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In MENA countries a larger age gap will often invite more scrutiny than in other parts of the world. And it seems that when the USC petitioner is a female and older it's even truer.
OP, do some reading in the regional forum to learn from other members who have married younger men in the region.

I kind of wonder about the USCIS system. I've been wondering about it for a while.
SUPPOSEDLY: Scenario, you as a Moroccan, was a beneficiary and the petitioner had cancelled the application. Then one day down the road, you want to marry a USC (United States Citizen). This USC applies as a petitioner and you as a beneficiary - AGAIN. Your name may appear in the system and you COULD/WOULD be considered a "MENA" red flag. There are high chances of denial in the process - or so I WOULD humbly "ASSUME".
I'm married to a MENA man. Our applications have almost been withdrawn a few times. We've come to realization that it was our cultural differences that were causing us problems, NOT because "it is who we are"... The distance was hard enough! Factor that in!
I do not want to generalize but... MENA men are usually INFLEXIBLE, RIGID, tempermental, impatient, and these undesirable traits come out glaringly from time to time. They say LOVE has nothing to do with this, happiness has nothing to do with this. They do this for the sake of fulfilling their "islamic duty" as a husband to "maintain" their wives. Honey, the role shifts some here... for the sake of love and survival.
GOOD LUCK with that here in USA - maintaining their wives is hardly going to be the priority issue here. It'll be keeping a roof over your head, keeping your marriage together, learning new cultures, expectations and everything. You'll WANT your loved ones to maintain themselves and take care of themselves while you struggle for a while to "sink or swim".
Thank Goodness my man has relaxed a bit and learned to be flexible.
I wish you good luck...seriously.

I kind of wonder about the USCIS system. I've been wondering about it for a while.
SUPPOSEDLY: Scenario, you as a Moroccan, was a beneficiary and the petitioner had cancelled the application. Then one day down the road, you want to marry a USC (United States Citizen). This USC applies as a petitioner and you as a beneficiary - AGAIN. Your name may appear in the system and you COULD/WOULD be considered a "MENA" red flag. There are high chances of denial in the process - or so I WOULD humbly "ASSUME".
I'm married to a MENA man. Our applications have almost been withdrawn a few times. We've come to realization that it was our cultural differences that were causing us problems, NOT because "it is who we are"... The distance was hard enough! Factor that in!
I do not want to generalize but... MENA men are usually INFLEXIBLE, RIGID, tempermental, impatient, and these undesirable traits come out glaringly from time to time. They say LOVE has nothing to do with this, happiness has nothing to do with this. They do this for the sake of fulfilling their "islamic duty" as a husband to "maintain" their wives. Honey, the role shifts some here... for the sake of love and survival.
GOOD LUCK with that here in USA - maintaining their wives is hardly going to be the priority issue here. It'll be keeping a roof over your head, keeping your marriage together, learning new cultures, expectations and everything. You'll WANT your loved ones to maintain themselves and take care of themselves while you struggle for a while to "sink or swim".
Thank Goodness my man has relaxed a bit and learned to be flexible.
I wish you good luck...seriously.

I kind of wonder about the USCIS system. I've been wondering about it for a while.
SUPPOSEDLY: Scenario, you as a Moroccan, was a beneficiary and the petitioner had cancelled the application. Then one day down the road, you want to marry a USC (United States Citizen). This USC applies as a petitioner and you as a beneficiary - AGAIN. Your name may appear in the system and you COULD/WOULD be considered a "MENA" red flag. There are high chances of denial in the process - or so I WOULD humbly "ASSUME".
I'm married to a MENA man. Our applications have almost been withdrawn a few times. We've come to realization that it was our cultural differences that were causing us problems, NOT because "it is who we are"... The distance was hard enough! Factor that in!
I do not want to generalize but... MENA men are usually INFLEXIBLE, RIGID, tempermental, impatient, and these undesirable traits come out glaringly from time to time. They say LOVE has nothing to do with this, happiness has nothing to do with this. They do this for the sake of fulfilling their "islamic duty" as a husband to "maintain" their wives. Honey, the role shifts some here... for the sake of love and survival.
GOOD LUCK with that here in USA - maintaining their wives is hardly going to be the priority issue here. It'll be keeping a roof over your head, keeping your marriage together, learning new cultures, expectations and everything. You'll WANT your loved ones to maintain themselves and take care of themselves while you struggle for a while to "sink or swim".
Thank Goodness my man has relaxed a bit and learned to be flexible.
I wish you good luck...seriously.

Sorry to hear you will not continue with the process. No need to display your reasons here.
Good luck!!

Hey everyone!
I just want to take the time to say thank you to those who have given your help and advice over the last few months of my membership on these forums. Unfortunately, I regret to inform you that I will not be continuing with the K-1 visa process. Long story, and I'd rather not go in to it, but I just wanted to stop by on my way out to say a big thank you to those of you who have been a huge help during this K-1 process so far. I really appreciate your support and prayers, and your honesty with some direct answers to questions that I've had in the past.
I wish you all the best of luck as you continue with your journeys, and you will be in my prayers. Love you guys! Thanks again!
Ezekiel Frazer Chester

Hi,
I just got a biometrics confirmation letter (797c) stating our appointment slot for date and time. There was a BOLD lettering saying that if you are not "present" for the biometrics appointment, it will be considered as "ABANDONED."
PERIOD.
I suggest you go to the bottom of that letter and "reschedule" your appointment. You don't want to gamble or risk being late or delayed. If you are NOT there on your appointed time = ABANDONED.
Don't just "WING IT" and see if you get lucky by having a "sympathetic" clerk.
Your decision. GOOD LUCK!
E

Brookhaven,
Strangers on the internet is the last place you should be looking for marriage and family advice. No one knows what your true situation is better than you. If you are being physically abused then you should remove yourself and your baby from the situation as soon as possible. Otherwise you may want to seek counseling, either through a church or a support group, or professionally. If your husband would be willing to go with you and you both can try to work things out, that would be a good option too. Have you tried to talk to him about going to marriage counseling?
I wish you well.

I want to apologize if I overstep any boundaries or "ASSUME" or "READING between the LINES". But I feel compelled to say this:
Miss, be very careful. Whoever told you that you need $5,000-$10,000 in savings is wrong. If it is a "man" telling you that you need this amount in the bank... I would suggest you be VERY careful and watch out for next few signs...
The next sign would be "winning" your trust (love, affirmation, etc).
Then the next sign would be suggesting you give him all your routing #, transfer $$ (for whatever reason), and etc...
The next thing you'll know by morning some time down the road, your money is swindled, dwindled, drained, here and there...
It can happen within a month to a year.
MENA (Middle East North Africans) are notably from HIGH fraud countries.
Keep your eyes open and your pocketbook CLOSER.
E

I want to apologize if I overstep any boundaries or "ASSUME" or "READING between the LINES". But I feel compelled to say this:
Miss, be very careful. Whoever told you that you need $5,000-$10,000 in savings is wrong. If it is a "man" telling you that you need this amount in the bank... I would suggest you be VERY careful and watch out for next few signs...
The next sign would be "winning" your trust (love, affirmation, etc).
Then the next sign would be suggesting you give him all your routing #, transfer $$ (for whatever reason), and etc...
The next thing you'll know by morning some time down the road, your money is swindled, dwindled, drained, here and there...
It can happen within a month to a year.
MENA (Middle East North Africans) are notably from HIGH fraud countries.
Keep your eyes open and your pocketbook CLOSER.
E

No, your wife can stay here and file for adjustment of status again. HOWEVER, you must now file a I-130 with it as well, to establish a marital relationship. The I-129F is void because you did not marry within the 90 days. But as long as they all entered with inspection (they did) you can file a CONCURRENT I-130/I-485 Adjustment of Status package for them all, and they can wait it out inside the US.
Here is the VJ guide: http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide2
You will also have to file this for each stepchild.

No easy answer to it. Being a victim of domestic abuse regardless of culture or not. Using children against you is despicable at best. There is NO shame in calling 911 for domestic situations. I've provided you the links below. I am sure you're a very intelligent mother and want the best out of all this.
http://www.domesticviolence.org/what-is-abuse/
http://www.domesticviolence.org/violence-wheel/
Do focus on your and your twin's safety and SANITY. Do not ever blame yourself for all this happening. The least you can worry is the GC. Call the domestic hotline. They will be happy to help you. Do that, then worry about GC later. There is NO shame for seeking help. Domestic abused women are often too late to speak up... because they're not able to speak from the grave.
There's greater honor in protecting your children. They need to know that what he does is not right and not Islam.
I wish you best and may God be with you in making wise decisions.
E