Shoot Em Straight

You certainly don't need to spend the 10 months or more between marriage and visa interview in Egypt but if you're planning a single trip for a couple weeks, that will make your chances of success pretty slim. The strongest evidence of a bona fide relationship is the evidence of time spent together in person. With red flags like yours, multiple visits for as long as you can arrange would be a good idea. Think in terms of several weeks total as a minimum with "months" being much better.

Maybe you should try a fiance petition first?
The age is significant because you are almost past child bearing age....Yes I know some women have kids in their 50's But not usually
Not knowing about your intent to marry and immigrate is HUGE. You really need the family support since your age difference is so large. If he really loves a woman and is proud of her then he would show you around to his family and friends.
It is not impossible, but it will be hard.
Good Luck

I have been to Jordan several times and I am aware that is isn't the social norm for younger men to be married to older women, it isn't here either, although it is more accepted here. We know what we are facing as far as the judgments and assumptions people will have, there and in the US. He has an aunt who is married to man 15 years younger than herself. I am not looking for people to point out that we have an uphill battle, we are well aware of that. I was merely out of curiosity looking for people with a similar story. I think it's unfair for you to say either he is very mature(which he is) or that I am immature. We have a lot in common, some things not in common.It's like that for most marriages in the world, but if everyone married people exactly like themselves this world would be a boring place. . And we know about the cultural differences. We have discussed everything about our lives together in depth, and how things will be very different here. We are not naive. Love is love, we can't help what out hearts feel. Thanks for sharing

Oh it is for people to feel better about themselves, I guess. Thanks for the explanation.

Oh it is for people to feel better about themselves, I guess. Thanks for the explanation.

I'm guessing noone is intentionally generalizing young MENA women as mindless, vapid, stupid baby makers. But talk of young MENA men needing foreign, older women so that they have someone to match their intellectual capacities seems to be doing just that. This seems as bad to me as generalizing MENA men as abusive control freaks.

The CO may have just asked "do you know what medicines he/she is on?" without the CO knowing the answer, just to see how the applicant would respond.

Sister,
One thing I know about MENA marriages is you have to work at them. My first husband is from Mauritania (south of Morocco) and let's just say that whole marriage was total anti-heaven. He left me with one child to raise alone. That is a story that went bad. We were 11 years apart age difference, him being the older.
My second husband is from Saudi Arabia and he's totally different. Also, another MENA style relationship, and I am older than him. It's almost five years. Nevertheless, when I see him, I see him not his age or country or whatever. And vice versa. I enjoy the time together. Of course he can get on my nerves, and I am sure I get on his. However, there is this love, this bond that is so strong. It's odd, I find myself saying, Hmm...how did i end up with the bestest husband in the world. *hehe!* bestest being my word. Nevertheless, I know for this moment in my life he is meant for me, and I for him.
No person knows your relationship but you and your husband. It is your husband that makes you smile, that you are wanting and dying to spend your life with. Should it matter that he's younger than you. Of course doubt about one's loves comes in to play, in Islam, we blame those doubts on the Shaytain(satan) and when that happens we seek refugee in God by saying: Audhu Billahi Mina Shaytan ir-Rajeem.(I seek refuge with Allah fom Satan the Accursed.)
I am not sure if you are aware of the story of Prophet Mohammed(SWS) and Khadijah (RA) but that is a beautiful love story within it's self. Prophet Mohammed(SWS) was just 25 years old, and never married, his parents are both death, he's being raised by his uncle. And the love of his life for 25 years was a woman by the name of Khadijah(RA). When they married, he was working for her, but he did not have a business or money. She was the one with wealth, and had the business, he was her employer. Can you believe that?! WOW! They were married for 25 years and she bore him children, and believed in him when no one else did. I recommend you read that story.
They themselves had difficulties that one could never imagine. However, he was so happy and so content with her that when she died, he mourned her for a long time. That became the period known as the years of sorrow for him.
So having doubt it normal, but it also comes from the negative vibes or as we like to say Satan. When you have those doubts come to you, just remember God, your love for your husband, and the love he has for you. Think of the great times you have spent with him and hopefully this will erase all doubt that you have.
Obviously this man has been put in your life for a reason, and instead of analyzing the possibilities of what could go wrong or what have you, just enjoy this sweet moments that you have been given.
And God-willing (insha'Allah) God will handle the rest. :-)
I hope this helps you.
~Saudiwife

Why does conversion mean that the woman has no backbone???

Congrats Tany. I have tears in my eyes remembering your journey. I am so happy for this ending and a new beggining
My process was easy and I am very thankful and very blessed. but I was still crazy throughout the whole thing! lol
You may be on cloud 9 right now just knowing he has his visa.... the the true floating feeling is when you see him walk through that door onto american soil and into your arms. The feeling of no more computer or emails or texts or visits or 20 hour flight.... knowing he will always be next to you when you need a hug or just to hold your hand... this is an amazing feeling... I will never forget how blessed we were and we are forever grateful to all the people of VJ who helped us make it through cairo embassy.
Enjoy your life, your love and your future.
Praise God!
Micki

i have never smoked my wife either

Lawyers for this process are useless. Mine set me back $1800 and delayed the process by 3 months thanks to is incompetence. He had no clue about the NVC process. If it wasn't for this website, my wife would still be sitting in Thailand.

I wish you good help in finding your solutions but it does not read as a Immigration, Religious, or Freedom of Speech Issue.
Why do you need to keep repeating Muslim experience, being a Muslim we are used to being treated bad, And you are suffering on the account of being pious??? Practicing? You seem to be having OTHER issues, please stop bringing Islam into this.
The way you will be interviewed is based on your relationship with SO. Not that you go to Mosque.

I wish you good help in finding your solutions but it does not read as a Immigration, Religious, or Freedom of Speech Issue.
Why do you need to keep repeating Muslim experience, being a Muslim we are used to being treated bad, And you are suffering on the account of being pious??? Practicing? You seem to be having OTHER issues, please stop bringing Islam into this.
The way you will be interviewed is based on your relationship with SO. Not that you go to Mosque.

I wish you good help in finding your solutions but it does not read as a Immigration, Religious, or Freedom of Speech Issue.
Why do you need to keep repeating Muslim experience, being a Muslim we are used to being treated bad, And you are suffering on the account of being pious??? Practicing? You seem to be having OTHER issues, please stop bringing Islam into this.
The way you will be interviewed is based on your relationship with SO. Not that you go to Mosque.

Dont do FB

Great advice from Vanessa and Tony!!! Wow it was empowering to read he had a chance to help himself...
@ Leatherneck once again well put. OP got great free advice!!! This would have cost so much to get out of an attorney. And to be proactive would be the best option...
BUT his last post #24 is indicating something...he is not ready to let go and think with his head. He wants to remain in this situation.
"I didn't ask for any of this and just want my life back to normal."
I hope it will all work out for the both of them.

i don't like facebook

I keep telling you guys that Facebook is bad.

Thanks for sharing it is encouraging news. And good luck to your husband on this day!!!

Great advice from Vanessa and Tony!!! Wow it was empowering to read he had a chance to help himself...
@ Leatherneck once again well put. OP got great free advice!!! This would have cost so much to get out of an attorney. And to be proactive would be the best option...
BUT his last post #24 is indicating something...he is not ready to let go and think with his head. He wants to remain in this situation.
"I didn't ask for any of this and just want my life back to normal."
I hope it will all work out for the both of them.

I know it must be very hard to hear all those words from her...but you also have to protect yourself. I would be devastated if David did this to me and I don't know if I could file for divorce right away because of the depression and hope that it may still work out. But we are looking into your situation and are the objective ones. Please, protect yourself. You are not the bad guy here. This was probably planned before you even got married. I am so sorry

You have no idea how much you will have to spend if you do not start to protect yourself and think in terms of the very first law of nature -- self preservation.
I understand you don't want to be where you are emotionally -- but listen to the advice you're getting here. You now have to start thinking defense and strategy, you never thought your wife would pull a move like she has already -- did you? No you didn't, you trusted her. If someone had warned you a year ago this would happen, you would have thought they were crazy. Well, consider us crazy! We're now trying to tell you what can happen -- and what has happened to many.
You better believe someone has your wife's ear -- and they're putting ideas in her head. Why else would she go off and stay with another man? Loyal, committed wives don't meet other men and stay with them for 4 days. There are only 2 ways your wife can adjust her status and remain here, a successful self-petition after divorce or the ole' nasty sucker punch -- VAWA with a dreaded domestic violence accusation. Self petitioning would be a challenge unless you provide her with all the documents she needs. A successful VAWA is a long shot also -- don't give her that option. You want to avoid being thrown into the dv meat-grinder and spit out a very damaged guy. Take the advice given to you earlier in this thread. Good luck.

I'm not wrong. I'm ignoring most of your post because it's useless fluff trying to bolster your position but totally irrelevant to my stance which is: while yes you CAN wait to file ROC you ARE in breach and CAN BE DEPORTED!! so you MUST file ROC as soon as you are divorce to maintain your status and make sure you are protected. I WILL say there's more to this process than a couple of instructions. There are LAWS at play here... specifically the INA.
The INA clearly states the rules. For your viewing pleasure - INA Sec216(b) http://www.uscis.gov/ilink/docView/SLB/HTML/SLB/0-0-0-1/0-0-0-29/0-0-0-4223.html:
I have bolded the relevant sections. You try and claim you are an expert (though won't go into details) but claim you have helped many people through this same thing and yet you do NOT know this law? I certainly hope you're not charging people for your poor advice.. especially when said poor advice CAN result in their deportation!

Hello MENA ladies a few gentlemen!!! It is Saturday morning in Temara and right now it is Thunderstorms and light rain....soooooooo neat. Staying inside under the blankets