Welshcookie

Say what?
I mean, SAY what?

I never get mad at people on here. Are you serious?

Why are you obsessed with the sexploits of gay men?
Its common knowledge that latent homosexuals overexaggerate their disgust because secretly they find such things arousing.
Or what?

You bang hookers, ply women with alcohol to commit date rape and shag your own cousin (all your words). Your moral compass is a bit off it seems.

Why are you worried about it? How does it affect your day to day life if someone is a homosexual?

I dumped my foreign ex (K-1) about 6 weeks before he was due to move here (non-immigration reasons). But I didn't think the actual process up until that point was terribly difficult, either. But the LDR aspect of the relationship was horrible (We had a self imposed extra time apart due to other circumstances)
My very next romantic interest after that happened to be another foreigner. He was an airline captain, very accomplished, model-handsome, etc. Straight up, I knew it wasn't going anywhere cos I wasn't about to commit to another LDR. When talk of the 'future' would come up, I'd say 'you can come here for work, and we'll see what happens, but if you can't then that's fine too'. LOL He wanted me to move where he was, which would have been living in the lap of freaking luxury, but been there done that. I didn't want any more adventures.
In the midst of our talks, I met my husband, who's an American. The man he is? He blew my socks off! And an American too!
I feel extra fortunate that we were able to develop and sustain our relationship without the added issues of green cards, work permits, adjustments to a different culture, homesickness, losing education credentials, etc. Not saying those are deal breakers, but they sure do make things complicated sometimes.

N or B said "Nigerian men have in general been raised..." She was also answering completely within the context of the OP's situation and thread, whereas you seem to be viewing her post in a vacuum. It's important to read accurately and interpret literally. Furthermore, what is your justification for stating "your father must be one of those who behaves in such irrational way"? An apology from you to N or B would not be inappropriate.

You've been scammed. Leave now. Go back to your grandmothers house. File for a divorce. Have no further contact with him. If he can't get a green by marriage then he'll try to get one through VAWA, which means claiming you abused him. Don't give him an opportunity to manufacture any evidence of this sort, like calling the cops on you.
DO NOT GO TO THE GREEN CARD INTERVIEW!!! I can virtually guarantee you would be subjected to a grueling Stokes interview, given his serious history with immigration. You DON'T want to go through this.
I can recall only one or two cases where the evidence of fraud was more clear than this one.

I would first suggest giving it some time. Sounds like you are going from being single to having inherited an almost wife and two children. This is a really big change. On top of that you lost your employment which is additional stress you really didn't need right now. Also look at it from their side, having to adjust to you, a new home, a new country, etc. Lots of stress all the way around.
Your almost family can remain in the US for up to 90 days (check the I-94 in the passport). Can I recommend that you give it a little more time before giving up on the whole thing? They must leave prior to the expiration of the I-94 or they will be out of status. She and the children (most likely) can still adjust status at any time if she marries you and only you. Thus, if you delay things a bit, while she runs a risk of being discovered and placed in removal proceedings, if she marries you after the I-94 expires she can still adjust status. What she cannot do is marry someone else and adjust status from within the US.
A true gentleman would give it some time and a lot of talking and adapting to the situation and if all fails provide tickets back to the home country and part with her as friends.

Only heartless people do such a thing. bringing someone to a foreign country and then sending them back home after couple of weeks. Think aboutthe children. You wouldn't want your children to go through this. If you don't wanna get married don't, but make it right for them, at least to make up for the stupidity of this situation.

Really cruel and heartless. I wonder how you would have felt if Tony did this to you. Of course, you'll go off on a little tangent about how you expected eery scenario, or you knew Tony better, blah blah blah...but at the end of the day, these are pretty harsh measures. OP had made a blurb of a post, you don't know the details, you don't know why she's 'refusing'....and a mom with 2 kids in a foreign land, also now with obvious relationship issues...and you advise him to call the cops.
Is it legally acceptable? Sure thing. Is it morally right? Well, if you think so, then I dunno what to tell ya.

Well said! It's easy for an American to change their mind and go back to their lives but for the person leaving their country it's a MUCH bigger risk and change...and I'm the American saying this. You know my Russian fiance actually wants us to do our bedroom in wallpaper...blah lol. But then I think she's leaving her who world there to be with me so if something like wallpaper will make her more comfortable it's the least I can do. Without knowing what this guys problem is I think it's very rude to ask someone to leave in just 2 weeks! For over a year {I imagine} this woman was right for you then after two weeks here everything changed? Not cool!

So wait a minute... you havent really explained "disaster" but I'll tell you this mate, I'm flying 3,500 miles to marry my fiance (ironically on the 29th) and let me tell you, If she lost her job and changed her mind and told me to go home, I'd be mighty pissed. I've sold everything I own except the clothes and few bits I am traveling with and have given up my flat. I'd be broke, jobless, hurt and homeless and I don't have the two kids she has with her with me! Think on it. You've got 90 days to make it or break it. I don't really know the circumstances as you really didn't say but I wouldn't want to return home to nothing.
-Jock

I agree that you have no obligation. However, personally, I feel this is sad. I mean, person did take a large step in coming here.. I do feel that you take larger responsibility when you file for K1. Responsibility for the person that is coming here. My feeling (only mine, personal), if you decide to send this person back and this person entered relationship with you in good faith you own them ticket back, ride to the airport and reimbursing any disruption that you caused in their lives, such as if they sold apartment you have to help them get it back.

If you got a RFE and not a denial, send back the correct document and you should be fine. We did similar but on dissolution agreement vs divorce decree for my wife (attorney was dumb). Send letter to embassy or call USCIS for best action, It takes time and effort to keep this all straight, but faster in the long run..

I can imagine!
Yeah, the 'could/couldn't care less' is a huge peeve of mine...but 'holding the fort' and 'you're French all of a sudden, are you?' were great bonuses to the clip

You thinking of that David Mitchell piece right now?

No one forced him to violate TOS six times in the same thread.

No.

This relationship is doomed in the first 8 days and you want to try to spend the rest of your life with her? Sleeping in the same bed doesn't mean sex all the time but if the person I intended to marry wasn't receptive to any intimacy that would be a flag, then again are you pressuring her too much and scaring her out of the bed?? Either way it sounds like big problems on both sides. You marry her and I say more fool you AND when the divorce papers come or worse the false claims of abuse/rape get slung at you I wont bat an eye in shock. I don't care if she is Russian, British, Chinese, Mexican, Irish, whatever from the sounds of it there is no relationship, just you wanting a sexual partner and her wanting a GC for her and her daughter. I'll just clarify it SOUNDS like it, I'm not saying that's actually her motivation or yours. Take a step back and develop this relationship first. Give it time to flourish or dissolve, if she leaves cause you wont marry her then you know what she was after if it blossoms into something that resembles love then take it from there cause as of right now it all sounds forced and uncomfortable.

Are you taking an opportunity to brag how great is your wife and life, or really trying to help the OP?

Honestly, I am a woman and as a woman I would say that "your girl" sounds rather manipulative. What I've learned about relationships is this: when two people are really and truly in love, it will come easy. It just shouldn't be that hard. I'm not saying relationships don't take work....of course they do, but there is a certain level of "easiness" in relationships that are "right".
Here are a few things you might want to consider: I think I would slow things down a bit and see if she can "normalize" a little bit. I'm sure that coming to a new country requires much adjustment, but she should try to adjust WITH you....afterall, the plan was to get married and spend her life with you, right??? If she's "pushing" you to marry her right away, I think I would have to question what her hurry is. On a K-1 visa, you have 90 days to get married....so...maybe you should take a month or two and see if things work out. You should know in that amount of time if this is someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with.
Bottom line....you need to decide what your "gut" is telling you...your gut instinct is never wrong...so figure out what it's telling you and go with it.
Good luck.

Someone with more public health knowledge than you unfortunately.

I would imagine that whatever happens offsite is nothing that the site admin has any control over. If people want to slag each other off, they're going to do it. If that is a problem for you then you're taking this site much too seriously. You're a grown man bill (although the 'you're gay' comments you were throwing about yesterday do call your maturity somewhat into question) why would anyone want to get wound up over comments on the Internet? It's ridiculous.
That said, this site has rules, that's what this thread is about. Should people outside of the admin be in the business of telling people to leave? Personally I don't think so, seems to me to fall under the definition of antagonism and troublemaking, especially if said person sends you abusive personal messages and leaves trash comments on your profile.