Jilli & Ales

Does this mean you should be a veg?

They dont have to tell you in advance, thats reason they are surprise visit....
It's upto you if you want to open your house to them or refuse them an entry, it is upto you if you want them to mark that you have legit relation or not.
Mainly they make those visit to make sure you are living togeather as state in your application they want to look at sleeping arrangements, things around in bathroom etc.

Even in fun, please avoid suggesting the forging of evidence. Someone might take you seriously and end up in deep trouble as a result.

Get married. File for AOS and Employment Authorization Document (EAD) wait 3-4 months. Voila!
The K-1 is NOT a work authorized visa, information to the contrary is wrong.

Those photos are stunning.
I think sometimes we miss some idealized version of the UK that doesn't really exist.....much like the idealized US I missed when I lived over there

That's interesting because there was in a time in the Russian empire when there was a mass-scale
importation of everything and anything French (language, culture, art, music, you name it).
That pronunciation duplicates the French for that word.
In fact, the English was most likely borrowed from the French as the French did indeed invade and
conquer England. The English duplicates the French spelling but we, assuming that English came first
may not be entirely right in this case.

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Al's got good taste, although this one maybe slid under his crazy radar. There is something very charming about Slavic girls. Czech, Polish, Slovak, Russian it's all good.

To be honest, I don't think leaving someone at an airport for 2 hours is that big of a deal.
Sure it's a bit of a screw up, but it's lunacy to suggest that it could've wrecked your entire relationship. What was it, late 2009? Some people on that site seem more than a little unhinged. Nobody's beyond a f--k up. It's whether you care enough to make it up to a person that matters.

Up until now, I would like to thank everyone personally for their advice.
I have been VERY reluctant and have held off a great deal from talking to people about it. Because I myself know the rule of the thumb where "twos a couple,but three is a crowd" and I didn't want to involve the whole world into my situation. Which is why when I had a problem with her, I would try to talk to her and not anyone else because at the end of the day, we were the only one's that could fix it.
And I think by actually not talking to anyone else and getting a good opinion (especially today) I was completely stuck. And I'm pretty sure she knew that herself that I was thinking that because she would always say to me "you never talk to anyone else about our problems"
But yet she left me very confused because she would neither talk to me. So...I'm going to somehow....someway....find the strength within me to end it and cut the chord completely. It will be by far one of the most difficult things I will have to do to this day, but as everyone has stated, I won't be alright personally until I do.
Due to things she has done to me, I have been pushed to suicide, because it was that intense what was happening. Whether I was here...or there infront of her, she would treat me bad.
It was just the worst feeling,taking her to Cancun, after I'd spent $2,000 on the trip, only for her to walk on the other side of the beach when I'd try to walk close to her, and seeing other couples enojoying themselves.Sitting there eating and she would not say a word.
It would've been better to have taken a friend than to have taken her. Even the flight there, she didn't say 1 single word to me.
Even going to the movies with her (on the VERY FEW TIMES we went). I'd try to hold her hand or put my arm around her, and she'd make up all the excuses in the world WHY she didn't want me to do it. "ahh its too hot" or whatever excuse.
And well...sexually...we all have needs. And ONCE every week or two weeks for 5 minutes at a time wasn't helping either.
THANK GOD I never filed her petition. Thank God that the person who was going to sponsor her pulled out...and to think, I was SOOOOOO ANNOYED at my friend who was going to sponsor her when he said he couldn't....in a positive way it was a God send. God trying to protect me in the long run.
I will OPENLY ADMIT that I HAVE NOT BEEN PERFECT. As stated PREVIOUSLY. I DID shout at her when things became unbearable due to her beahviour. I couldn't hold it in anymore. I did scream alot at her, I did cry alot of endless nights in bed while she would tell me to "shut up", which got me even worse crying. She insulted me with words, and YES I insulted BACK with words.
But it is true thinking about it. The marriage was over the night it occurred. =(
I just don't understand why people marry when they won't comply with their responsibilities.
Because I MYSELF KNOW, that I treated her 1000000x better than any girlfriend I've ever had. For the simple fact is that she is/was my wife. I made a committment to not only her, but God. But...whatever...nothing more I can do except move on.
And well...take the LSAT in december, so I won't be a paralegal anymore!!!

It is not abnormal behavior. She doesn't love you.

I think in your heart you already know the answer to the question you are asking. How can you work out a marriage with someone who won't even talk to you? You should file for divorce in the USA and move on with your life. My ex-husband also became cold and distant after we got married. He made my life hell. It does seem as if she only married you to get a visa. Most people that run these scams will at least pretend they love you until they get over here but she can't even do that for you.
I can tell from your post that you are unhappy and in a lot of pain over this relationship. Once you move on with your life you will feel better and God willing you will find someone that really loves you.

As a man talking to another man... run fast and leave this marriage. I feel that this is only the beginning and there's alot more to this behavior that you probably had not yet found out...

get out of it leave her, the hand writing is on the wall.she is showing you she don't love you.wake up man.it needs to be a two way street for it to work,so sorry about that, you must love her a lot, but not her,time to forget her,she won't change,

ronnieLee's case is totally different. They didn't apply for AOS for a very long time, but their main problem was not co-mingling their money. After almost 3 years of marriage, they had no joint bank accounts or joint tax return. That's why the officer was quite strict with them and asked them to provide more than cards and pictures. And it was at the interview where they were asked for the evidence. You DON'T mail in the evidence with the application. And you don't have to buy a house just to get approved. The USCIS will approve you even living with Mom.

This person is completely WRONG and appears they are applying the rules for applying for K1 VISA to when AOSing from one... and they aren't the same. Actually those might be the I-130 rules while in the US, or maybe the K3 rules or something.. just because of the reference to wedding pics....
Again, as a K1 AOS applicant you DO NOT NEED to submit anything like the PP wrote. Not to mention, the reference to owning your own home being good evidence is ludicrous. They don't care as long as you live together.
Also it is important to remember that some countries have higher fraud rates and are looked at more closely both when applying for the Visa, and AOSing.

I agree with Vanessa. She's not going to get welfare or food stamps. She's not eligible, and won't be until she's been an LPR for five years.
I also think she's jerking your chain about getting divorced without knowing about it. In most states, the only way to get a divorce without your spouse knowing about it would be to claim abandonment, and then serve notice by publication (e.g., by publishing an announcement in a newspaper). The minimum period of abandonment varies from one state to another, but six months to a year is common. Nobody would wait this long if they knew where their spouse was because you can hire a process server to deliver the papers and eliminate the wait. It would be ludicrous to serve notice by publication when your estranged spouse is still living in your house.
I don't know all the facts here, but I'm getting a creepy feeling. This guy might have been wise to get her to sign a prenup.

She can request tax transcripts on her own as he would probably have filed taxes jointly in order to receive the tax benefits. Each party of a jointly filed tax return is allowed to request transcripts.
How does she buy things - or does she? Does she have a credit card or bank card on his account? Does she have a driver's license or state identification card showing the shared address? Does she receive mail addressed to her at their address - even if it is junk mail? She can also get affidavits from friends - statements that they know this married couple for xxx years and that they believe they are/were a truly married couple (or were during the time they were together). Do they live in a rented or owned home? If rented, then the landlord can give a statement that she is also living at that address with her husband. She should search through any files he has in the house to find references to her - for example, if she has a credit card on his account, the credit card statements will show spending by each card. If she deposits a pay cheque to his owned account she can find the bank statements showing the deposit and then get a matching statement from whomever issued her the cheque to show it is hers. It is much more difficult if he isn't willing to co-operate but she needs to file the I-751 and try and obtain any other documentation she can now before she ends up moving out of the home they share together. She can file with the waiver request before the divorce is final but she will eventually need to submit the divorce document. She should also include a letter of explanation for why she doesn't have a lot of evidence - that while she and her husband married in good faith, he kept control of all of the finances and household expenses and did not share them with her.
Good luck to her.

I'm not qualified to answer your question- I'm only making my big move to the US in the next month or two. I've visited the US several times though and generally agree with all the usual comparisons from what I've seen so far.
That is our long term plan. I met my wife in Scotland. She has visited many many times (of her own accord...long before meetig me) and loves it there. Other circumstances mean it's best if I move to the US to begin with.....maybe for 10 years....maybe less, maybe more, but one day we'll be back in the Scottish Highlands for sure, their call is too strong.....when I'm in the US, I'm quite sure I'll be wishing I was back in Scotland sometimes....







Agreed!

The good thing about public forums is that bad information can be corrected. That particular has been covered ad nauseum here. But to state again
K-1 visas do NOT expire unless you do NOT enter the USA. If you enter the USA the K-1 is CANCELLED upon entry. It is replaced by the I-94 which expires in 90 days. In order to adjust status from a K-1 visa you MUST get married before the I-94 expires. There is NO particular deadline to file AOS. I am aware of several cases where the people waited more than two years to file the AOS and had no problems.
Clearly it is better to file sooner for the benefit of the foreign spouse, but not necessary. DO NOT leave the USA until you have a green card in your hand if you have been here more than 180 days past the expiration of the I-94 without filing for AOS.
When browsing the forums, read several threads on the topic and get the consensus of experienced people. Do not ask for immigration advice in PMs where the answers cannot be reviewed by other members.

Discussion has nothing to do with the topic. Closing.

I am glad that the people who already have children are disgrunted by the OP's statement. Their kids are here and it's great to hear of their success. Really great. Good for you guys for making it work.
Consider though that some are not as lucky as you and cannot make the best out of a situation that is very risky.
OP: I also think that deciding to get pregnant during the immigration process is stupid. In fact my doctor and I joked about it at my medical. She said I shouldn't get pregnant within 3 months of getting the MMR. I told her I was going to be married for a while before I decided to do that! She said something about wishing all girls were smart enough to do that.
The person who said the OP hasn't had children so cannot comment is ridiculous! Every single person is in that position when they have their first child. No-one ever goes into it with hindsight. Everyone is still allowed opinion on the matter.

Wow... this is a very imflammatory thread.
I think the original OP suggested that having a child in this process is ridiculous.
Can we agree that "most people" who are in this process intend to live in the same country?
Can we also agree that "some people" in this process will never get a VISA?
Can we agree that for "some children" who will have to live a life without daddy in the country or mommy in the country ... that child might suffer in many ways, not only economically, but socially and psychologically?
If we can agree that it would not be in the best interest of the childto live without both parents due to some bureacratic mess, then perhaps careful timing of childbirth for some couples is not such a bad idea.
We can probably all agree that some people like to swim upstream... and that will never change because there are some people who are more admant about getting what they want when they want it regardless of consequences or potential outcomes.

Are you really asking this question?
*sniff* *sniff* I smell fraud
We don't marry for green cards here, we marry for love

I can't even come up with a response to this I don't know about you but I went through a loooooong process and spent a lot of money to get my GC if someone wants to see it I will gladly produce it. I personally only get PO'd when somewhere WON'T take it...