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Be careful..Be very careful. I attended my CFO seminar..I talked to a fiance asked her if she loves him..her answer JUST MY STEPPING STONE!! Man this is Philippines..Be very wary. You are old and she is way younger..do you really think she loves you?? REALLY??? for those who says AGE DOESN'T MATTER..YES IT DOES!
Still wanna pursue?? OK
Please know as early as now, part of filipino culture being a close knit family..once their child married a foreigner they think
$$$, and then before you know it..you are supporting the whole family. Are you ok with that??
You don't wanna quit? My last shot, LOL
There were 2 women from our province who married USC and everytime the hubby is gone to US..the wifey plays around with a filipino bf who is introduced to husband as driver.. YIKES! :angry:
I don't want rain in your parade but BE VERY WARY. I am sick and tired hearing and seeing couple walking in the malls here..a very old american holding hands with a very young girl. Only if you guys could hear how filipino talks at you back. SAD I KNOW. YES I AM OPENING A CAN FULL OF WORMS..but I am a VJ family member ..I DO CARE..
OP I hope your woman is not one of them..I sincerely wish you well...Good luck!

Oh oh! I get it. I am jealous too cause people behind me got approved already and where is mine? Dang it why the process is so slow but ok congratulations to your approvals

Leatherneck, I still have my scalp in perfect shape not a bit peel yet haha. Truth hurts. Another thing I would want to point out in this board. Some members here says marrying an old american man is part of Philippine culture. IT IS NOT! Duhhhhhhh!

Get a job! It will surely boost your self-esteem. Don't just give up your marriage. When my hubby is in temper, I don't try to reason with him, I give him space, I would pray and keep myself busy reading, cleaning or take a walk then when hubby is in loving mood I would embrace him and start talking about what he just did, that I was upset but I understand. Try to put yourself in his shoes is a good tactic, so you would understand what and how it is from his perspective. Financial stress could put so much strain in marriage, maybe he is worried about your future, he is the man and must be a good provider of his family which is the best way of showing love- giving security. Apologize that you haven't been a help financially and tell him about your plans of stepping up by looking a job, involve him in the job hunting process so he knows you are serious about it. Marriage is not easy but it is the only possible lifetime career that a person could possibly have no matter how low our economy tank down. In my observation battered women are those that verbally fights back to non-stop. Open communication is good but refrain from talking if one is not thinking straight and is emotional. In marriage I learned "easy to forgive easy to forget" really works.

Leatherneck, I still have my scalp in perfect shape not a bit peel yet haha. Truth hurts. Another thing I would want to point out in this board. Some members here says marrying an old american man is part of Philippine culture. IT IS NOT! Duhhhhhhh!

Settle down people
I currently work at a health care facility and it is a strict compliance to undergo TB skin test and I am positive from latent TB too.
FACTS:
1. Latent TB infection (LTBI) means the TB bacteria are sleeping or dormant in the body. For most people who breathe in TB bacteria and become infected, the body is able to fight the bacteria to stop them from growing and the bacteria become dormant, Has a normal chest x-ray and a negative sputum smear.
2. People with LTBI are not infectious and cannot spread TB bacteria to others.
3.Persons with LTBI are often advised to take antibiotics for several months, 9 months the most, in order to kill the sleeping bacteria and to prevent the development of active TB disease. Taking medications is an option/ prerogative however there is no guarantee that latent TB won't develop into active TB in the later period of life when human immune system weakens despite complete course of taking medications.
4. For persons whose immune systems are weak, especially those with diabetes or HIV infection, the risk of developing TB disease is much higher than for persons with normal immune systems.
5. In some other countries anti TB vaccines are given to kids, if so, later they will be tested positive from latent TB skin test. Further blood testing would determine if the positive latent TB is caused by past TB vaccine or exposure.
I decided not to take any medications. I mean what's the sense if it can't even guarantee total wipe out of the dormant bacteria??! I am fine. Not contagious. I just have to maintain a very strong immune system which I have by the way, by maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Manila St. Luke's will regulate chest x-ray and once u passed then you are good. The problem I am seeing in OP's case is that she started taking the medications and not completed it which actually makes the bacteria more resistant. Good luck!

Most Filipinas are sweet and are touchy but that doesn't mean they are up to marriage for good moral reasons. It would really be wise for you to go there and visit her, spend time with family, talk to Filipinos, learn about our culture. Part of us is having this too close-knit family which is good but most of the time bad. Parents would grow their kids like some sort of retirement plan, expecting their children to support them financially including the siblings and nephews and nieces and before you know it you are actually supporting the whole clan. And then they might want you to start building their house in the Philippines and then you have to support family kids schooling and then the dog got sick and the cat had an accident ( are you getting it? ) FACT is we are from a poor country and so mostly marry to better lives and Filipinos talk openly and say "forget about love, marry for money or marry to go US " It's a joke around there"
There are few who are good buddy. F E W. Hopefully your's is one of them.
I recommend you take the CR1 route. The waiting could take about 8-10 months and base on most people's experience here it cost lesser than K1 process. You could also bring her child with CR2 but make sure to have her correct the birth certificate since I believe that could cause the child's visa denial, CO might think
she has been married to the father. See, in the Philippines a single mom could use the bf last name even without marriage. She just have to seek for an affidavit of correction and have a judge affirm it then submit to NSO and obtain a new document/record.
Should you want to save money do the process yourself. It is doable plus you have this great VJ community to help you every time you are fogged up with bunch visa/immigration stuff. Good luck!

Very well said. :thumbs:

This is a very good topic, most of the responses dripped my tears, It really hits home. I am the youngest in the brood of 6 and since I was privileged to have a good income in my home county most of my sibs would often run to me for help. I served my community, tried to joggle work and church then I am a mother to motherless, a friend, a playmate. I can give so much of my time and even money to family ..the scenario was just like that until my parents passed away and before I knew it time passed by on me pretty quick and I felt lonely and single and old ha ha. I am such a hard head that no one could pressure me of getting married those times until I came talking to myself.."all of them are married and I am left behind, man, I'm gonna die alone" heck the thought got into my head and so when a handsome nice man tricked me I hurried grabbed the opportunity to marry!! :rofl: . On my day of departure, there were crying and my best friend can't even afford to see me leaving so she missed the airport drama but everybody was just so happy for me..IT IS MY TIME..MY CHANCE TO BE HAPPY.

I started answering each and every questions of OP but when I got in to the middle part I'm like wait a minute! I am a Filipino I did all the paper works mostly by myself before I found this awesome site and we did it. To OP, please try to visit USCIS site, Manila embassy, ST. Luke's and DFA sites..read read read read read. The information could overload you specially if you are not that type of person like my hubby but if you have FB account try to add manila embassy link and you can ask questions, there are US embassy employees that chimes in to answer your queries hopefully.

Reading materials helps, watching movies, go out, socialize, talk and put 'em into practice. Make each and every conversation with people as your English learning opportunity to improve. Add your vocabulary, listen to english speakers twang and slang-they varies geographically. Learn their Vowel sound. In most Asian counties vowel sound is just 5 in US there are 15.
English language is fun to learn. You can do it

WAC goes to California which is usually the slowest said by some members here, but I got mine approved there last year in 4.5 months. Keep your heads up! Live life, enjoy Philippines because the moment you are here your heard starts missing home, also I suggest instead of counting the days passing waiting for the notice be productive by meticulously preparing for your consulate interview that way you can have your visa issued without further delays and hurdle.

Dear I am so saddened with this! Gosh! we are friends here I remember your posts of excitement, thanksgiving and happiness when you finally got your visa. I was interviewed September 2011 your interview was a month ahead of me.,I wish this post is not real.
I know you also live somewhere here in Washington, you might need a shelter for abused women I can ask my mother in law as she is a volunteer for shelter project. If you are really decided to go back to Philippines, you can maybe contact Philippine embassy and ask for help. Please message me if you need somebody to talk with. Hugs. (L)

Dear I am so saddened with this! Gosh! we are friends here I remember your posts of excitement, thanksgiving and happiness when you finally got your visa. I was interviewed September 2011 your interview was a month ahead of me.,I wish this post is not real.
I know you also live somewhere here in Washington, you might need a shelter for abused women I can ask my mother in law as she is a volunteer for shelter project. If you are really decided to go back to Philippines, you can maybe contact Philippine embassy and ask for help. Please message me if you need somebody to talk with. Hugs. (L)

Get a job! It will surely boost your self-esteem. Don't just give up your marriage. When my hubby is in temper, I don't try to reason with him, I give him space, I would pray and keep myself busy reading, cleaning or take a walk then when hubby is in loving mood I would embrace him and start talking about what he just did, that I was upset but I understand. Try to put yourself in his shoes is a good tactic, so you would understand what and how it is from his perspective. Financial stress could put so much strain in marriage, maybe he is worried about your future, he is the man and must be a good provider of his family which is the best way of showing love- giving security. Apologize that you haven't been a help financially and tell him about your plans of stepping up by looking a job, involve him in the job hunting process so he knows you are serious about it. Marriage is not easy but it is the only possible lifetime career that a person could possibly have no matter how low our economy tank down. In my observation battered women are those that verbally fights back to non-stop. Open communication is good but refrain from talking if one is not thinking straight and is emotional. In marriage I learned "easy to forgive easy to forget" really works.

Get a job! It will surely boost your self-esteem. Don't just give up your marriage. When my hubby is in temper, I don't try to reason with him, I give him space, I would pray and keep myself busy reading, cleaning or take a walk then when hubby is in loving mood I would embrace him and start talking about what he just did, that I was upset but I understand. Try to put yourself in his shoes is a good tactic, so you would understand what and how it is from his perspective. Financial stress could put so much strain in marriage, maybe he is worried about your future, he is the man and must be a good provider of his family which is the best way of showing love- giving security. Apologize that you haven't been a help financially and tell him about your plans of stepping up by looking a job, involve him in the job hunting process so he knows you are serious about it. Marriage is not easy but it is the only possible lifetime career that a person could possibly have no matter how low our economy tank down. In my observation battered women are those that verbally fights back to non-stop. Open communication is good but refrain from talking if one is not thinking straight and is emotional. In marriage I learned "easy to forgive easy to forget" really works.

Get a job! It will surely boost your self-esteem. Don't just give up your marriage. When my hubby is in temper, I don't try to reason with him, I give him space, I would pray and keep myself busy reading, cleaning or take a walk then when hubby is in loving mood I would embrace him and start talking about what he just did, that I was upset but I understand. Try to put yourself in his shoes is a good tactic, so you would understand what and how it is from his perspective. Financial stress could put so much strain in marriage, maybe he is worried about your future, he is the man and must be a good provider of his family which is the best way of showing love- giving security. Apologize that you haven't been a help financially and tell him about your plans of stepping up by looking a job, involve him in the job hunting process so he knows you are serious about it. Marriage is not easy but it is the only possible lifetime career that a person could possibly have no matter how low our economy tank down. In my observation battered women are those that verbally fights back to non-stop. Open communication is good but refrain from talking if one is not thinking straight and is emotional. In marriage I learned "easy to forgive easy to forget" really works.

Leatherneck, I still have my scalp in perfect shape not a bit peel yet haha. Truth hurts. Another thing I would want to point out in this board. Some members here says marrying an old american man is part of Philippine culture. IT IS NOT! Duhhhhhhh!

Seem like I hit you so bad. There's thousand of things running in my mind while reading your posts but really I think I don't wanna offend you more you are wounded enough.

I admit bad apples are everywhere same as saying not all filipinas are gold diggers. I am a filipina and I can shout to the world I am good. But old man gets a really young woman ..hmmmmmmm it really smells dead rat. Given the number of statistics in the Philippines of women who would do this I strongly stick to what I have already said. As I said I don't wanna be judgmental but....a point is raised here can you get the same age of woman here in US? why get in the Philippines? Oh I have an answer, because they will settle for an old american just to get to US. Sorry but for me OPEN REBUKE IS BETTER THAN SECRET LOVE. If you are one of 'em I hope your's would be a success story.

I WILL TRY MY HARDEST NOT TO OFFEND NOT TO BE BOOTED OUT.
Indeed a family planning!!
Seriously OP, I have posted few times here about this issue. As much as I don't want to be judgmental, only very few among filipinas
has good intention in marrying an american. It is such a shame for me to talk about this because I am from the same country., I attended CFO and met the girls there and be honest with you,I felt low to see myself mingling with them. Even the CFO trainer discussed what to do in case the beneficiary wants to run away from the petitioner, I felt sick in my stomach, reality bites! the desires to just get here in the US. I asked one of them if she love her fiance and she said " Just my stepping stone", another one said, file a divorce and hopefully he has money and I will have some. These girls are usually from the province, impoverished and mostly they would ask you to support their families sending them money through western union. I got some friends and relatives way back home and when they start asking to find them a match..I have to just joke around but really my concern is growing inside me. Coming from a 3rd world country, how sickening it is to see young girls holding hands with old whities..like I wanna ask daddy you gonna die tomorrow! yet they proclaim love for each other..I mean who are you fooling! Often this is a subject of jokes of my upper middle class work colleagues and friends. But my american husband is right. Both committed crime. The woman wants to get the green card and the dirty old american who just want to take advantage of her youth and helplessness. God gave us all the ability to discern USE IT! My verdict: She is not for real, it is very obvious like I know our neighbors way back there who do the same.

Guess what I changed my mind. I wanna wound you more
SO what is the moral lesson you wanna tell kids? hmmmm let's see " Sweetheart go better your life and find a white old man. Surely he has pension and oH he must be an american." Don't ever try to sidetrack people here. I never said and never will say it is smarter to marry a Filipino her own age that drinks, smokes, gambles, and has a sixth grade education from one of the worst schools on the planet. You are an epic fail!!

Leatherneck, I still have my scalp in perfect shape not a bit peel yet haha. Truth hurts. Another thing I would want to point out in this board. Some members here says marrying an old american man is part of Philippine culture. IT IS NOT! Duhhhhhhh!

I am perplexed to the highest degree as t0 how desperate he is in justifying and proving. To each of his/her own but in love and marriage there should be physical attraction, that is the first. Heck! I don't want to wake up every morning and see a wrinkled old man lying next beside me. Coming forward to voice my mind doesn't mean I don't respect anybody's wife. And again, there are few Pinays who are really a real gem, family devoted and all.

Seem like I hit you so bad. There's thousand of things running in my mind while reading your posts but really I think I don't wanna offend you more you are wounded enough.