Maya&Matt

I left my husband while pregnant and I can tell you that growing up without a man with such poor morals has only benefited her. 3 years later I found the most amazing man in the world and married him, my daughter calls him daddy and I couldn't think of a more wonderful and kind father.
Perhaps she will meet an Australian man who takes care of her and her child and actually respects the both of them.
Also, it is hard to be a single mother in America, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

No. This is poor advice. He doesn't get a pass for cheating, because she's making 'hormonal' decisions.
Talking to a psychologist when he won't go with her? WTH is the point in that? He's been cheating on her for most of her marriage she says. Why would you be so silly as to believe this lady going to the doc on her own would change a thing?
Also the women think they should change some thing so fast as a place or room or …. it can damage your baby inside you.
Moving fast can damage the baby? What utterly medical claptrap. I've never heard anything so patently ridiculous in my 27 years as a paramedic.
OP, pack up, and go home. Best thing you can do for yourself, in my opinion. If it were me, I'd prefer the comfort and emotional support I would get surrounded by familiar people, and family.

Regarding those who are deployed please remember that this was by choice. People do not join the service not knowing that there is a chance of deployment.
I saddened that you feel that telling me to 'suck it up' is helpful when I believe it is clear that I am feeling very depressed.
I should not have posted anything here.

A successful interview is NOT the ultimate goal.... A happy marriage IS the goal... So don't get confused that success is the K1 ... Success is a good relationship... If you do not have a healthy relationship (which is sounds like you do not) you will fail (even if you succeed in the visa) ... Don't get it twisted...

Are you serious? How ignorant and mean is this statement. Why would she want to give her children away for adoption, simply because their father is a jerk. You don't make any sense. I find your comment to be rather offensive and it doesn't contribute anything positive.

What would it be sooooo important to a husband that their wife gives up HER identity? It seems Like property they feel they have to put their name on it, so nobody steals their toy?... I really don't understand the big deal in keeping your given name and I dont understand a man that would be that insecure to have to outright insist on it? Is it just me?

I kept my own name. I don't see any reason to take his - why would his family name be more important than mine?

Hilariously I was told by a lovely mature lady at a grocery store "you speak really good English for an Australian". I thought that perhaps she was mixing me up with an Austrian and I confirmed I was from Australia. She said, 'yes I know you are Australian, your English is really good, I can understand you really well'....... With loving kindness, bless her.

Everyone has a 4th of July, it's not like you can just erase it off the calendar.
If you mean an equivalent to the US Independence Day, yes there is Canada Day on July 1st.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canada_Day

If I'm asked if I'm cold I would say yes I hate the cold. Then they go on with but you're from Canada! Yes I am and I know how to turn the heat on.

Had our interview today in Vancouver, BC. Same-sex Visa approved!! Review to come shortly but basically, questions were basic and the staff there were very polite and friendly. Shout out to my new friend Donna, from VJ, great to meet you and thanks again for your support and for showing us around. Your next!!

For health insurance... Check on the exchanges (healthcare.gov) pregnancy is no longer a pre existing condition and you cannot be denied because if it starting Jan 1... Once you select a policy (silver or above) you fill in the info to see how much of a federal subsidy yo will get, but being part time low wage, I imaging it will be significant... For example if you select a $300 a month policy, based on your income, you might get a $250-$300 credit that you can use to pay for the healthcare premiums... At least you will have the birth covered...
The child will be a USC and as such, you can receive benefits for the baby... You can file for removal of conditions on your own but you must file for divorce... For the baby daddy... He needs to step up, take some responsibility and help you out.. After all it sounds like you are staying for him... If he ain't stepping up, you need to step away and get yourself and your baby in a better situation. If you are starting over, I would recommend you consider starting over back n France where you at least have family...

I'd take him to the side and say, "look buddy, I love you, you're the man of my dreams, my hero, etc. But you brought me to a foreign country, promising a great future and undying love, yadayada, and you aren't doing any of that, and I'm beginning to feel very uncherished and unloved. Now it's time for you to buck up, be a man, stop having a pity party for yourself and get to work living up to your promises, before I slap the ####### out of you. "

Homesickness is the biggest thing. USC's tend to forget just how much their immigrant spouse has given up and don't fully understand why they don't "appreciate living in the US".
Lack of knowledge is another thing. Not knowing the basic things (getting a driver's license, knowing what food is good, how to file taxes) the things USC's take for granted.
Forgetting that people who look and sound foreign do sometimes face discrimination and abuse and preparing their spouse and helping them know how to deal with rude people.
Freedom. Getting a job and feeling secure in life here and being able to support themselves. Friendship networks.
Honestly it's mostly about understanding each other and listening. As it is with any relationship.

What kind of advice is this? She should be able to convey her emotions in front of her husband, even when her emotions aren't pretty or positive.

For what purpose is this for?
So he can sweet talk her with more lies and deceit or worse attack her physically?

Mine is keeping my table from wobbling.

I know of people who tried to send Surprise Eggs from Germany to the U.S., and the eggs always got taken out of the packages by US customs. I believe this is because the U.S. states that toys inside of food (the chocolate) are dangerous and a choking hazard (huh, I ate that stuff during all of my childhood, and I am still alive!). I think there is now a New Jersey based company that produces eggs similar to Kinder Surprise eggs, but I do not know if they're any good.
Before I came to the States, I'd never thought that Surprise Eggs might be considered a dangerous good that Americans must be protected from (while they're all hoarding guns in their bedrooms, lol! ), but I guess you never stop learning.

The age difference between you is your business... but you say there's essentially nothing holding you back in Australia but there is - your children. If you go to America now they won't be able to go with you, they won't be able to visit without passports and their father's consent, and they'll have to grow up knowing that you are entirely gone from their lives. If you stay in Australia, and your love joins you there, at least you'll be in the same country. There's plenty of young men and women who come to Australia on short-term working visas, and at nineteen your new love is in the right age group to get one. If he moves down under you can spend a few years deepening your relationship and gathering enough evidence to satisfy anyone, and then you can worry about what to do after that.

There is no reason to stay and put up with abuse. The conditional green card does not require you to still be married in order to remove conditions. If he's hitting you and threatening to kill you, get out now. Find a abused woman's shelter and get out of the house.

If you've only spent 1 week with him, I would stop and consider just what you're doing, you can't really know someone after a week. Also, what country is he from?
Marriage is a big deal, not something that should be rushed into.
There's really no harm in getting to know him more first.

You have been given good advice but refuse to accept it. You have a rough road ahead and you deserve what you get.
Good luck.

You are crazy, one day you will cry a lot for not listing to all these advices here. use your mind for thinking.

She will mop the Floor with you.

Letting go is never easy when YOU love someone. You're post sounds familiar wonder if she's related to my ex who did similar things; I had to remove my hand out the lions mouth (figure of speech). I agree with the others your marriage is not healthy and she sounds like she has a bag of excuses. STOP and think you are not getting younger, what's your worth? Your intuition tells you one thing but you convince yourself otherwise. You seem more that a concerned husband than controlling. You are well aware of what can happen to a person in a split second in the States. I think you may be looking for solid evidence, you may never get that. Actions speaks volume, anyone can say anything but actions dictates genuine feelings. You have feelings too and how long will you sit around and have sometime treat you this way? You must have self love and this decision may be hard but required it seems. We can give you advise but at the end of the day YOU have to decide what's right for you, and take the steps. You have doubt and hopes at the same time; life is about changes. I empathize with you but also would like to nudge you and say "you are worthy". Surround yourself with family and friends that love you their love shared with you will help you heal as you go through.
I wish you all the best in whatever you decide, you seem like a nice guy. Another nice lady could be missing out on genuine love.