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Wow! I am truly sorry about this my sister. I was expecting to see a big yes from you. I'm fresh at the game, but I am sure someone on here will know what you can do. There's gotta be a way. I willl be praying for you.

I'm totally floored. This is so dissapointing and I am so sorry.
But here's the thing, you just need to shift to plan B. Contact your Legislators in earnest and get the ball rolling. Do a search, I'll do one for you too, of a member who got his Fiance to be contacted for a secodn interview and recieved an approval aftger he contacted his/her Senator. This was for Lagos too. The Horses haven't left the ban yet.
Then I hope we're not in trouble too I guess because I was very detailed so that the CO can follow along. My approach was as a Project Manager to a Client. Sigh - Naija na wa oo.
I concur, OP has impresed me that she's very educated and her posts oozes polishness. Don't give up now. Take stock and re energize.

The posts only with judgemental comments are reportable - just click the report button on the left of the message you want reported because of personal attacks.
On a personal note, I think it's admirable to adopt or take care of a child that isn't your own. If you've forgiven your husband, that's also admirable and takes loads of strength to get past. What I - or anyone else - would've done is not relevant to the subject. But immigration is part of your journey and you will have to see it from their perspective and take your guards down, otherwise you won't overcome your red flags. People have been denied for the age difference alone, please don't make your own situation worse by not listening to members who have gone through that specific embassy. Visa Journey is a DIY webpage and when members suggest a lawyer, there's probably something to it because the situation is more complex than DIY.

Lighten up peeps, as a man I would not want to ever do anything to a female that scream scam
OP is in love so I understand her trying to fix things, and her totally believing in him and his
mother , but ppl profess love when they recognize where their meal tickets and upliftment is, I totally
understand OP feelings, by her questions posted here she wants objective answers, she
is not to be blamed lots of men perpretrate frauds on older females. Immigration will definately
query the timeline of marriage and birth of this baby. OP recognize in a few yrs Baby Mama will be
married to baby daddy and living in the USA courtesy of you. STOP....THINK 'what do your family and friends say?

Hmmm, guy from one a country with likely the worst consulate on Earth makes another woman pregnant, she magically doesn't want the child, AND now daddy wants to petition kid?
Here's what it looks like: he wants to get to the US, leave you, petition for her.
You're a wonderful woman for ever forgiving this.
I don't see how this case will ever be approved. Even if this is not his intention, this is Lagos and you will be put through hell with this. Be prepared to pay your life away to a lawyer.

I am well known for my thoughts on this so you have already read those. As to what is going on.
A child is rarely the result of a one night stand so he had an ongoing relationship which is probably known to others
With the large age difference and being Lagos there is a good chance of AP and the possibility of home visit and the child
and girlfriend ( hopefully not traditional wife) will come out. That will get him in a place where to be together you will
move there.
Lying is never good for immgiration.
If you lie at the interview and it comes out later you may face more issues in the misrepresentation area. ( I think a hidden child probably is material especially if it is conceived during the marriage.)
I would talk to a good layer and also hire to have a bit more investigation done on him, better you know what the consulate will find out ahead of them.

Sweetheart .......ummmm...pray....dont want to propel U in any more depression , but a child during the marriage with a wide age difference will be a red flag
maybe consulting with a atty is a good idea........cheating these days without a condom is playing russian roulette... I sincerely wish U the best

I'll keep my opinions about his motives to myself.
Getting him and a child he had with another woman while you two were married, in a tough consulate? A lawyer's gonna build a summer house thanks to your case.

I feel bad that you have to go through all of this problem in your marriage. I will keep my opinion to myself about your relationship as that is not the question you asked. It is my opinion that if he were to mention any of this to the CO at the interview, he would be denied. I think that the CO will believe that your relationship is for immigration purposes, as your hubby was not faithful and his affair produced a child. You must also consider the red flags you have mentioned and the fact that Lagos is a tough embassy to go through. However, with that being said I do believe that if he finds out the baby is his and he gets approved for his visa, you could then file an I-130 for the child as his/her step-parent. The process will be the same as the process you went through with the hubby. Good Luck to you

i wanna give u an advice
im so sorry but this person dont love u
if he had relation with other girl this mean he is not in love with u
he is only using u for papers after u will do all things for him and bring him with his baby
he will leave u and send papers to this girl
open your eyes its only advice u can take it or leave it
he had relation and baby from other girl
they r all using u for papers
think well
and im sorry for my words but its only the truth

First I would try to contact someone in Lagos and see if they are of the same opinion if you don't get a positive answer from here. If that fails go back to the embassy and get travel papers like the ones you get when you lose your green card overseas. Those are known to be ok to travel with. If you have a spouse/parent stateside put them in charge of raising hell though your representives. You don't have an overstay or other negative do you ?

If you are actually telling a real story, and not just trolling, there is a nightmare ahead.
You will also be liable for immigration fraud prosecution along with the married woman you want to bring to the US as your fiancee.
Choose your next steps carefully.

I am happy to say that I personally know more that have made it then that have failed. I know of several couples who have been married for 30, 20, and 10 years. I know MANY that are together well past the ROC. We all know some that have not made it, some that HAVE been scammed, but of the people I know personally the odds are in their favor.

You all act like I consider you friends. Mistake. As long as there are threads like the missing husband thread then I have been loud enough or angry enough or annoying enough. My husband considers what I do a help to Nigerias image because all the the stupidity done in the marriage visas that give Nigerians such a bad name. Ss far as what is posted on the "other thread" he knows what is posted and laughs also. We also laugh at my attempts at doing things traditionally. As to the ###### that is worried about our children. In about 7 years after the cornation we will hire 2 suragotes at the same time and have at least 2 children if it is any of the board business.

Okay no one has sad this and we must talk about this. I don't know about other Africans but what is with with Nigerian time? And you know what I mean. We call it CP time here? But its nothing like Nigerian time. 15 minutes late maybe 30. But Nigerian tine is " You haven't even got your tail in the shower and you are telling whoever on the phone you are on your way, knowing you have a 15 to 20 minute walk to the road to flag down a transport than sit in traffic (and this is in Port Harcourt). OMG

You could hand them old bed sheets and go for the sub sarahan house wrap party ( is this were toga parties got started )

You know when you come home and find a bucket and mixing bowl sitting the shower. ( I remember seeing those in the hotel room the first night in Nigeria and thinking, my the cleaning staff forget to take these )

I am happy to say that I personally know more that have made it then that have failed. I know of several couples who have been married for 30, 20, and 10 years. I know MANY that are together well past the ROC. We all know some that have not made it, some that HAVE been scammed, but of the people I know personally the odds are in their favor.

I am happy to say that I personally know more that have made it then that have failed. I know of several couples who have been married for 30, 20, and 10 years. I know MANY that are together well past the ROC. We all know some that have not made it, some that HAVE been scammed, but of the people I know personally the odds are in their favor.

Just once I'd like to read a thread without seeing some type of "negative" ####### thrown into the middle of it. How discouraging that you just can't get a straight answer delivered or just bump POSITIVE ideas off of each other and see if they work. I like to say for all of us still going throught this process, if you just can't bring yourself to encourage or uplift anybody, then please stop replying to our threads because you are discouraging our journey. If that gets me kicked off of visa journey, then so be it. But I'm here trying to learn and encourage others coming in behind me.
Debbie, this is a great question and I hope someone hops on and tells us what they actually did in this situation and how that worked out for them instead of what "might negatively happen" to keep us from getting our husbands home. I'd really like to know myself because IF MY HUSBAND GETS HIS VISA IN THE THREE WEEKS I GO HOME TO SPEND WITH MY FAMILY, I'd like to have him fly home with me. How do I make that possible?

Our denial is simply a delay, we are already back at Lagos waiting for a second interview date. My husband and I believe that even though we werent prepared the first time, we simply need to continue waiting on God's time! A delay was in order for a reason, and who are we to question God's authority? Every step encountered has brought us both to different places within our lives together and separately. We understand that God is good all the time, and also that our mortal wants and needs do not necessarily line up with our Father's at the same time.
Many blessings and favor to you on this journey!

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So are you staying married?
If so, you will need to follow this guide: http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide2
You will need to need to file a I-130 with your AOS package, because you did not marry within the 90 days. SHe should not leave the US until she has her GC in hand.

Nicole she suffered domestic violence and domestic violence is a crime by the perpetrator, not the victim! IT'S NOT HER FAULT!!!!!.The batterer is the only one responsible here not her. If you do not understand the dynamics of abuse please educate yourself. It's cruel, to say the least.

You pull the affidavit the petition dies so the green card dies. When it is dead the items issued based on it's pending status are also dead. He may find out if he checks his case status online and makes a few calls or tries to use any of the above documents ( lets hope he is trying to use PA to re enter the US and gets refured, it couldn't happen to a much more deserving creature. ) Don't forget the locks the card and the keys