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I do believe after SingleDad's posts received hundreds and hundreds of comments, he was banned from ever posting again. So therefore, results to posting on other's topics that have ANYTHING to do with VAWA in hopes of getting information (which by the way he has been advised SEVERAL times what to do, but decides its not good enough).
Ugh. OP, I am very sorry for your situation. I wish you all the best and hope you and your new husband are happy and are enjoying just being together! Blessings.

This whole topic was just for the OP to share her story and for her to leave a reminder to others.
The rest of the information she offered was conjecture and supposition, she even says as much.
@SingleDad2usc - Every VAWA-related topic seems to have you hijacking it of late and I think it's a little rude. Make your own topics, as you've done, and gather your info. You have a very complicated and specific case (I've taken the time to read through your extensive postings).The number of time sandraj and others have given you advice; solid and credible advice. You chose not to follow it because it was too difficult for you to, or just because you might think you know better.

This post is really not about you, please don't make into another post about you and your situation. I know I know before you say it, "its about helping us all", this statement is no longer true where you are concerned.
SD I've seen your topics and I know you're trying to get info together, but really dude you are going about it all the wrong way, I understand your frustration at not getting the answers YOU want and I know your situation, true or not, is not an easy one. Seriously if you have more questions you need answers or want answers to please start a new topic and let people reply there, please don't hijack yet another post.

WOW. I thought this was a discussion not a "how to help YOU post". You seem to have VJ mixed up with an officially Immigration site. You have asked the same question about 10 times. If you need to know if your spouse got a greencard I suggest you call immigration to find out. Make an Infopass appointment and go in person. State your situation and I am sure they can help or advise you.
The OP was asking for advice and really I believe a more "heads up" and a pouring out her soul to us. Your sour grapes because someone isn't placating you is really childish.
You ask why its so popular who knows why some are here and some are looking from afar. Her posting I bet has alerted someone even one maybe to their situation. That is why we post. To inform, to educate and yes sometimes just to vent or God forbid have fun.
If you feel you need more thorough information not given on this post I would suggest to open your own topic and state your case and I am sure some experts will gladly come and post and assit you.

You mean none that suit your needs SingleDad2usc?!
What is "greening", it is not a term I am familiar with.

Not really the point here but neither Iran nor North Korea ever wanted to invade the US, there was never any "risk" of America speaking "Iranian" or "North Korean". Neither of which is a language, by the way. They speak Korean in North Korea and Persian, Azeri, Kurdish, etc. in Iran. *Sigh*

No they are not. Get over yourself.

u've gotta be effing kidding

I'm sure you would believe his side because that is what is going on right now. But actually his side is heard and mine is silent. That's why I'm still here with no papers.

Because the husband is in the military he deserves more leeway? No sale. Take half of what's been told as the actual truth and the husband is not acting like a decent person.

Online and for-profit University is a useless enterprise, and the degrees are usually not worth the paper they are printed on. Murysa is doing great and has professional daily help and counsel. Great news and keep it up Murysa!

As I have less tolerance of you who have taken the "S" out of serious. Every situation is not a vawa, nor should every immigrate stay in the US if their new life is not working out.

This was NOT OP's original question. His original question was can he adjust status and stay without being married to her anymore. SingleDad I'm shocked you're still up in arms about this VAWA thing.

It is perfectly possible to enter into a marriage in good faith whilst having sex with lots of people.

I think some people tend to over-complicate things. Ontarkie answered correctly.

Don't let your kid play with passports

All she needs is her word to have one charged. Keep in mind, that criminal domestic violence also includes verbal threats and/or perceived threats. She would have had to swear out an affidavit, which if she lies she will have committed perjury. But in the world of CDV, this is all it takes to get a person arrested. In CDV cases, the officials tend to err on the side of caution and let the alleged defendant have his day in court.
The bigger picture here is that there are some holes in the story of the OP as to how this went down. Being stopped in the car, then a detective showing up. If indeed there was a warrant for the arrest, the cops would have taken him in and the detectives would have interviewed him there.
I am off the opinion that this is a troll to just get things stirred up here in VJ

I hope this isn't a baiting thread to get our reaction. It doesn't make sense and the OP isn't providing more details.

Keeping this from your husband now will cause your marriage to fail later. Any doctor you go to will be able to tell you have been pregnant before. To try to lie about it is also dangerous for your health when you get pregnant again. Also, "spontaneous abortion" is the medical term for a miscarriage.
Don't base your marriage, or your health, on lies.

Personally, if i see ”GOWON” i fling by those post. Cleary not worthy of reading material!!! Sr. Member or not,.no timeline NOTHING.. all post are rude, arrogant And very disrespectful towards woman. This poster needs to chill out And perhaps learn a lesson in manner And people who are abuse victims..

Amen! I Could've not said it better! Women are naturally flirty and seek attention? #######!? All of us do. It takes two. Period. Stereotypes makes me sick....

I'm sure everyone can distinguish your words and my words (on style and grammar alone), especially in the context of a message board. That's what the "quote" feature does - it means everything in the green box was written by the username at the top.
Your caricature of women as attention-seeking flirts is insulting, and claiming that is their "nature" perpetuates a standard that has been used to discriminate against women for ages. I've barely touched on the fact that you are insinuating that victims of domestic violence are in that position because they didn't "do a good enough job" of bending to the whims of their abusers. His jealousy = his problem. Victim blaming is EXTREMELY detrimental, and if you want to call that "bashing," then, yes, you have "bashed" a group of people who have been abused and terrorized.
The OP was verbally abused. How badly, we don't know. But when she finally stood up to him, you accused her of not being "dependable."
Some people's opinions are racist. Some are homophobic. And some are mysoginistic, whether they are followed with the "IMHO" qualifier or not.

This kind of "woman blaming" is part of what reinforces the gender inequality we see in our society AND Latin cultures.
HUMANS are naturally flirty creatures. HUMANS seek attention. The MEN in Latin cultures are usually the initiators of flirting, especially in the OP's experience (catcalling on the street). Regardless, flirting usually goes both ways. To label women as seductive temptresses is offensive and mysoginistic.
OP, it sounds like you have been a victim of abuse. This is how things start - overly "jealous" men who like to control the women they are with. He was trying to CONTROL your actions - first, through his words, and once that failed, maybe through his actions.
I applaud you for being brave enough to buy him a ticket home, and I'm aghast that people fault you for getting out of a bad situation. The minute my partner abuses me in ANY way in my home, that ceases to be his home. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned to "victim blame" in our society, ie, "her skirt was so short, she was asking for it."
My own heritage is not American, and I am familiar with multiple cultures. It is not okay, in any culture, or any country, for your partner to control you and verbally abuse you. My heart goes out to you, and please know that you deserve a relationship built on mutual respect and TRUST.
Of course, you can't just turn off your love for him like a lightswitch, and it must be difficult to be alone after being together for so long. I hope that when (if) he comes back to the States, he will stick with the counseling. It sounds like you need a little time apart, and when (if) you start talking about him coming back again, you will see a change in him and will set firm boundaries. We don't know all the details of your relationship and if things crossed a line or not, but hopefully by making a commitment to work things out with a third party you can enjoy the happiness you felt in the beginning of your marriage.

You have two choices: either change the situation or get out of it. The boldfaced sections in your message indicate that you're dug in to your evaluation of the situation. This should indicate your direction.