Jack&Ana

With no job, how could you two live? Concentrate on the immediate priorities and wait for the visa process. There is much cost associated with everything beyond the K-1 visa.

I am so sorry this happened to you and I hope you will be able to heal quickly.
But If you think this is an international marriage problem only, then you are mistaken.
This kind of thing happens domestically everyday.

If your facts are correct and he has been married 10 years,,, And came her on a K1... That means he has been
here in the USA for 10 years... Not sure why he did not file for citizenship after 3 years (when he qualified).
However,, the only real thing the wife could do is charge immigration fraud... But, if they were together for
10 years that would be impossible to substantiate. As they have already been married longer then the average
American couple.
Just plan to attend the swearing in ceremony and it will be a done deal.
Regards,
dc

I've seen a number of people complain about the 125% of poverty requirement. 125% of Poverty level is really NOT a lot of money.
The next part might seem harsh, but if 125% of poverty level IS a lot of money to the USC, then maybe they should reconsider whether they have the means to bring a foreign national to the US for marriage, and to start a family.
No I'm not hating... and I don't' want to start a flame war, I just want to make sure people are prepared for their situations. Part of that is planning for the unexpected, having money put away for a rainy day, etc. is part of that being prepared.
So I'm asking the VJ community for their opinions on this. Seriously no flaming. An intelligent discussion on being prepared for major life events.
I'd liken this to couples who actually plan a pregnancy for when they are emotionally and financially ready, and those couples (like most of us) who get pregnant and deal with the repercussions as they are able.

I could not agree any more with your post and this is why. I'm married for the second time and have two children from my previous marriage, so technically I have to qualify for a household of 4 ... Although, I agree that being in love is very basic fundamental pillar of a marriage; love is just one piece of the puzzle. I agree with you, that one must consider and always take into the account the responsibility you assume when you sign the I-864 but more than that is to think realistically and determine if you have the economic means to support your spouse. It's just common sense stuff.

Sorry you're going through this.
A few thoughts. I don't believe someone can really "know what they are getting into" when they move somewhere, no mater how much they have visited. When you visit, you get an idea of the people, the food, but you know the stay is temporary, so you have some armor. Once you move there for good, it's much more scary. There is a whole world that opens up that a visitor never sees. You might not know how to get a job (different things employers look for), or how to pay the bills, or how to drive, or how to socialize, negotiate, when/how to call the cops in an emergency. I could go on and on - these little things add up to a feeling of helplessness. It's very normal to be homesick, and it's critical for YOU to be patient and understanding. If my husband expresses homesickness, I try to say "I know" and acknowledge his feelings and tell him how grateful I am that he moved here for me. I let him have his feelings. Even if you don't personally understand it, you should be kind and patient. Remember, he moved his whole world for you.
It's very harmful to hold his immigration status over his head and tell him if the relationship ends he has to go home. You should treat him as an equal, and leave the immigration out of it when fighting. I would be livid if someone told me "if it ends you have to go home." You don't dictate where he lives. Especially if he is a GreenCard holder, he is allowed to stay here.
It's hard to take the excitement of anticipation and turn it into an authentic, in-person relationship.
It seems like he wants counseling - I think it's a good idea.

alone even in a room full of people.... that is the truth for a lot of people in a LDR i think

The question is far beyond Visa Journey. Your friend needs guidance from a qualified, experienced immigration attorney.

hehe, we do this too!
We can all relate in a way or another. Jack and I spend every minute of our spare time videochatting with Gtalk (I find it has a better call quality than Skype), with that, your social life can dwindle faily quickly.
Try and make a point to spend time with your friends and family, it's hard but not impossible. In our case we end up sending "wish you were here" text messages and all I want is to go back home and hang out with him.
Still, it's very important to see your loved ones because once the AOS process starts, who knows when will you be able to be with them.
The impatience you build up by wanting to start your life with your partner is normal but don't let it get to you. The last thing you both need is stressing over being apart and put a strain on the relationship. The fact that we have LDR has made us extremely creative people when dealing with things. I feel that, as strange as this may seem, Jack and I have acquired a tool set to deal with anything life will throw at us in the future and it's an encouraging thought
I can't wait for my next visit though, nothing beats having morning coffee sitting by his side and I'm looking forward to do this for the rest of my life <3.
I wish you the very best and hang in there!

LET'S GO CSC!!! PUHLEEEEEEASE! WE'RE ALL IN LOVE HERE! THE WORLD NEEDS LOVE SO KEEP THOSE NOA2s COMING!!!

You don't have any legal or financial responsibility either now or after 90 days. If you don't get married, then it is her responsibility to return home. I agree you should wait and see if you can work it out though. A lot of things happened in this past two weeks and it might be your gut instinct to run, but you may regret it later. You did agree to marry and put a lot of effort into bring her here for that purpose, after all. Good luck.