015. Is there anywhere to call to follow up? Is there a number to call and talk to someone or should we go to the local USCIS office and follow up. My wife is anxious and I am getting a little concerned. Thanks

My wife's has been stuck on ready for interview status since December 8th

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Please be very careful in generalizing any type of race..I am sorry this happened to you but the kind of person you are made me realize more that I am so lucky that I have a wonderful , loving , kind and generous husband. Move on as I have been reading your ranting about us Filipino girls only because of your experience with you wife. We all have gone through bad experiences in life just learn from it. And refrain from bad mouthing us , you must have enjoyed your journey with your Pinay too until she found out who really you are.

So who is teddyk or myself? Or the countless other men that have posted? I don't know who you think we are because you have not elaborated on your post, which seems to be bad mouthing the kanos with your statement of who we really are.

I had some issues with my wife when she got here hanging with the wrong pinays. Finally, my wife has made a couple nice friends that are in healthy marriages. Unhealthy marriages are just as bad as single or divorced filipinas. Funny enough, my wife only likes hanging around with ladies her own age. A lot of times I think the ladies are testing us to see what they can get away with. Once my wife talked with her father, she became more sensible. It is helpful if your wife's family is in your corner. My father in law is a stand up guy. And her family really likes me. I asked him yesterday if he wanted me to send anything in a Balikbayan box and he was too shy to ask me for anything. Maybe some mutual relationship goal setting together would help you. I do agree with some of the other posters that she should be a little more settled at her age.

Can someone pm me the original post? I came into the thread edited. Op, what is the age difference, just curious. My opinion, maybe unfounded, is that she used you to come to the USA. It was all well planned. Which makes me think that I don't think you will have to worry about the affidavit of support. Her relatives probably already have a plan in place to support her. They will probably not have any contact with you. I am wondering if there was any intimate contact during the course of the relationship prior to arrival? I would follow the advice of the posters that suggested getting a lawyer. I would find the best one I could afford. 14 days in the USA should not be considered a marriage and you would think you could get out of it

I thought they can work when they come here on a spouse visa? Almost the same age difference as my wife and I although you and her are a lot older than me and my wife. Same bad attitude and same nightmare marriage, so I guess the argument that my wife is young doesn't hold water.

haha, right on but come on. Also , OP, you have been duped and not sure what kind of advice are you looking for here.

He is mainly looking to vent and receive moral support because he was taken for a ride and that is a terrible feeling.

Seems like a common story with Filipino girls. If she pulls any more nonsense, her family will probably disown her. They believe the words of other Filipinos like it is the gospel , but if you say something, they don't believe you. I have the same issue with my wife. I would cancel the daughter's petition and if your wife wants to leave, let her. She will be back soon enough when she sees that someone sold her a bridge. Whether or not you want her after she has been with another man is up to you. If I knew then what I know now, I never would have pursued a foreign woman. Women are women and I would have been better off with someone in my own country. Less hassle, expense and cultural difference. It starts out being cheaper, but by the time you pay for everything, you end up paying quite a bit. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you and your wife?? Just to share with you I am 43 and my wife is 24. I used to say to myself that bringing a girl to the USA from the phils was like getting a Mercedes Benz for a Hyundai price. Now I say I paid a Mercedes price and got a Hyundai that is almost out of warranty(lol)

Yes, I want a few things to western standards, but I'm also thinking earth quake resistant standards too. Plus they're constantly cutting corners on the cement mix to save money. Poured with the right mix, and the block is strong, the wrong mix and you can break it apart in your hand. They even keep building to the old code standard with thinner blocks, and thinner rebar spaced to far apart. Educate yourself before you build, then verify everything before it goes in.

What is interesting about your post is that my wife thinks American building standards for houses is ####### and the Philippines has better houses lol. I assume that all this land you "own" is in your wife's name?

I feel for you. I, myself am considering pulling the affidavit of support before my ungrateful wife gets her 2 year green card. Thankfully, she is willing to go home quietly. If you want to talk in private, private message me and I will give you my phone number.

If she gets the 2 years green card, there is still removal of conditions. Let's say she gets the 2 year card and things don't work out. How much trouble am I going to be in with the affidavit of support? I know that if I do it now, I will be Scot free. But after the 2 year card, it could be difficult financially and she can make a lot of trouble for me.

If you were to reconcile later and she'd change her mind about not wanting to live in the US, you could still file for a marriage visa (assuming you did not divorce).

I am not going to go through all that trouble and be out more money for something I already paid for.

If you were to reconcile later and she'd change her mind about not wanting to live in the US, you could still file for a marriage visa (assuming you did not divorce).

I am not going to go through all that trouble and be out more money for something I already paid for.

I explained to my Filipina that just because this is USA, life isn't much easier. WE still must work hard for our money.

Also, when she tried to ignore me, I came over right by her and stared into her eyes asking what's wrong. When she got up trying to move away, I gently hugged her and didn't let her go until she stopped. Which was about five minutes till she started explaining to me what's wrong.

Who has time for all these games?

OP,

Is she ok with going back to the Philippines?

You mentioned she is saving money for a ticket home. Is that permanently or for a visit?

She wants to go back to the Philippines permanently. I offered to pay for her ticket now, whereas before I wouldn't. She is realizing America is not easy and there aren't any handouts. The problem is that with the k1 visa and everything that goes with it, it is a one shot deal. Once I pull the affidavit of support, there is no turning back.

So she works but want to keep that money to herself while you work and pay the bills and food?

Yes, that is correct. We made a deal that 1/2 of what she makes goes for our expenses and the other 1/2 is for her to do whatever she wants. I gave her a phone which stopped working. I took her to the store and told her I would buy her a cheap phone or she could have an iPhone if she wanted to pay for it. She wanted the iPhone and I payed for it upfront with the promise that she would pay me back later. Now she wants to complain that she doesn't have a regular amount of hours and is not making enough money and shouldn't have to pay anything toward our expenses after we made an agreement.

Doesn't sound like you're happy at all in your marriage from your post last January. Can't say I haven't gone through similar issues during my wife and I's adjustment. Heck I still deal with some of them. I'm sure she has her own frustrations with me to. But if you can't work through it, you might as well bail out now. But its not up to you if she stays after her green card is denied. Be careful about what her reaction will be, she just might come out swinging rather than go back peaceably.

I don't care if she stays after denial. I care about being on the hook for the affidavit of support. I am not trying to punish anyone, like some of these guys on here. If she wants to stay illegally, that is her option. It will not affect me. I doubt that she would stay here anyway. She doesn't like the USA