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Bad mistake. File them concurrently. Really, stop worrying about what mom said. Your relationship is legitimate and you're following the correct procedure.

Thank you for the responses. I have an attorney on the case and told me that me being at the interview was not mandatory, as it stated in the packet. Well i will be in the Dominican Republic in July for my interview. I have all documents that were stated above except letters from family and friends. I will work on those immediately.

imo, for what's next..
1. file for divorce . seek an attorney if you think it necessary
2. find a good therapist (no, i'm not kidding)
3. rebuild yer life (this will take some time)
4. contact yer older brother, warn him about this fella, ask him to warn others locally.
5. fire off a letter to USCIS (again) noting the divorce .
6. update yer address with USCIS (immediately)
That's it, for now...

I understand what you mean and I was really swooning because he actually became really affectionate when we got home from the airport so I felt I was just too suspicious and I should give him a chance but looking back now, all the signs were there all along but I felt things will improve when we get to know each other very well and he made sure that he did everything he could to convince me so anyone who is calling me dumb should realize that if a man wants something from a woman, he will go all out till he gets it and afterwards he will show his true colors and that is exactly what happened to me. So if your guts is telling you there is something wrong, stop and look before you spend all this time, money and resources only to have nothing to show for it.

Sorry this happened to you...and sorry that some people on here throw their two cents in without an ounce of compassion...I hate online gangsters, especially the ones that wont dare to show their picture! I don't blame them though because VJ allows them to bully people that are already feeling down and they reward them with 'platinum status' which they accept proudly as if it's getting them a free room upgrade somewhere. ANYHOW...I went thru something so similar as you, in fact as I was reading it...I had to ask myself if you were somehow married to my ex. lol. I know you are feeling like you wasted so much time and money..I know you are emotionally spent, angry, hurt and confused. I felt all those things when my ex did it to me. I was embarrassed and ashamed! As for you staying and continuing on with the relationship even though you knew something was wrong from the start, don't beat yourself up over that. People do it everyday...for the kids, for finances, etc. My ex came here on a fiancé visa and before he even got here, I felt something was not right but I still went ahead with everything because I felt like if I didn't I'd be letting him and his whole family down. So I convinced myself that everything was fine instead of listening to my gut instinct. You feel like you invest so much to give in, so you just keep going praying for something to turn around. Well, it didn't...in both our cases. But I can tell you, it's not worth dealing with him anymore. Whatever is going to happen with his immigration situation is going to happen with or without you. My ex got to stay cuz he had the nerve to say I put him out and filed that VAWA or whatever it's called. I was so mad at first and all I wanted to do was fight fight fight for my name not to be dragged thru the mud. But at the end of the day, I realized he wasn't worth it. My best advice to you is just let it all go. You moved out of the house and that is a good start. You reported to the right people already that you are no longer with him and that is all you can do. The system does not work in our favor at times and I had to learn to accept that. The best thing I did for myself was to move on and close that chapter in my life. You say you are single with no child...but it's actually better you didn't have a child with him right? You will find someone one day that is worth all the things you do for him....who will appreciate all the things you do for him. Anything that a man sows, he reaps. He'll get his one day! Its been 5 years since my ex formed up his argument and walked out the door. To this day he is single, still trolling dating sites online and working in a factory just to have everyone back home stretching their hand out to be fed. I, on the other hand, am prosperous, happy and married! Every dog has his day, and he will surely have his!

So this is my story,
I'm from panama, one day I decided to go on this crazy journey called AU PAIR by CULTURAL CARE "they don't really care at all" and signed up for the program which it's about cultural exchange and studying and of course work as a nanny 10 hrs or more a day.
well just to understand my story I moved to use with a j1 visa, I had an amazing year with this american family who thanks GOD treated me like their own daughter, well at the end of my first year I thought of staying and extending my visa for one more year (as an au pair with a j1 visa you can deff extend for 1 more year and I DID well Im happy I did cause on November 2011 I met the man of my life... <3
After ignoring him for almost a month I gave him a chance and we met and OMG THANK GOD I GAVE HIM A CHANCE CAUSE IF NOT I WOULD HAVE MISSED ONE OF A KIND LOVER AND GENTLEMAN!
we started to date and everything was going right.. but guess what it was time to go home for me and we didn't want to separate!! we didn't talk a lot about me going away cause we didn't want to get all sad, we dated for a lil while and we had fun times and well the time went by fast till one day i went over his apt. and we watched this amazing and sad movie about a cple from diff countries dating and GOD it got us we both started to cry and decided to talk! at this point i never thought he was gonna ask me to get married anyways at first we didn't even think it was gonna be a serious thing but with the time we got involved and well one JULY 18TH he proposed yes he did in a car haha I give him credit he took me to the beach first but I did;nt even imagine he was gonna propose since i waited for so long haha ! well after the beach we got stuck in traffic in I think its 1-95s and we were singing and being lovely when he started to tell me that he loves me and he won't let me go and blahblah and voila he proposed I was in shock!!!!! I actually said yes an ya after that well i can say this was one of my best decisions i ever made !! we r so in love.. but there is a big problem we live in different places since on augus2012t he told me to move together to my country panama and things didn't go good for us with work down here so we decided to move to us again...
WE FILLED OUR PAPERWORK AND SENT IT ON MARCH WE GOT OUR NOA1 AND WE STILL WAITING FOR OUR NOA2 which I think its gonna take a while cause we r applying for this visa and we married just 7 months ago.
i LOVE HIM AND MISS HIM SO MUCH... AND I just wanna give you guys and advice!! DON'T EVER SEPARATE FROM THE ONE YOU LOVE THINK BEFORE YOU TAKE A DECISION AND MAKE THINGS RIGHT !
AFTER ALL WE STILL HAVE ALL OUR LIFE TO BE TOGETHER BUT DAMNN I MISS HIM!
I'LL KEEP YOU POST WHEN I GET MY NOA2!! CANT WAIT
CLAUDIA LANE
with love
smoochies

First and most important, how does any of this help the OP.
Second, she may not have overlooked anything, he may have been that good at lying (we all know people who are)
Third, making up statistics is a juvenile way to get attention
Fourth, the use of azz while taking about others level of education only shows your ignorance.
Lastly, I take your entire post personally offensive, I have no higher education, I am by your standards "well to do", I choose to be with my fiancé because she is exactly what I need in my life, not because I am a "beta male", or live with my parents. I have a full time job, NEVER been without one since I was 16. I don’t date American woman for my own reasons.
Please don’t attack anyone just because you have a bone to pick or are not happy with the chooses you have made, we are here to help each other not throw stones

For those folk with layovers, it's:
1) get off plane
2) go through immigration and security
3) collect baggage
4) Go through Customs
5) exit international security area
6) drop baggage at the right baggage drop off point (this varies, based on what's on the bag tags)
7) go through next security checkpoint to get into the right terminal
8) get on the plane for the next jaunt.

This is a message in the K-1 about K-1 couples . I wanted to send out some words of encouragement today . This is a very long process for most of us . We need to stay strong and keep the faith . VSC OR CSC lets keep up our positive outlook and know that the time is coming for all of us . Do what ever you need to do during the day to keep your faith in the process . I know it can be very hard to see the ups and downs from the centers . I read about the length of times and the disappointments we face each day our NA02 does not come . It is a painful process and sometimes it can end relationships . I pray now today that everyone can keep up the faith remain strong and reach the goal in the journey ! At the end all of this will be very worth it and a nice story of courage and strength to tell for sure .
There are so many here who will help and they are a true blessing .
God Bless

i just want to say a big thank you to God and everyone on this site... he passed the Interview, and the visa will be ready next week...
thank you guys...

Believe it or not some of us have been in this VJ for over three years, actually almost four years. So trust me when I say"WE" do understand and share your frustrations. But some of us react with logic and some with emotions. Everyone is different! Remember writing a response is not the same as talking over a telephone. Others can't get a full picture of your emotional state but when all is said and done....we all understand this difficult process. Why do you think "veterans" hang around even after their VJ is over???? It is because they know it too well. No one can forget the pains, the disappointments, the waiting and the outcomes one has to go through when dealing with paperwork, letters, trips, fees, separations for a long time from loved ones, denials, more docs....etc. It is a humbling experience and painful.
Just keep a positive outlook and take one day at a time. This too shall pass.......

AGREED!!

K1's are handled by the IV section so the email is LagosIV . You can try calling NVC to see if the case is there , they are so much nicers than the toads at USCIS

Debbie is right. It takes couple of weeks sometimes to get the case 'into their system'. We got about the same kind of response too and I was told to check back again two weeks before my husband's interview which I never did anyway.
you will be fine just email them again soonest. Sometimes the CEAC tracking gives you an update when they finally eneter it. It will show a newer date of update to your file which means someone has touched it there.
Best wishes.

You know at Embassy its like they do at NVC. It arrives but not logged into system. K1's are very popular at Lagos so give them some tine next week I would say. Keep emailing and staying on the, though. It is well.

Congrats. way to go.

only the petitioner has an A# for now. The beneficiary does not have one until he/she becomes a legal alien in the U.s

Excellent this needs to be pinned. You are a Godsend blessing.

Yes, my friend i am at this stage now . Once you email Lagos they should send you details about paying your visa fee to GT Bank. you will print that email sent and take it the bank along with you LGS number. The receipt that your fiance gets from paying will be used to schedule your appointment online. In the email that Lagos will send you will be packet 3 documents.If you want you can get those forms ahead of time at http://travel.state.gov/visa/forms/forms_1342.html . Just read our embassy info guide and it will tell you what forms are needed.God bless and Good luck.

Because you have it all wrong. In Lagos now you schedule your own for K1. There are steps to take like your packet 3.
Have you emailed the Embassy yet? Do you have your case# from NVC? You could have been assigned months ago. I would get on that now.

My fiance ask the embassy in my country about your question. I copy what he ask and what the answer. i hope it will help you.
Sent: Thursday, April 25, 2013 5:32 AM
To: Jakarta, IV
Subject: K1 Visa in Progress
Hello,
My Indonesian fiancee and I are in the process of getting our I-129f approved through USCIS, and anticipate it will be coming through to the Jakarta embassy eventually. We are considering having a family celebration in Indonesia before she comes over here. With no religious figures, no paperwork, nothing that would create any legal marriage between the two of us - simply an opportunity for the family to celebrate since they will be unable to attend our wedding when she comes to the US.
I've read online that some people have had problems with Consular Officers denying K1 visas because of these celebrations. I want to be sure we don't run afoul of State Department rules. Can you clarify, will the Jakarta embassy issue a K1 visa if we have a family celebration that does not result in any government/religious organization recognizing a marriage?
Thank you for your time,
AND THIS IS WHAT THEY ANSWER...
Thank you for your email.
You can have a family celebration here in Indonesia. Do not register this ceremony to the KUA or Civil registry Office. If you do so, your fiancé will not eligible for a K-1 visa status.
Regards,
IMMIGRANT VISA UNIT
Embassy of the United States of America I Jalan Medan Merdeka Selatan #5 I Jakarta 10110 I Indonesia
Email: JakIV@state.gov I Fax +62 (21) 385-7189 I internet: http://jakarta.usembassy.gov

I do and very easy and cool. Family always surprised. Also if anyone lives by 7-Eleven carries MTN recharge cards.

And that's unfortunately what I find wrong with the system.
The whimsical thoughts of the CO needs to be removed. If that is doen and they rely strictly on the evidence then we should see less of this heartbreaks that we pay to get.
I remember our own K1 denial last year. I had feelings in me that I haven't had in all my life and I pray I never had them again. My frustration was how can the CO who spent all of 15 minutes interviewing my Fiancee have that much power over our life.
You need to write exactly what the denial letter says so that others can guide you on your next steps.
We married two months after our denial and I already have NOA1 for the I-130 so you might want to consider that.
I'm truly sorry. Stay close to your Fiance because he'll need you more than before now. It's not a nice feeling.

Hello , is your last name a common name? if so this may not be a problem in the end. However ,as you are doing now ,it would be wise to address the issue prior to filing. There are several ways to do so. I am sure other members will chime in . IMO, Submit with your I-129F packet Birth certificates for both you and your fiancée. You can also submit BC's of both parents if available. I don't think your embassy is a tough one ,I may be wrong. In the end if your CO suspects you may be related as lets say cousins ,a DNA test may be asked for.
Side note: It is not illegal to marry a cousin if the state you are residing in allows it.

Sorry to hear that. I wish you the best and hope things work out well for you, but maybe it's good this happened now rather than once you're married and in the US.

This process does try one's patience but, so does marriage from time to time.I hope things work out for you but, maybe it's better you found out this quality, or lack thereof, before you were with him in the U.S.