Jump to content
Sign in to follow this  
Jaseball

1001 Questions to ask before marriage

30 posts in this topic

Recommended Posts

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: China
Timeline

I thought I would share an idea with the group here on something I did a few months ago. There is this book for couples engaged or considering marriage, which lists out 1001 or so questions that couples face.

It goes into great detail on how you handle relatives, your morals, how you spend/save, future goals, thoughts on children, division of chores, vacation likes, conflict resolution, sexual needs/frequency, etc.

Since I speak, but don't read Chinese, but my girl can read, write, and speak English I bought two copies of this book and I have been filling one out and I sent one to her and she has been filling it out.

It gives us both many things to consider and gives us the chance to really examine how we view things, so hopefully the topics covered will not be a surprise after marriage. We both know things do change and we will evolve, but certain expectations are now written down and discussed.

Sometimes we'll go over some topics when we contact each other via mail, email, phone, or video conferencing, but I was thinking when we both finish we can either mail the books back to each other and read through what the other wrote in detail.

I think the book will also help in the interview because it shows the work and thought put into the relationship and marriage, as well as demonstrates how we both take the marriage as a serious commitment.

Any others out there who have done something like this or who have read question books of this type?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: Timeline

I guess this is a good idea but after dating for a few years I don't think we really needed something like that. We know pretty much everything about one another.


Life is a ticket to the greatest show on earth.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Brazil
Timeline

WE covered everything during the time we had to spend apart talking on the internet.




* K1 Timeline *
* 04/07/06: I-129F Sent to NSC
* 10/02/06: Interview date - APPROVED!
* 10/10/06: POE Houston
* 11/25/06: Wedding day!!!

* AOS/EAD/AP Timeline *
*01/05/07: AOS/EAD/AP sent
*02/19/08: AOS approved
*02/27/08: Permanent Resident Card received

* LOC Timeline *
*12/31/09: Applied Lifting of Condition
*01/04/10: NOA
*02/12/10: Biometrics
*03/03/10: LOC approved
*03/11/10: 10 years green card received

* Naturalization Timeline *
*12/17/10: package sent
*12/29/10: NOA date
*01/19/11: biometrics
*04/12/11: interview
*04/15/11: approval letter
*05/13/11: Oath Ceremony - Officially done with Immigration.

Complete Timeline

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Russia
Timeline

This would not be for me. I prefer getting to know someone naturally and discuss things as they arise. I also like a little surprise and disagreement in a relationship. I'm not into "interviewing" a lady to make sure she qualifies as my future wife. 1001 questions, forget it.


Jeffery AND Alla.

0 kilometers physically separates us!

K-1 Visa Granted... Wednesday, 21 May 2008

Alla ARRIVED to America... Wednesday, 12 November 2008

russia_a.gif Алла и Джеффри USA_a.gif

AllaAndJeffery.PNG

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco
Timeline

Ditto to what others have said. I don't like checklists and I don't like self-help literature. This is a combination of the two, sounds like a big chore.

But if it works for you, then great! :thumbs:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
This would not be for me. I prefer getting to know someone naturally and discuss things as they arise. I also like a little surprise and disagreement in a relationship. I'm not into "interviewing" a lady to make sure she qualifies as my future wife. 1001 questions, forget it.

I don't think that's the point of the book, if I understand Jaseball correctly. It's more like the questions one would face in a marriage preparation class. We had to do one through church, and you'd be surprised how many couples manage to get engaged without ever having talked about whether either of them wants children. Or how they would share finances. It's not as much about interviewing the other person as it is interviewing yourself.


AOS

-

Filed: 8/1/07

NOA1:9/7/07

Biometrics: 9/28/07

EAD/AP: 10/17/07

EAD card ordered again (who knows, maybe we got the two-fer deal): 10/23/-7

Transferred to CSC: 10/26/07

Approved: 11/21/07

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: Timeline

I've seen books of those type. Some of them have great questions in them. I think if you enjoy it and you're having fun with it, go for it! Besides... if you're writing down the answers and keeping the books, they're going to come in pretty handy during future arguments. :devil:


iagree.gif

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco
Timeline
Question #576: If you and your spouse were facing certain doom, tied and on a plank above a moat filled with alligators, what would you say?

This is all your fault.

Did I get it right?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Russia
Timeline

I understand what the book is trying to do. My point is it's more fun and interesting to discover the answers and the questions along the way. I would never attend a church that required I attend anything. Of course, there are lame brains, e.g., that marry in Las Vegas over a bet or a spur of the moment, whatever. But, for a serious couple, time will give you all the answers you need.

I don't think that's the point of the book, if I understand Jaseball correctly. It's more like the questions one would face in a marriage preparation class. We had to do one through church, and you'd be surprised how many couples manage to get engaged without ever having talked about whether either of them wants children. Or how they would share finances. It's not as much about interviewing the other person as it is interviewing yourself.

Jeffery AND Alla.

0 kilometers physically separates us!

K-1 Visa Granted... Wednesday, 21 May 2008

Alla ARRIVED to America... Wednesday, 12 November 2008

russia_a.gif Алла и Джеффри USA_a.gif

AllaAndJeffery.PNG

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: Country: Philippines
Timeline
Question #576: If you and your spouse were facing certain doom, tied and on a plank above a moat filled with alligators, what would you say?

This is all your fault.

Did I get it right?

If only we were both still single.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Filed: Timeline
Question #576: If you and your spouse were facing certain doom, tied and on a plank above a moat filled with alligators, what would you say?

This is all your fault.

Did I get it right?

DING DING DING!!! We got a weeener!!! :lol::lol::lol:


iagree.gif

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
 

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  
- Back to Top -


Important Disclaimer: Please read carefully the Visajourney.com Terms of Service. If you do not agree to the Terms of Service you should not access or view any page (including this page) on VisaJourney.com. Answers and comments provided on Visajourney.com Forums are general information, and are not intended to substitute for informed professional medical, psychiatric, psychological, tax, legal, investment, accounting, or other professional advice. Visajourney.com does not endorse, and expressly disclaims liability for any product, manufacturer, distributor, service or service provider mentioned or any opinion expressed in answers or comments. VisaJourney.com does not condone immigration fraud in any way, shape or manner. VisaJourney.com recommends that if any member or user knows directly of someone involved in fraudulent or illegal activity, that they report such activity directly to the Department of Homeland Security, Immigration and Customs Enforcement. You can contact ICE via email at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423. All reported threads/posts containing reference to immigration fraud or illegal activities will be removed from this board. If you feel that you have found inappropriate content, please let us know by contacting us here with a url link to that content. Thank you.
×
×
  • Create New...