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Thanks everyone! Sorry for the delay, but it turns out that caring for a newborn baby is a lot of work! She's precious and I wouldn't trade the sleepless nights for anything. Here she is!

why are you yelling?

CR-1 is no harder or easier than a k1 FOR CANDIANS to prove a relationship! 99.999% of the time Montreal asks for no proof at the time of the interview(ie pictures,letters) In some countries that may be the case--but not for canada. As a Cdn still iving in Canada, one is still covered by the Cdn healthcare system, so no need to be covered on a USA spouses health care coverage. Its really not that difficult. Your making it harder than it truly is.

I am absolutely pro-choice, but 6 months is too late. If she wanted an abortion, she should have done it months and months ago. Time to deal with the consequences.
What kind of adult takes out their hatred for another man on a child?
You have issues. The visa sounds like the least of them.

Speak to a Lawyer having the annulment saying you only came here for immigration benefits is wrong, and you do not want that following you around for the rest of your life. If you sign the annulment as it is worded right now you will also be saying that it is true. He then can in turn send that to USCIS, possibly getting you for misrepresentation.
Do not sign anything without seeing an attorney.

He is trying to dodge owing you spousal support or division of property.

I believe the Judge's instructions for legal residence referred to you taking steps to obtain legal residence, not the family court attorney who has no knowledge of immigration procedures, to obtain legal residence for you. Or perhaps the Judge, who is not a Federal Immigration Judge, innocently thought it would be easy for you to obtain legal residence.
So let me put it this way
1. You chose to come to the U.S. and overstay.
2. You chose to help in the conception/birth of two children on U.S. soil knowing you had no legal status here.
3. You chose to remain in the U.S for more than 14 years out of status, fully knowing what limits that placed on you.
4. You risk your children every single day by remaining here out of status, subject to detention, yet you seem to have no problem with that risk to them.
5. You continue to complain how fragile your children are but you admitted to taking the multiple times per year on trips up and down the East Coast picking up families and going to Disney Land. Doesn't sound too fragile to me.
These are all choices you made, the only person responsible for them is yourself, please stop blaming social services, your wife, the doctors, the government, and everyone else and please stop using your kids as an excuse for your illegal status.

No. HE is rejecting the idea because he believes the clean (but cold) air in Canada is worse for the asthmatic child than the polluted and cold NYC. Having never taken said child to Canada this is purely conjecture. He assumes that the asthma is made worse by the cold alone, and not also aggravated by pollution of NYC.

None, because he doesn't want them to have any other citizenship. Only US. He made that pretty clear that moving anywhere else isn't an option?!?

Just a word of caution: you might be legitimately following the rules, including filing for the K-1 and intending to return to Canada before her time is up, but having her stay with you for so long could very well raise some red flags at the border. Last summer, after we had filed for our IR-1/CR-1, my Canadian husband was helping me drive home to the states from staying with him during the summer. He was only going to stay with me for a week and had a plane ticket home to prove it, but the fact that we had so much stuff in the car made them seriously consider turning him away. I had to get them to go through the bags to see that it was all MY stuff ("girly stuff" as they said) so that they would let him through with me. In your case, she will have a bunch of her own belongings, including her car, so it's probably not going to look good. I'd suggest you have a solid plan B in case they won't let her through.

Why not except that something as large as the US economy can not really be improved or harmed by anyone President alone?

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Okay. No one on this forum can tell you what is going on in your husband's head. No one can tell you why he is acting the way he is, saying or not saying things, or being distant - we are not married to him.. You are. To me, based on the little bits of information that we have access to on this forum, it really seems like you are over reacting. Like I said in my previous post, if my spouse wouldn't leave me alone and kept pestering me when I was visiting my family, and accused me of not missing him enough or being in enough "pain", I would get very annoyed and angry at him.
To me, it seems like you wanted to go with him, maybe to go on a nice trip, to spend time with him, and to make sure everyone in his family would know about you two being married - and now you're upset and sad you couldn't go, and it's making you go a bit over the edge with the suspicions and doubts. Maybe he is busy seeing his family and doesn't have that much time or energy to devote to phone calls across the world; maybe his home village is conservative, and it might be difficult for him to tell everyone about you; maybe he didn't tell all of his family members about the marriage, because he thinks they won't approve, and that's why he acts differently on the phone. We can't tell.
One thing I can tell though - the only one who knows why he does or doesn't do XYZ is him. Have you thought of asking him about these things, in stead of strangers on an immigration forum..? I would still suggest waiting until he is back. Just let the guy see his family.

If my spouse was pining over me after one week apart and complaining to me about how I don't miss him enough or feel "pain" for not being with him for a few days/couple of weeks, I would feel extremely smothered and anxious. One week really is not that bad. I think you should give the poor guy a break and let him enjoy seeing his family. When I go home to see my family, who I see usually maximum twice a year, I often go the first days without even calling my husband because I'm excited to see my fam. It doesn't mean I don't miss him, or wish he was with me - it just means I am busy with my family, and in the grand scheme of things, I live with my husband and see him almost every day throughout the year - I get to see my family for a few weeks a year. They deserve all my time and attention during those few weeks.

I don't want to sound insensitive or cynical, but I'm not sure that your concern toward his lack of pain for being apart has anything to do with the scope of this forum. One week has almost passed since he left, 2 more to go and then he'll be back. The large majority of us has been apart from their significant one for several months, not just 3 weeks. We went through highs and lows, but we all survived. Hang in there, count down the days, stay put and wait for him to return to file AOS. That's all you can do right now. Good luck.

Oh good grief.
Marriage isn't some sort of competition over who loves the most, or misses the other the most, blah blah blah.

THANKS!!!!!!!!!!

OK We get it, good people who are healthy and have jobs smoke pot! So he doesn't take aspirin he doesn't need to, he is soothing his headache with smoking POT. He should have just stayed sober for awhile knowing he might have to take a drug test. I think you got your answer already on this post and should now let it go. If you write about drugs of course everyone is going to comment, if you don't want comments don't post questions.

Maybe I'm missing some relevant piece of information but I'd guess that if he married you 4 weeks ago (unless he was forced) he's probably quite fond of you. Probably even loves you.
I think you're working yourself up into a frenzy because he's away. And if he's anything like most guys - the more you freak out over the phone, the less he'll want to call. Least that's how my hubby is.
Take a deep breath, stop over analyzing every little thing he says and chill out until he gets back. Be thankful that he's even calling at all.

I'm with newlyweds2010. He didn't say anything wrong. He even mentioned you guys might have some real problems ahead. Then you were all rude.
If you're gonna post spotty, cryptic, posts about your fiancé, and his drug usage, or non-drug usage, or whether he smoked as a teen, and/or smoked on a guys trip...... you should expect comments like his, and mine.
I realize that the whole story is a precursor to your actual question, but I'm sure we could have done with out all the personal info on your hubby. TMI. Then you'd receive less trolling comments.
P.s. This isn't a therapy website, but I hope you get the help you're looking for in regards to your actually question. As I can offer no assistance in that. As for your hubby.... Tell him to drink plenty of water with lemon. Should help clean him out days before the big test, just incase he goes on another guys trip. Good luck!!

Simply being married gives you zero immigration benefit. Your husband is wrong on that.
You came to the US, quit your J1 program after one day of work but you didn't leave, then you met someone and married 3 months later. I don't think you should push it any more.

If you are serious about this, I'm thinking that you have more concerns than just immigration rules. Three weeks is absolutely nothing in the whole scheme of things, especially when you're facing a lengthy separation if things go wrong.

So your plan is: take the risk and leave the country, apply tourist visa to come back, apply for AOS after you back here?
That's called visa fraud.

From political scientists: No, the 47% of voters who pay no federal income tax are not the same 47% who are voting for Obama.
Also this: http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/ezra-klein/wp/2012/09/17/romneys-theory-of-the-taker-class-and-why-it-matters/

Of course you are right. That was all obvious from the very start for all but the 1% who really don't have a clue! The real irony is how many of the tea-party that will vote for Romney are part of that useless 47% paying no income tax!