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Isn't this like your 3rd thread about the same thing? I believe you got a lot of advises in your previous topics. But I'll repeat that for you.
 
Refilling K1 won't do you any good. You need to address reasons why you were denied. Remember? The consul thinking that you were married?
You also NEED MORE face time. Skype or facebook doesn't matter. USCIS won't care that the trip is expensive. There is little to none chances that your fiancee will ever receive any kind of non-immigrant visa.
 
You were advice to address those reasons and also probably pursue the CR1 visa.

To put this in perspective, when my husband arrived 4 years ago it took him 10 months to find a job in his field and it was only an intern position(he's an engineer with several years of experience before he arrived). In the 10 months before he took the intern position, he worked loading trucks at Walmart-and that job took him 4 months to find. After 6 months the company hired him full time only to lay him off 2 years later. After being laid off he literally applied for hundreds of jobs, had over a hundred phone interviews, dozens of video interviews and dozens of in house interviews and dozens who made him promises only to give him the run around or never call back. It took him 8 months from the day he was laid off to find a new position. You are giving up too easily if you're discouraged after only one person give you the run around. There is nothing easy about finding a job here, nothing-and if you don't have any US experience it just makes it that much more difficult.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it's the truth.
Best of luck, whatever you decide.

so u ended a engagement and then go another gf in the same country, why? the fact yall already mentioned marriage, bio clock and yall havent even met yet is troubling

On May 31, you posted about your K-1 fiancee. You asked about how long until she can work etc. etc. Then exactly ONE day later (June 1) your relationship was over. And since that time (over 6 months) you did not do anything about the k-1 petition?????? What were you waiting for? Procrastinating or secretly hoping that she will change her mind? Meanwhile, you're in a "relationship" with another Filipina? Are you sure she didn't go to the interview and has the visa already?
BTW, what you wrote in your other thread about not wanting to date again, it seems like you are a bit desperate and easy prey for green card gold diggers. It seems that you fall in "love" easily as evidenced by your new relationship. BTW- It's not a relationship, it's an online penpal. You have never met in person and you are already talking about another K-1 visa. Your first fiancée was using you for a visa but then had a change of mind. Women are smart, they can sense a weak man and use him for all that they can. A highly educated woman doesn't usually want a less educated man in my experience. For some reason, she changed her mind and dropped you without a second thought.
You are right about dating in America. It's very superficial. You can be a great guy, educated, successful (but not rich), and unless you have a certain look, most attractive women won't give you the time of day. And the ones that will be approachable you don't want. Plus, big guys seem to have it the hardest, unless they are the funny fat guy or have lots of money. And it's a self-confidence too that women sense about guys. They want a confident guy who is self-assured and secure in his masculinity, not some weakling who is afraid of his own shadow.
I'm sorry, but you need a reality check. Work on yourself and your self-esteem before you look to get into a relationship, because they will all end up the same way. US women won't give you a chance and foreign women will see you as their ticket to the US and be gone as soon as they get their green card. You sound like a young guy so you have time. Maybe work on improving your career since 30k is nothing these days. You don't want to be dependent on the woman to survive.

You need to evaluate just how serious and permanent your plans are to move to Colombia.
Abandoning the K-1 is a bad idea in this situation. It would be much better if you two could be patient, get married on the K-1 visa, wait here while she adjusts status and receives a green card. As an American, you are able to travel almost anywhere without problem. The opposite is not true for our non-American loved ones. Unless she has exceptional circumstances, she will be unable to get a B-2 visa in the future because she now has a record of having a fiance in the US. If she applies for a tourist visa, she will have to make a very convincing case that she will return to Colombia. The trouble here, though, is that if you really plan on living in Colombia, her green card will be canceled because she needs to have actual residence in the US. If she goes too long without being here, it will be canceled. The best way (on paper, of course) of carrying out this plan is for your fiance to come here, adjust status, receive a green card, and ultimately become a USC in a few years when she's eligible. Then she can come and go as she pleases.
If you're absolutely, 100% sure you want to live in Colombia, then there is no consequence for your fiance to not use her K-1 visa. Yes, later on you two can get married and file for CR-1 if you want to live in the US. But again, the question will come up - where do you actually want to live? The goal of filing for a CR-1 is to get a green card. But if you just plan on visiting the US as a married couple, she'll have trouble proving strong ties to her country - especially in the beginning of your relationship - when it comes to getting a B visa.
I hope that makes sense.

If you abandon the K1 then you abandon it, and anything from here on after you will have to start from scratch. It should not reflect negatively on applying for future visas, although they will ask about it. If she does come to the US on a K1 she will have to apply for AOS to get her 2 year conditional green card before she is allowed to travel at all. The green card which will give you all the opportunity to travel, but again you still cannot stay out of the country for extended periods of time.
If you plan to marry after abandoning the K1, then you will have to start all over again with the CR1. With each visa you apply for you are just adding more and more time to the process and keeping her out of the US since her tourist visa is now cancelled. The CR1 is a year or more wait time.
If it were me, I would follow through with the K1. I am unsure of exact AOS wait times, but you can find that easily somewhere one here.

Ok, I apologize if I didn't clarify enough for some of you... I never said the OP would get the expedite just because I did. I was simply attempting to shed some positive light on everyone who clearly just said no, no chance for OP. OBVIOUSLY I am aware that the countries and their respective processes are different. I am aware that my case from CENTRAL America (not south) is vastly different from another country. I don't believe that telling the OP he MIGHT have a chance is a bad thing. He may. I would also like to point out that I was stating that once the OP receives his NOA-2 and the case is sent to the NVC, you then have to expedite through the embassy to skip the NVC stage. I did not do DCF, my case was done here in the U.S. If you ask NVC they don't expedite and they will tell you that you have to have the embassy expedite it so that it essentially skips NVC and then the embassy would then have your case! MAYBE my country of filing was different. Hopefully this clarifies for everyone who is a little uptight that I said OP could have a chance. Although it is not written in the list of reasons to expedite, it may be possible. Yes I am aware he may run into different obstacles. never said it would be easy or a guarantee.

Hola fellow PCV! I am a RPCV from Peru, where I met and married my husband. We married and also had a baby in his country and filed IR-1. Our son was already born by the time we did that. How far along is your wife? Where were you married? I know in the initial packet we sent filing for his visa, we just submitted a copy of our marriage certificate and a letter from the later of where we were renting, I didn't put too much into our child just yet because the first packet doesn't ask for as much as what you will need for the interview. When the interview came around, we had our son's CRBA (Consular report of birth abroad) and some pictures and trips. I never showed anything of commingling accounts or anything like that because of that time we really didn't have much of that. At the time of his interview my son and I had returned to the states so we also showed proof of how we were communicating (whatsapp). One good thing, at least in Peru, is that PC has a great relationship with the embassy and you don't have to explain so much surrounding your relationship because they had a good understanding of how we work in live in the country. Not that there are any favors but they light up a little when they hear that. Feel free to ask any questions, I hope i could be of some help. Good luck!

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

I was in a similar situation as you, except no income on my end. We lived in my husband's country and he worked, we also had a kid during that time. We filed the IR1 and about 8 months after filing I was able to get a job in the US and came back a few months before he followed me to the states. I submitted my signed contract with my salary listed for my new income which qualified above the poverty guidelines and I used a joint sponsor just in case, and had no problems. Of course the separation was difficult for my husband, as I had our infant with me. It seems there is always some sort of sacrifice when dealing with the visa process, however, now that were together in the states, it's like no time was ever lost. Sounds like you have a few plans to throw around, if you think getting a job in the states may be easy for you, go ahead and file when your ready and then start job searching while your visa is being processed, much of the income part concerns you will have to submit when you case is 3-5 months closer to interview. K3's are obsolete (I tried that) so a CR-1/IR-1 will probably take you apprx. a year, keeping that in mind, work your personal timeline around that so you can maximize the time you have with your family. Good luck!

I don't think there is any discrimination.
I came here on a CR1 Visa and my GC took 8 months to arrive by mail, delays happen all the time. Applying for many jobs and not hearing back from any of them doesn't make it discrimination, I am sure they found someone who is a better fit to the job. I think you are being unreal or your expectation are kinda unreal about 'living the dream'.
I have a muslim name and I am a muslim. It took me a while to get a job and I am sure its not about my name or my beliefs or nationality. All my coworkers know that I am muslim, the majority are even Trump supporters but none of them care about that, one of them invites me often to his house on the weekend and we go on boat rides as families with our wives.
I am here since 2 years almost and I've seen everyday that America never violate any of your rights, it's equal to everyone. If you are not happy in America then go back to Iran, it's simple as that.

I do not feel that we have received any discrimination.

Mohammad is a common name in America so not true it's because of your name.
And I don't agree with you about some special agenda against people from Iran. Maybe they need to do some more security check but they do that for all people from the middle east.
And there are people waiting from all over the world for a longer time also.
Have you send a request about your EAD?
And No I do not think it's a good idea to sue USCIS for anything.
You are here and that is great but remember it's not a right you have.

My son was born in Peru (very similar environment to Mexico), we did much international travel to and from Peru within his first year. I would not recommend taking a child of that age if you can avoid it. The flights alone are difficult enough, and all the other factors make it very very difficult. And being this is her first trip, I imagine very little sleep and a difficult time all around.
If you do decide to do it, pack enough food from home to cover the entire trip so she won't have to eat anything foreign to her little stomach. Only use bottled water and formula to prepare milk, get sterlizing bags to microwave bottles in once they have been washed. Be very careful when bathing to make sure baby doesn't drink any of the water. Pack kid safe bug repellent. I used baby carriers a lot, seemed to soothe my baby more then being in a stroller.
Also, I did not attend the interview with my husband, Peru was pretty good about that. Plus I think the explanation of being very limited to travel since we had a baby was one the CO sympathized with.
Good luck to you and whatever decision you make.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

JessDak, be encouraged, trust God to strengthen your marriage and most importantly communicate with your spouse. I am married to a Bahamian man and the our marriage started with a lot of arguments. It was an adjustment for both of us. For him the culture shock of meeting a lot of my family at once, trying to understand the various American accents and dialects and finalizing wedding plans. I had to adjust to living with a man that wasn't my Father and is from a different culture. The day of our honeymoon we argued off and on until we reached our destination. After we moved into our apartment, we argued every day until he decided to go back to the Bahamas about 2 weeks after we got married. I didn't know if he would come back or not but he did. We got over that period of adjustment and our marriage is stronger because of it. He like you struggles with not being able to work and is not use to staying at home. We would take drives and walks in the park when I got home from work to help combat depression. He keeps in contact with friends and family in the Bahamas. We would watch ZNS online and listen to various Bahamas stations online as well. We have been married for 2 1/2 years. We still have disagreements and have gone through other types of adjustment but we don't allow them to be more important than our marriage. We are committed to each and our marriage. Don't lose hope.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Several years ago my husband (then fiance) came on a K1 visa. The adjustment was super difficult. He went through severe culture shock, there was a struggle with my parents, planning a wedding and some financial issues. I felt 100% responsible for everyone's unhappiness and it put a real strain on our relationship. Ultimately, he decided to go back to his country and we would continue our relationship leading to marriage. I can't say it was the smartest decision we made when we look back on it, AOS and his ability to work would have changed the situation, and just waiting it out. We ended up marrying in his country several months later, and I decided to go live with him. We had a son and later filed for an IR-1 and recently came back to the states. When he came he was able to get a job almost immediately, nothing very lucrative, but it contributes wonderfully as a joint income and it makes him happy and he feels more productive. We are MUCH happier, I think a huge part is for us was spending that time married together in his country and putting everything else to the side ! I know this isn't ideal for everyone, but it worked for us. Good luck to you.

Don't hire a lawyer it is a waste of money, the paperwork is beyond easy enough to do yourself. You don't get to choose the state where your paperwork gets sent, after you send it to the lockbox it will get sent to whatever office covers your region. The process is the process as you seem to understand it can take 6-9 months. The best way to keep it moving along at a swift speed is to check and recheck and make sure there are no hang ups that would cause you to get a checklist where more information may be required which can hang you up a little along the way. Don't get intimidated by the paperwork, use vj for help if you need any along the way.